ok my boyfriend that i have known for a few years and we dated for a year broke up with me. I love him. Very much. It shocked me really bad when he did this. (three weeks ago) He is still my best friend and told me he still wants to be friends. He did it becasue he says he does not love me as more than a friend and that he can't be in a relationship with me because of it. I don't even know what to do. What can I do, I want him to realize that he loves me and every morning i wake up thinking that none of it happened. I have many suspitions that he does love me and is blocking it out or that he doesnt realize that he does. I know that I love him, I have never felt this way about anyone. He keeps saying what a wonderfull and amazing person I am and that he wishes he could love me. I dont see how that works either. How can you want to love someone and not? So I am asking for feedack, advice, some form of guidance. Has anyone ever been in a situation like this?Relationship advice needed on a complicated situation.?
You need to tell him how you feel,then together you can talk the problem out
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Relationship advice, kissed boyfriends bestfriend?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and recently we broke up for so many reasons, lastnight we decided lets fix things, while we were broken up i kissed 3 different guys, including his bestfriend (it meant nothing we wanted to experiment) ofcourse i didnt do anything else with any other guys, just kiss, but now, i told him about the 2 other guys and i cant possibly tell him about his bestfriend i will lose any chance i ever had, and i know his bestfriend wont say anything, cause it didnt mean anything we both agreed to keep it a secret even before it happen, i feel so guilty, but if i tell him i ruin not only my chances of a relationship, but a 13 year friendship, i just dont know if i should feel guilty keeping it to myself or not.... ofcourse if my boyfriend were to ask i think id tell him, but as of right now, he would never suspect:( i feel so bad.. advice, pleaseRelationship advice, kissed boyfriends bestfriend?
Don't worry. You two had broken up. You only had a bit of fun during the time you two were distanced. And plus, it meant nothing, right? If it means absolutely nothing to you and his best friend then it is alright. It is good that you are willing to tell him if he asks you because some honesty is needed for a relationship to work.
Telling him would most probably ruin everything so keep it a secret if you can. It is not your fault.Relationship advice, kissed boyfriends bestfriend?
chances are if you are making a big deal about it then it is a big deal.... i think you should tell him. honesty is so important in a relationship and if he finds out like if his friend lets it slip or decides to tell him then he will be pissed at you and your relationship will truly be over.lipstick gloss
Don't worry. You two had broken up. You only had a bit of fun during the time you two were distanced. And plus, it meant nothing, right? If it means absolutely nothing to you and his best friend then it is alright. It is good that you are willing to tell him if he asks you because some honesty is needed for a relationship to work.
Telling him would most probably ruin everything so keep it a secret if you can. It is not your fault.Relationship advice, kissed boyfriends bestfriend?
chances are if you are making a big deal about it then it is a big deal.... i think you should tell him. honesty is so important in a relationship and if he finds out like if his friend lets it slip or decides to tell him then he will be pissed at you and your relationship will truly be over.
Relationship advice.what would you do?
my boyfriend doesn't call as much or text...we used to hang almost 4 or 5 times a week...now its maybe once or twice. maybe bcuz i got a summer job, but when im not working he hangs with his buddies. anyways schools starting and he's going to finish his last yr of high school while i go to college. (i graduated one year early) idk know if i should end it or not i really love him but its hard to believe u can love someone u don't trust..especially since he's a flirt.Relationship advice.what would you do?
I understand why you tolerate him. Being your first love, you tend to overlook all the bad things he does because you're in love with him. He knows that you will always take him back every time he does something wrong 'cause he know you love him.
