I have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months. When we go to the bar with his buddies he can be obnoxious towards me and treat me like a prize. Will he change for me? SHould i take a break or just end it?Relationship advice?
Keep staying with him. If he does it one more time then dump him.
Friday, January 8, 2010
I need help with some relationship advice. Thank you very much!?
My boyfriend in the begging of our relationship was more affectionate. When we kissed it would be a special kiss and now he gives me only pecks. He is mormon and I am not, I don't if it is because of religious beliefs, because I heard you are not supposed to have long passionate kisses? Is that true. Also we are seven years apart and he calls me little girl and I think that is insulting and told him that. I wrote him a nice email completing him and he didn't seem to appreciate it. He is constantly asking me to meet with the elders of the church. He does pick me up every weekend and take me outt, but lately I sense he has been maybe a little more distant, maybe he is scared because of the whole differnce in our religion. What is your opinion on this relationship do you think he wants to be just friends? Do you have any suggestions on how I can polietly ask him if he is dating me just to try to convert me or if he really likes me for me.I need help with some relationship advice. Thank you very much!?
My advice is to walk away from this guy. If he is 7 years different in age, then that is enough right now to make a big difference. If he is calling you his little girl, that attitude will not go away.
You don't have to ask him what his intent is. He keeps asking you to meet with the elders so that you would convert to Mormonism.I need help with some relationship advice. Thank you very much!?
A good thing about Mormons is that they are very family oriented and generally moral people. The bad thing is that if you are a really good Mormon, you and him will get your own planet to be god over, where you will be eternally pregnant producing spirit babies to inhabit the world that you rule. This is true! Look it up. Right now, they believe that Jehovah is on planet Kolob doing that very thing.
Dating a Mormon is bad business unless you're interested in becoming a Mormon. If he's serious about his faith, his religious beliefs will hold dominant sway, and you will have to submit to them in order for him to ultimately accept you. Right now, he's most likely trying to get you converted so that he can have a legitimate relationship with you which will be approved by the church elders.
Depending on which strand of Mormonism he is, you may not be the only chicken in the hen house after a while either. Some of the more fundamentalist Mormons are still polygamists.
My personal advice to you is to get as far away from Mormonism as you possibly can. If that means that you have to end this relationship, it will be a small price to pay compared to the brainwashing you would sustain if you stay and convert.
He needs to find a good Mormon girl with whom he's already compatible, and you need to get away from that system before it sucks you in too.
Best of luck.
My advice is to walk away from this guy. If he is 7 years different in age, then that is enough right now to make a big difference. If he is calling you his little girl, that attitude will not go away.
You don't have to ask him what his intent is. He keeps asking you to meet with the elders so that you would convert to Mormonism.I need help with some relationship advice. Thank you very much!?
A good thing about Mormons is that they are very family oriented and generally moral people. The bad thing is that if you are a really good Mormon, you and him will get your own planet to be god over, where you will be eternally pregnant producing spirit babies to inhabit the world that you rule. This is true! Look it up. Right now, they believe that Jehovah is on planet Kolob doing that very thing.
Dating a Mormon is bad business unless you're interested in becoming a Mormon. If he's serious about his faith, his religious beliefs will hold dominant sway, and you will have to submit to them in order for him to ultimately accept you. Right now, he's most likely trying to get you converted so that he can have a legitimate relationship with you which will be approved by the church elders.
Depending on which strand of Mormonism he is, you may not be the only chicken in the hen house after a while either. Some of the more fundamentalist Mormons are still polygamists.
My personal advice to you is to get as far away from Mormonism as you possibly can. If that means that you have to end this relationship, it will be a small price to pay compared to the brainwashing you would sustain if you stay and convert.
He needs to find a good Mormon girl with whom he's already compatible, and you need to get away from that system before it sucks you in too.
Best of luck.
Relationship advice pleaseee.?
so,
i recently just started talking to my ex a few months ago and now were both starting to like each other that way again.
he came over a few days ago and we made out and stuff.
and i talked to him about ever getting back together and he said hes just not sure.
and i was feeling that way too.
till recently cause i cant get him outta my mind.
i asked him like 3246876 times if it was cause i needed to fix something i wasnt doing right and he said its not me hes just not sure if he wants to be with a girl right now cause hes going through alot of stress right now and doesnt know if a relationship is what he wants.
and he wants to be with me, but hes just not 100% sure.
its just all really confusing cause he says he loves me and he says he likes me, but hes just not sure.
and its been killing me lately.
and i have no idea how to go about this.
so...how do i get him to be 100% sure of me?
what can i do.
please i need help.
im starting to fall for him again and i dont wanna get hurt.
