Relationship advice!?

Ok, so this is a very personal, and perhaps somewhat too blunt or graphic thing to share with random people, but at the same time I really feel I need an objective opinion on it – by people who doesn’t know me or the other person involved.





Ok, so here goes.





I’ve been seeing a guy (i.e, going on dates and sleeping with) for just under a year now. We lived together with a few friends and didn’t know each other well at first, but then really quickly we got really close, and soon after that we progressed into being (I hate this term!!) “**** buddies.”





We hung out all the time, and basically became best friends.





Now, we’re still not in an exact relationship- as now we are doing the long-distance thing- but we are still together, still exclusive and we both really like each other.





The problem is, I’m really worried about it and our future.





I adore him, he makes me laugh so much and we are so close. But recently- i.e. for the last few months, I haven’t really fancied him. I mean, I appreciate hugs and kisses and things, but I end up feeling like it’s a chore to do anything more and the sex- which although fun- has never exactly been satisfying to me, and I never really want him anymore.





I like him so much and I don’t want to lose him, but I don’t want to keep feeling like this!





He has told me that he loves me, he wants me to move in with him when I graduate and he talks about our future a lot. He tells me he’d be lost without me.





I don’t know what to do; I would stay with him if I still fancied him and was sexually satisfied. But from my point of view these are things that need to be good and intact for a long term relationship-especially for marriage! Also, it scares me that he loves me, and yet I know I don’t love him. And if I don’t now, will I ever?





Also, I have talked to him very openly about our sex life and desires, and he is very willing to try new things and listen to me, but still nothing ever makes me orgasm. It’s very frustrating for me, and I have taken to faking it because I don’t want to hurt his feelings!





Help me please, basically!!Relationship advice!?
You are going to have to be really honest with him for both your sakes.


If you think the sex is never going to be satisfying for you it would be better to put a stop to it as soon as you can. Otherwise you're just doing him a favour every time and that can be patronising. Also you should not be faking. If you were really interested in him you would be coaching him in how to please you.


You say you adore him but you don't love him. You are not ';in love'; with him but it sounds like he could be with you so you have to be truthful.


You may risk losing him but be sure if he continues seeing you as a friend he is not expecting you to change your mind.