I am with someone who I am in love with and we also have a baby together. The problem is that she doesn't really do anything to help out. She doesn't work, clean, cook and she sleeps all day long. So all she does is sleep and she drinks at least a 12 pack a day which we can't afford. As a result all of the slack falls on me and it is driving me crazy. I've tried to talk to her about it numerous times but nothing seems to work. Can anyone please give me some advice?Relationship Advice?
She is probably suffering from depression , could be post natal depression which it treatable and temporary but is best if caught early on or it may get worse
She definitely needs some help - its good you are being supportive
You must INSIST she goes to see a doctor - for the sake of your family unit
Tell her it CAN'T carry on like this
Be firm but supportive and there's every chance she and you will get through this
But she MUST get help!Relationship Advice?
First of all ask her what is wrong. Make sure she know it does not matter what it is just tell me. THen if she does not do anything ask her another day, this time tell her its serious and that if she does not tell you and change that you are going to have to leave. SHe is going through her britney face,
ROFLMAO, I can totally picture this, you guys live in a trailer and your girlfriend is a fat slob who sits on the porch with a cigarette butt hanging out of the side of her mouth with a can of Colt 45 in her hand. Too funny!
Well, I guess since there's a child involved this isn't really funny. I don't know what to tell you though, she sounds like a lazy fat slob who wont change. I guess you could leave her. It sounds like you wouldn't have any problem getting full custody of the baby.
a successful relationship need to compromise and a good communications I know you love her but sometimes you have to tell her where you stand.
Why hang around?tell her you want and need a change and then move on.She is not going to change if you continue to take up her slack...She drinks because she is not happy.Talk then walk...
Are you sure she doesn't have a penis? ';She'; really sounds a bit mannish by her actions.
tell her she needs to stop or will loose u
I am in somewhat of a similar situation, well as in I'm the one doing everything in the relationship, my boyfriend has a suspended license so I'm always driving us around and he is always getting drunk every single time we go out. I'm at the point now where I'm going to leave him, after you talk to your bf/gf about a problem and nothing changes my opinion is it's time to move on. I still haven't told him I want to move on because it's going to be hard but I know I need to do it.
';There are always more fish in the sea';
I think you need to give her an ultimatum. Tell her that she needs to contribute to the household or else you can't go out with her. It's not fair to you that she makes you do everything, when all she does is laze around. If she wants something, she needs to work hard for it just like everyone else.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Relationship Advice (Please Comment)?
My gf and I have been together for about about 2 years (Aug 29) makes 2 years. I really don't feel important to her. I've tried to talk to her about it and tell her how i feel. However She says that she really can't express her feelings the way that I would like her too. Which i mean I guess i can understand that because some people just don't express emotions/feelings.
I'm stuck though because i love her alot, and i really want to be with her. However its just not fun to not feel important/loved. I mean i would give anything if she would tell/show me that she wanted to be with me. I just don't know what to do atm. Or how to go about talking to her or anything really.Relationship Advice (Please Comment)?
take her to a nice quiet restaurant, look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.
if she doesnt feel the same, her facial expression will show.........Relationship Advice (Please Comment)?
Try something different and see the difference.
well she is prob afraid of hurting you too..
i think that if she makes u feel not important or loved then whats the point of staying with her.
u mite as well just break up with her and move on.. to someone that will actually make u feel good.
relax.
some ppl just arent so great at expressing their feelings.
u hafta understand that ;)
I'm stuck though because i love her alot, and i really want to be with her. However its just not fun to not feel important/loved. I mean i would give anything if she would tell/show me that she wanted to be with me. I just don't know what to do atm. Or how to go about talking to her or anything really.Relationship Advice (Please Comment)?
take her to a nice quiet restaurant, look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.
if she doesnt feel the same, her facial expression will show.........Relationship Advice (Please Comment)?
