Relationship advice from men and women please.?

My partner has been spending many many hours online over the last few months until early hours of the morning.I have brought this up and tried to discuss it like adults and he carried on spending many hours online.He did improve, he started coming to bed between 12 and 2am instead of 3am-4am.However I know i shouldnt have done but I read his messages on the computer, I was hoping to put my mind at ease about him flirting with other women online which has been an issue in the past. I found messages between him and another women that were of a sexual nature.One message from this woman said that she was sorry she missed his call.I tackled him about this and he says that he has phoned her about 3 times.I was ready to leave and packed my things to go.I didnt go as we have 2 children aged 3 yrs and a 15 month old and wanted to plan things properly with the least upset to them, I wanted time to sort a house out for me and my two boys.My partner swears that he will not do this again and that it was just abit of fun.He also said that he did it because i have been miserable for two years.I have been very down for the last two years as i lost my mum aged 56yrs two years ago, and my dad aged 54 just one year ago.I aknowledged that i was down and saw a doctor and i am going to take up bereavement councilling.I am confused, should he have supported me for so long over two years or is it understandable that he has done what he has done.He said i never want to sleep with him but this is because i knew about all the online flirting he was doing.One message said i just changed my shirt and shoes so looked like i was fixing the car, i cant help but thing that he has slept with her after that mesage, but he swears that he has never slept with her and she also lives at the other side of the country.I am so confused hurt and angry, so much has happned over the last 2 years i dont know whats acceptable anymore, what to believe.I do know that if i do leave I will be just fine as long as i have my 2 boys and my famiy and friend.Any helpfull advice please.Can things be fixed, should they be fixed or shoul i just enjoy being on my own with my little boysRelationship advice from men and women please.?
For me, i believe it all depends on how apologetic he is for his actions,unfortunately it doesn't sound like he really is. There are no promises for improvement or anything of that nature..which makes me wary that he won't do it again. It can only be fixed if BOTH people make amends not just you. I would suggest couples' therapy since you do have young children together. Good luck and God blessRelationship advice from men and women please.?
He's done it before and he's done it again - personally my opinion is that once can be forgiven, but twice can't.
just enjoy being on your own.


why woul he continue doing this, if there has been trouble before? I don't think he cares.this cannot be good for the children either...


good luck.
he will do it again





trust me
give him a chance to become good hubby
he should have been there to support you after the passing of your parents. if he keeps on flirting with women on the internet, it's just a matter of time before he finds one close enough that an affair will start. since he has no intention of stopping, it would be wise to get your affairs in order and find a new place to live with your family. it sounds like you are a very responsible woman and i know your children will be fine growing up with a mother who really cares for them and loves them. i hope down the road you can find someone who loves you very much and will love your children as well. in the mean time, go out with friends and family. their support will be help full during this time.
This is tough. You need to look inside your heart and figure out what the answer is. You had every right to feel down about the deaths of your parents. He should be there for you rather than on the computer. If he hasn't slept with anyone else, then maybe you can make it work. Tell him that you would like to have sex but it's hard when he's on the computer in the other room. Maybe he will make more of an effort. The point is, an effort needs to be made on both your parts in order for this to work. If he's going to get off the computer, you need to try and be more upbeat and do something fun with him. I know it's hard but relationships take work and in this case you both haven't been giving it your all. If you love him and he loves you, it can work. Try getting a little sexy outfit and surprise him one night. Keeping a relationship's spark is important and you need to try and spice things up a little. Continue the counseling because I feel it will help you personally to deal with your loss. Good luck.
alright darling, you have to calm down


first things first, he totally disrespected you, maybe its tru that you were not acting as happy as you could of, but then that was no excuse to go behind ur back like that!


you say u can be happy as long as your with your boys and family, then go for it! true it will be had for your kids, but its better than them growing up in misery with you two arguing!


you can try to patch things up, thats your choice, but again, your not sure of the whole story, he hasnt come clean about much, since he has ruined your trust, it will be hard giving him that trust again, along with dredding what he might be up to


in my opinion, you should move on, considering you say you can manage it


love means alot, along with trust, and by doing what he did, he doesnt love you as much as he did if he's pissed cuz of no sexual action going on when your in your time of need!


i know it hurts, but be strong for your boys and give them the best! i hope you the best, and in the end its your decision, and i hope you make the right one. you have a question? email me honey, im all ears

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Relationship advice. looong.?

okay. heeeere we go.





i've been best friends with this guy for five years. we've been totally inseparable and we even hang out outside of school. go to movies with other friends, or he'll even come over to my house and we'll hang out just the two of us. he came to my dance recital the past two years, asked me out in 6th grade, told me he like-liked me every year since third grade (haha its cute.) people have told us we are perfect for each other (my best friend even planned our future wedding and we're 13.), you wouldn't believe it. kids in other grades mention it if they see us. some people think we're siblings, twins even.we went to a dance together in sixth grade as a ';couple'; but of course we didnt consider it a bf/gf thing... just an experiment. now, in 7th grade, things got insane.





he insists he likes me, so we've become a little more open about talking about ';us';. so this whole year he's been a little more... say, territorial. i went to a HealthQuest Teen Dance and got asked to dance by 7 guys, and when i mentioned this, he said that was wrong and i shouldn't go back. then he goes along and jokingly flirts with my friends who are also his friends, but still. sometimes its hard to tell if he's joking or not.





in fact, last week, we went to see the new harry potter movie together and he said it should be ';just the two of us';. then he asked me ';would you consider it a date?'; and i said, well, whatever you want. so we get to the mall and he slips me a letter. its summarizing our friendship for the past few years and how he thinks im beautiful and he, quote, ';even though i don't show as much, i really, really, really like you and if this date doesnt feel right for both of us we can just go back to being friends and pretend nothing even happened, i promise. i know that if we play our cards right, this can eventually become a fullblown relationship, and a strong one at that. all you have to do is leap and trust me and i promise you that it will all work out for the best in the end.';





so you see, i'm getting reeeally mixed signals from him and i think i like him but im not sure. after this date, he said we should talk about what comes next, and now (four days later) is avoiding it completely. basically, if he decided to ask me out (after 5 years of feeling like im in love with my best friend) it's come to the point where i dont even know what to say and sometimes i feel like i shouldnt even be friends with him anymore. give me your advice, let me know if anything is unclear, or for additional info. and, might i add, he's not like drop-dead hottt but he's not ugly either. average, and quite tiny, i weigh 102 pounds and he's only 73 and looks it. just for a little image. thank you, its appreciated sooo much. :DRelationship advice. looong.?
He sounds really nice and cute and sweet.


I think he really likes you and is just kind of shy about it. If he wasn't shy about it, he would've just told you himself instead of giving you the note. He probably flirts with your friends to make you jealous.


You should definately go out with him. He sounds really sweet.Relationship advice. looong.?
HES IN LOVE W/ YOU!!! and its TRUE love..the kind that develops ovr many years...go for it, evn if u dont like-like him...u might just fall in love with him
he loves youu :]


giveee it a try.
I have to admit, this is creepy.





Like really creepy.





Super creepy.





But only because I am literally going through the exact same thing.





And really, I completely wish I could help.





But I have no idea what to tell you- I don't even know what to do myself!





Currently, we (Ben and I) are going to try the whole couple thing and I'm terrified, nervous, and excited...





Check out my question for more details: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aqh0lnU_JnKfD_HP96HA9bXsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090727210834AA834z9





Good luck! xoxo

Relationship advice: Do you go to bed at the same time as your spouse?

For 2 years now my girlfriend and I have dated and everything has been fine. We spend every waking moment after work together, and around 11pm she would head to her house and go to bed. I would head to my house and play video games/watch TV until about 2 am.





She typically likes at least 8 hours of sleep a night, I prefer only 5 or 6.





Now we've since bought a house together and everything has been fine for the first couple of days (I went to bed at the same time as her for the first 2 nights, the next 2 nights I stayed up playing computer and then came to bed).





On night 5 she got angry that I wasn't going to go to bed with her, despite her saying (before we bought a house together) that she'd have no problem with me staying up as long as it wasn't every night.





Anyways, I don't see a reason for flipping out and being angry if someone won't go to bed at the same time.





It's not a lack of cuddling, I do that all day with her, and it's not a lack of sex, we have that as well.Relationship advice: Do you go to bed at the same time as your spouse?
Sounds like she needs to get over it~!


Watch Scrubs they had a deal like that!





Maybe she feels that she is missing out on fun! and who likes to miss out on the fun stuff!





Talk to her and ask her why she cares so much maybe there is something your not seeing! at the same time exsplain how you feel and why you stay up!





also if she really wants to go to bed at the same time ask her to go to bed at your bed time!





talk it out work it out work as a team! give and take! and good luck!





