However he has never worked %26amp; wont be for the next 3 years as he will be going to uni
I have to get a mortgage in less than a year as my family are moving country %26amp; i cant go with because of my job..
I love him but I have to think about my future..
All of my friends are also in uni..I earn a really good wage but am worried about paying for everything myself.
What should i do ?Relationship advice..?
I have to say I agree with Josh's Muffin. He should be pulling his weight a bit more. I would talk to him and let him know where you stand. don't be scared cause if you really care for him you want to be completely honest with him. Tell him your going to be getting amortgagee and he's welcome to move in and help contribute to the household, but also let him know he doesn't have to, he should still be given the option of Living on his own if he chooses. But let him know if he chooses to live alone he will not be dwelling at your place more then a few timesa weekk. Let him know you care for for him and want to be with him but your in a situation where you need to make some changes and he's welcome to join you or not. You seem to be working hard to get to where you are today and you should not let anyone or anything change what you need to do. Hope this helps Relationship advice..?
If you do not take care of number 1 (that being you) the rest of your life will never be ok. As much as you love someone, you have to do what is best for you. People are who they are and you cannot expect to change them or make them something ';better'; or different that suits your life. There are plenty fish in the sea, and if its meant to be, things will work out between you guys in the end anyways. But most importantly, you have to do what is the best thing for you at this time in your life. Once you are established in life, then you can make sacrifices for others just to make yourself happy. But until you have everything in your life straight, the rest should be put on hold. You coould just wait around and hope things happen the way they should, and then you guys break up for some random reason, and you are left with nothing. Always put yourself first or you will always be vulnerable to life.
Sounds like it's too soon to make a commitment to your BF - he has a lot of work to do before he's ready to help with a mortgage. Why not keep dating him, since you love him, but get a room mate to help with expenses? Your BF isn't a deadbeat, he's preparing for the future. Your problem isn't with your BF, it's with your finances.
Wow... well I wouldn't be dating a guy who didn't have a job in the first place. I understand your predicament now though. Can't he even manage a small part-time job? So many students pay for their college education my working through it. I'm sure he can do SOMETHING to help and I hope you don't let him just get a free ride.
i would be cautious about staying in a relationship where money is an issue. talk to him (%26amp; your friends) honestly about your concerns. no matter how much money you make, you should not be paying for everything all the time. it's not fair.
He can always get a part time job wright ? Or tell him that if he is so busy styding to get a scholarship that way he can help you ? best thing to do is to talk with him and tell him what you have in mind work something out
Good Luck
is he living with you? if so you should split expenses. if not maybe you should move on and try to find a boy friend who works full time. although i think that is a pretty shallow reason to start a new relationship.
you know what to do, love don't pay bills, so take care of you first and if he decides to grow up and help that's even better.
He can't work and go to uni? I don't understand why he can't. I think you should ask him to help you out a little bit. I go to uni and work there really isn't anything hard about it.
Try to sit down with him and figure it out. If you don't you will always wonder. Look for a cheap place, see if the two of you could live together to make it cheaper.
You need to talk to him about it. He needs to understand the situation and how you feel. It may be uncomfortable, but it needs to be done. Doesn't he WANT to take care of you?
Tell him what you worried about... If you really love him and he really loves you then you want everything good to happen to each other, right?
if the only concern is the money issue..then get a room mate..you can split the housing costs and you can still be with ur boyfriend..
buy a house and turn half of it into something that you can rent to a friend
i dunno
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