Relationship advice???

I was seeing a guy and i thought loved him. I didnt fancy him when we got together but i gave it a go. I got to know him and htought i loved him. But there was no spark for me. I met someone the other day and instantly felt like they were put there just for me to meet. the connection i felt was amazing. i finished the other guy cos i dont think its fair to be with him but thinking about the other guy (i cant help thinking about him). Now the guy i was seeing is begging for me back but now feeling how i feel i dont think its fair as i have realised i dont feel a spark between us. What should i do. Choose my happiness and break his heart or stay with him so he isnt hurt???Relationship advice???
there is no point in going out with someone just so that u don't hurt his feelings...... all u are doing is delaying the inevitable - and probably making the situation worse. he's already had his feelings hurt once, and if u go out with him again and reach the same conclusion - ie, that he's not the one for u, you will have to end the relationship again, and hurt him for a second time. don't settle for someone who u don't love - you will only end up resenting him, and then u will both be unhappy.Relationship advice???
Choose your happiness and break his heart, because it'll only break his heart even more if you stayed with him, especially when you don't have feelings for the guy. It would be selfish on your part, and you would hurt him worse in the long wrong.





Don't rule with your emotions. Use your head. Stay with the person you feel connected to.
Sounds a little like something I went through. I understand you don't want to hurt him but if you don't feel the spark then it's not worth it. You two can still be friends. He would be more hurt to know that you led him on. Just break it off with him and stay friends, and give it a whirl with the other guy. Who knows.. maybe things wont work out between you two and you realize you really do like your ex.
u should tell the guy u used to go out w/ dat u guys wont b happy 2gether n e ways, even if u got bak w/ him, he wont b happy bout it cos ur heart is w/ sumone else %26amp; ur not happy since ur not w/ the one u rly like. and hell find the right person one day. youve found urs so y not jus go b w/ him. =)
you have answered your own question here follow your heart
Don't go back you will only end up hurting him more and making him feel used. He will eventually realise that you weren't right for each other but it will take him some time.
It's always hard breaking up with someone, especially when they're hurting. Then you feel bad for hurting them and take them back in case you actually did have a good thing but you end up feeling the same you did before.





How do you feel now that you are out of the relationship? You should always follow your heart and if that picks the other guy, then you should just go for it! You can't stay with someone for fear of hurting them as neither of you will be happy. His heart will mend and he will one day understand and appreciate that you did what was best for both of you.





My cousin was seeing someone for about 3 odd years and then met someone at work - exactly same situation. She finished with the boyfriend and went with the new lad - and has not looked back since! They are very much in love and the family all think he's great!





Like I said, follow your heart. If it says the new guy, then go for it. :-)
Hell no, staying with him out of pity is OK? Plodding along? If your relationship was all it was meant to be, this new guy wouldn't have had a look-in. Be brave.
Choose your happiness, why would you go for a guy your not happy with, and in fairness to him he doesn't deserve you, he deserves somebody who will love him in return, set him free, he might feel bad at first but sooner or later he will forget about you and meet new girls. let him do that Just stay with the person you love.
follow ur heart


and stay away from the old 1!


it ll be easier for him!
tell him if he really loves u.he would let u be the happiest u can be which is with the other guy.
Tell him you need some time to think about it. Why did you think you loved him? Sparks are great, but they don't always last. Is this new guy someone you could be with long term, or just a fling? There must have been some good qualities in guy #1 for you to think you loved him.