Try something different and see the difference.
well she is prob afraid of hurting you too..
i think that if she makes u feel not important or loved then whats the point of staying with her.
u mite as well just break up with her and move on.. to someone that will actually make u feel good.
relax.
some ppl just arent so great at expressing their feelings.
u hafta understand that ;)
Relationship advice (kinda long detail but advice is greatly appreciated :))?
this is going to be somewhat long so bare with me...
okay ive been dating this girl for about 4 months now. i love this girl, i honestly do and she says that she loves me too. But i have some problems with her ex....they used to live together and her ex is still very much so in the picture. Her ex has a stocking at their house still, her ex came over to their house on thanksgiving. Anytime that they have a family get-together her ex is there. I understand that she might've gotten close to her family while they were dating, but its the fact that her ex writes things on her bulletin board like ';stay away from her, i want her all to myself'; and my girlfriend doesn't erase these things. And the simple fact that her ex doesn't really need a stocking at their house, and the fact that there is still a picture of her ex girlfriend in her room granted it is covered up. I don't want to ask my girlfriend to simple take the picture out of her room or erase the things that her ex writes or take the stocking down because i want her to want to do these things. but the worst part is is that my girlfriend gets mad at me whenever i tell her that these things bother me.
To make matters worse, this sunday night she went to ';go shoe shopping'; well she wasn't answering my calls. and she told me that she'd call me when she got home. well when she called me i asked what took her so long...you know just being curious. she told me that she went to the movies and after a long time of trying to get her to tell me with who she confessed that she went with her ex.
I've told her before that her hanging out with her or her coming over to her house on family things doesn't bother me (seeing that my girlfriends mom is very close to her ex) but ive asked her before to just simply tell me when she's going to do something with her so that i don't find out on my own and get mad and so that it doesn't look suspicious. but for whatever reason this makes her upset.
After a week of fighting she finally said that she'd try to change. Although she said that she'd ';try'; and that was all that she could do and that i shouldn't ask too much of her, i thought that this was better than nothing...
basically im asking....what should i do about this....do you think she's really going to try to change?Relationship advice (kinda long detail but advice is greatly appreciated :))?
Aahh.
I had the same problem.
My girl still talks to two of her exes. I've never had any exes before. ever. She's the only person I've ever been with so it's frustrating to hear about them. I mean, she tells me all of these stories that include her exes and it makes me feel awful.
One of her exes even talked to me. I treated her as like an older sister - giving her dating advice and tried to help her when I could. (My girl is older than me by a few years and her ex is two years younger than me). It got to be a pain, and then when her ex tried to sabotage our relationship, we had a problem so I completely blocked her. However, it's still frustrating cause my girl won't get rid of her because she's apart of her life... I just wish she would go away. =[ Like, she doesn't do anything, she's just.. part of the past that needs to stay in the past.
I guess I just don't understand the concept of being friends with exes..
Honestly though, you should probably find a new girl. It sounds like there's still something going on and you'll get hurt in the long run.Relationship advice (kinda long detail but advice is greatly appreciated :))?
They probably aren't COMPLETELY over each other. They still probably have some feelings for each other. You might just have to give it time and wait a little bit. but makes sure she doesn't cheat on you
omg girl...you need to hit the trail. they are so not over each other, and you will be the one getting hurt.
all the best.
okay ive been dating this girl for about 4 months now. i love this girl, i honestly do and she says that she loves me too. But i have some problems with her ex....they used to live together and her ex is still very much so in the picture. Her ex has a stocking at their house still, her ex came over to their house on thanksgiving. Anytime that they have a family get-together her ex is there. I understand that she might've gotten close to her family while they were dating, but its the fact that her ex writes things on her bulletin board like ';stay away from her, i want her all to myself'; and my girlfriend doesn't erase these things. And the simple fact that her ex doesn't really need a stocking at their house, and the fact that there is still a picture of her ex girlfriend in her room granted it is covered up. I don't want to ask my girlfriend to simple take the picture out of her room or erase the things that her ex writes or take the stocking down because i want her to want to do these things. but the worst part is is that my girlfriend gets mad at me whenever i tell her that these things bother me.
To make matters worse, this sunday night she went to ';go shoe shopping'; well she wasn't answering my calls. and she told me that she'd call me when she got home. well when she called me i asked what took her so long...you know just being curious. she told me that she went to the movies and after a long time of trying to get her to tell me with who she confessed that she went with her ex.
I've told her before that her hanging out with her or her coming over to her house on family things doesn't bother me (seeing that my girlfriends mom is very close to her ex) but ive asked her before to just simply tell me when she's going to do something with her so that i don't find out on my own and get mad and so that it doesn't look suspicious. but for whatever reason this makes her upset.
