Wait a couple of days before contacting her. Both of you need a cooling down period. Once you have a firm idea of how you feel about her, then contact her.
I would say that you are rushing the relationship. Why on earth would you think that daiting for two months is a big deal? Would you rush into buying a building with-out checking the foundation, plumbing, and electrical? The relationship is probably already done for and she is starting the fights as a way to back out since most women do not know how to break-up nicely (and most men do not know how to take rejection nicely). Or even worse she is playing games with you, which means she doesn't respect you.
Take it as a life lesson and end it nicely. There is only one parachute on the plane of love. Next time take things s l o w . . . let her worry about what you are doing when she is not around (you stay on her mind), do not make it offical that you are dating until you've been seeing each other for at least three months. Do not confuse this with being a jerk, but put up more of a challenge . . . it builds value and appearance of confidence.
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Thank you all for your advice. We are still talking things out. I appreciate everyone's answers. Report Abuse
Dude if you really care about her...do not throw in the towel yet. On the other hand, if she really cared about you or the relationship, as you say, her priority should have been to work things out with with you. Give her another call..if you really care about her. Find out why she has not called you. If she does not return your calls...it is a done deal. Move on without her. Good luck!
If you care about your girlfriend and want to continue the relationship than you should keep at it. Your girlfriend is probably very angry at you and is simply avoiding you to get back at you - I know it's childish but it's human nature (at least for most women) and I'll admit I am the same way. You and your girlfriend should plan a ';heart to heart'; and try to get to the root of your problems. Two months is pretty early to be fighting as bad as you've described but if you both care about eachother it is worth it to try. My husband and I have also had some very rough patches when all we did was fight and eventually we worked through it because we love eachother. Try to forgive your girlfriend for her behavior and next time you speak to her, let her know how it made you feel. If things continue to get bad maybe the two of you should go to couples counseling.
if you really like her then why are you asking the question if you should give up. seems to me that the both of you just need some time to cool off and that is probably what she is doing. i bet if you give her a call tonight or tomorrow everything will be fine. that's part of love my boyfriend and i argue all the time. but we know we love each other and that's what counts. not some stupid fight that will be forgotten about next week. if you really care about her tell her and tell her how you are feeling about this arguement. if she feels the same way about you which i'm sure she does (she probably can't stop talking about you right now to her friend) then everything will work itself out.
I'd stay single, relationships suck anyway.
Well, it could be that she just needs more time to cool off....or it could be that this relationship is just too dramatic. It seems that 2 months is awfully quick to be fighting so much. I guess I would give it the benefit of the doubt and try talking it out with her once more. If things don't calm down, I would probably move on before feelings get any deeper.
Well, most women run to a friend for consolation. Most times the friend will make you out to be the jerk. And she'll feel safe and comforted in this friend's presence. This friend will also advise her not to talk to you and make you sweat a little. Don't fall for it. If your girl plays childish games like this instead of working on things to help you both understand what's at the root of your arguments so you can resolve it and move on to loving one another again.......see where I'm going with this? If you truly love someone, they are your top priority. Love is stronger then pride. Don't date anyone who doesn't believe this fact. Otherwise you're dealing with someone who views you as disposable in the event of hardship. I swear...is it me or are more people putting less work into relationships these days?
You are right, two months isn't a long time. Has it occurred to you that she is having sometime off so she can think clearly? If she is with her friend right now it's because most girls are like that, they run to each other for emotional support.
If these two months have been enough for you to develop strong, special feelings for her, then you should not throw the towel. Wait, be patient, and you will find the chance to fix things.
If it doesn't work out, then just think about it this way: you know you have the ability, the capacity to love (you said you were heartbroken, and that only happens when you're in love and not reciprocated) with such intensity!
Good luck!
give her up before she breaks you down
I like the responses your getting, personally.
In every relation ship, there are going to be problems. I think you should try and work it out. Just explain to her what your feeling and how you think you two should work it out. But let her have a say in it. Dont chase to hard though or she will just back away. good luck
Your over reacting! Maybe she just needs some time to think about what she's gonna say? Whatever the reason is, I doubt she has forgotten about you!
Don't you think if you needed time to cool of then she will to? Well this is her way of cooling of. Hanging with her friends. Give her some time she should come around. If she doesn't then talk to her about it and if she still doesn't seem to understand then maybe it is time to trow the towel.
U GUYS NEED 2 TALK TELL HER SRRY CUZ GURLS LIKE 2 HEAR IT 1ST 4RM THEIR MAN AND THEN SAY CAN WE WORK IT OUT
you care too much more than she does so she will always control the relationship...it's unhealthy...move on
She is probably trying to control the fight right now. By her going out with her friends and not calling is making you think about her and that what she wants. She wants you to call and apologize. It is very basic: if she yells at you the next day she is made. Ignores you wants an apology. Mean, just break up. Really, before the fight gets that bad, take a deep breath and say to yourself is this really all that important. Usually not, bite your lip and calm the fight down and let it go.
Zack, Sometimes girls want you to chase them. You were the one who said you wanted to get off the phone. Give her a call. Let her know that you care. BUT if the two of you continue to fight more than you have fun together, give it up. Good luck.
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