My partner and I go to bed at the same time! 90% of the time! 7% of the time i pass out on the couch...


the other 3% he might have friends over and id on't want to pass out on them while they are having fun!


so i just go to bed!





personally i think it's a very minor thing to argue about!


but it might mean something to her! so find out!Relationship advice: Do you go to bed at the same time as your spouse?
Its a comfort thing. And like someone else said, it may also be a little bit of jealousy. She thinks you prefer the games over her. How about you meet in the middle and offer to tuck her in or lay down with her until she falls asleep and then get back up and play? Or better yet, get her addicted to your games too so you're both up all night? =]
Sometimes we do, sometimes we don't. I really don't see her logic. Maybe she is uneasy going to bed in the house by herself. A little afraid maybe. Don't sweat it. Just explain that you don't expect her to stay up with you so why should she expect you to go to bed with her. Everything will go to normal eventually. It is still new to her. Maybe just humor her a bit. But still stand your ground a little. Remember, compromise.
Well, my hubby will not go to bed with out me. It use to kinda annoy me but now I think it is sweet. We always go together.


Now it is just habit. I can see your point, that it shouldn't matter but if it matters and is important to her maybe you can work out a compromise..............................
She is jealous of the games and computer! Sometimes it is nice to fall alseep next to someone as well. Never let a girl tell you she will be fine with it that is lie number 1.
Remind her she is not your mother and can't tell you what time to go to bed, i see some control issues here so you better nip it in the bud now!!
she wants to controll you, and is pissed you haven't fallen in line. this happens when people start living together. Stuff canges, and it isn't always for the better. Good luck, and hope she stops.
me and my husband go to bed at the same time...out of habit and because we are both tired
damn, u moved in 2gether, dis is where it does downhill
Hmm some times we do, sometimes we dont, but even when we do my body naturally stays up longer, so I'll stay in bed watching a show or something and he'll be snoring ';loudly'; beside me. If she's all about going to bed together put a tv in the room and watch a show or something that way she's good and your not sitting there staring at the ceiling. But don't bow down often if you wanna stay awake and play on the computer or video games go right ahead. YOU LIVE ONE LIFE DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO.
I try to alternate, with one night bed with my girl, one night watching DVDs. But she moans when I stay up; and I hate it when I have to lie there in bed and I can't sleep, and I could be doing other things.





So: tell her that you are writing a novel, and that she can only read it when you have finished; and tell her that the midnight hours are your most creative time for thinking about it. Keep a messy looking notebook next to your computer chair, and if she chastises you about playing games, drinking, not going to bed etc, then have a go back and tell her that she is selfishly disrupting your natural thinking rhythms and such like - then hope for the best. I tried this and it didn't work, but it was the best that I could come up with, and maybe it could work for you.
She likes your company. I think that is all she is saying but it seems like you guys are spending plenty of time together.





My husband and I go to bed together but lately he's been reading for a few minutes and I just go to sleep. I need more sleep than my husband.





One option is that if you can do what you want beside her in bed while she sleeps? The light doesn't bother me.





Or just tell her that you're not ready for bed. She can stay up with you. Compromise. Or accept. It's unfair of her to try to cramp your style. If you want to stay up then it's your choice. You're an adult. But I think she just likes the security of having you there. :-)

Relationship advice please!!!!!?

Ok so I have this friend. His name is Dave. We talk all the time and last night he told me that he liked me, that I was beautiful, that he didn't know why he didn't tell me sooner, and that he can't wait to see me again. I really like him too. He's not real cute, but his personality is just... amazing. And my friend gave me the advice to look beyond his appearance.





There's only one problem... he's in the air force. I've never had a long distance relationship work out, should we give it a try? I know it'll be hard, but is it worth it? He can come home this weekend, and plans to, but I don't know how we would make a long distance relationship work out.





Any advice on this matter?Relationship advice please!!!!!?
Honestly...it's hard....and if his ';personality'; is the only thing you like then I would watch out. It sounds weird but you do need to be attracted to him too amongst other things...for instance, what is he doing after the military? What other things do you love about him? You'll have to know these questions to be able to support a long distance relationship.





Plus, you said, ';I've never had a long distance relationship work out';...maybe there is your first clue that it's a tough road.





Maybe you two could start off slow, write, talk and see where it goes but I would not take this weekend and make a decision on if you are going to be exclusive with the guy.





Good luck!Relationship advice please!!!!!?
well i understand you, because i am also dating my best guy friend and he is not the cutes guy out there but to me he is just great, and he is a truck driver so is also kinda of a long distance relationship type of thing, the only thing i can tell you is that if you really like him it would work out, don't stress it because f that just relax and talk to him as much as you can
This sounds like a spur of the moment thing for the both of you. You are both enraptured by each other because of the obstacles you will face. It's like Romeo and Juliet. The more obstacles you face, the stronger the appeal. You can try it out, but both of you must be prepared to work for the relationship. It will take a strong dedication from the both of you.
It's worth a try. If he has a great personality and you feel for him, then give it a try. With phone calls, email, texts, etc, you will be able to stay in touch and communicate - maybe visit occasionally. Long distance relationships can and do work out - my husband and I dated for 7 yrs before we married and were only in the same city for 4 months of that...
You will just have to live and see where it takes you. The relationship can flourish if you have a strong connection (and if you aren't too young). But as far as looks go I agree with your friend. I have had some really great boyfriends and it was all because I didn't care about the outside I respected and loved what was on the inside. Just see where it goes, if it works it works if it doesn't than it wasn't meant to be.
first of all, his personality is what matters the most, so if he isn't as gorgeous as the men in the magazines,don't freak. i guess you could give it a go, but if something goes wrong, make sure he stays your friend because he sounds like a really great guy.
Looks, in the long run, do not matter. Personality is way more important. You will never know if you don;t give it a try, and you would hate to look back one day and wonder what if? Go for it. If you both really like each other, it can work.
i would give it a shot. if it doesnt work, it doesnt work. at least you wont live with that WHAT IF feeling. right? thats how i look at it. just make sure you both agree no matter what happens you guys will still be friends in the end. and you guys are good. dont end the relationship on bad terms.





thats just my opinion. i would definately go for it. he seems like a sweet guy so do it!! :)
My husband and I started out that way until I figured out how to move. For the right person, it can be done. But it's hard, and until we had pretty definite plans to eventually make it no-distance, it seemed like it wasn't going to work.
Just think of it this way. If you dont give it a shot then you will never know how it can and might work out. It sounds as if you really like him, and looks definately are not everything. I would give it a try, whats too lose. Long distance relationships can work. Trust me!
Well i think that you should try it out. But if it gets to be to much then just tell him calmly that you don't really like the idea of a ';long distance relationship.'; That's all I'm sure he'll understand.
you never know unless you try. and you yourself said it was worth it. maybe this time it will work if you don't try, you will always wonder ';what if'; and regret it.
Take it one day at a time and don't try to solve everything at once. You know there is an attraction now take it one step at a time and see what happens. Relationships will last if you both make them.
if you really like him you should at least give it a shot. move slowly and be honest though. that way if the long distance thing is too hard you can call it and still maintain your friendship.
I did it and at the end married the guy. Im not saying u should marry him, but if u guys really like each other, i would advise to give it a try. It will be hard, but if I could make it work, anyone can :) GL
The more important issue here is if you like him or not. If you do, why don't you give it a try? Otherwise, you don't need to make a big deal out of it.
Long distance relationships can work. It all depends on how much you want it to work. I say give it a try. You never know he could be the right guy. Good luck!
you should give it a try if it doesnt seem to work out later down the road then yall can just be frans again
i would write to him and keep in touch to show that you care and when he gets home go out and do something



Go for it ;)
don't do it
when you see him this weekend, ask him this question
Don't knock it til you tried it.
give it a try nothing else could go wrong
Ohh dear, honestly the long distane thing really doesnt work out.


I wouldnt get stuck in that.


Get out ASAP.



I'd say go for it....this Guy I like Lives 300 Miles away but we are making plans to be together this October....





If you like him, then my vote is give it a try....You never know
if you really like him then i guess, go for it! You'll always miss 100% of the shot if you never try.
I know it's hard but don't make a commitment to him you can't make, and he shouldn't do the same. Truth is if he's in the air force you barely gonna see him. It's better to let him go now cause it will be so hard if you lose him. Your going to be home, meeting new people, and he might hold you back in experiencing things at home cause of the stress of the relationship. Just tell him you care about him but right now is not the best time to start something. Just move on and tell him when he gets home to give you a call when he has time for a relationship. It may be hard but it will be harder if you fall in the trap.
My bro actually met his long term gf on the internet. They have talked over the internet for over a year and the sad thing is they have never met (person to person). Ya i know weird! but when they finally met they had this special connection that seemed almost sickening (for me cause i haven't found that special girl yet). Any ways, she lived 12 hours away from my bro and they ended up like soul mates. Well you are going to have to answer this question... Do you think you can handle a long distance relationship? and if your iffy about it, you should tell him right away cause guys don't like girls who play with their minds. I hope all goes well.
I think the only way any long distance relationship will work is if you two will EVENTUALLY live in the same place. I don't know how old you are but I assume you're still in school, I can't really say if it will be ';worth it'; in the end, but if you really like this guy it is worth a shot. I would just try to have fun when you see him and keep things lite, don't rush into anything til you know how you really feel about the situation. It would suck for you to tie yourself down before you're ready, especially if you wont get to see him regularly. Hope this helps.

Relationship Advice Please!?

Ok sooo... My partner and I will finish our degrees soonish. He had to be in the city for his and I could have done mine in my home town but I decided to give the city a go. I grew up in a chilled out beachy town so that's what I'm used to and thats where I have always wanted to settle down.