After a week of fighting she finally said that she'd try to change. Although she said that she'd ';try'; and that was all that she could do and that i shouldn't ask too much of her, i thought that this was better than nothing...
basically im asking....what should i do about this....do you think she's really going to try to change?Relationship advice (kinda long detail but advice is greatly appreciated :))?
Aahh.
I had the same problem.
My girl still talks to two of her exes. I've never had any exes before. ever. She's the only person I've ever been with so it's frustrating to hear about them. I mean, she tells me all of these stories that include her exes and it makes me feel awful.
One of her exes even talked to me. I treated her as like an older sister - giving her dating advice and tried to help her when I could. (My girl is older than me by a few years and her ex is two years younger than me). It got to be a pain, and then when her ex tried to sabotage our relationship, we had a problem so I completely blocked her. However, it's still frustrating cause my girl won't get rid of her because she's apart of her life... I just wish she would go away. =[ Like, she doesn't do anything, she's just.. part of the past that needs to stay in the past.
I guess I just don't understand the concept of being friends with exes..
Honestly though, you should probably find a new girl. It sounds like there's still something going on and you'll get hurt in the long run.Relationship advice (kinda long detail but advice is greatly appreciated :))?
They probably aren't COMPLETELY over each other. They still probably have some feelings for each other. You might just have to give it time and wait a little bit. but makes sure she doesn't cheat on you
omg girl...you need to hit the trail. they are so not over each other, and you will be the one getting hurt.
all the best.
Relationship advice.... Please... guys i need help... girls offer advice as well?
So this guy and i have been dating for a few months... and i dont have a job.. but i am looking... i just dont want him to think that i am using him for his money... so is there something i can do to show him that... i do some things like make him dinner and lunch and get up before him so i can take him coffee in bed ... make sure the house is clean.... but sometimes i dont feel it is enough... is there anything else i can do until i get a job... oh and dont say sex lol... we have plenty of that....Relationship advice.... Please... guys i need help... girls offer advice as well?
You don't need to give him material things to prove you aren't in that relationship for money. You do the opposite, show him by the fact that you don't ask him for things, you can get them on your own.
You don't need to give him material things to prove you aren't in that relationship for money. You do the opposite, show him by the fact that you don't ask him for things, you can get them on your own.
I need relationship advice?
me and my boyfriend argue non stop he just wont believe me for anything i say a while back i got caught saying stupid unessesary things on myspace and now my boyfriend doesnt trust me so everything i say is a lie please help what shall i say to him??!!I need relationship advice?
I'm not sure what it was you did on myspace, but in any case, he obviously doesn't trust you. So, if you reallly, realllllly like him and you feel like you have to make it work, then you need to work for his trust back. Whether he trusts you or not isn't exactly something he chooses. You need to show him why he should. Ask him what you can do to earn it. However, if you don't feel like he's really worth the trouble you're going to go through to earn his trust, then dump him. Find someone and start out with a clean plate. I'm assuming you won't do something to lose the new person's trust, so he won't have a reason to act this way with you. That way you can both be happy without having to deal with this problem. Remember, there are lots of other people out there. Good luck. :)I need relationship advice?
First of all I think you need to understand the process of what your boyfriend is going through. The following is some pointer you may want to see how appropriate to us as I do not know and understand the situation how things arises and caused the arguement and blah blah blah....
1. You might want to stop trying to explain yourself so that arguement wont persist allowing unnecessary harm done to your relationship.
2.You might want to understand his language of feeling within him?
3. Understanding his and your preferred system when such issues arises.
4 Allow yourself and him to have some space to cool down
5. You might want to write little note to him...or text him through sms to express your thoughts and feeling to what both you going through at the moment.
6. Be aware of the words use in your communication with him
many of times, there are incidents that we use words that lead to some consequences (Good or bad; it trigger different effect)
7. Understanding one's thoughts patterns and communication style
8. In a relationship is important that communication between two person is crucial to achieve blissfulness, mutual respect, mutal understanding, mutual TRUST, mutual objectives in the life goals both you working towards...
and more.... ....
Hope that could assist you in your issues or challenges you might find good use, peace while dealing with situation like mentioned.
The only way to solve this is to break up with him. He needs a wake up call. Why not find someone nicer?
