Relationship advice...please?

Me and my bf met at grad school have been together for 4 years. We wanted to get married 2 yrs ago but we were raised in different religions. He was raised as a muslim and had told me before we got in the relationship that it was important to him that we both followed the same faith. I was raised a Hindu. After meeting my bf I looked into islam. Though I did not agree/understand all of it...what I did understand I aceepted. Following that I stopped idol worshipping etc but neither did I start praying 5 times a day. I looked at myself as someone who questioned their beliefs and started looking out for answers. Now its been 2 years and I still cannot fully accept or decline Islam. These 2yrs I have also looked at different religions. Our parents are very opposed to this marriage. I felt that my fiance and I have been just tryign ot make both parents as much comfortable with the situation as possible but its not getting us anywhere.Relationship advice...please?
Having different faiths in a relationship can be tough. I don't know anything about Islam or Hindu religions, but I can imagine your parents being upset.





Here is my advice, and it will not be easy: If you and your bf don't have any faith problems (ex- he is not pushing you to convert, you are ok with how the children will be raised, you are ok with how finances and such will be handled), then you need to politely explain to your parents that this your decision. Since you already have discovered you don't believe in Hinduism anymore, they will already be upset.





But marriage isn't about if your family likes him, or if they approve of the union. Marriage is between you, your husband, and God. So, if you love this man, and he loves you, and religion isn't a problem between you two, then there should be nothing stopping your marriage.





Family IS important, but if your parents cannot love you enough to be happy for you (or at least not disown you), perhaps it is time to start your own family with your husband.





I know this is tough, from personal experience, my parents did not agree with my engagement and tried every method to keep us apart, including not paying for my college anymore. But once I showed them I would be with my man no matter what, even if it meant loosing them, they realized they would have to accept the union or loose their daughter.





Good luck, I hope the best for you.Relationship advice...please?
I'm sorry, you are in a very difficult position. It is hard enough to stay together in today's society when two people love eachother, but it is 100 times harder when religious beliefs are involved.


My only advice is that you and your fiance really need to sit down and talk about this more. Perhaps it would be best if you and your fiance could engage the advice of a religious leader of your fiance's faith. Or some type of couples' counseling, a third objective party who can help you both express your feelings about the topic. Right now, you should concentrate on the both of you and not worry about your parents until later.


Unfortunately, you should consider that this might be the one thing that keeps you from marrying eachother. If it is that important to your fiance, it may come down to that. Hopefully, he loves you enough to work with you on this and not against you. You have a right to your own beliefs just as he has a right to his. I'm not sure how old you are, but to be engaged for 2 years and not make any progress on this issue is a long time. If you really love him and want to marry him and raise a family, be understanding to his feelings about this, but also ask him to do the same for you.


Good luck, I hope this was a little helpful at least.