RELATIONSHIP ADVICE :[?

okay


well im going out with a guy name ryan


11.13.08 was when we started going out


the problem is that he kinda likes my friend karen


karen says she doesnt like him


which i can kinda tell





karen told me on an IM that ryan said he might break up with me


i was very worried





the next day of school i acted really sad and he asked me ';are you mad at me?';


and i just ignored him


and later that day i told him i wasnt mad at him


and he said the only reason he said that was because he was really mad at ';something'; but it wasnt because of me





my other friend katie went out with him and said that he used her and cheated on her many times while they went out


and i trust her alot and she told me all of this stuff he has done





i asked ryan if he liked karen and he admitted he did but he said he likes me more





and after this all happened (wednesday) he started talking to me alot more and have been hugging me and telling me he loves me and all of this stuff





but im still kinda worried about him and karen


and they have one class together that im not in


and sometimes when i walk around i see them walking together to class and when he sees me he gets away from her to talk to me





katie told me that she can get her friend james to talk to ryan because they are best friends


and there going to talk on the phone or xbox live


and he is going to ask ryan all of these questions to see ryan is using me or anything bad





and karen told me that when ever she is about to leave the class that they have together that im not in


he would run over to walk with her to class and she has also told me that he gets kinda close to her





which bothers me alot





and on the wednesday i talked to him about how it bothers me that he likes karen


he hugged me and said that he loves me and would never do anything to hurt me





i talked to karen today and told her that i didnt want her to talk to him anymore


and she sounded happy


because she doesnt like him and she was like THANK YOU!














what should i do?


katie can help me alot with this because she is friends with ryans best friends and he will tell his best friends anything





so what do i do??


do i break up with him


or do i just talk to him about it??





HELP :[








i feel really scared








RELATIONSHIP ADVICE :[?
You seem too involved in the melodrama to have any joy in this relationship.





Talking to him only helps if the guy is honest. If he is a player, he will tell you anything to accomplish his goals. If Katie and Karen are good friends, you might start by comparing notes on his behavior and the things he says to different girls. Gather information, do not lead the witnesses.





You believe what Katie has told you, but you may not understand what her motives are. Keep in mind that dating is never considered exclusive unless both parties agree to an exclusive relationship.





Only when you think you know what is going on should you take to him about what you see happening in your relationship. If you want an exclusive relationship, tell him (just realize that this is one sign of a person who is insecure). If you think that he has common lines that he tells all the girls, ask him about these.





If you cannot trust him you will always be miserable. If the two of you can learn how to be honest with each other, then you may have a chance at a great relationship.