***best answer 10 pts***Relationship advice pleaseee.?
first of all honey why did u guys break up? remember that first. then ask urself if this is what u really want. well the guy told u what he wants so leave him alone. don't make such an effort to talk to him or see him. see how far he will go for u. if he gives up easily then honey it wasn't meant to be. but if he comes back to u then maybe there is a good chance. Relationship advice pleaseee.?
you guys broke up before and trying to rekindle the relationship. Now if you call him 3246876 times, he's not going to like it. It's a turn off. You have already expressed your interest, wait for him to do so too. Till then take it slow.
I would say you should definitely LISTEN to what he is saying and make sure you HEAR what he is telling you, because if you just listen but don't really digest the fact that he is not ready to be in a committed relationship with you, then you will end up hurt.
In addition to that, I think you should discontinue getting involved with him physically until he is one hundred percent sure that he wants to be in a relationship with you. It goes without saying that two people can continue to be physical with one another, and while one is thinking the physical chemistry means a relationship is on the horizon, the other is thinking the complete opposite. I think sometimes we as woman are quick to equate a physical relationship with the potential for something serious, and it sounds like that is what you are doing here. My advice to you is to stay clear of any physical contact with him as much as possible and try to limit the overall amount of time you spend with him be it on the phone or in person.
The last thing you want is to be involved with someone who is ';confused'; about what they want to do in terms a relationship with you. If he ended things with you, then it should be clear that he is capable of becoming and getting clear about what he wants and does not want in his life. DO NOT wait around for him to decide if and/or when he wants to resume a relationship with you. You could be waiting around forever on that one, and in the meantime miss out on the chance to live your life, meet new people, and be happy.
I say you two were together and broke up for a reason, so it's best to close that chapter as painful as it may be and move on. If you are willing to put yourself through all this for someone who has to decide if and when they are ready to be with you, imagine how much better you will feel to be with someone who GENUINELY KNOWS that he WANTS to be with you. There is no greater feeling.
Good luck.
the worst thing you can do is try to GET someone to be 100% sure of you, he eighter is, or he isn't, it's black and white, and right now he says he isn't, i think you should be greatfull that he realizes this Before making a commitment, you guys are exs for a reason, and it's natural to be attracted to the good times, and when you're feeling it, its easy to forget the bad times, but i think you should take it slow, and try not to get too attached, think about why it ended, and are you both mature enough and have you grown emotionally as individuals to give it another go? good luck!!!
i recently just started talking to my ex a few months ago and now were both starting to like each other that way again.
he came over a few days ago and we made out and stuff.
and i talked to him about ever getting back together and he said hes just not sure.
and i was feeling that way too.
till recently cause i cant get him outta my mind.
i asked him like 3246876 times if it was cause i needed to fix something i wasnt doing right and he said its not me hes just not sure if he wants to be with a girl right now cause hes going through alot of stress right now and doesnt know if a relationship is what he wants.
and he wants to be with me, but hes just not 100% sure.
its just all really confusing cause he says he loves me and he says he likes me, but hes just not sure.
and its been killing me lately.
and i have no idea how to go about this.
so...how do i get him to be 100% sure of me?
what can i do.
please i need help.
im starting to fall for him again and i dont wanna get hurt.
***best answer 10 pts***Relationship advice pleaseee.?
first of all honey why did u guys break up? remember that first. then ask urself if this is what u really want. well the guy told u what he wants so leave him alone. don't make such an effort to talk to him or see him. see how far he will go for u. if he gives up easily then honey it wasn't meant to be. but if he comes back to u then maybe there is a good chance. Relationship advice pleaseee.?
you guys broke up before and trying to rekindle the relationship. Now if you call him 3246876 times, he's not going to like it. It's a turn off. You have already expressed your interest, wait for him to do so too. Till then take it slow.
