Relationship advice! Ladies please help!?

So I think I found a girl that can be a potential love. I am old enough and mature enough to have figured this out. This isn't lust or my 9th grade crush type of love, it's for real. After being friends for a long time I built feelings for her and finally admitted those feelings. She just came out of a long long relationship and it ended abruptly and pretty bad. I wasn't sure if I should tell her or not but I told her I had feelings for her and what not. She said she is willing to try us out. So after a few weeks I sensed something was wrong so I tried to talk with her. She said it's nothing to do with me , but she is very confused with her life right now and needs to be single for awhile. I asked if she still had feelings for the ex and she said its nothing like that. So what advice can you give me? Do I just wait and be patient and hang on the sidelines while she finds herself? Is it possible she isn't into me? Anyone ever been in a similar situation?Relationship advice! Ladies please help!?
I'd say be patient. If she is just recovering from a long long relationship, it can be difficult for a woman. She may feel strongly about you but does not want to rush in until she has finished the things she needs to finish in her own mind about why she waited so long to get out of a bad relationship.Relationship advice! Ladies please help!?
you should just wait untill she can fix up her life, then come in, if you keep nagging her it will just make it worse, u no what i mean?
it is probably best to wait for her, because i have been in that position. most likely she wants to be single for awhile after being in a long relationship and she may need to find herself and make sure ur not gonna be like her ex. if u really wanna be with her, then wait and see what happens with her.
If i were you i would wait for a while because you dont


wana move to fast and that could end up relly bad I hope


every thing turns out to be ok.
Yea I've been in this same situation as the girl. Coming out of a relationship can be a very hard this and very confusing. Just give her some time to figure out what she thinks will be best for her. At the end of it all you may be exactly what she wants, but she just might be a little unsure at the moment, considering the relationship she just got out of.
She hasn't had enough time to work through all the mixed feelings from her long relationship she just came out of....it's prob got nothing to do with you at all, she just needs time to work out things before she can ever even think of beginning a new relationship





Give her some space and check in with her from time to time...she def needs time to find herself.....





Best of luck!
she mite b using that as an excuse rite now, but if she isnt the best thing to do wuld b to b there for her as her friend but not trying to b anything more until shes figured out what she wants.


good luck! x
do not be the rebound guy!! Let her heal her wounds, but be there just in case she does want to get in a relationship. I would date other people and see what else is out there, but don't tell her you are, she'll be turned off by that....no, I am not advocating cheating. Just telling you to keep your options open in case she doesn't want to be with you. You will at least be getting to know other people and seeing what else is out there.
People will tell you to be patient and understanding, but the truth is if she knows you well and has been seeing you, then withdraws, she's just not that in to you. I'd even venture to guess that her ex has decided he misses her and is talking to her again, and she's hoping beyond hope that THIS TIME he will love her the way she wants him to. I'd tell her she can have her space. Give her all the space she needs. You go out there and start meeting other girls, as hard as that may be. Somewhere out there is a girl who will appreciate you and soon you won't care so much about this other girl. Move forward with your life. Don't wait and wait for this one who was able to look into your beautiful eyes and tell you she just didn't think she wanted you anymore.
Give her time to heal and understand her feelings. She needs space. It has nothing to do with you honey :)
Be patient, she isn't ready for another relationship right now. If you pester her, you'll lose her as both a friend and a potential girlfriend.
Give her some time, and help her cope along the way. She still does has feelings for you it's really somehting else that's bothering her.
Its possible she just wants to be completely sure of what her feelings are for you and that she isnt confusing you with her ex boyfriend. Stay around, be a friend, and giver her space. She needs the company but she might not be totally ready for another relationship after the last one. Once she realizes she is not being pressured she might make up her mind.
Be patient and give her some space, you don't want to be the rebound guy, you want to give her time to let her see who she is as a person and then when she's ready, let her know you're still interested.
Well that sounds just like me at the moment....


I had a devestating 2-year breakup in september with my ex. It was hard to deal with. But right now I think she needs a friend to be there. The kind of friend that would stay up late to talk about nothing on the phone. Or the kind that would comfort you when you are sad. You sound like the type that is serious about this girl and thats great. I think ou should hold back and let her know that you are there for her. But I would try to talk with her, and let her know your are understanding.