Problem is my partner's career is going to be in the city, we've kind of discussed it but he has given me the impression that he would be able to take it to more regional areas but he wont... I am pretty sure he will only be able to find work in the city. With my job I can go either way.





I don't know what we can do, I don't know how we could find a compromise. I don't want to be too selfish but I don't want to live somewhere that I really don't enjoy at all.





I don't expect any mirace fixes, just any idea's/experienced,, serious answers only please.Relationship Advice Please!?
the partner that has the most earning potential usually dictates the location of the main home...





weekend property can always be close to a beach or waterfront...

Relationship advice. Please.?

Here goes,


Me and this guy were best friends back in highschool ( we both had feelings for each other, but none of us were smart enough to reveal it).


Then he left the country, and I started dating someone( i'm still dating him, it's been 2 n half years).


However, i've ALWAYS kept in touch with my old best friend. N recently we talked about our past feelings for each other (I havent seen him in 3 years, but we keep in touchh, i call him all the time). I'm gona be seeing him this summer for the first time.


We were both SO excited to see each other after so long! but i feel like he keeps avoiding me.


He's sending VERY mixed signals. When i msg him, he RARELY replies, i send him online messages that he doesnt reply to n stuff like that. Yet when i call, n he picks up, he's SO happy to talk to me, and we have the best conversationsss! I duno wats happening..


is he keeping a distance cuz i'm in a relationship?


or has he changed in the past 3 years?


I duno wat to think.. and i cant talk to him about it, cuz i've done it a million times and he always says ( nothing;s wrong, i've just been busy) ukh!


I'm thinking of not txting, calling , or talking to him at all for the next month ( untill i go back n see him), then i'll just tell him ( hey, i'm here, wana meet up?)





wat do you guys thinkk?Relationship advice. Please.?
I think he is keeping a distance and people do change in time. Give him space and time to tell you what's on his mind.





P.S. If you txting, and sending other guy messages and so excited about seeing him maybe you need to think about the relationship you have now and why you excited about a other guy.Relationship advice. Please.?
He's staying distance because he is in a relationship. He probably does not want to tell you to see where his chance are with you. Take it for what it is, friends. I have a theory, unless a man has put a ring on my finger and we are in front of the preacher. Everything they say and do is mostly bullcrap.
I wld just wait till you see him. maybe he has changed and if you guys get together and hang out you will know if he has.





and maybe he jst duznt have feelings but duznt want to be mean :( guys do that.





or it cld be that you are in a relationship and he duznt want to get involved or duznt think that u want to get involved
what is your relationship with your bf now now do you want to hurt him is the question. remain as his friend as before and until you know the true person he is either made for you or just being lustfull.
I think its becus youre in a relationship with someone and he doesnt want to be all over you. you should text him so you guys can meet up and when you do maybe thats when you麓ll know if maybe he still likes you.
I think you must have ignored him in the Past that's Why he's ignoring you Now. Look in your past history and See anything you have done wrong.
maybe he is avoiding yu maybe he doesnt like yu but in the other hand


maybe he does and really wants to be away cuz of yur boyfriend


maybe his trynna stop liking yu cuz yu in a relation
Is finding out worth the relationship that you've been in for the past 2 years? Somethings are better left unknown.
I think u should ask him if he has a gf, cuz if she's really controlling, then he might need to b careful! Act like old times!
I know you are in a relationship but you guys need to sleep together and get it out of your system.
I don't think, I know. He finds you interesting, but is not interested.





Move on.
You suck as a person.
well u never know he might be busy. but i think u should let him email u or w.e first.
i get the impression that you are more into it than he is, he might wanna get together when he's in the area and if you guys have myspace or facebook maybe talk a tiny bit but if it's been that long i don't see why you're putting soo much effort into it, seems like you aren't satisfied with who you are with, if that's the case, you should be more concerned with ending your current relationship before moving on. he sounds like a typical guy, he probably meets women now and you're just the good friend who he might wanna meet up with later. he's not going to drop his current plans for you but if you talk to him of course he's going to be nice. take things slower is my guess
Wow. Well your boyfriend, i'm guessing does not know about this whole ordeal. I would tell your boyfriend that you are going to see him and it sounds like you are keeping this all from your boyfriend or atleast the part about having feelings for this other guy, and still thinking you may still have feelings. Some guys like to talk on the phone more than through emails and online messaging. It just has to do with your personality, so do not worry about that issue. When you go see this other guy and you guys talk, and you seem to still have chemistry i would either leave your boyfriend or drop the whole ordeal with the other guy. You will get into much drama if you keep them both in your life if you have feelings for both of them. Do not ignore the other guy because there really is no point in doing so. I hope everything works out ok for you. Good luck.
he might be keeping his distance especially if its online because people can see that and maybe he doesn't want your boyfriend getting the wrong idea that you're cheating or something. I think he still likes you but the dynamics obviously have changed in that your in a relationship. He probably also wants to talk to you since thats much more personal than just typing or maybe he's just bad at responding online like I am. Don't just ignore him, but maybe don't call so much or if anything try not to be the one who initiates contact to see if he is really paying attention.
I think you should hang on to him. Trust him maybe he really was veri busi you said that he sound happy wen u talk to him on the phone so he is in my oppinion !! I would wait till the next few days when u meet him u can judge weather he has changed or not !!!

Relationship advice from those who are experienced?

My girlfriend and me have been dating for 2 years, living together for six months. She said she is confused about her feelings and


feels that we have become too comfortable with each other. She says we need to spend more time apart and with out friends (find this strange because she only has one friend)





She said she misses times when I have been gone and then


come home to her and vice versa.





How should I handle this? I will definitely give her some space, since we both need it. Should I see


this as a sign we are through? When I am around her it feels so awkward, like she wont even kiss me. She said she loves me and I am a big part of her life?





Should I even text her/ give her any attention during the day, or just try to ignore her so she craves the attention?Relationship advice from those who are experienced?
that is odd.. have her talk to you and see what she wants to happenRelationship advice from those who are experienced?
I wouldn't take it as you guys are over just yet. Some people change after you move in with them, that is just the way things are. You know some people who live apart like the thrill of getting ready to see that special someone and like missing them in a way when they have to go home and then when you move in with each other the excitement of that part of the relationship is over and you miss it. Or some people just don't like being crowded. Like my sister and her husband are around each other all the time and they love it. But my mom and my dad hardly ever see each other but they are perfectly happy with each other when they do. So I would just give her her space. When she is out act like you would have if she was out before you two lived together.
Be spontaneous, that's the best way to keep a spark in a boring relationship.
I think it's a sign it may be ending. Sit her down and have an honest discussion about what's happening. If she won't be honest then maybe that will tell you something to.
I am confused..lol Aren't you suppose to feel completely comfortable with your partner? Why would that make her want to spend time away? I would talk to her and ask her what is really going on..
I would say still text her and giver her attention just dont be suffocating about it. In every relationship people need/want to have their own space and time for themselves. Everything is fine with you as a couple. Its just spending everyday together and being together for so long can be somewhat suffocating on your relationship. Just plan to go out with your buddies one night and her go out with her girl(s).
Ignoring her will push her further away.





You need to talk to her about what she's thinking. We can't answer this kind of question.





You are not necessarily through. She might just want some space to breathe.





Talk to her about what she wants. Ask her straight out if she says anything that sounds like it means things are over. You need to know.
That's a hard one ...I'm 28 nd have had my share of different relationships some long some short...longest 5-6years...





When she says to comfortable..she probably means that u guys are in a rut...Let her know ur there bt give her space...





Not to much..don't give her room to think about being sneaky...





Have you tried roe playing...no sexually...more mental...when my car broke and Id take the bus my ex would get on two stops before or after meet, wait 5 minutes and then slow work his way to me and ';hit on me';





At first it was awkward...but later fun (it funny watchin' others watchin you gettin picked up)
Sounds to me like you're stuck in a rutt. Give each other some space and see where it goes. And if you miss each other than you know the answer.





So give her the space and see if she comes back and wants to be with you, this could be kind of like a break to see where you guys are headed.
Sounds like she is the problem. If she is not interested then it may be the end. Its not like you guys are married. Also, studies show that couples who live together before marriage have the highest divorce rates after marriage. Just something to think about. Plus try some of the other answers on here.
A couple generally shouldn't be joined at the hip: it is good to have different experiences to talk about with each other. If you only do the same things and always together, before long, you run out of new things to talk about. This isn't to say, ';Ignore her';, but, encourage her to develop her own interests. Maybe there's a class she'd like to take? Cooking? Martial arts? Drawing? Or she gets to go spend a day shopping, or on a tour. The same goes for you. Do things together, yes; but also keep your own identities and share the experiences you have when apart.
She needs to learn that when you move in with your bf/gf, that things will become boring, repetitive, and monotonous. Every day of the relationship will not be a prom night. If she can't learn to be bored with you and still enjoy your company, then perhaps she's not the one for you.
well ur in a weird situation, i mean how can she want space if ur living together??


but just give her some space tho, and don't give her that much attention..so she would actually miss you and want to c u..
uh oh, red flag. If you feel awkward with her you might want to take a step back and review your relationship. Are you in it because you love her more than anything and you could not picture being with anyone else... or just to have a gf. It is the little things that mean the most... like my ex wouldn't kiss me unless i initiated it or hug me... little things like that are huge. Space is good.. you don't want to be around each other all the time. Don't over think the situation though... if you feel like talking to her during the day, give her a call. If not then w/e.... don't worry about what she is thinking so much, if she wants to talk she will call ya. You gotta see this from her view.