I would say you should definitely LISTEN to what he is saying and make sure you HEAR what he is telling you, because if you just listen but don't really digest the fact that he is not ready to be in a committed relationship with you, then you will end up hurt.
In addition to that, I think you should discontinue getting involved with him physically until he is one hundred percent sure that he wants to be in a relationship with you. It goes without saying that two people can continue to be physical with one another, and while one is thinking the physical chemistry means a relationship is on the horizon, the other is thinking the complete opposite. I think sometimes we as woman are quick to equate a physical relationship with the potential for something serious, and it sounds like that is what you are doing here. My advice to you is to stay clear of any physical contact with him as much as possible and try to limit the overall amount of time you spend with him be it on the phone or in person.
The last thing you want is to be involved with someone who is ';confused'; about what they want to do in terms a relationship with you. If he ended things with you, then it should be clear that he is capable of becoming and getting clear about what he wants and does not want in his life. DO NOT wait around for him to decide if and/or when he wants to resume a relationship with you. You could be waiting around forever on that one, and in the meantime miss out on the chance to live your life, meet new people, and be happy.
I say you two were together and broke up for a reason, so it's best to close that chapter as painful as it may be and move on. If you are willing to put yourself through all this for someone who has to decide if and when they are ready to be with you, imagine how much better you will feel to be with someone who GENUINELY KNOWS that he WANTS to be with you. There is no greater feeling.
Good luck.
the worst thing you can do is try to GET someone to be 100% sure of you, he eighter is, or he isn't, it's black and white, and right now he says he isn't, i think you should be greatfull that he realizes this Before making a commitment, you guys are exs for a reason, and it's natural to be attracted to the good times, and when you're feeling it, its easy to forget the bad times, but i think you should take it slow, and try not to get too attached, think about why it ended, and are you both mature enough and have you grown emotionally as individuals to give it another go? good luck!!!
Relationship advice when someone ignores you at work?
I fell in love with a twink who got taken away into foster care for 3 MONTHS.
I'm older than him, so I suspect that's the reason he's not allowed to see or call me; however, even prisoners get to make and receive calls/visitors and conjugal visits.
He's allowed to hang out with other friends his age.
One day you love someone and the next day they're gone by no fault of your own (foster care). That's so unfair.
Maybe that has somthing to do with why im obsessing.
I'm just sad that he made the choice to date someone else (23-year-old recovering crystal meth addict) during foster care when he knows i was interested.
Now, he stopped taking the initiative to contact me; however, before he got taken away into foster care it was ALWAYS him calling ME. Thats why im so confused.
He responded to an email saying he ';misses me'; but hes ';not single anymore';.
He is 17, a high school drop out , addicted to weed, bi polar, ADD, paranoid, anxiety, fear of failure, works at micky d's, parents never married and split etc..
Anyways, he posted on his myspace his new job location at mcdonalds with the exact address so im thinking he did that for a reason?
so i went to visit him and he completely ignored me.
We live 1 hour and 30 minutes from each other so obviously i felt horrible.
why would he tell me he ';misses me'; and wants to ';get together'; when hes back after 3 months? it hurts life hell.
i guess whatever relationaship we had before foster care is over?
He gets out in 4 weeks.
i havent had anyone like him in 5 years.
Im just really sad and heart broken that he's with another guy and ignoring me , especialy since we were going so well for 2 months before he got taken away.
We were never officialy dating or boifirends. I was kind of a sugar daddy to him, but it worked.
I've decided to stay off myspace and hope when he gets out of foster care in 4 weeks that he will call me.
I dont know what to do?
Relationship advice when someone ignores you at work?
omg..ur 23..Have alittle self esteem and pride and get a boyfriend who can take care of you and love you and someone who isnt drugged up on pysho pills and weedRelationship advice when someone ignores you at work?
Get over him.
Make him jealous.
Get thearepy.
Thats what i'd do.
except you know...with a girl.
if u really love, its better to talk directly and if u can leave him, let the things go as going...best of luck!!!
He sounds like a train wreck (on drugs, you were his ';sugar daddy'; but nothing else, already dating someone else). You can definitely find someone better and have a better relationship than that. Stop visiting him and don't return his calls.