You're going to college soon and it's time to grow up a bit and make a mature decision. You know all the bad things he's been doing and I'd bet my last dollar he won't stay faithful to you. You have to break it off and find another guy. You're a college girls now with your future in front of you. Go for the future and let go of the past. You know that's what you wanted to do but you just need a little boost of confidence. Your life, Your future, Your heart. You Decide!Relationship advice.what would you do?
look dont post a question and not expect to hear the truth.You KNOW the truth, because u said dont tell me to kick him to the curb cause he was my first love.Wtf.? So i guess u would stay w/ him if you also found out that he was cheating AGAIN.You would.I know u would.Look, just cause hes your first love doesnt mean hes gonna be your only love you eve have.Move on cause appartley he has and your the only one trying to make it work.Their are plenty of guys out there so start looking you are still in love with a KID.
Grow up and move on.Hope everything works out either way though.
Goodluck!
A Leopard would never change its spots.
Time to consider for better options in guys.
More husband/father material.
Flirts like to have multiple relationships in their youth.
Unless you enjoy being neglected/ignored by him.
He won't devote himself to you yet.
Especially now he has energy for many girls.
Honestly, you might be mistaking love for a little crush. He lies to you, and cheated on you. That is not someone you want to be with. You should talk to him, and take a break from him, and you'll still have a crush on him, but you can still search for other guys at the same time.
you have already answer your question kick him to the curb. You are much too smart to be played like this. Life is too short to waste it on someone that treats you this way. If you died tomorrow would you be happy with choosing him to spend your last days with
I think you should definitely move on...it seems like he's keeping you on the edge so he has a back up girl to fall back on while hes out trying to score other chicks...but hey thats just my honest opinion..what really counts is yours
I think you should end the relationship. It sounds like he's just using you.
hes probaly just busy cause of school starting..but if hes a liar then i'd say keep a look out
Dump him, its overdue
when you go to college you'll find a mature guy that will treat you the right way
Give him more blowjobs
you are young. if he lied and cheated thats a sign right there my dear. think about it
I understand why you tolerate him. Being your first love, you tend to overlook all the bad things he does because you're in love with him. He knows that you will always take him back every time he does something wrong 'cause he know you love him.
You're going to college soon and it's time to grow up a bit and make a mature decision. You know all the bad things he's been doing and I'd bet my last dollar he won't stay faithful to you. You have to break it off and find another guy. You're a college girls now with your future in front of you. Go for the future and let go of the past. You know that's what you wanted to do but you just need a little boost of confidence. Your life, Your future, Your heart. You Decide!Relationship advice.what would you do?
look dont post a question and not expect to hear the truth.You KNOW the truth, because u said dont tell me to kick him to the curb cause he was my first love.Wtf.? So i guess u would stay w/ him if you also found out that he was cheating AGAIN.You would.I know u would.Look, just cause hes your first love doesnt mean hes gonna be your only love you eve have.Move on cause appartley he has and your the only one trying to make it work.Their are plenty of guys out there so start looking you are still in love with a KID.
Grow up and move on.Hope everything works out either way though.
Goodluck!
A Leopard would never change its spots.
Time to consider for better options in guys.
More husband/father material.
Flirts like to have multiple relationships in their youth.
Unless you enjoy being neglected/ignored by him.
He won't devote himself to you yet.
Especially now he has energy for many girls.
Honestly, you might be mistaking love for a little crush. He lies to you, and cheated on you. That is not someone you want to be with. You should talk to him, and take a break from him, and you'll still have a crush on him, but you can still search for other guys at the same time.
you have already answer your question kick him to the curb. You are much too smart to be played like this. Life is too short to waste it on someone that treats you this way. If you died tomorrow would you be happy with choosing him to spend your last days with
I think you should definitely move on...it seems like he's keeping you on the edge so he has a back up girl to fall back on while hes out trying to score other chicks...but hey thats just my honest opinion..what really counts is yours
I think you should end the relationship. It sounds like he's just using you.
hes probaly just busy cause of school starting..but if hes a liar then i'd say keep a look out
Dump him, its overdue
when you go to college you'll find a mature guy that will treat you the right way
Give him more blowjobs
you are young. if he lied and cheated thats a sign right there my dear. think about it
Relationship Advice/Help/Reasoning?