But, if you're truly into the new guy, no way should you go back to the first one just to make him feel better. Eventually you'll start resenting him for holding you back, and wind up ending it anyway.
choose happiness, just hope it lasts, remember you cant know what the future holds, but love has a lot to do with mutual love and harmony.


lets hope we never meet or you will break both their hearts!!
You must follow your heart - always. Try to remain friends with your ex but make sure he knows the way you feel or rather don'e feel about him. Good luck. Always follow your dreams.
You need to choose your own happiness, if you stay with him and don't completely love him, then it will only end with you cheating on him or you resenting him. He will get over you and find someone else. You both deserve to be with people who you are completely into. I made that mistake once, and any future relationship will only be with someone who I have that 'spark' pr chemistry with.
Well that guy that you saw MIGHT be your special someone...and if you stay with the one you are with you might regret it later in life..and he will find someone else so dont worry about him..he will get over it! lol...hope it helped %26lt;/3
if you don't like him anymore, simply explain to him why. that's what i had to do with my borfriend, but i never told him why. i tend to be kinda shy, and we havn't spoken since. so if you still want to be friends with him, tell him you JUST want to be friends. don't make the mistake i made. you will regret it forever.
You can't hang on to something that isn't there. Just tell him that you have to do what's right for yourself and that you still what to be friends with him.
Ma' your happiness comes first he may be hurt for a while but he need to be with someone that feels the same way he do it has to be 100% form the bouth of you or its not fair .. sit and talk to himand let him know that he needs to find someone that wants hime the same way he wants ..
It is never fair to stay with a person out of pity. Of course he will be hurt but we all have been there. And what always happens is eventually we are okay. Same for him, he will be okay eventually. Plus you would be cheating yourself which you should never do. No one is going to take care of you like you so stick to that. This new guy may turn out to be a mistake later on so what you live and learn. So i say go for it. But do not stay with someone you dont feel strongly for. Give him the opportunity to find someone who will return that same love. Keep praying and Stay blessed!
if you dont separate now then you'll just do it later and then it will hurt more. its better for the both of you to just end it now and move on before its too late- especially now that you've met another guy. let him down gently andhelp him move on.
Oh same problem here. He's begging for me back but I just really don't like him, he's a great guy and all but were just not meant to be together. I told him that, maybe you could tell him that too! And the guy I finished off doesn't make me feel proud. I thought he was cool until I met him. He was being a fake. If he was like that, tell him the truth and move on! No matter how much he begs, I don't love him back!
Your peronal happiness should be your first priority. If he was the one that you felt was put there just for you to meet and there was that connection, sacrificing that would be worth it. If you were to stay with him just so he doesn't get hurt, that's just pitying him and nobody would want that. Everybody gets hurt by somebody. It's a learning and growth experience. The guy you are going to hurt will just grow and learn and move on over time.
It depends. Will you regret not leaving the guy (think in terms of days, weeks, AND months). Do you think it is fair to him to be with him when you don't really like him. Ask yourself these and similar questions then decide
dont get back with you ex. you were only with him because he was a safety net. move on and dont get into the same situation again
you should do what is right for you! it's your eternal happiness at stake. he will get over you eventually, it happens, he will move on. don't ever guilt yourself into staying with someone you don't love. you did the right thing by breaking it off with him when you realized that you would be happier with someone else.
You said u gave it a shot and it didnt work! If you go bck with him u would be misleading him and leading him on. If the spark wasnt there it wasnt there he has to learn to move on. If you get back with him you will always sit wondering if tehre is someone better for u out there and u woould end up unhappy. I hope my advice helped but if i were u i would stay friends w the guy u just broke up with! Good luck !!!!1
You need to be true to your heart and you need to be honest with him. If your not honest with him that is wrong and being with him so as not to hurt him is hurting him more in the long run. Be honest ....tell him the truth and go see your new man.
Im afriad he will just have to get over you, im suprised you gave it a go at all most wouldnt have. Youve been nice enough up until now but you should let him go.
this has happened to me too.no matter how nice he his to you or what you feel for him,its what you feel in your heart.you have tried and it didn't work. move on but don't feel guilty its the right thing to do. good luck sweetheart.
Seriously, you can't please everyone, just yourself when it comes to love. If you feel it for this guy, then go with him. You don't want to be miserable and stay with the old guy do you? C'mon be realistic, you know you want to be with the new guy. He'll get over it. Be happy and choose the one you know you'll be happy with