Relationship advice (kinda long detail but advice is greatly appreciated :))?

this is going to be somewhat long so bare with me...





okay ive been dating this girl for about 4 months now. i love this girl, i honestly do and she says that she loves me too. But i have some problems with her ex....they used to live together and her ex is still very much so in the picture. Her ex has a stocking at their house still, her ex came over to their house on thanksgiving. Anytime that they have a family get-together her ex is there. I understand that she might've gotten close to her family while they were dating, but its the fact that her ex writes things on her bulletin board like ';stay away from her, i want her all to myself'; and my girlfriend doesn't erase these things. And the simple fact that her ex doesn't really need a stocking at their house, and the fact that there is still a picture of her ex girlfriend in her room granted it is covered up. I don't want to ask my girlfriend to simple take the picture out of her room or erase the things that her ex writes or take the stocking down because i want her to want to do these things. but the worst part is is that my girlfriend gets mad at me whenever i tell her that these things bother me.





To make matters worse, this sunday night she went to ';go shoe shopping'; well she wasn't answering my calls. and she told me that she'd call me when she got home. well when she called me i asked what took her so long...you know just being curious. she told me that she went to the movies and after a long time of trying to get her to tell me with who she confessed that she went with her ex.





I've told her before that her hanging out with her or her coming over to her house on family things doesn't bother me (seeing that my girlfriends mom is very close to her ex) but ive asked her before to just simply tell me when she's going to do something with her so that i don't find out on my own and get mad and so that it doesn't look suspicious. but for whatever reason this makes her upset.





After a week of fighting she finally said that she'd try to change. Although she said that she'd ';try'; and that was all that she could do and that i shouldn't ask too much of her, i thought that this was better than nothing...





basically im asking....what should i do about this....do you think she's really going to try to change?Relationship advice (kinda long detail but advice is greatly appreciated :))?
Aahh.





I had the same problem.


My girl still talks to two of her exes. I've never had any exes before. ever. She's the only person I've ever been with so it's frustrating to hear about them. I mean, she tells me all of these stories that include her exes and it makes me feel awful.


One of her exes even talked to me. I treated her as like an older sister - giving her dating advice and tried to help her when I could. (My girl is older than me by a few years and her ex is two years younger than me). It got to be a pain, and then when her ex tried to sabotage our relationship, we had a problem so I completely blocked her. However, it's still frustrating cause my girl won't get rid of her because she's apart of her life... I just wish she would go away. =[ Like, she doesn't do anything, she's just.. part of the past that needs to stay in the past.





I guess I just don't understand the concept of being friends with exes..








Honestly though, you should probably find a new girl. It sounds like there's still something going on and you'll get hurt in the long run.Relationship advice (kinda long detail but advice is greatly appreciated :))?
They probably aren't COMPLETELY over each other. They still probably have some feelings for each other. You might just have to give it time and wait a little bit. but makes sure she doesn't cheat on you
omg girl...you need to hit the trail. they are so not over each other, and you will be the one getting hurt.


all the best.