Well two years are a long time and she should be wanting to spend the time with you and NOT with friends whether it be a boy or a girl. People work and/or go to school and that is where the majority of their time goes each week which leaves little time with our loved ones.
Perhaps your mother is right and you should find someone else.Relationship Advice?
I believe she is not using you as a doormat, she is who she is, and you write that is has been always like this, so, you may speak about it with her, but then you'll be asking her to be ';different';, if you do love her as she is, you accept how she behaves.
So, yes, speak about it just to let her know how do you feel about what she does, so things are clear between you. Things may change, or not, the point is would you stay with her accepting how she behaves, or not? if not, then better to let it go.
Bring this up and talk to her about it. If its bothering you this much just talk to her. If she's rude and kind of turns everything around on you, maybe its time to move on. But, whatever you do don't let her go without her knowing how you feel. Bring up the subject of her going out with her friend and then start talking about how you feel from there.
call her out. if it really bothers you and you want it to stop, you must talk to her about it or she won't know you you get hard feelings over it. she did reschedual and is seeing you on another day, so if she does reschedual with you then at least she isn't just canceling and hanging you out to dry. you may just being sensative but its worth the talk reguardless to clear up any confusion.
Well you should at least talk to her about it...she may not even be aware that it's affecting you this way. Cancelling plans on you doesn't mean she's using you as a doormat.. it just means she has a life and other interests. If she works or goes to school chances are the weekend is the only time she can hang out with her friend. Tell her how it makes you feel but realize that her feelings matter too. Her world shouldn't revolve around you!
I think that you should leave her alone on this one... but if it so happens to happen more than once.. like lets say next week you may want to talk to her about it then but right now she is just being herself... and just hanging out with a friend and I bet she would let you do the same if you wanted to??!!..... but yea just enjoy your weekend then...
Ah,.. So sweet, so naive. I'm guessing your in high school. (I am too.) Anyway, you should tell her about this. you seem like a really nice guy and I'd hate to see you get hurt. Some girls are like that. Don't let it get you worked up. Tell her about it and hear her side of the story. Need any details or help mail me!
talk to her about how you feel... let her know that it bothers you that she had no consideration for your feelings and see what her reaction is. if she simply blows it off, then leave. if she is truly sorry about the incident... then maybe something can be worked out.
Does she know that you feel this way? If you've never told her it bothers you when she does that, she might not know it bothers you and think you don't mind, ya know?
I would bring it up in a non-accusing way, one of those ';just so you know....'; conversations.
Even though ur in a relationship, doesnt mean she/ you shouldnt have a life outside of each other. Its just one saturday and its not like youre not going to see her. But if its really bothering you then talk to her about it,
Let her know it bothers you see how she acts after you talk to her if it changanges her was great. If not she got to go. Or if you see she changes only for a bit then goes back to her old ways out she goes.
Tell her what is bothering you. If you don't tell her she won't know and she'll keep doing it. If you have told her and she doesn't care, maybe you are just growing apart?
i dont see what the big problem is.... so what she went out without telling you. she is grown women
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How about finding a girl to be with, when she can't be with you!
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but im going to say.. dump him
i think that you should leave her because thats not right and you could find sum1 better than her
uhm.... boring break up and find Jesus...
hi your mom is right you need to tell your girlfriend how u feel 4 real about the problem that is happening in your relationship with her ,sometimes girl don't stop to think how you feel about the friendship that she haves with this guy they just do because you do say nothing to her about it . you need to sit her down and tell her how you feel about her not considering you in the fun.ask her to let you hang out with her and her friend ,if that's a problem leave her alone. please u will thank me later,and find someone who is going to respect you-4-sure.
Two years. Do you want to live this way the rest of your life? I mean, if this is who intend to marry, are you willing for this to continue for the rest of your relationship? Or, is it more likely that this will fester over time leading to resentment, frustration, anger and your eventual break-up?
You need to address this situation now whether you want this relationship to last or whether it is just a stopping over point before a long-term committed relationship. Bad habits are hard to break and allowing yourself to just 'let it pass' can become a very bad habit that will come back to bite you in every relationship that you ever enter into. Resentment, frustration and anger can sneak in and undermine the best of relationships if you are unaware they are there until too late.
On another note, it doesn't sound like she's as into this relationship as you are. Maybe you two should take a break or agree to see others. In the meantime, decide what you want out of a relationship.
well first off stand up for yourself...
when someone does something that makes you feel like **** then say something for christssake!!
Nobody is repsonsible for your feelings if you arent willing to let them know something is bothering you...basically she walks on you cuz YOU LET HER.
she probably keeps doing this to you cuz you NEVER say anything...
freaking say something...ive been in a similar situation and when its all said and done you will kick yourself for not saying anything.
YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOU...
tell her shes inconsiderate, explain why you think so and if she doesnt understand then dump her.
thats the answer my friend, you might not like it cuz it forces you to face confrontation, but screw it. The only way to fix something is to get after it....so you know what to do
You do feel upset that she is with another guy. It is totally natural to be upset because she is throwing you over for another MALE.. Your mom is right. You are a doormat. You are letting her trash your relationship and walk on you.
A. Bring it up to her.
B. Duck when she says it's all your fault.
C. Don't let her make you the bad guy- you are trying to communicate. (Which is by far the most amazing thing a guy can ever do for a woman)
D. Find a girl that would want to spend so much time with you that you would get sick... Just kidding but you know what I mean. You sound like a nice guy. Find a nice girl that would respect you.
Have you tried to discuss this with her? You need to sit her down and tell her how you feel. Then you can make you decision based on her response.
In my opinion you should not be the only one wanting to spend more time with her, she should want the same. Maybe she's too busy, maybe she doesn't realize how you feel about it I don't know. Because guys are good at hiding their emotions its easy for girls to overlook them.
If she's not willing to change anything then you don't have to live like this. You should be with someone who desires to see you and spend time with you as much as possible.
okay i think even though this is a very small problem you siad thet it isnt the first thing, so i think you should tell her. she is probly gonna try and blame you jst cause she is human and she probly jst feels like she is being attaked and girls dont like saying that they did something wrong.
just sit her down and tell her, and then ask her what youguys can do to fix it and make her more aware of your feelings.
if she doesnt change or seem to care, you should take a brake and maybe then she will realize what she did.
i hope that helps(:
Honestly, it sound slike you're not getting what you want out of a relationship. An given that she's been like this for TWO years, it's never going to change man. Sure, try to talk to her about it. But you've already tried that. She's not making adjustments. Instead, I would break up with her. Then have NO CONTACT for at least 30 days. She needs to know what it feels like to NOT have you in her life. Be strong in those 30 days. NO CONTACT. She'll be running back to you. And by then, you might not want her any way. Be strong. You deserve what you want out of a relationship. She sucks.
I would definitely talk to her about it. Let her know how you feel and then you'll see her true feelings. If she cares, she'll apologize and keep her plans with you. If she doesn't care, then you're mom was right. Women can be the most devious creatures on earth. If she has always been like this, then why do you continue to put yourself in this postion? Honey, there are so many fish in the sea as they say. Don't allow yourself to be disrespected and rejected because she's overbearing and inconsiderate. Tell her that this is not a competition. It's a relationship and with relationships comes caring and compassion. She lacks this and it's not healthy. Maybe it's not what you want to hear but there could not possibly be a future for you both when one person in the relationship is without consideration.
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