Relationship advice...?

So...I guess you could say I'm a bit old fashioned. I plan to be a virgin till my wedding night, and I don't believe in living together until you are married...well I happened to fall for this fellow who, at the age of 18 (he's 22 now, I'm 19) lived with a girlfriend for about a year. Is this something I am going to be able to look past? I was wondering if anyone has ever been in a similar scenario. Also..is the age difference between 19 and 22 (not the three year part, but the actual AGE of 19 between 22) a big deal? I really like him but maybe I am just being particular...Relationship advice...?
Congrats on waiting! I waited to marry my husband as well. I would be a little concerned about commitment from him. I have been going to school studying marriage, family, and human development and one of the biggest predictors of divorce is cohabitation before marriage. Believe me, there are men out there who are waiting until they are married as well. My husband waited, but it is a big part of our religion. Religion by the way is also a high predictor on whether couples stay together. (Or common beliefs.) Send me an email if you have any particular questions you want me to look up.





But, back to your question, you should never feel like you just settled for something less than what you deserve. Because if you do end up marrying him- are you going to wonder down the line if there was someone better for you?





I don't know if you are Christian, but I believe that marriage is a big step you life and God will not leave you without answers if you only ask.





I hope I didn't overstep my bounds, but if I can help you with anything, please email me. I have access to all the current research. John Gottman is one of the top relationship researchers if you want to do some of your own researching. He has written several books that are all based on sound research and very helpful in understanding why some relationships work and others don't.





Good Luck! And don't give up hope, the right guy will come along when you least expect it! (Mine did!)





As far as age goes, that really isn't bad. It's nice too that your guy is more mature, especially if you want to marry him. You are more likely to have a successful marriage when you are both into your 20's or older.





P.S. I hope I didn't overwhelm you, but since I am the only one answering I hope you find this info helpful! =)


Check out this website article. It goes over a lot of the major concerns for cohabitation. It may help you with some of the questions you may want to ask yourself.