Relationship Advice... Please Help!!?
so my boyfriend and i have been together for a bout a year now. neither of us has had a job this summer so we are always together and we live together at my parents where we always have to have our guard up because thats how my family is. not a good place for us to stay but our relationship has been strained becasue of it i get into a arguement with my parents and then me and him end up getting into it. Well the other day we got into a very bad arguement and i told him to leave that i didnt want to be with him. my dad had called his mom to come pick him up and then as we were talking she came and flipped on me. so he left. i later about a hour later drove to his house and tried to talk to him. he started taking his stuff out of my car and said that we needed to take a break for about a week. and that he would call me if and when he wanted to talk to me. he has been hanging out with my brother ever since. and this happened on sunday he hasnt come over or nothing. does this mean he is actually going to break up with me? or is the break needed because of all the time we spend together and not enough time for ourselves? i dont want to lose him i love him with all my heart. he also said that i was bitching and nagging him non stop and that he was tired of it.
do you think he'll come back? or leave it as it is . i still have a bunch of his things. also my brother wont help he told me he is not getting involved that it was not his business that if i wanted to know anything than to call him and ask him myslef he said i needed to ask him not my brother
in may he got into a bad accident and broke his neck adn back and isnt able to work right now . so i have been supporting him and driving him around to his doctors appointments and court
Relationship Advice... Please Help!!?
Anything is possible but your brother is a genius not to get involved but unfortunately he is a little.wrinkles
do you think he'll come back? or leave it as it is . i still have a bunch of his things. also my brother wont help he told me he is not getting involved that it was not his business that if i wanted to know anything than to call him and ask him myslef he said i needed to ask him not my brother
in may he got into a bad accident and broke his neck adn back and isnt able to work right now . so i have been supporting him and driving him around to his doctors appointments and court
Relationship Advice... Please Help!!?
Anything is possible but your brother is a genius not to get involved but unfortunately he is a little.
Relationship advice... i need help some serious one lol. ?
so me and my girlfriend were talking last night and i accidentally said something that hurt her feeling and i was joking around but she took it to hurt and i tried calling her several times and shes not replying to my calls or my texts i message her on facebook to tell her what i did was wrong and it wont happen again nor does she reply to any of messages online.... i have done every possible way of saying sorry to her yet she still doesnt want to reply... and yesterday she told her friend that shes teaching me a lesson by ignoring me... and i thought when you were in a relationship your supposed to be up front with boyfriend or girlfirned and not ignore them even though they have said sorry several times. i owuld rather have her yell at me and tell me that she needs some space and she cant even do that and its pretty immature if she just stays there and ignores me what should i do?Relationship advice... i need help some serious one lol. ?
Talk to her in person. Tell her that you are sorry and try not to do it again. Relationship advice... i need help some serious one lol. ?
Just wait it out. im pretty sure she will come around. If she Doesn't then i guess she didn't really love you and you didn't mean much to her. or else she will be forgive. right now just give her some space.
maybe 'what you thought' and what she's thinking are two different things. we dont all think or react the same. wouldnt that be weird if we did? we'd simply be slug robot people.
Ignoring you is no way to ';teach you a lesson';, that IS immature. If you have called and left her a message on her voice mail telling her that you are sincerely sorry that you hurt her feelings and that you will try to be more considerate from now on, then leave it at that. Maybe she is trying to get her thoughts together before she yells at you. Even if you apologize on the voice mail, you should still do it in person when you see her again though. Good luck.
Talk to her in person. Tell her that you are sorry and try not to do it again. Relationship advice... i need help some serious one lol. ?
Just wait it out. im pretty sure she will come around. If she Doesn't then i guess she didn't really love you and you didn't mean much to her. or else she will be forgive. right now just give her some space.
maybe 'what you thought' and what she's thinking are two different things. we dont all think or react the same. wouldnt that be weird if we did? we'd simply be slug robot people.
Ignoring you is no way to ';teach you a lesson';, that IS immature. If you have called and left her a message on her voice mail telling her that you are sincerely sorry that you hurt her feelings and that you will try to be more considerate from now on, then leave it at that. Maybe she is trying to get her thoughts together before she yells at you. Even if you apologize on the voice mail, you should still do it in person when you see her again though. Good luck.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Relationship Advice?