This does sound like the situation between me and my ex I hate to say. You feel like she doesn't love you, but she re assures she does. Honestly I don't want to be with someone that I am going to question almost everyday if they love me.... get it. Just think about it.... it broke my heart to give her up, but in the end it was right. Give it a couple of weeks and most importantly talk to her about it. If she is giving you blunt answers then you need to consider what I have said. Good luck bro.

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Relationship advice? I just want some opinions.?

Okay so, I've been in a relationship with a wonderful guy for a little over 3 months.





We've had one major problem so far..he was talking to another girl, and I saw it (over myspace of all places..I hate that website!) and we talked it over, he says he realized he messed up, and I let it go since he didn't physically cheat on me. You might say that was a stupid move, I just really care about him.





Anyway, there's this other guy whom I hang out with and have known for almost 2 years now. It's very clear that we have chemistry, and I know if it wasn't for me being with my current boyfriend, we would be dating. We talk a lot, and we both have feelings for each other.





I'm twisted up in confusion because, me and my boyfriend are doing pretty good now, but I find myself thinking about this other guy more frequently..I know he would take care of me, the way I want to be cared for. And most people would probably say he's better for me. I also feel really guilty about having feelings for someone else when I'm in a relationship already. Most would say, if you're having feelings for someone else, than you something is wrong in your current relationship.





I'm just so confused, and I don't know if I should just end it with my boyfriend now, because part of me doesn't fully trust him even though I want to. And I don't want to go on in this relationship being scared of him cheating on me, or anything of that nature again.





What do you think I should do?


Sorry for all of the random bouncing subjects.Relationship advice? I just want some opinions.?
ONE ADVICE: read your entry to yourself and you have answer your own question. you and this other guy have chemistry, you both have feelings for each other, you find yourself thinking about this other guy more often, %26amp; he would treat you the right way.

Relationship advice :what am i doing wrong?

My boyfriend and i have been together for a while now. I am very romantic and constantly am trying to make him happy. i know he loves me to but he aways say its hard for him to tell me.


1. Is it selfish to want him to tell me these things more.





He works 80 hours or more a week. i see him when he comes home around 9 pm and he doesn't work sundays so that is the only time i see him. its hard because i am currently working and attending school. but still i have times when i am at home just waiting for him. i am constantly doing things ti help our relationship ( im not complaining I LOVE IT) but i FEEL like he doesn't go out of his way to help us.


1. I had to learn his language ( he doesn't speak English)


2. I cook ( that is normal to do though)


3 Clean wash all of his clothes ( again im not going out of my way just to clean and wash clothes)


4. Give him massages everyday ( even when he comes home from work at 11.


i know that cooking and cleaning are normal things to do for a man but i feel like i do so much just for him to be happy. but why am i not happy??





IT is really hard for me because i want to get married, he wants to aswell but he is scared to ask. what can i do?? PLEASE HELPRelationship advice :what am i doing wrong?
wow it looks liek you've done enough! I mean even learning his language. why dont you just wait until he asks you, he might be scared for many reasons. but no matter how scared he was if he waned to get married the question would have came up already!!





i think you should just wait to see what happens. let him put some effort in the relastionshipRelationship advice :what am i doing wrong?
you are not doing anything wrong. infact you are doing everything right! It must be really hard because you can see him, i know exactly how you feel. what i did was i spent more time doing things for me, and hanging out with my friends. try telling him how you feel. i know he loves you so he will definetly try to make you happier!
You're asking what you're doing wrong?! That's the problem. He's the one not doing anything and you're the one who's putting forth all the effort and you're asking what you're doing wrong! Let's start with that. Why would he even bother to do anything for you and the relationship? He's got it made. Guys are not attracted to women who fawn all over them and they certainly don't enjoy being nagged all the time about weather or not they love them. They may like the perks that come with it (clean clothes, food, massages), but guys really prefer a woman who plays a little hard to get.





Here's the thing, if he really cared and loved you (no matter how much he worked) he would find ways to show you he cared and loved you and in return you would feel loved and wouldn't feel the need to have to ask. Your heart will tell you everything you need to know and more. You should trust it.
You're not happy because you're not getting the attention you want and you don't feel that you're an equal; I think you may feel a bit like a maid.





It is not the woman's place to cook and do laundry; the best relationships are the ones where the chores are shared equally. If you choose to cook and do laundry, that's fine -- but he should wash the dishes and vacuum in return. And working 80 hours a week is a lot, so he probably doesn't feel that he has a lot to give to you since he is really tired.





Talk to him about this. Let him know how you feel. (If this is the man you're going to marry, you better be able to discuss ANY issue that comes up in your relationship. I've answered thousands of questions but never asked a single one; why? Because I go straight to my man when I have a problem with him or our relationship.) Tell him that you are unhappy sometimes. See what he says when you confess how you're feeling. Maybe he feels the same way, maybe he has no clue. But if you don't talk about it, you'll never know how to fix it.

I need some relationship advice please!?

Alright this will take a while to explain.





I've had an on-again off-again crush on my best guy friend for the past year (but I suspect the off-again bits where when I forcibly tried to restrain myself). Sometimes I think he likes me back because he's very friendly and touchy-feely at times, and when we have dance class together he jokes around and holds me tight. :) But then... some of our mutual girlfriends have liked him in the past, and when they told him, he was very diplomatic and nice about it but he never liked them back. And also sometimes he is very friendly towards our mutual friends as well, and even keeps trying to teach them to dance, the way he dances with me. Basically I don't know if what we have is special or not. Also, recently he told me about this girl he met who he was very taken with - luckily for me she doesn't live in our area and where they met was just a one-time event.





I'm just hella confused right now. Any light you can shed will be SO appreciated.I need some relationship advice please!?
That is very similar to what happened to me. I developed a crush on my best guy friend at work. We were very close, and connected on so many levels. Once he mentioned liking one of my friends. I was crushed, but I was still friends with him.





We hung out one day and talked for like 6 hours straight.





I knew I was falling in love with him after that day. But I was just going to go with the flow.





About 2 weeks later we went for a drive and talked for hours at a park. We admitted that we had crushes on each other ever since that summer when we met. It was now December.





I cannot put into words how happy we are together. It has been almost a year. We are planning to move in together in the spring. I want to spend the rest of my life with him, and he feels the same.





---So, from my experience, I would say, just be yourself. Let things happen naturally; go with the flow. I always dreamed of things happening between us, but if nothing ever did I was still glad to have a great friend like him, and to have him in my life. Be glad that you are his friend, and that itsself, is special. You never know, he could feel the same way about you, and it may come out at the right time... When the snow is gently falling and you are sharing a laugh together.I need some relationship advice please!?
Dang girl, sounds like you got boy trouble. If there's other girls around, you need to tell them to back up first of all. Secondly, you need to just ask him what's going on with him. Tell him that he needs to figure out whether he wants to be with you or not, because if he doesn't you're just wasting your time. Don't put yourself through h*ll for some guy. It's not worth it, not matter how much you love him or not. If he really wants to be with you, he'll make an effort to stop puttin his nasty hands on all them other h*es.
Only one person knows how he truly feels, and that is him. We could make a thousand guesses and never be close to accurate. You need to talk to him.





First you need to figure out what you want. Are you happy with things now or do you want more? Do you you want to be his girlfriend or are you happy just being his friend?





Once you know what it is you want, talk to him. Ask him how he feels and what he see;s in the future. Good Luck!
He's just not that into you.
As being his friend you can talk sometimes about relationships and stuff..in one of those conversations start describing the profile of the man u want (of course=him)..then ask him ';and u ..??'; and be very very careful to what he 'll say ..what he likes in a girl..and be that ..


Or even try to show an image of you that u r a very demanded girl ..';(..)asked me out '; , ';(...) called me yesterday night';..stuff like that just to show him that boys are after you ..
Here is what you need to do, just ask him why one second he seems to want you , then the next second you are just like his sister, tell him to quit throwing you confusing signal's because in the end it's only hurting yourself.
Basically, you have to talk to him. Have a serious talk with him ask him what you want to know an tell him to be completely honest with you you have nothing to lose but a chance to be his girlfriend you'll always have him there for u as a best friend but the only way your going to know if he likes you or not is if you ask him yourself and if he doesnt tell him to sp acting like it andto stop playing games with you if he does liek you then you 2 can takeit to the next level and have a beter relationship and a more closer one as well
Oh you poor thing! I've been through that kind of situation myself and it's a real nail biter.


When someone is brave enough to tell you sincerely how they feel about you it's a lovely thing - whether you share their feelings or not. You have nothing to be ashamed of whatsoever.


You'll have to bite the bullet I'm afraid - work up the courage and seek support from your friends too. It's always worth a try! It's important to express yourself. William Blake once wrote 'To desire and act not breeds pestilence!'





Be brave. Hey, you might get a surprise! You never know!





Good luck
This guy isn't into you for the same reasons you are into him -- dump him

Relationship advice please :)?

well last week this guy that i went out with 2 years ago for 6 months askd me out again, it was really out of the blue considering we hardly talk and i haven't seen him since last year, i just find it a really odd


thing to do.


