Relationship advice - please help. My partner and I are just coming out of the honeymoon phase and I am?

beginning to get fecked off (like you do) about various things. Problem is the issues are so sensitive I know if I say something it will just mean he thereafter edits his behaviour and I'm not sure I want that either... if anything just wish he would be considerate in the first place without me having to say. Then (just to really complicate things!) I think too maybe the problem is not with him - maybe my expectations are too high and maybe I am too sensitive.





One issue we have is with money - he runs a sucessful business and I am still a student and earn alot less. In the beginning he wanted to pay for everything but I have never wanted to be a wag kinda girl at all - nor a kept woman so I did not feel comfortable with this. I don't want to be bought or have someone else having dibs on me if that makes sense? In the end he said he would pay then for most things and I could get him the odd meal etc and that seemed fairer and worked for a bit - then me being generous anyways I ended up paying for more and more. The problem is when I do (unlike when he does) he never even says a wee thank you - don't expect an oscar speech but just a wee acknowledgement would be nice. The last couple of times especially have really fecked me off. I went to the bank and he said to me 'you don't need money' which turned out clearly to not be the case as I then paid for almost everything - in all costing me nearly 拢200. He never volunteered to help and always nipped to the loo at inoportune times! By the end of the evening I was feeling quite hurt - annoyed especially as he was telling me how much he loved me and wants to look after me etc and yet his behaviour does not communicate that to me at all.





Then I convinced myself I was being silly, tried to think of all the good things he does do and even said to myself he probably is just not thinking/does not realise how hard it is for me to afford these things but moreover how hurt I get when he does not even offer to help. I never wanted him to pay for everything but I didn't want to either - some compromise in the middle which was fair would make me so happy.





Another problem is he is inconsiderate in other ways, he loves being held when he goes to sleep - this position is very comfy and mostly works well but he has never once considered I might like that too... another example is he and his wee 12 year old are coming over at new year to spend a week with my 4 year old daughter and I. As it is his son's first visit we have talked at length as to what we can do to make sure he has a blast. Problem is he has never once considered my wee girl's needs that week too. I try and say we will need to think of things for her to do too and he never goes with the conversation.





He tells me he has never been happier, cannot believe he has such a beautiful girlfriend - rings me a hundred times a day and is reliable and fun. Yet here I am feeling miserable and like I want to end it. Am I just hard work and being a pain? I just feel the whole situation causes me emotional and financial pressures I don't need. Like it is all one way traffic.





Hell the other day too he took a property paper over to show me the huge house he and his ex used to live in - just could not work out why he did that and was not sure what I was supposed to say - be impressed or what - seemed really insensitive. I am not a materialistic person, just very considerate and so maybe expect others to be the same but in him doing that I did make the comparison thinking he would do that for her (who treated him appallingly) and yet he is treating me this way... or is he - maybe as I say the problem is with me being demanding. PLease help. Cannot see the wood for the trees.Relationship advice - please help. My partner and I are just coming out of the honeymoon phase and I am?
i call you girl he is using you and your daughters money yous will be left will bills/ kiss him good bye or pick up your step for you/and baby girl bank your money and get him to pay bills / as he is most likely wasting it on other women any way. you are now becoming a baby sitter for his son . by the way keep little one safe okay. you do not need this in your life.keep studies going they will help. he the *** hole should be more caring and help full or maybe that is why ex treated him like that. bump him he is a bum and you are letting him be one.Relationship advice - please help. My partner and I are just coming out of the honeymoon phase and I am?
Sorry you feel like this. It sounds like you are happy in the relationship but with the inconsiderate bits needing ironing out.





It sounds to me like you just need to sit down and have a proper conversation with him. Make sure you both have plenty of time and are not rushed and that you havent just bombed home from work/uni. Tell him 1st of all that u wanna have an important conversation regarding your relationship and its really important to you that it remains a convo and not an argument...if this freeks him out then try to reasure him its nothing to worry about but it is something that has been bothering you and u have to get it sorted or u feel it could push u apart.





explain it to him just as you have written it above, if it was me, id print it out and let him read it as u have really written that from the heart. But that does take alot of guts so dont let me push u into that.





I dont think u are being demanding or irrational or a gold digga! I think that it sounds that he really does love u as he calls you, is fun and reliablke and it doesnt seem to bother him that you are not working. which is all great - the only thing is he need to work on his skills as a family man with you and your daughter and try to understand your needs, he wont do this unless he knows how u are feeling, he probly thinks everything is hunky doory as he is none the wiser, tell him how u feel and y u feel like this and i'll et u see a huge improvemtn, he will probly apologise and make an extra effort to make sure u dont end up feeling that way again.





As u said, he has been in a rubbish relationship before wear material things did matter and his woman was not that kind with him so it seems he is in new territory with a lovely beautiful considerate woman like u - he just needs a gentle push in the right direction to get all these anxietys iron out.





Good luck Hun, let me know how u get on x
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So this guy pays for everything which you are not happy with. So you pay from time to time and your not happy with that either. He just shows you a picture of his old house that is in the property paper but thats wrong. He dose not thankyou when you pay sometimes he might feel awkward.





Frankly you make problems where there are none. Why not tell him how you feel or is he meant to guess?





Seem like a guy who loves you, cares about his son, offers to pay for everything. No wonder your complaining.





Some people just can not be happy can they.





Nobody is perfect you know.