I am with someone who I am in love with and we also have a baby together. The problem is that she doesn't really do anything to help out. She doesn't work, clean, cook and she sleeps all day long. So all she does is sleep and she drinks at least a 12 pack a day which we can't afford. As a result all of the slack falls on me and it is driving me crazy. I've tried to talk to her about it numerous times but nothing seems to work. Can anyone please give me some advice?Relationship Advice?
She is probably suffering from depression , could be post natal depression which it treatable and temporary but is best if caught early on or it may get worse
She definitely needs some help - its good you are being supportive
You must INSIST she goes to see a doctor - for the sake of your family unit
Tell her it CAN'T carry on like this
Be firm but supportive and there's every chance she and you will get through this
But she MUST get help!Relationship Advice?
First of all ask her what is wrong. Make sure she know it does not matter what it is just tell me. THen if she does not do anything ask her another day, this time tell her its serious and that if she does not tell you and change that you are going to have to leave. SHe is going through her britney face,
ROFLMAO, I can totally picture this, you guys live in a trailer and your girlfriend is a fat slob who sits on the porch with a cigarette butt hanging out of the side of her mouth with a can of Colt 45 in her hand. Too funny!
Well, I guess since there's a child involved this isn't really funny. I don't know what to tell you though, she sounds like a lazy fat slob who wont change. I guess you could leave her. It sounds like you wouldn't have any problem getting full custody of the baby.
a successful relationship need to compromise and a good communications I know you love her but sometimes you have to tell her where you stand.
Why hang around?tell her you want and need a change and then move on.She is not going to change if you continue to take up her slack...She drinks because she is not happy.Talk then walk...
Are you sure she doesn't have a penis? ';She'; really sounds a bit mannish by her actions.
tell her she needs to stop or will loose u
I am in somewhat of a similar situation, well as in I'm the one doing everything in the relationship, my boyfriend has a suspended license so I'm always driving us around and he is always getting drunk every single time we go out. I'm at the point now where I'm going to leave him, after you talk to your bf/gf about a problem and nothing changes my opinion is it's time to move on. I still haven't told him I want to move on because it's going to be hard but I know I need to do it.
';There are always more fish in the sea';
I think you need to give her an ultimatum. Tell her that she needs to contribute to the household or else you can't go out with her. It's not fair to you that she makes you do everything, when all she does is laze around. If she wants something, she needs to work hard for it just like everyone else.
She is probably suffering from depression , could be post natal depression which it treatable and temporary but is best if caught early on or it may get worse
She definitely needs some help - its good you are being supportive
You must INSIST she goes to see a doctor - for the sake of your family unit
Tell her it CAN'T carry on like this
Be firm but supportive and there's every chance she and you will get through this
But she MUST get help!Relationship Advice?
First of all ask her what is wrong. Make sure she know it does not matter what it is just tell me. THen if she does not do anything ask her another day, this time tell her its serious and that if she does not tell you and change that you are going to have to leave. SHe is going through her britney face,
ROFLMAO, I can totally picture this, you guys live in a trailer and your girlfriend is a fat slob who sits on the porch with a cigarette butt hanging out of the side of her mouth with a can of Colt 45 in her hand. Too funny!
Well, I guess since there's a child involved this isn't really funny. I don't know what to tell you though, she sounds like a lazy fat slob who wont change. I guess you could leave her. It sounds like you wouldn't have any problem getting full custody of the baby.
a successful relationship need to compromise and a good communications I know you love her but sometimes you have to tell her where you stand.
Why hang around?tell her you want and need a change and then move on.She is not going to change if you continue to take up her slack...She drinks because she is not happy.Talk then walk...
Are you sure she doesn't have a penis? ';She'; really sounds a bit mannish by her actions.
tell her she needs to stop or will loose u
I am in somewhat of a similar situation, well as in I'm the one doing everything in the relationship, my boyfriend has a suspended license so I'm always driving us around and he is always getting drunk every single time we go out. I'm at the point now where I'm going to leave him, after you talk to your bf/gf about a problem and nothing changes my opinion is it's time to move on. I still haven't told him I want to move on because it's going to be hard but I know I need to do it.
';There are always more fish in the sea';
I think you need to give her an ultimatum. Tell her that she needs to contribute to the household or else you can't go out with her. It's not fair to you that she makes you do everything, when all she does is laze around. If she wants something, she needs to work hard for it just like everyone else.
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