I asked him if it was a joke and he said, ';wot? no!';


I'm having a really difficult time trying to decide whether or not he really likes me again or whether he's going out with me for the sake of going out with someone..


any advie ? :)Relationship advice please :)?
Hi Kerri !


After being with you for for a long time, there has been a pause from his side. Was is any thing to do with you or your BF. It seems that he was comfortable not communicating with you. Reasons better known to him. Now all of a sudden, he wants to meet you. You will have to take this call yourself. You will have to share your feelings %26amp; know his.


Whose life are you living. Your own is it not. You have to take this call for whether or not you need to see this person again.


You get only one life to live. Live it fully %26amp; without regrets.


Good Luck !Relationship advice please :)?
As you have not met this guy for last year or so, treat this proposal of his a new one. Forget that you had met this guy any time earlier. But this time be specific about your thoughts and feelings towards him. If you like him tell him so. See what his reaction is. Give yourself sometime and then decide whether you want to continue with him.
Why u stoped seeing him? U didn't liked him back then? if so why think now, forget it


If u like him %26amp; want to be with him, ';YOU DECIDE'; its ur life....

Relationship advice?? PLZ!!!?

uh


i like my best friend


and we didnt talk for awhile


but now we talkin and we got close (as friends) again





and im liking her


but should i make the move?





how do i know if shes into me without asking her?


should i make the move


or keep things as they are?Relationship advice?? PLZ!!!?
well


simple just check how she acts around you


is she always trying to talk to you


those she kinda look nervous around you or always smiling





thats how you know





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make sure those things are right then go for it


or kinda bring up the subject


and see how she answers you or reacts to itRelationship advice?? PLZ!!!?
I think You should take it slow don't tell her but You know hint and maybe just maybe she feels that way about you to. And once You feel chemistry then you can tell her. But what do I know afterall I am only 10!

I need some relationship advice...?

ive been talking to for about a month and hes been on and off with his ex-girlfriend the whole time. it started off just me giving him advice and stuff about their relationship and then we hooked up and began to like eachother. they got back together and ive been there for him, but she treats him like **** and is constantly breaking up with him, but its his first love so he never hesitates to jump right back in to a volatile and unhealthy relationship..and then he comes to me when she breaks up with him and we hook up. i like him but i dont know what to do. i want to tell him i cant do this anymore but right when im about to he tells me they broke up and it gives me false hope. gimme some advice yahoo ppl.I need some relationship advice...?
just tell him enough is enough he has to pick u or herI need some relationship advice...?
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I believe he's giving you false hope. Maybe not on purpose but you are his safety net to go to and run to when things are not well with him and his ex gf. it's easy said then done to tell him that u can't do it anymore but you have to get it into ur head that u can have better. Sometimes things just don't work out. Cut ur loses and move on.
I am in the same situation right now... I like him a lot and he says he likes me, but he wants to get back w/ his ex. and it breaks my heart.


Hunny, take my advice and try to get over him. I am in the process of that. hang out w/ him less often and limit your time w/ him in general. Go out w/ the girls and check out other guys maybe get their numbers. Do anything to get your mind off of him. It helps to hook up w/ other guys...
There's a pattern with him running back and forth between you and this other girl. You need to decide what it is that you want and don't want. Once you know, you need to stick with your decision and take care of number one.
Well, have you ever heard of the quote...


';Dont make someone a priority when your not even thier option?';





It applys for you, your a pretty good friend, but you should definetly stop hooking up with this guy. He seems like hes just using you as a rebound whenever things arent working out between the girl he really wants to be with you. To be blunt, if he really wanted to be with you, nothing could make him leave you or hurt you. Stays friends if you can, but I'd definetly let him know there is no choice and your out the game!





Good Luck :o)
He's using you for the inbetween times! He's not getting any from her while they've broken up so he comes to you, knowing full well that you'll be more than happy to fill the gap. Don't make yourself so available, set some boundaries and make him respect them. If he won't respect them then he's not worth waiting for. Tell him its time to make a decision - you or her. If he chooses you that's great. But if he chooses her, stay away from him and respect his decision. Its not worth putting yourself through the whole 2nd woman thing. You'll only lose respect for yourself each time he goes back to her %26amp; you'll miss all the other great guys out there while you're waiting for him!
First off. he is using you as a scape goat. Its ok to be there for him as a friend. However if you look deeper into the situation, you have allowed him a lot of power over you. Whenever he feels that he can snatch you back he has that power to do so. It sounds like he is not stable enough mentally and emotionally to make up his mind. He is dragging you done right along with him. If you are not careful then you will be an emotional wreck. You know what to do, you are just making excuses not to do it. Does it feel better to feel good or bad?
Its not an easy situation to be in at all.......I should know because I had a boyfriend at one time that wasnt over his ex-girlfriend even though she cheated on him and treated him badly he still went running to her. Over and over again this happened until one day he just plain up and dumped me and told me it wasnt my fault it was him.......I walked away for good that day...... I wasnt willing to give him another chance to hurt me anymore.





You see I deserved better than some guy who couldnt let his ex-girlfriend go and couldnt get over her no matter what she did to him......like wise you too deserve better than to sit around and wait on a guy that obviously isnt ready to grow up and see this girlfriend of his for what she is........if he wants to go running back to her time and time again then let him, but dont you get pulled down with him honey...... you are worth more and deserve soooooo much better than what you are getting right now.





You tell him you are done hurting, done with false hope, and done standing by and watching him play the part of a fool to his ex-girlfriend and if that is what he wants thats fine, but you arent willing to sacrifice yourself or your feelings anymore....that you are tired of hurting and are moving on. It will be the best thing for you in the long run......believe me I know if i had kept waiting on the guy i was with I would still be waiting and miserable.





God has a man for you and will one day put him in your life.....one that will not give you false hope, one that will love you and respect you the way you truely do deserve to be......You should never settle for anything less because you are a treasure in the Lord's eyes and deserve happiness and love.





Just remember this..... its this guys loss not yours.........its him who has given up being with a great person.........I for one think you are far better without him because all he can give you is heartache and lies.





Stay strong and know that you are special and a rare jewel among jewels in God's eyes and that He loves you and will give you what you seek in a man that knows how to treat a woman. Take care and good luck to you.
just tell him that u like him, and u kno that the other chick is his first love and all but i just dont think shes right for u cuz of the way shes always breaking up with u then she wants to get back together with u, to me it just seems like shes using u as a rebound.
i would be at ur place, i gona kick him away.


Dont care abt any person , who doesnt care abt u





Might be he just playing wid u

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Relationship advice - head or heart?

I recently met a man with whom I get on really well, a little bit of love at first sight. We're both in our early 20's and we haven't known each other for long at all, but he confessed that he had feelings for me.





Problem is he has 2 very young children, and is married (but separated from his wife though still living with her). Confessing feelings for one another is as far as things have gone, but I just wanted a little advice before allowing things to go any further.





Basically it's head or heart: Head says stay away he's married and needs to work on building his marriage and family, heart says I haven't met someone I get on with so well in a long time. What do I do?Relationship advice - head or heart?
Hi,





Ultimately, it's down to what the pair of you want and what each of your expectations are. If both of you are down to earth, genuine to the bone, but ultimately, truthful to yourselves, it is possible that there is scope for a new development.





You need to sit down properly, chat and draw out some sort of action plan. Yes, it seems a little business-like and firm, but, you need a firm approach to seriously get things off the ground. The ramifications may hold you both back, which is why, it's got to take 'two to both tango'.





I think the key factors I'm looking at that need addressing to make this work in the long run is ;





1) Including the kids in your plans - that means being fourthright with them because it is just as much of a life-changing experience for them as it is for you.





2) Being upfront with the 'ex' - this can get messy and out of hand sometime when relations aren't as civil and amicable





3) Direction! This means accomodation;





Where will you both live?


Can you both afford to get a new place together?


Kiddies education arrangements?





Ultimately, if you both genuinely love each other and want to make this work, then go for it!!





Where there's a will, there's a way!!





Cheers


Red 7Relationship advice - head or heart?
if this guy is really into you,he should divorce his wife and you two should get serious otherwise he is going to waste your time and probably get back to his wife.
head for now. dont get involved till hes moved out trust me





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Relationship advice...please?

Me and my bf met at grad school have been together for 4 years. We wanted to get married 2 yrs ago but we were raised in different religions. He was raised as a muslim and had told me before we got in the relationship that it was important to him that we both followed the same faith. I was raised a Hindu. After meeting my bf I looked into islam. Though I did not agree/understand all of it...what I did understand I aceepted. Following that I stopped idol worshipping etc but neither did I start praying 5 times a day. I looked at myself as someone who questioned their beliefs and started looking out for answers. Now its been 2 years and I still cannot fully accept or decline Islam. These 2yrs I have also looked at different religions. Our parents are very opposed to this marriage. I felt that my fiance and I have been just tryign ot make both parents as much comfortable with the situation as possible but its not getting us anywhere.Relationship advice...please?
Having different faiths in a relationship can be tough. I don't know anything about Islam or Hindu religions, but I can imagine your parents being upset.





