Relationship advice, please (Long details in question)?

This is a little bit of a long kinda story. I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18. So me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years in February. He have a 4 month old son together, which was not done on purpose but we love him more than anything anyway of course. To the point, in our relationship time we've broken up like 4 times but miss each other and always get back together. Last Nov 2nd, he cheated on me. Like all the way sex with some 15 year old little slut. When I was about 5-6 months pregnant we took a break and he made out with a 14 year old and doesn't seem to regret it. Also, he emailed another girl telling her he could prove his love for her, and when confronted about it by me he laughed at me and told me he still loved her and there wasn't anything he could do about it. While we've been dating he's hugged her in front of me and talked to her at her job. (She has her own baby by some guy and is skinnier and, well, not prettier than me in my opinion, lol.) I'm still convinced he is in love with her although they never dated and that's why he doesn't want to settle down with me. Every time we've broken up though he's cried and said how sorry he was and how much he still loves me? ITS CONFUSING?! We haven't broken up since I was pregnant but I live with him now and we're fighting about money issues because I have a steady job and he doesn't and I'm forced to pay for everything besides what my mom helps out with (some diapers and formula). So I pay the bills, gas for the car, the car payment, food, and whatever else. I try to encourage him to get a job but he refuses because he ';doesn't want someone telling him what to do';. Although we are engaged, he's not so eager to get married. He's hinted to me more than once that he's tired of me and everything else. He calls me stupid, fat, not worth his time, stupid a** b*tch, says I have no common sense, and other various things. Even after all this, I really do love him and I don't want our son to grow up without him because besides all this, he really is a great dad and I don't want to take our son away from him. So bottom line, i think he's in love with another girl but is only around for our son. I would feel pathetic crawling back home to my parents and proving my psycho dad right. (My dad hates my boyfriend). All i wanted in the end was a happy family, I doubt it's going to happen though. What should I do?! Any suggestions or advice is appreciated. :)Relationship advice, please (Long details in question)?
you have a child with him and he still claims to be in love with someone else, he serves no purpose to you he does nothing for you or your child, you should get rid of him someone who is deserving of you would come along. Relationship advice, please (Long details in question)?
Honey, he isnt cyring because he is going to miss you.. he's crying because you're the only thing that's keeping him from living on the streets or with his parents. Don't buy into his crap. It sounds to me like you deserve WAY better than him. Ive seen his type before.. he's probably cheating on you. You dont have to take your son away from him.. your son just wont live with him. But you deserve better.. Find a guy that deserves you. You will probably disregaurd everything that Ive said but please try not to. There are guys out there that are WAY better than him and they will treat you good.
it seems that he is cheating... i would say get child support.


You actually seem have a lot experience in a subject I have a lot of questions about.... rather than try and explain... here is the link to question I posted about it:


http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqqDOGYtcUQDi_UIXIZmbBzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081031194229AAWdOYH
He seems like a loser. Dump him and get that child support
Girl if you are taken care of everything that means you need to leave that loser. He don't know what he has. AIDS IS THE REAL KILLER. please be safe if he is cheating. Ask god to give you direction and the strength to leave this man if he don't love you. Pregnancy makes you emotional and sometimes you lose self esteem. I loved a man like that and had five kids with him. There is life after a broken heart. God mends broken hearts. You are beautiful. You are a child of God don't let a man steal your inner beauty. Sometimes Parents see what we don't. focus on god and your kids and you will find respect and then love in a real man.
It's as simple as this: The guy is a loser. It doesn't matter if he's your son's dad. And who can blame your dad for hating your boyfriend?





Get out of this guy's life. By having a baby you might have to settle for not being picky about who your future significant others are though.
I'm not sure it's fair to call your dad a psycho for hating your boyfriend; I'm a dad, and I hate your boyfriend too. I mean, some great dad your boyfriend is...a cheating bum with no job; what's not to like, huh?
First: Boot this guy out of your life quickly! He is a loser and will only drag you down further and further.


Second; Psycho dad or not, he has enough life experiences to have a good reason for his positions and if you think about it, your dad probably tried to warn you about this guy before you got pregnant. Dads are pretty good at seeing in another man things that women do not see. Try trusting your dads insight about another man and you could very well end up with the man of your dreams.


Third; If you have no sense, how come you have the job and pay the bills, pay for the car, the gas and the food? That shows me that you have a lot to offer a “good man.” Come on girl; think with your head; not with your crotch. Is this the kind of father that you want for your baby?


Your parents are now grandparents and very probably will help you if they can or at least mom will.


You might try something different with your dad. Say something like; “Daddy, I know you think I’m a fool for being with _____, and I know that I’ve made some bad choices but as Rush Limbaugh would tell you, it is what it is and now I have to live in the real world and care for my son and your grandson. Any advice?


If he is any kind of father, he’ll be your greatest strength while you improve your life.


If you need someone to talk to, email me. Lee


p.s. my daughter has done almost the exact same thing and she didn’t listen.
I'm sorry but.......I think you need to wake up and smell the coffee. This guy sounds like an asshole. Scratch that. He is an asshole. Why are you paying for everything and he's sitting on his lazy *** not contributing anything but unneeded stress to your life? Please get rid of this guy. I know he's the father of your child but he doesn't seem fit to be around your child. Just make sure he pays you some child support or something and get rid of his ***.


If you have to move home, then that's just what you have to do.
(jaw dropping).....sometimes you have to look out for the greatness upon you....and get off your high horse and get help from mom and dad it may seems as if everything your father says is... right but sometime we as teenagers has to listen and except our mistakes and make it right some how...besides the guy your with isn't worth the time or space being with this is unhealthy for you ....even though you love him and you probably think that you can't be without him some things are just better left with out the father ... I mean you said that he is a great guy ....';for the baby';...and he can still be apart of his life that's fine...but he needs to show more respect for the mother of his child so by owe means if crawling back to your parents is far better than being with someone who doesn't want anything to do with you will be just a better way of starting a new life and a healthy place until you do better so please take this in consideration...leave him alone and find someone better and worth your time as a matter of fact be single...there will come a time you will most definitely get over him in due time... hopes this helps...')
End it. It'll be painful, but he causes you more trouble than he's worth. Look at it this way: Would you rather your son grow up with a loving family of his mother and grandparents and his dad out of the picture, or grow up in a not-so-loving family with his mom and dad together but fighting all the time? Your boyfriend needs to start pulling his weight, getting a job and supporting his family. He doesn't sound very responsible.