Relationship advice :what am i doing wrong?

My boyfriend and i have been together for a while now. I am very romantic and constantly am trying to make him happy. i know he loves me to but he aways say its hard for him to tell me.


1. Is it selfish to want him to tell me these things more.





He works 80 hours or more a week. i see him when he comes home around 9 pm and he doesn't work sundays so that is the only time i see him. its hard because i am currently working and attending school. but still i have times when i am at home just waiting for him. i am constantly doing things ti help our relationship ( im not complaining I LOVE IT) but i FEEL like he doesn't go out of his way to help us.


1. I had to learn his language ( he doesn't speak English)


2. I cook ( that is normal to do though)


3 Clean wash all of his clothes ( again im not going out of my way just to clean and wash clothes)


4. Give him massages everyday ( even when he comes home from work at 11.


i know that cooking and cleaning are normal things to do for a man but i feel like i do so much just for him to be happy. but why am i not happy??





IT is really hard for me because i want to get married, he wants to aswell but he is scared to ask. what can i do?? PLEASE HELPRelationship advice :what am i doing wrong?
wow it looks liek you've done enough! I mean even learning his language. why dont you just wait until he asks you, he might be scared for many reasons. but no matter how scared he was if he waned to get married the question would have came up already!!





i think you should just wait to see what happens. let him put some effort in the relastionshipRelationship advice :what am i doing wrong?
you are not doing anything wrong. infact you are doing everything right! It must be really hard because you can see him, i know exactly how you feel. what i did was i spent more time doing things for me, and hanging out with my friends. try telling him how you feel. i know he loves you so he will definetly try to make you happier!
You're asking what you're doing wrong?! That's the problem. He's the one not doing anything and you're the one who's putting forth all the effort and you're asking what you're doing wrong! Let's start with that. Why would he even bother to do anything for you and the relationship? He's got it made. Guys are not attracted to women who fawn all over them and they certainly don't enjoy being nagged all the time about weather or not they love them. They may like the perks that come with it (clean clothes, food, massages), but guys really prefer a woman who plays a little hard to get.





Here's the thing, if he really cared and loved you (no matter how much he worked) he would find ways to show you he cared and loved you and in return you would feel loved and wouldn't feel the need to have to ask. Your heart will tell you everything you need to know and more. You should trust it.
You're not happy because you're not getting the attention you want and you don't feel that you're an equal; I think you may feel a bit like a maid.





It is not the woman's place to cook and do laundry; the best relationships are the ones where the chores are shared equally. If you choose to cook and do laundry, that's fine -- but he should wash the dishes and vacuum in return. And working 80 hours a week is a lot, so he probably doesn't feel that he has a lot to give to you since he is really tired.





Talk to him about this. Let him know how you feel. (If this is the man you're going to marry, you better be able to discuss ANY issue that comes up in your relationship. I've answered thousands of questions but never asked a single one; why? Because I go straight to my man when I have a problem with him or our relationship.) Tell him that you are unhappy sometimes. See what he says when you confess how you're feeling. Maybe he feels the same way, maybe he has no clue. But if you don't talk about it, you'll never know how to fix it.