Relationship advice!?

I was seeing this guy. He chased me from the start, always calling me and giving me loads of attention. Things were perfect between us until he went through a major money crisis, and called it all off. He was still calling and we caught up from time to time. Now he's changing careers and totally freaking out. Last week we had a huge fight (well actually, he was trying to fight with me, he was drunk) and he said some really mean things. He told me I only care about me (which is not true) and he regrets ever telling me anything. And also that things I worry about are s**t and I go on with s**t, pretty hurtful when you confide in someone about your worries to have them tell you it's just s**t. Part of me knows I deserve way better than that. The other part still, for some silly reason, loves him. Recently I met a great guy, we have been emailing for months, and he's come to visit me twice (we live 4 hours apart). Obviously I'm not ready to start anything new while I'm still hurting overRelationship advice!?
The first guy sounds like a loser to be honest. Using things that you tell him in confidence to hurt you is soooooooo lame! It would probably be worse or get worse if you stay involved with him. You already know what he's capable of saying and doing... it could only escalate into something worse (i.e. abusive relationship).





You should just move on and keep your options open. Guy #2 might be a better choice for you at this point. If guy #2 doesn't work out either... don't worry. There are plenty of fish in the sea!Relationship advice!?
Wow... he's 35 and is acting the way he is? He should have had his act together years ago IMO. The new guy seems to like you. I mean he's traveling 4 hours to see you (that says something). Good luck! Report Abuse

nope, nothing wrong with visiting the new guy. Move on!
Not at all. Glad you realize you deserve better. Most of the girls on this thing really don't think they deserve better... You can tell in their questions usually. Meet the new guy. Do you want to miss the opportunity to have a really great new person in your life? ;) Get rid of that other guy. He sounds like an idiot. Good luck.
You have to move on someday an you are lucky to have found a great guy. So, No not at all only if you are honest with him. Tell him that you are not quite ready for a relationship but would love to get to know him and take things slow. Dont use him as a rebound and let him know you dont plan on using him as one. About the ex, drop any communication with him, he's using you as his emotional bootycall. He's selfish and expects you to be there after he let you go. His loss dont you think, let him call his buddies or mother if he has a bad day!!
Ditch the guy your talking about find someone new, and yes i think there is harm. Any new guy dating you will be thinking that you two are going to start back up again and get jealous!
Honestly, you don't want to tie yourself down to a mean drunk. Try taking a slower approach with this new guy and see where it goes, but hold back a little. You don't want to give your all to someone you don't know that well.
no. Your just keeping your options open and it doesn't look good for the other guy. someone like that doesn't deserve you! It will just take time to move on
I think there is no harm. Just dont put him on the rebound, but you can still have fun, you need some fun in your life right now! :)