Here is my advice, and it will not be easy: If you and your bf don't have any faith problems (ex- he is not pushing you to convert, you are ok with how the children will be raised, you are ok with how finances and such will be handled), then you need to politely explain to your parents that this your decision. Since you already have discovered you don't believe in Hinduism anymore, they will already be upset.





But marriage isn't about if your family likes him, or if they approve of the union. Marriage is between you, your husband, and God. So, if you love this man, and he loves you, and religion isn't a problem between you two, then there should be nothing stopping your marriage.





Family IS important, but if your parents cannot love you enough to be happy for you (or at least not disown you), perhaps it is time to start your own family with your husband.





I know this is tough, from personal experience, my parents did not agree with my engagement and tried every method to keep us apart, including not paying for my college anymore. But once I showed them I would be with my man no matter what, even if it meant loosing them, they realized they would have to accept the union or loose their daughter.





Good luck, I hope the best for you.Relationship advice...please?
I'm sorry, you are in a very difficult position. It is hard enough to stay together in today's society when two people love eachother, but it is 100 times harder when religious beliefs are involved.


My only advice is that you and your fiance really need to sit down and talk about this more. Perhaps it would be best if you and your fiance could engage the advice of a religious leader of your fiance's faith. Or some type of couples' counseling, a third objective party who can help you both express your feelings about the topic. Right now, you should concentrate on the both of you and not worry about your parents until later.


Unfortunately, you should consider that this might be the one thing that keeps you from marrying eachother. If it is that important to your fiance, it may come down to that. Hopefully, he loves you enough to work with you on this and not against you. You have a right to your own beliefs just as he has a right to his. I'm not sure how old you are, but to be engaged for 2 years and not make any progress on this issue is a long time. If you really love him and want to marry him and raise a family, be understanding to his feelings about this, but also ask him to do the same for you.


Good luck, I hope this was a little helpful at least.

Relationship advice needed badly!?

I have fallen for this guy who has a girlfriend...





This guy does flirt with me and encourages me. He doesn't seem to stop my advances, it is only playful banter but he hasn't told me that it makes him feel uncomfortable.





I looked after him when he was extremely drunk once and I was joking around about how he owes me. He started asking me what I want, so I asked him if he could come round for a night and he said yes.





He says that he is feeling unsure but I assured him that if he didn't want to he doesn't have to and all he says is ';I owe you';.





I have told him that I liked him and he hasn't said anything promising. I am positive there is something there, I am smart enough to work that one out but I don't think he would leave his girlfriend for me...


And of course I wouldn't encourage him to and I don't fancy being the bit on the side.


He is stubborn and quite ';closed up';. Typical virgo.





So...what should I do?


Move on or push harder?Relationship advice needed badly!?
Move on....b/c if your feelings get stronger for him, you'll keep messing with him, becoming his 'side piece' or 'jumpoff' and you'll be the one hurt in the end....I agree, I don't think he'll leave her for you and think about it, he would do the same thing to you.





You're better than that.





best wishes.Relationship advice needed badly!?
Move on, him flirting with you or not discouraging your flirting just shows he is capable of indiscretion. The likely hood that he would do that to you is higher. If he breaks up with this girlfriend down the road, on his own and things spark up between you then make a decision. Perhaps you want what you can't have. I'd move on for now save yourself the stress.
move on!! don't play that game, it makes girls look bad. he's pretty much being unfaithful to his girlfriend by acting that way towards you. if you two get together, he'll just do the same thing to you and you'll never be able to trust him.





if they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you. life lesson right there. fact.
to be honest move on as he could more than likely find companionship and fun in you as he may be bored with his relationship, but would you like it done to you? he is spoken for, why not wait til he is single again? the chase is fun once you have caught them, its not, what sign are you? why not check out your compatibility?
Move on. If you think he is not going to leave his girlfriend for you and he hasnt said anything promisin then honey you are nothing but a fling on the side. You really want to pursue a man who is unfaithful? if he messes with you he is cheating on her. RED FLAG! sweetie he is a dog.
If he leaves his g/f for you, could you ever trust him to not leave you for somebody else? What goes around comes around. You should leave well alone, his g/f will see sense eventually and wise up to what a d1ck he is.
push harder





You come across as someone who craves unnecessary drama in their lives.
MOVE ON!! he's taken, and even if he did leave his girl for you, or have you ';on the side,'; you dont' want a guy who would do that to a girl.
Move on, even if he does leave her for you, he will eventually leave you for another.
You should go on one date with him and see how you feel...also you must see how he feels about you....Dont tryto rush it
Move on.


If he does leave or cheat on her for you then what does that say for your future?
He has a girlfriend. so go and find a single one.
move on
i think you should move on love if it was meant to be it would b
Ok, I don't know whether he is going to dump his girlfriend for you but then if he wasn't interested in you then why would he do all that stuff? Some people get bored of the person that they're with, that might be the reason why he is thinking of spending some time with you, to see whether dumping his girlfriend and you being his is worth it. Some relationships end because there in no excitement in the relationship...That's how my one ended anyway. Move on or push harder? Erm...wait..maybe? You never know. Give it some time, see what happens when he comes round. Maybe he just wants to be your friend. But if the hints keep coming round and he is still with his girlfriend then I think you should be straight up with it. Ask him whether he likes you or not, because he is sending you mixed messages. What's the worst that can happen? Boys can be so confusing sometimes. Just give it like a month or something. A lot can happen in a month. Good luck.
Dudes love attention, either from a his own girlfriend or one of his female companions. I'm kinda the same way sometimes, and no straight guy in his right mind would turn you away (unless they were married) but it is kind of rude to wreck someones previous relationship in order to satisfy personal gain. Besides there might not be as much going on up there as you think. I say move on, you seem like a smart person who could definitely find someone who will love and care about you. Just put this guy into the friend zone and keep him there. (unless they break up of course, then GO FOR IT!)
How about you leave him alone? He has a gf so what you want him to cheat on her with you? What kind of person would that make him and you be? Don't be that person! He knows you like him and there is nothing wrong with having a crush on a taken guy but you need to leave him alone since he has a gf! If something did happen he ether (A) would not leave his gf or (B) would and then would cheat on you! Please don't be the girl who tries to force her way into someone elses relationship and leaveh him ALONE!

Relationship advice from long married couples please?

Okay, well. I am not married first off. I am quite young, in a relationship that I have fallen deeply into.. I love my girfriend so much I can cry just thinking about how much I miss and need her.





But to the question. . As we all know, males are known to be ''Territorial'' in a way. Meaning males get jealous or fight for their females associating with another male. I too feel this way. . I hate it when she's hanging out with other guys. And most of the time, she's the only girl, or sometimes they're one on one. And it kills me. . She's promised me she'd never cheat, never leave me, never **** me over or anything like that tho. And this is the only thing we've ever really argued about. . Because of how I feel about all this. What I want is selfish, by her not hanging out with them, and I know deep inside I must be selfless and make her happy without taking away her freedom like that. They say a true love dares to be vulnerable, and has no manipulation. . But I feel so insecure that it hurts. I think so negatively of the outcome, it feels as if it's reality. Basically, I'm trying to deal with it. . But I don't know how. . Can any person with a lot of long term relationship experience help me out? How can I deal with this? How do I learn to trust her that I can be vulnerable securely. . How do I stop thinking of the negative outcome of such bonding with those other guys? Help, please. . No negative feedback, I come to Yahoo! Answers for help because nobody else would understand. . Maybe somebody out there would. .Relationship advice from long married couples please?
What you're feeling is normal and when I was dating, I felt the same way. Does she hang out with girls too? If she hangs out with more guys than girls, then I wouldn't be comfortable with that either.





Why doesn't she invite you to go with them if she has nothing to hide? If she loved you that much, she would want you around too.....especially early in a relationship. I don't see why she would have to hang around other guys if she has you to hang out with. (Plus, alot of guys only hang out with girls they are trying to get with).





I had a girlfriend that did the exact same thing. She hung around guys alot and didn't invite me to go with them most of the time. Eventually, it was too much for me to handle and I got sick of sitting home wondering what was going on and I left her.





I went on with my life and found a girl that was happy with just spending time with me. We still hung out with our friends, but we did it together. That girl is now my wife and has been for 5 years now.





Life has its way of working out......But if you aren't happy with how your life is going, then changes need to be made.Relationship advice from long married couples please?
first of all you stated as being quite young. I am married 30yrs to my high school love and the first thing is learning to trust each other because that is part of your love but the truth is how young you are and if your ready for that commitment and also your girlfriend needs to be ready for that commitment.
How can you love her if you dont trust her?





Go with her when she hangs out with some of these guys. Randomly show up to a couple. You'll see there's nothing wrong and put it out of your mind.





Be careful, you sound everything jealous and that has the potential to become controlling.
Have you talked to her about your concerns?