Today me and my g/f of 2 years had a very nice day out. I bought her a $200 purse, just cause. Treated her to a $60 meal, then to a $20 movie. I drove her home and she told me goodnight and basically not to spend the night.
To put this in perspective, we haven't done anything sexual in 4 months. If I try to initiate then she'll get angry and annoyed. If I don't, she'll just ignore it like tonight. Please keep in mind, she is not cheating and I am 100% certain, so that is not the reason. Please, any help is appreciated.Relationship Advice/Help/Reasoning?
You need to talk to her about this, not to us. You should not have to put up with not getting any for that long. I don't know what her issue is, but I do know that buying her things has nothing to do with getting her to put out. Maybe for some girls, but not for me and it sounds like not for her either.
To put this in perspective, we haven't done anything sexual in 4 months. If I try to initiate then she'll get angry and annoyed. If I don't, she'll just ignore it like tonight. Please keep in mind, she is not cheating and I am 100% certain, so that is not the reason. Please, any help is appreciated.Relationship Advice/Help/Reasoning?
You need to talk to her about this, not to us. You should not have to put up with not getting any for that long. I don't know what her issue is, but I do know that buying her things has nothing to do with getting her to put out. Maybe for some girls, but not for me and it sounds like not for her either.
Relationship advice please..?
Ok, so I have been off and on talking to this guy for 9 months now. I have crazy feelings for him and he says he feels the same for me. However, every now and then when things have been going so good he will starte to say **** like ';call you other boys'; or ';who were you with last night'; and i LITERALLY do nothing but work and come home and most that time is spent talking to him. Today i was supposed to call him abck and i fell asleep and when i woke up i called him. Now he is saying that he doesnt believe me and that i was probably talking to someone else on the phone. I dont know where it comes from or why he does it, but i really care about him and dont wanna give up. You all think this could change or am i just setting myself up for major hurt in the end? He like says this stuff but still wants me, still talks to me..everything. HELP!Relationship advice please..?
He is really insecure and if you get into a relationship, no doubt he will turn out to be really possessive and the accusations will get worse. I'd say it's not worth it.Relationship advice please..?
This e-book is free to download and I really think you should read it. It's called 97 steps to a happy relationship. Check it out!
tell him to grow up. I don't think he worth to risk ur feeling for ! guys who say these stuff always do those things so they think the girl their with is also the same.. so get the point honey ! break up now before things getting to hard and hurtfull
OhMyGod!!!! You REALLY need to speak to adviser Jen Yr Friend. 1-800-275-5336 (option #3) extension 02632569 ( http://www.keen.com/Jen%20Yr%20Friend ). That's what I always do when I need help and someone to advise me about this kind of stuff, as this site just has limited answers. Great alternative to costly therapy. GIve it a shot. Hope this helps!
He is really insecure and if you get into a relationship, no doubt he will turn out to be really possessive and the accusations will get worse. I'd say it's not worth it.Relationship advice please..?
This e-book is free to download and I really think you should read it. It's called 97 steps to a happy relationship. Check it out!
tell him to grow up. I don't think he worth to risk ur feeling for ! guys who say these stuff always do those things so they think the girl their with is also the same.. so get the point honey ! break up now before things getting to hard and hurtfull
OhMyGod!!!! You REALLY need to speak to adviser Jen Yr Friend. 1-800-275-5336 (option #3) extension 02632569 ( http://www.keen.com/Jen%20Yr%20Friend ). That's what I always do when I need help and someone to advise me about this kind of stuff, as this site just has limited answers. Great alternative to costly therapy. GIve it a shot. Hope this helps!
