Relationship Advice Needed; Please help?

Oh no!!! Last night, I was on IM with a guy (H) that my hubby %26amp; I know. H %26amp; his wife (W) are a couple that we hang out with when our schedules permit. We have so much fun together %26amp; chat on IM often. I talk to H; hubby talks to W %26amp; we have never had an issues until now...


Last night, H asked me if he could tell me something. So, I said OK. Well, he told me he had been thinking about me a lot lately. I just kind of blew it off by replying ';well, we have been talking too and we were going to see if you two had any free time coming up';. He replied ';Well, I meant that I have been thinking of YOU, I feel I have a connection with you';.


OH NO!!!!


I replied ';what do you mean?';


He said '; I think I said too much, I think I crossed a line';


I told him not to worry about it; that I did not want to cause any problems for he %26amp; W or me %26amp; my hubby. So, H did not say anything the rest of the chat.


But, what now? Act like nothing ever happened? Wait %26amp; see if it happens again?Relationship Advice Needed; Please help?
Tell your husband so you can decide together how to go forward. I think its time to make some new friends. If you archive your chats, show him the conversation. Honesty is always best. New friends are easy to find. Good luck!





I just thought of something else....are you SURE it was HIM that was chatting? What if it was his wife trying to trick you.....hmmm...just a thought....again..honesty with hubby is always best :)Relationship Advice Needed; Please help?
thats T-R-O-U-B-L-E...if ur truly in love with your husband, you have to tell him, otherwise you would be hiding stuff, and thats not cool
Tell your husband. You should have right away. Do it asap.
maybe ur husband and his wife have the same type of conncection. the next time the four of you get together for a fun evening out maybe you should think about a foursome and then you all can have some real fun.
You must enjoy playing with fire. Tell your husband what this so-called 'friend'; said to you and stop the silly chat before you end up in bed with the guy saying ';I didn't mean for it to happen but one thing led to another....';
I would keep my distance from him, but if things worsen, tell him off and let your husband know about it. theres nothing worse than keeping a secret like that because if he eventually finds outs, then it will make you look bad.
You're walking on thin ice here.


Don't bring it up again.


If it does happen again (be prepared because it proably will), you might want to suggest to him that he and his wife get counseling.
I would wait and see if it happens again. I did apologize and acknowledged that he stepped over a line, so that is a good thing.
I would let it go.The wife may feel the same way about your husband.Don't hang out together so much or watch what you say to your friend's husband.He may see something in you that is not in his wife.
If he is okay with saying this once, he will again. You need to stop this now. Tell him that you are friends only. You don't think of him in any other way. If you ignore it, he may assume that you feel the same.
I agree you are walking a fine line. You really need to cut this ';friendship'; loose.
Just pretend he didn't say anything. Take it as a moment of loneliness on his part and you were there.
He realized he crossed the line and probably won't do anything. You acted correctly and responded with tact.


People make mistakes.
yes, he DID cross a line.





Be careful.


What he just did will and probably has changed the relationship between both of you couples.





You also need to confide in your husband on this as well.





Best regards.
well sometimes when we have a friend who is a guy and we sometimes think their just our friend who's a guy is just ,well, our friend but sometimes they get the wrong idea I mean have you ever thought of him in that way probably not because you have a hubby and he has a wife and you care about your hubby I would tell him we were probably just meant to be friends.Just try not to hurt his feelings!
if you have a hubby, you should stick to him. it's knid of romantisic when you know someone that likes you but not so romantic if you are taken, so talk to him about this......... be careful on how far you take this....................................
DONT HIDE ANYTHING FROM YOUR HUBBY!





it wasnt you who had these feeling, i think you and Mr. ';H'; should discontinue your IM sessons.


but dont keep it from your hubby. he's not only your husband but he's suppossed to be your best friend too.
Act like nothing ever happened. If he brings it up again tell him you are happily married, and the connection you and he share is friendship. It will blow over. Whatever you do don't tell your husband or his wife because then the foursome will be ruined.
Maybe you should stay off IM with ';H'; for a while so as to not encourage him to get the wrong idea about you. If he says or does anything else that could compromise your marriage, I think it would be time to talk to your husband. It's very easy to fall into an ';affair of the heart'; where you talk more to someone outside of your relationship than with your spouse. It's a death warrant for the marriage if you let that happen.
I think you need to uninstall the IM.......sorry!
I'd end the chat sessions now if you want your marriage to continue.
He knows he crossed the line and he knows you do not reciprocate...so leave it be...however if it happens again bring it to your husbands attention and end the friendship
talk to him and explain face to face that you love your husband so much that you don't want to cause any problems... and stop talking to him... next thing you know you husband is going to be in the same boat... so also take good care of him... and stop talking to each others partners... that's why you have yours and he has hers...