I think if you reassure him, for instance every now and again just for no reason say, you know i am lucky to have someone like you' forgiving, understanding and trusting good looking, and turn that into a lil flirting thing, The idea with this is that he will know' hum I know she appreciates me. see men I think strives to keep up there reputations and expectations. so set them high, he has to be trusting' cause you make him feel like he is the best thing out there, because he is, hes your man' right?good luck, and hey let me know how it goes. Try it for one three days, see if theres not a diff'...
guys get jealouse really easy so hes probaly just angery that you might possiblaly have been doing something for him to be jealouse about (on myspace). Try to let him know that u don't like to argue and if u love him tell him and tell him that you're sorry cause guys don't expect that outa girls it might catch him off guard.
life is too short, if u're not happy, break up!
i think that you should tell him that you will never do something like that again even promise to delete your my space account to gain his trust back.
If he doesn't trust you than your relationship has already failed. Learn from your mistakes and move on.wrinkles
I'm not sure what it was you did on myspace, but in any case, he obviously doesn't trust you. So, if you reallly, realllllly like him and you feel like you have to make it work, then you need to work for his trust back. Whether he trusts you or not isn't exactly something he chooses. You need to show him why he should. Ask him what you can do to earn it. However, if you don't feel like he's really worth the trouble you're going to go through to earn his trust, then dump him. Find someone and start out with a clean plate. I'm assuming you won't do something to lose the new person's trust, so he won't have a reason to act this way with you. That way you can both be happy without having to deal with this problem. Remember, there are lots of other people out there. Good luck. :)I need relationship advice?
First of all I think you need to understand the process of what your boyfriend is going through. The following is some pointer you may want to see how appropriate to us as I do not know and understand the situation how things arises and caused the arguement and blah blah blah....
1. You might want to stop trying to explain yourself so that arguement wont persist allowing unnecessary harm done to your relationship.
2.You might want to understand his language of feeling within him?
3. Understanding his and your preferred system when such issues arises.
4 Allow yourself and him to have some space to cool down
5. You might want to write little note to him...or text him through sms to express your thoughts and feeling to what both you going through at the moment.
6. Be aware of the words use in your communication with him
many of times, there are incidents that we use words that lead to some consequences (Good or bad; it trigger different effect)
7. Understanding one's thoughts patterns and communication style
8. In a relationship is important that communication between two person is crucial to achieve blissfulness, mutual respect, mutal understanding, mutual TRUST, mutual objectives in the life goals both you working towards...
and more.... ....
Hope that could assist you in your issues or challenges you might find good use, peace while dealing with situation like mentioned.
The only way to solve this is to break up with him. He needs a wake up call. Why not find someone nicer?
I think if you reassure him, for instance every now and again just for no reason say, you know i am lucky to have someone like you' forgiving, understanding and trusting good looking, and turn that into a lil flirting thing, The idea with this is that he will know' hum I know she appreciates me. see men I think strives to keep up there reputations and expectations. so set them high, he has to be trusting' cause you make him feel like he is the best thing out there, because he is, hes your man' right?good luck, and hey let me know how it goes. Try it for one three days, see if theres not a diff'...
guys get jealouse really easy so hes probaly just angery that you might possiblaly have been doing something for him to be jealouse about (on myspace). Try to let him know that u don't like to argue and if u love him tell him and tell him that you're sorry cause guys don't expect that outa girls it might catch him off guard.
life is too short, if u're not happy, break up!
i think that you should tell him that you will never do something like that again even promise to delete your my space account to gain his trust back.
If he doesn't trust you than your relationship has already failed. Learn from your mistakes and move on.
Need relationship advice...?
ive been engaged for 3 years. my ex left me and my son 3 yrs ago and found my fiancee. i keep starting to plan the wedding and he always ruins it for me. my ex and i are still good friends and i still love him. last night my fiancee told me that he will never marry me because he know that i will never be satisfied and because he knows that it wont last. he also says he doesnt believe me when i tell him i love him and hes always thinking that im cheating (i never have) im so lost i dont know what to do now. please helpNeed relationship advice...?
Dump him first. He is on step 8 of the 12 step getting rid of my fiancee programNeed relationship advice...?
Red flag! I don't think you should go through the wedding. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship and if you guys don't have it, then that's a problem.
Hun: If you are still in love with your X, then dont get MARRIED! Marriage is something sacred, that you shouldnt just do because you want to! Thats pretty selfish on your part. Hes right, you will end up divorced. Just take things slowly, cut out ALL the talk about getting married and wait to see if your feelings subside. If they dont, then you need to move out, and move on. Obviously if the one you are with isnt enough for you (and it looks like he feels that way too) then you are both in a dead end relationship. Good luck.
