Lately she has been stressed with school and life in general and she has let her negative thoughts impact our relationship. One night she will say she loves me then the next morning she hates me. I know she does not mean it but she can not realize how she is letting her stress take the better of her.
This week was hard for her since her dog was put down and stuff. So she said she needed space and wanted to be alone. She then went on about how it won't work and stuff. But when I talk to mutual friends she is planning on going out to bars with them, so I believe she is partially lying to me. I know she is going through a hard time and I am just trying to be supportive.
Do you think I should just give her some time to clear her mind (text her periodically, call just to see how she is) and then see how she feels, or does it sound as if she has intentions of breaking up with me but does not know what to do?
I wish she would just realize everything...
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If she is stressed out at the moment, I would definitely follow her advice and give her space at the moment. Keep tabs on her and ask friends about her; she may be having a bit of a mental breakdown and just needs some time on her own.
I don't know how texting her or calling her would work... I mean, one guy broke up with me and then texted me about 10 minutes later asking how I was doing. Trust me that was not fun. I would give her tots of room right now, but after a while (week or so) you should probably email or text her just to see how she is.
If she grabs another boyfriend or hooks up during your time apart, I would assume she is not interested in your and I would just leave her be. But if you ask me, I think she is just stressed and needs a really big break from everything at the moment.
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I would give her some space and yes i would call to see how she is doing. Let her know that you are there for her and supportive in what it is that she needs. Just make sure that you find the balance of being there for her and still giving her the space she needs.
call her occasionally about once a day. dont call her over and over... giv her some time to clear her head up
is she blaming you
Your girlfriend is suffering. It seems to me that nothing in her life makes sense right now. Give her some space, but not too much. Respect her wishes when she wants to be alone, but if you leave her alone all the time, she'll think you don't care. Call her up when she would least expect it. Do something small but nice for her that shows her that you really care. Some ideas: one flower, a picture frame with a picture of the 2 of you, take her for coffee or a movie, hand-write her a letter telling her how much you love and support her, or just give her a hug. Give her time to work through her problems. Don't smother her with attention, but don't neglect her.
It sounds like shes trying to push you away without hurting your feelings and using the excuse of stresses at home to do this.... stop hurting yourself and read into things, if she loved you she would want to spend every minute with you so you could make her feel better, now shes going out to bars and stuff? Shes not worth it, maybe things have changed and its time to move on :(
Give her some space. She is confused and it is not really healthy for both of you. I am not sure how old both of you are but sounds like you are in your early 20s. There is so much in the world that you both need to see and experience. Give her some space and see how it goes.
i dont think that she is breaking up with you if she has had lots of stress but stuff like this are sort of hard to predict
Hmm. 2.5 yrs is quite a long time. Nothing else going on besides just being girlfriend/boyfriend? She is tired. She is tired of being stuck in the same thing for that length of time. I think she is looking for something different. How old are you two? You say she is still in school. I think you two need time to have a life and not be tied down to anyone. If it was meant to be then it will be. Give her time to live her life. We all tend to think that if it hurts us then it isn't good for us. Well through my many years of life, there is one thing that I have learned. Hurt is good. It helps us realize and remember what to do and what not to do. It helps us grow stronger and eventually we see the good that comes out of all this. The one thing that we all have to remember is that the only thing that we have control over in our lives is our self. No one else. That's who we need to take care of first. You can not keep someone that does not want to be kept. You can try your hardest to convince her to stay, but if she has already made up her mind, it is just going to hurt you worse. It sounds like she has issues and she needs time to straighten those issues out.
I think you should just completely ignore her right now. She shouldn't treat you like that, even if she is going through a hard time. Your just trying to be supportive, and if she doesn't appreciate you, that's her loss. Don't talk to her, wait for her to talk to you.
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I think that you two really need to sit down and have a grown-up talk about your relationship, 2.5 years is awhile and sounds like you are willing to communicate to save the relationship.
If she needs time that's fine but she can't just shut you out completely and keep you in the dark about her intentions if it is to cut you lose it's better to know up front than her leading you on any further.
Tell her that you want to support her and be there for her but you need to know that she is still whole heartedly for this relationship and not intending on breaking up and if she is then why?
She may just want some space and freedom to be with her friends, which is fine again if she's not shutting you out, it is healthy to have time with your own friends in a relationship you can't spend 24/7 together and it work out.
Key communication to save your relationship.
Good luck
All couples go through this phaze so DNT FEEL ALONE ive been with my guy 5 yrs i know lol
just text her and somthing like:
';hey i know youe been stresssed and everything just want oyu to know im here for oyu, i want to give you time to think so call me or text me when your ready';
that way your giving her her space and u know she can call u or text instead of U not knowing when u can
Alot of girls including myself get angry at the one they love just because its the only person they can get mad at. My advice is give her space. I think you are overloading her. Let her come to you when she is ready because obviously right now she needs time alone and to focus on her stuff.
It sounds like she may be having second thoughts about your relationship. Talk to her about it Then if nothing changes, let her be the one who contacts you , for a change then if nothing changes I might have to let go, and move on
i think time apart may help, for her to miss you and all that you do for her. if she doesn't cherish something like that, then NEXT her and find someone else.
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