Friday, January 8, 2010
Relationship advice???what does this girl want from me?
we started at begining of last school yr. Was wit each other almost every nite then after winter break she said she wsnt tlkin to anybody else but I knew she was. We still chilled alot...but she started goin home on the weekends..by spring she was goin out with him n Sh dnt tell me..I found out thru facebook lol...n I told her I dnt want to tlk to her anymore cause I dnt wat to interfer wit there relationship..but she dnt want that..she still wants to tlk to me and I let it happen..we not goin bac to the same school so idk why she wants to txt me n tlk to me????Relationship advice???what does this girl want from me?
she probably likes being your friend! it doesnt matter if your going to the same school or not. i have this guy friend that i met when i was 10 years old. we were close all through middle and high school. now im 18, have a baby, and married. he lives in California and i in Colorado and we still talk.
she probably likes being your friend! it doesnt matter if your going to the same school or not. i have this guy friend that i met when i was 10 years old. we were close all through middle and high school. now im 18, have a baby, and married. he lives in California and i in Colorado and we still talk.
Relationship advice, please (Long details in question)?
This is a little bit of a long kinda story. I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18. So me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years in February. He have a 4 month old son together, which was not done on purpose but we love him more than anything anyway of course. To the point, in our relationship time we've broken up like 4 times but miss each other and always get back together. Last Nov 2nd, he cheated on me. Like all the way sex with some 15 year old little slut. When I was about 5-6 months pregnant we took a break and he made out with a 14 year old and doesn't seem to regret it. Also, he emailed another girl telling her he could prove his love for her, and when confronted about it by me he laughed at me and told me he still loved her and there wasn't anything he could do about it. While we've been dating he's hugged her in front of me and talked to her at her job. (She has her own baby by some guy and is skinnier and, well, not prettier than me in my opinion, lol.) I'm still convinced he is in love with her although they never dated and that's why he doesn't want to settle down with me. Every time we've broken up though he's cried and said how sorry he was and how much he still loves me? ITS CONFUSING?! We haven't broken up since I was pregnant but I live with him now and we're fighting about money issues because I have a steady job and he doesn't and I'm forced to pay for everything besides what my mom helps out with (some diapers and formula). So I pay the bills, gas for the car, the car payment, food, and whatever else. I try to encourage him to get a job but he refuses because he ';doesn't want someone telling him what to do';. Although we are engaged, he's not so eager to get married. He's hinted to me more than once that he's tired of me and everything else. He calls me stupid, fat, not worth his time, stupid a** b*tch, says I have no common sense, and other various things. Even after all this, I really do love him and I don't want our son to grow up without him because besides all this, he really is a great dad and I don't want to take our son away from him. So bottom line, i think he's in love with another girl but is only around for our son. I would feel pathetic crawling back home to my parents and proving my psycho dad right. (My dad hates my boyfriend). All i wanted in the end was a happy family, I doubt it's going to happen though. What should I do?! Any suggestions or advice is appreciated. :)Relationship advice, please (Long details in question)?
you have a child with him and he still claims to be in love with someone else, he serves no purpose to you he does nothing for you or your child, you should get rid of him someone who is deserving of you would come along. Relationship advice, please (Long details in question)?
Honey, he isnt cyring because he is going to miss you.. he's crying because you're the only thing that's keeping him from living on the streets or with his parents. Don't buy into his crap. It sounds to me like you deserve WAY better than him. Ive seen his type before.. he's probably cheating on you. You dont have to take your son away from him.. your son just wont live with him. But you deserve better.. Find a guy that deserves you. You will probably disregaurd everything that Ive said but please try not to. There are guys out there that are WAY better than him and they will treat you good.
it seems that he is cheating... i would say get child support.
You actually seem have a lot experience in a subject I have a lot of questions about.... rather than try and explain... here is the link to question I posted about it:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqqDOGYtcUQDi_UIXIZmbBzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081031194229AAWdOYH
He seems like a loser. Dump him and get that child support
Girl if you are taken care of everything that means you need to leave that loser. He don't know what he has. AIDS IS THE REAL KILLER. please be safe if he is cheating. Ask god to give you direction and the strength to leave this man if he don't love you. Pregnancy makes you emotional and sometimes you lose self esteem. I loved a man like that and had five kids with him. There is life after a broken heart. God mends broken hearts. You are beautiful. You are a child of God don't let a man steal your inner beauty. Sometimes Parents see what we don't. focus on god and your kids and you will find respect and then love in a real man.
