Friday, January 8, 2010

'Relationship' advice :-(?

Me and my boyfriend had been together for a year, and just broke up 2 days ago. He's 20 and I'm 19, we are both in college and doing the right thing with our lives and we seemed so perfect together. I love him and care for him a lot and he feels the same. We have lots of fun together, but also like other couples we argue. We broke up because he felt like he wanted to go out and get more experience while he's still young and that he didn't want to deal with the stress of a relationship. He told me this b/c he felt himself getting curious and he didn't want to hurt me. This was a new experience for both of us except I've been and a lot more short term relationships before him, while he's only been with or 2 other ppl. Of course I'm still hurt and in the the beginning I tried talking him out of it but he pretty much stuck to his decision saying that he'll wind up hurting me. He keeps saying forget him I'll find better, but I know this comes from him thinking he's not good enough.





We even talked about getting married, named our future kids...we both seemed so sure of what we wanted and now this....We agreed to still be friends and he even invited me to come hang with him and his friends later this week (something we never got to do while we were together) I miss him a lot and think of him all day, and wish there was a way we could be together, but i'm all out of options but to except this new friendship :-/. I just don't understand how he could feel this way yet says he still loves me, and while knowing what a great person I am.





Is there anything more I can/could've done? Anything I should say? I just want our happy times back and I love him and want to be with him





SORRY THIS IS SO LONG, I HOPE SOMEONE HAS THE PATIENCE TO READ IT AND HELP ME OUT A LITTLE'Relationship' advice :-(?
To say the truth, relationships going through post secondary is stressful especially if you're both attending different institutions, the sense of loneliness comes in place, then trust issues with the new people you meet, especially if someone is interested in you which makes you change your mind about your relationship. I think that you guys have made a good decision in breaking up but don't burn any bridges, if it was meant to be then you two will be back together later on. You say your boyfriend fears he will hurt you, could it be because of the new girls that will come across his way? or does it involve him paying more attention to his studies?.

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