Any long term relationship has to be based on trust, but also understanding. You have to understand each other and it sounds like she doesn't understand the upset she is causing you.
Gotta say if she loves you, then there is no need for her to hang out with other guys. That is asking for trouble, and really it doesn't sound like she is ready to be tied down to one person. Sorry I know that is not what you wanted to hear.
You learn to trust or you part ways. No relationship will survive without trust.
You are right, you do sound VERY young, you'll grow out of this get over it
you're finished... shes gonna dump you unless you stop this ';I'm gonna cry'; business.. man up.. be ur self... cause ur only gonna push her away being too clingy... trust me...
if she truly loves you, she would respect how you feel and not want or need to hang out with other guys. when my now husband and i got engaged, i slowly ended my close friendships with guys in my life. they are still friends, but we are not close anymore and i don't hang out with them without him. that's the way it should be if you are BOTH committed.
You simply lack the maturity needed to be in a serious committed relationship. That's not an insult, really. It's just your age.





MOST mature adult men are not these territorial beasts who freak out if their woman talks to another guy, or cry when they are not around.





Insecurity comes from within YOU, not her. Do not look to her to fix your insecurity. You need to develop and grow as a person before you saddle someone with this problem.
I've trusted and known girls who just ';hang out'; with the guys in the past and usually they turned out to be cheaters, or lied about the nature of their relationship with their guy friends who were ';just guys.'; Sorry, this probably doesn't help build your confidence... I'd find ways of being included as part of the group- so you can make friends too... or look for a girl who is up front about wanting to be dedicated to the man in her life instead of running off to play with other guys before you wind up sooo heartbroken over her that you wind up damaged and carrying the emotional baggage into your future relationships.
I honestly know where you're coming from. I've been married for 9 years and I hate it when my husband talks to other women, even his co-workers. We have a healthy, Christian, marriage but I can't shake this feeling that the other women are better than me (I know he'd never leave me since I am his first love) or better looking that me. I've had a really rough upbringing and for the longest time I felt that I really didn't deserve anyone or to be loved and wanted that person all to myself. You need to work on your own insecurities. You don't want to be needy or controlling do you? Best of luck. If you need someone to talk to, e-mail me.
You are really in love with her... as a female, I was really insecure about him talking on the phone with females... he always assured me that they meant nothing... after 6 mnths, them bitches had to go!!! lol.... We made a vow that he was no longer allowed to talk or text them girls anymore... he felt the same way.. he feels that if you are the only girl with a gang of dudes, means that at least one of them want to **** you.. tell her that she needs to limit her time with other males... if she decides that she can't do that, then maybe she is not the one for u!!
well im 21 and married and i dont thk my husband would appreciate me around a bunch of dudes alone i mean unless he knew them all well and i still doubt that. i understand you dont want to seem controling or anything but theres a line that you dont cross when your in a relationship and i think she crossed it. maybe you should go hang out with all your female friends and see if that bothers her.
If she wants to cheat, NOTHING you say will change that or prevent it. Badgering her will only push farther away and put the idea in her head. Just have to trust each other to do the right thing. If you find out that she has cheated ( with evidence not hearsay) then dump her. Otherwise you need to chill.





My wife sometimes goes out with her GF's. I don't sweat it. They need to get out sometimes, which is fine with me. When I need to get out, I do and she doesn't sweat it.





The negative thoughts only make the issue worse than it really is.
I think you need to put some space between the two of you, so your feelings cool down a little bit. You can't let your world revolve around her. That is bad for you and will make her not want to be around you. You should go out with friends and have fun. Get distracted and realize that you can be happy doing other things as well.
You are so way overthinking this, you are seriously obsessive.





You've got to beat this pattern of thinking. I went through this last year, and I didn't know it until everyone I knew was avoiding me!!





Here's what I had to do:


1) Stop any ';what if'; thinking pattern. Anytime you start to think ';what if she cheats';, ';what if I lose my job';, ';what if...'; you have to STOP THAT THINKING





2) You have to accept that cheating on a spouse is normal human behavior. It happens. It can be prevented to a degree, and it can be cured (in some cases)





3) You have to realize that obsessing about infidelity will not prevent it, it will promote it.





4) The previous poster is right. This kind of thinking will make you look like a pussy to your gf, and will drive her away. You need to project confidence, security, and safety to her. This pattern of thinking and emotional obsessiveness will turn her off.





I've been there, been through it, and eventually broke it. E-mail if you want more discussion about this.
People do what they want to do. That is really important for you to understand. If she wants to be with you, she will. If not, she won't.





Having said that, you DO NOT what to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you, appreciates you, respects you, etc. I am not say she is a bad person, only that you, and everyone, should never settle for less.





It may be that you two just weren't meant to be together--for now or for ever.





Sounds like your are just a little emotionally wounded right now. I promise it will pass.





The truth is, that if you are very young as you state, that you have much growing up to do. You will develop talents, interests, and wants that likely have absolutely nothing to do with her--as she will likely develop completely different ones.





5-10 years from now, you will see it for what it is, a first love, innocent and simple. But not the kind of deep and meaningful relationship that will sustain you for your life.





So take a deep breath and relax.





Now, having said all of that. You need to focus on you. What do you like to do? What are your interests?





Take some time for yourself. Hang out with good friends. Expand your education. Go workout. Play sports. Enjoy your childhood, it doesn't last very long.





And I think what you will find is that, first you will be happy with yourself and what you are achieving with yourself, and secondly, others, including girls, will be drawn to you because of your joy, focus and determination.





If you feel like you can't handle the stress, talk to your parents. They love you. Also pray. You always have a loving Heavenly Father who will listen to you.





Finally, If all else fails, find someone in your community who needs service. Nothing helps you find perspective than helping those who cannot help themselves.

Relationship advice please?

Its a new relationship for me and I dont really thinks he likes me.





We have been dating for not even a week and I just want to make sure before this goes any further. He is a really nice guy and he asked me out in the most romantic way possible. I really want it to last so I tell him how I'm feeling. I was hurt before and he knows that but I don't think he likes me. The only thing he would say is that I am his girl and when I would tell him that he doesnt care about me he would get mad and say that its not true. I feel like I have to drag it out of him and I really dont want to do that.





I dont know what to think and I dont know what to do. Can someone help me?Relationship advice please?
To be honest, I think you're being a tad bit paranoid. Just see how it plays out. If he's faking it you'll know but if you keep nagging him you could end up pushing him away. I wouldn't recommend playing games with his head to find out if he cares about you. Just let it happen naturally





Just enjoy yourself dudeRelationship advice please?
you guys have only been dating for a week hes not going to show you every emotion he has fro you yet hes not ready, give the relationship more time to determine if he likes you i think your rushing things, you shudnt be intargating him just yet lol, your going to push him away just slow down and dont ask him so many questions especialy the same ones that would get annoying.
He shouldn't get mad if you talk to him about it. He needs to respect your feelings.





I had this problem before. Just talk to him about it, and if he gets all pissy, leave him, you can do better.





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Well..The only way you can find out if he really likes is by breaking up with him. If you break up with him and he does something about it then yea he likes you. You should try breaking up with him and see what happens.





Good luck!
He's probably just shy about it, but if he's not then he prolly just has some issues with showing how he feels, since he asked you out romantically, you know?

Relationship advice! Please help!?

I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years.Longest relationship I have had by da way. Im 23 and hes 25. Our relationship I think is good not perfect but good. I love him and he loves me. Hes the best guy I have had in my life. But a few months back he broke it off (for a day). Im not going to deny, it was my fault. I wasnt a good gf. I didnt cheat or anything but I was pretty mean to him. I would take my frustration out on him when I was having a bad day or argued withmy family and he couldnt stand it anymore. I didnt think it was going to affect him but it did. He said enough is enough. Well the next day we got back together(yeah I know one day lol). We talked and everything. But lately I have been feeling him distance. Hes not the type of guy who shares his feelings but lately hes been moody with me. I have asked him whats wrong and he says nothing. My friend told me to stop asking him whats wrong becuase it will just get him more mad and I did. Now hes all happy. But I still feel like something is up. I dont know what to do becuase i dont want to seem like im nagging. Are all guys like this, not talk about there feelings? Guys out there, are all you guys like that, you guys dont talk about your feelings? Its very frustrating becuase Im the type of girl who likes to talk and work it out. Is it too much? Should I back off? Women or Men, I would really appreciated your opinion. Just Confuse here!!Relationship advice! Please help!?
guys do not like to talk about their feelings as much as women do. I think he would rather avoid the subject than give you an answer you don't want to hear.

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Relationship advice, depression...?

I'm 22 and dating this guy long distance, through the internet, and I've known him for probably 8 years.





We've been together over two months, and things are really good with us... for the most part.





My problem is, I have depression problems, and I'm in the process of getting help but waiting for those doctors appointments seems to take forever.





So, while I'm deperessed it's hard for us to talk sometimes. I tend to feel like he doesn't put enough into the conversation, since long distance is hard to begin with. I only feel this way when I'm depressed, though.





And then, I feel paranoid that he likes my best friend more than me. Not as someone to date, really, but just more interesting to talk to. I don't know if that's my depression blah.





I get jealous when I know that he's busy chatting online with her and kind of letting our conversations lag into nothing. My friend says he's SOO in love with me.. He tells her.





Should I stay or go??








more will be added.Relationship advice, depression...?
I know EXACTLY what you're going through. I've been in a long distance relationship (over 700 miles apart) for over 3 years. I get depressed a lot, and sometimes, no matter what he does, I just feel sad and irritated. Even when you tell yourself that you're being silly, it's hard to control the emotions, even if you can control the logic. It helps to know that you're suffering from depression though. Don't let him go though. If he thought it was so terrible, he would have let you go already (why would he put up with a long distance relationship if he didn't like you??). You just have to be trusting. Maybe talk to him about your friend if you can, just so that he can reassure you, and maybe talk to your friend too. If your friend is doing something that makes you uncomfortable, she should be courteous enough to stop! Just try to work through it and look to the future. It will be hard, I can guarantee you that, but there will be moments that make it absolutely worth it too.