It's as simple as this: The guy is a loser. It doesn't matter if he's your son's dad. And who can blame your dad for hating your boyfriend?
Get out of this guy's life. By having a baby you might have to settle for not being picky about who your future significant others are though.
I'm not sure it's fair to call your dad a psycho for hating your boyfriend; I'm a dad, and I hate your boyfriend too. I mean, some great dad your boyfriend is...a cheating bum with no job; what's not to like, huh?
First: Boot this guy out of your life quickly! He is a loser and will only drag you down further and further.
Second; Psycho dad or not, he has enough life experiences to have a good reason for his positions and if you think about it, your dad probably tried to warn you about this guy before you got pregnant. Dads are pretty good at seeing in another man things that women do not see. Try trusting your dads insight about another man and you could very well end up with the man of your dreams.
Third; If you have no sense, how come you have the job and pay the bills, pay for the car, the gas and the food? That shows me that you have a lot to offer a “good man.” Come on girl; think with your head; not with your crotch. Is this the kind of father that you want for your baby?
Your parents are now grandparents and very probably will help you if they can or at least mom will.
You might try something different with your dad. Say something like; “Daddy, I know you think I’m a fool for being with _____, and I know that I’ve made some bad choices but as Rush Limbaugh would tell you, it is what it is and now I have to live in the real world and care for my son and your grandson. Any advice?
If he is any kind of father, he’ll be your greatest strength while you improve your life.
If you need someone to talk to, email me. Lee
p.s. my daughter has done almost the exact same thing and she didn’t listen.
I'm sorry but.......I think you need to wake up and smell the coffee. This guy sounds like an asshole. Scratch that. He is an asshole. Why are you paying for everything and he's sitting on his lazy *** not contributing anything but unneeded stress to your life? Please get rid of this guy. I know he's the father of your child but he doesn't seem fit to be around your child. Just make sure he pays you some child support or something and get rid of his ***.
If you have to move home, then that's just what you have to do.
(jaw dropping).....sometimes you have to look out for the greatness upon you....and get off your high horse and get help from mom and dad it may seems as if everything your father says is... right but sometime we as teenagers has to listen and except our mistakes and make it right some how...besides the guy your with isn't worth the time or space being with this is unhealthy for you ....even though you love him and you probably think that you can't be without him some things are just better left with out the father ... I mean you said that he is a great guy ....';for the baby';...and he can still be apart of his life that's fine...but he needs to show more respect for the mother of his child so by owe means if crawling back to your parents is far better than being with someone who doesn't want anything to do with you will be just a better way of starting a new life and a healthy place until you do better so please take this in consideration...leave him alone and find someone better and worth your time as a matter of fact be single...there will come a time you will most definitely get over him in due time... hopes this helps...')
End it. It'll be painful, but he causes you more trouble than he's worth. Look at it this way: Would you rather your son grow up with a loving family of his mother and grandparents and his dad out of the picture, or grow up in a not-so-loving family with his mom and dad together but fighting all the time? Your boyfriend needs to start pulling his weight, getting a job and supporting his family. He doesn't sound very responsible.
you have a child with him and he still claims to be in love with someone else, he serves no purpose to you he does nothing for you or your child, you should get rid of him someone who is deserving of you would come along. Relationship advice, please (Long details in question)?
Honey, he isnt cyring because he is going to miss you.. he's crying because you're the only thing that's keeping him from living on the streets or with his parents. Don't buy into his crap. It sounds to me like you deserve WAY better than him. Ive seen his type before.. he's probably cheating on you. You dont have to take your son away from him.. your son just wont live with him. But you deserve better.. Find a guy that deserves you. You will probably disregaurd everything that Ive said but please try not to. There are guys out there that are WAY better than him and they will treat you good.
it seems that he is cheating... i would say get child support.
