feels that we have become too comfortable with each other. She says we need to spend more time apart and with out friends (find this strange because she only has one friend)
She said she misses times when I have been gone and then
come home to her and vice versa.
How should I handle this? I will definitely give her some space, since we both need it. Should I see
this as a sign we are through? When I am around her it feels so awkward, like she wont even kiss me. She said she loves me and I am a big part of her life?
Should I even text her/ give her any attention during the day, or just try to ignore her so she craves the attention?Relationship advice from those who are experienced?
that is odd.. have her talk to you and see what she wants to happenRelationship advice from those who are experienced?
I wouldn't take it as you guys are over just yet. Some people change after you move in with them, that is just the way things are. You know some people who live apart like the thrill of getting ready to see that special someone and like missing them in a way when they have to go home and then when you move in with each other the excitement of that part of the relationship is over and you miss it. Or some people just don't like being crowded. Like my sister and her husband are around each other all the time and they love it. But my mom and my dad hardly ever see each other but they are perfectly happy with each other when they do. So I would just give her her space. When she is out act like you would have if she was out before you two lived together.
Be spontaneous, that's the best way to keep a spark in a boring relationship.
I think it's a sign it may be ending. Sit her down and have an honest discussion about what's happening. If she won't be honest then maybe that will tell you something to.
I am confused..lol Aren't you suppose to feel completely comfortable with your partner? Why would that make her want to spend time away? I would talk to her and ask her what is really going on..
I would say still text her and giver her attention just dont be suffocating about it. In every relationship people need/want to have their own space and time for themselves. Everything is fine with you as a couple. Its just spending everyday together and being together for so long can be somewhat suffocating on your relationship. Just plan to go out with your buddies one night and her go out with her girl(s).
Ignoring her will push her further away.
You need to talk to her about what she's thinking. We can't answer this kind of question.
You are not necessarily through. She might just want some space to breathe.
Talk to her about what she wants. Ask her straight out if she says anything that sounds like it means things are over. You need to know.
That's a hard one ...I'm 28 nd have had my share of different relationships some long some short...longest 5-6years...
When she says to comfortable..she probably means that u guys are in a rut...Let her know ur there bt give her space...
Not to much..don't give her room to think about being sneaky...
Have you tried roe playing...no sexually...more mental...when my car broke and Id take the bus my ex would get on two stops before or after meet, wait 5 minutes and then slow work his way to me and ';hit on me';
At first it was awkward...but later fun (it funny watchin' others watchin you gettin picked up)
Sounds to me like you're stuck in a rutt. Give each other some space and see where it goes. And if you miss each other than you know the answer.
So give her the space and see if she comes back and wants to be with you, this could be kind of like a break to see where you guys are headed.
Sounds like she is the problem. If she is not interested then it may be the end. Its not like you guys are married. Also, studies show that couples who live together before marriage have the highest divorce rates after marriage. Just something to think about. Plus try some of the other answers on here.
A couple generally shouldn't be joined at the hip: it is good to have different experiences to talk about with each other. If you only do the same things and always together, before long, you run out of new things to talk about. This isn't to say, ';Ignore her';, but, encourage her to develop her own interests. Maybe there's a class she'd like to take? Cooking? Martial arts? Drawing? Or she gets to go spend a day shopping, or on a tour. The same goes for you. Do things together, yes; but also keep your own identities and share the experiences you have when apart.
She needs to learn that when you move in with your bf/gf, that things will become boring, repetitive, and monotonous. Every day of the relationship will not be a prom night. If she can't learn to be bored with you and still enjoy your company, then perhaps she's not the one for you.
well ur in a weird situation, i mean how can she want space if ur living together??
but just give her some space tho, and don't give her that much attention..so she would actually miss you and want to c u..
uh oh, red flag. If you feel awkward with her you might want to take a step back and review your relationship. Are you in it because you love her more than anything and you could not picture being with anyone else... or just to have a gf. It is the little things that mean the most... like my ex wouldn't kiss me unless i initiated it or hug me... little things like that are huge. Space is good.. you don't want to be around each other all the time. Don't over think the situation though... if you feel like talking to her during the day, give her a call. If not then w/e.... don't worry about what she is thinking so much, if she wants to talk she will call ya. You gotta see this from her view.
This does sound like the situation between me and my ex I hate to say. You feel like she doesn't love you, but she re assures she does. Honestly I don't want to be with someone that I am going to question almost everyday if they love me.... get it. Just think about it.... it broke my heart to give her up, but in the end it was right. Give it a couple of weeks and most importantly talk to her about it. If she is giving you blunt answers then you need to consider what I have said. Good luck bro.
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