EDIT TO ADD: Thinking back, the first year or so was the hardest in terms of trust issues, then it tapered off. Generally, he had a harder time trusting me than I had of him, but I just tried my best to resassure him and he has gotten so much better to the point that it almost never comes up in our relationship as an issue anymore.Relationship advice, depression...?
Him? The question is what would be better for YOU? If you're feeling broken, then you cannot possibly handle a relationship right now. Continue therapy, get some prescription drugs if you and your doctor feel it will help, and please, for the love of all that is good and holy in this world---stop this dating over the internet nonsense! It's a little immature for a young woman to be spending her love life typing via internet, and even more so to be worrying about her love chatting it up online with her best friend. When you're healed and steady you can meet someone in person and start a real romance. Now is not a good time for you to be turning your life upside down, and if you're worried that this guy can't handle your illness, then you have doubts about him, not yourself. WORRY ABOUT YOU, you need it!
I personally know how you feel. I don't know if i have depression but it sure hell feels like it. I get into these moods where i don't even know what bothers me in the first place. my boyfriend where we have been together for 5 months has been hanging out withmy friends more than i do. they tell me that he is truly in love with me but just the thought of him hanging out with them more than me gets me worried. but anyways. I trust my boyfriend with all my heart and maybe he is just trying to be closer to me by hanging out with my friends. usually guys stay with there friends and we stay with ours. maybe him doing that he wants you to think that when you take him with you to a friends house or sanywhere with friends it won't be awkward that you will have a good time kowing there is no umcomforting moods or weird vibes there between you guys.
he is with you because he loves you. Infact explaining it to him will help him understand better and will help you put it in context. I suffer from depression too and I often find taking it through with someone who listens rather than talks really helps me organise my thoughts, sometimes that helps. Don't become dependant on him, understand that he may find it difficult but if he cares about you he will want to help you through it. If you want to chat you can contact me on amykezia2007 at yahoo dot co dot uk

RELATIONSHIP ADVICE .. RELIGION STOPS HIM BEING WITH ANYONE ?

Recently i have changed my whole group of friends from popular people to what many people would call geeks. They are a lot nicer to be around and i feel like i can be myself whilst with them but my problem is that i have kind of fell for one of them. He knows i like him and we are very close friends and i have now found out he is a Jehovah witness and he admitted to me that because of this he cant go with anyone outside his religion. I really don't know what to do as my whole family is catholic and do not agree with his religion in the slightest. The thing is i do not want to loose him as a friend but the way i feel about him is killing me and i cant tell nobody why i cant get with him they all say use always flirt he likes you we know he does but even if he does well we cant be together how can i get over him without blocking him out my life ?RELATIONSHIP ADVICE .. RELIGION STOPS HIM BEING WITH ANYONE ?
Hi, I have the same religion, and I know it can be hard sometimes in this situation (for the girl and the guy), but we do have our beliefs and its a more important issue than he might show or others might think. And I'm sure you mean well, and the whole thing might be stupid or confusing to you, but I would just say that its one of those things, and we all have to have to respect eachothers beliefs and ways of doing things.





The only advice I can give you is to leave it alone. I know its going to be hard. But there are plenty of guys out there. I've been there, and there's not much you can do about it. You can continue to be friends with him. Ask him some questions if you're confused about it (or about our religion in general) We're not as freaky as most people think, lol. Hope I helped.RELATIONSHIP ADVICE .. RELIGION STOPS HIM BEING WITH ANYONE ?
By the cruel trip into the real world. If this young man is a believer that is firm within his religion, the cruel real world says, you need to grow up and face reality. You will have more and more in your life that is not going to be fair, that is going to be hard, that is going to make ruff and tuff decisions...and that is called survival. Therefore, I see from this real part of the world that you are in, you have three choices. One, to walk away and never speak to him again. Two, demean his religious background by trying to be a Jezebel and try to turn him against his God, or be a true real friend, one that will grow and mature and make you into a better ,wiser, smarter, kinder, loving person. I think I know which one you will choose. You don't sound as if you are a troubled child who does not have common sense and you don't sound as if you are one to jump off the bridge just because someone said too. I believe that you have your own individual mind...

Relationship Advice: please please help...?

- I just got out of a 2 year emotionally and physically abusive relationship with ';Henry';.


- In the beginning of our relationship ';Henry'; made me stop contact with ';Derick'; my best guy friend.


- Halfway into me and ';Henry's'; relationship ';Derick'; contacted me and we talked on the computer for a year, without ';Henry's'; knowledge.


-2 months ago, when I broke up with ';Henry'; I almost immediatly started a relationship with ';Derick.'; He stayed by me for a year, just being there for me, and I knew if I never got a chance to be with him, I knew I missed somthing in life.


-Now, I'm with ';Derrick'; and in the process of letting my parents know.


-Well, this past weekend, I got drunk with 2 girlfriends and one of the guys from work stayed over and I slept with him (cuddled) doing nothing with him except that. But if feel like **** for doing that.


-I don't know how to tell Derrick, the love of my life, that I slept with another guy.


Should I even?


e-mail me if you want more info/answer thereRelationship Advice: please please help...?
DEAR: WHOEVER THIS CONCERNS


the key of a happy relationship is HONESTY~!! sure, it might be painful to both of you, but you must tell him~! it might hurt him inside a little, but you will be relieved to tell him. IT MIGHT EVEN strengthen your bond with him.Relationship Advice: please please help...?
definitely doesn't sound like the right thing to do, but the best part is you know your mistake..


The right thing would be to tell Derick the truth and confess... it is difficult, but the right thing to do..


You cant build your life, on the foundation of lies!


and also be more careful in the future..
don't tell him nothing and quit getting drunk with your girl friends

Relationship advice please?

My partner and I have come to Plymouth for a holiday. My partner has family down here....I dont. we live In london. For the past year my boyfriend has been talking to a woman (aged 27 he's 21) on facebook......private messages nothing sexual really just things like ';i want to keep you warm at night and i'd travel 250miles to see your smile'; it happened when we first met (april 08) then again when we split for 3 months in march. he says nothing will ever happen and the woman herself has told me the same. the only problem is my boyfriend has said he wants to move to Plymouth. he wants me to come 2 but if i decide to go back and live in London (where my family is) then he will not be returning with me. (so basically move to plymouth and we stay together or go back to london and we split up) He says he loves me but isnt happy where we live.I love him too but considering im only 19 and will be out of my confort zone im abit unsure. If we move to Plymouth we will be staying with his cousin and he will get a job with his cousin.....only problem is the girl my boyfriend has be talking to works with his cousin.





the question i ask is should i move to Plymouth just so we can be together or stay where i am? does he really love me if hes making choose? I'm soo upset please help.Relationship advice please?
Go have an adventure past your comfort zone, You can always go back home again if it doesn't work out. Tell him that he is not to work with the other woman or see her. Although more often than not, when people meet in real life they discover the person isn't anything like they appeared to be on face book. Anyway it is a big step to the next level and you better talk it out to be sure he isn't planning on cheating on you if he gets you away from your family and friends.Relationship advice please?
If I were you I would stay in London. He sounds like trouble, and your only young. Stay with your family. If he was a true boyfriend he wouldnt break up with you either way, he'd keep you wherever you lived.





And break up with him before he does, that way you'll be happier once hes gone.
You'll always need your family, i think its unfair the situation he has put you in, things like a dramatic move need to be spoke about rather than quick decisions, i think you should stay with your family and find someone else better x
never in a million years


always stay with your family


if he loves he will follow you everywhere


its just not worth it


you are to young to go and do that


what if it doesnt work out what ae you going to do in plymouth all by yourself
For one thing your bf should not be flirting with another girl and saying things like that to her.What is the point in that .You should think about that before you make that decision.
The signs are right in front of you...you said it yourself that you will be uncomfortable with moving to Plymouth since you feel that you are only 19. I say they are other fish in the sea.
you should stay where you are.
Ummm...there isn't any way to put this politely... It sounds like you'd be moving to Plymouth to be your boyfriend's backup plan in case what he's seeking with this new girl doesn't work out. He is emotionally invested in this girl and that in itself is a form of cheating. You need to set him free... It's never a good idea to make someone a priority when they only view you as an option. God bless...
You are so young. Life is so short. Move on. If he is not dedicated to you now he may never be. Part as friends, maybe your paths will cross again some day when you are both different people and then the relationship could start again. If not, pull up your boot straps and go start a new life.
I don't know...that sounds a little...interesting


and what if he's just lieing to you...what if you go to Plymouth and he decides he likes this other girl more than you...and you break up...your stuck there


I'm not trying to be mean or anything...I'm just saying that it could happen and I don't know if I would trust his word...


If that were me...I think I would just stay where you're at and wouldn't risk it...and it's kind of wrong for him to make you choose like that...


I guess just go with your gut and think about what's best for YOU


hope this helps!