You actually seem have a lot experience in a subject I have a lot of questions about.... rather than try and explain... here is the link to question I posted about it:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqqDOGYtcUQDi_UIXIZmbBzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081031194229AAWdOYH
He seems like a loser. Dump him and get that child support
Girl if you are taken care of everything that means you need to leave that loser. He don't know what he has. AIDS IS THE REAL KILLER. please be safe if he is cheating. Ask god to give you direction and the strength to leave this man if he don't love you. Pregnancy makes you emotional and sometimes you lose self esteem. I loved a man like that and had five kids with him. There is life after a broken heart. God mends broken hearts. You are beautiful. You are a child of God don't let a man steal your inner beauty. Sometimes Parents see what we don't. focus on god and your kids and you will find respect and then love in a real man.
It's as simple as this: The guy is a loser. It doesn't matter if he's your son's dad. And who can blame your dad for hating your boyfriend?
Get out of this guy's life. By having a baby you might have to settle for not being picky about who your future significant others are though.
I'm not sure it's fair to call your dad a psycho for hating your boyfriend; I'm a dad, and I hate your boyfriend too. I mean, some great dad your boyfriend is...a cheating bum with no job; what's not to like, huh?
First: Boot this guy out of your life quickly! He is a loser and will only drag you down further and further.
Second; Psycho dad or not, he has enough life experiences to have a good reason for his positions and if you think about it, your dad probably tried to warn you about this guy before you got pregnant. Dads are pretty good at seeing in another man things that women do not see. Try trusting your dads insight about another man and you could very well end up with the man of your dreams.
Third; If you have no sense, how come you have the job and pay the bills, pay for the car, the gas and the food? That shows me that you have a lot to offer a “good man.” Come on girl; think with your head; not with your crotch. Is this the kind of father that you want for your baby?
Your parents are now grandparents and very probably will help you if they can or at least mom will.
You might try something different with your dad. Say something like; “Daddy, I know you think I’m a fool for being with _____, and I know that I’ve made some bad choices but as Rush Limbaugh would tell you, it is what it is and now I have to live in the real world and care for my son and your grandson. Any advice?
If he is any kind of father, he’ll be your greatest strength while you improve your life.
If you need someone to talk to, email me. Lee
p.s. my daughter has done almost the exact same thing and she didn’t listen.
I'm sorry but.......I think you need to wake up and smell the coffee. This guy sounds like an asshole. Scratch that. He is an asshole. Why are you paying for everything and he's sitting on his lazy *** not contributing anything but unneeded stress to your life? Please get rid of this guy. I know he's the father of your child but he doesn't seem fit to be around your child. Just make sure he pays you some child support or something and get rid of his ***.
If you have to move home, then that's just what you have to do.
(jaw dropping).....sometimes you have to look out for the greatness upon you....and get off your high horse and get help from mom and dad it may seems as if everything your father says is... right but sometime we as teenagers has to listen and except our mistakes and make it right some how...besides the guy your with isn't worth the time or space being with this is unhealthy for you ....even though you love him and you probably think that you can't be without him some things are just better left with out the father ... I mean you said that he is a great guy ....';for the baby';...and he can still be apart of his life that's fine...but he needs to show more respect for the mother of his child so by owe means if crawling back to your parents is far better than being with someone who doesn't want anything to do with you will be just a better way of starting a new life and a healthy place until you do better so please take this in consideration...leave him alone and find someone better and worth your time as a matter of fact be single...there will come a time you will most definitely get over him in due time... hopes this helps...')
End it. It'll be painful, but he causes you more trouble than he's worth. Look at it this way: Would you rather your son grow up with a loving family of his mother and grandparents and his dad out of the picture, or grow up in a not-so-loving family with his mom and dad together but fighting all the time? Your boyfriend needs to start pulling his weight, getting a job and supporting his family. He doesn't sound very responsible.
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