Here's the problem ';my ex and i are still good friends and i still love him'; Bet your fiance doesn't know this?
your fiancee is right, because you just said you still love your ex.
You just admitted you are still in love with your ex husband and you wonder why he does to want to marry you. You can not have it both ways. You may not be cheating physically but what about mentally? How would you feel if he had an ex wife and was still in love with her. If you marry him and are still in love with the ex are you really being fair to either of you?
Good Luck!
statistics show that 50% of second marriages end in divorce.And as well as 3rd marriages,there ain't a whole lot I can Say.I am not here to judge you as I am engaged to #3 myself.I too still love my 2nd ex,but we had a corrosive relationship and leaving was the best thing I could do.Men who are insecure with themselves or are cheating themselves will accuse their partner of cheating.If you have given him no reason not to trust you then your relationship isn't worth salvaging.Move on ,but before you do,make sure you are over your ex.No body likes to play second fiddle.
there is nothing you can do you have no trust in a relationship then you have nothing either you or him feel very insecure in this relationship and its' showing alot. i mean you have to know that the other person is doing right enable for you to feel comfortable about yourself. remember no trust and alot of insecurity is a bad combo.
If you marry your fiance you are stepping into a big pile of you-know-what. You are openly admitting you love your ex still. First of all, whether you loved him or not, you should not still be good friends and have so much contact. You have not by any means, let go of this relationship. You have no right to begin a new one and drag someone else into the mess you are in. When you get divorced, you choose to let the relationship go. You HAVE to let it go, for your own sanity. Perhaps you didn't want a divorce, and I'm sorry he left you.......but if you are not over him and what happened, then you are simply with someone else to fill a void........and it will lead to disaster. You can not find someone else simply to be a security blanket for you. It's another person's life and future that you are messing with. It's unfair to him and to yourself. If you havent' been able to break contact with your ex and on top of it, still love him......then please give yourself more time to heal and move on. I know you have a child together, but believe me........most of that interaction and communication can be handled via voice mail and email. It would be one thing if you both were completely over each other......then perhaps you could stay friends. But in most cases, that can't happen.
I really srry to say but your SCREWED go bak to your ex. Leave your dumbass fiance because you dnt deserve that crap and no woman does!!! oOor your better off alone and single but you stil have to be strong for your son. keep looking for a good guy that has trust in you and that will treat you with more respect.
This ALL sounds completely immature to me....how old are all involved?? 22?? 23????? Geez.............I bet you all think you are all so grown up too....LOL!
Dump him first. He is on step 8 of the 12 step getting rid of my fiancee programNeed relationship advice...?
Red flag! I don't think you should go through the wedding. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship and if you guys don't have it, then that's a problem.
Hun: If you are still in love with your X, then dont get MARRIED! Marriage is something sacred, that you shouldnt just do because you want to! Thats pretty selfish on your part. Hes right, you will end up divorced. Just take things slowly, cut out ALL the talk about getting married and wait to see if your feelings subside. If they dont, then you need to move out, and move on. Obviously if the one you are with isnt enough for you (and it looks like he feels that way too) then you are both in a dead end relationship. Good luck.
Here's the problem ';my ex and i are still good friends and i still love him'; Bet your fiance doesn't know this?
your fiancee is right, because you just said you still love your ex.
You just admitted you are still in love with your ex husband and you wonder why he does to want to marry you. You can not have it both ways. You may not be cheating physically but what about mentally? How would you feel if he had an ex wife and was still in love with her. If you marry him and are still in love with the ex are you really being fair to either of you?
Good Luck!
statistics show that 50% of second marriages end in divorce.And as well as 3rd marriages,there ain't a whole lot I can Say.I am not here to judge you as I am engaged to #3 myself.I too still love my 2nd ex,but we had a corrosive relationship and leaving was the best thing I could do.Men who are insecure with themselves or are cheating themselves will accuse their partner of cheating.If you have given him no reason not to trust you then your relationship isn't worth salvaging.Move on ,but before you do,make sure you are over your ex.No body likes to play second fiddle.
there is nothing you can do you have no trust in a relationship then you have nothing either you or him feel very insecure in this relationship and its' showing alot. i mean you have to know that the other person is doing right enable for you to feel comfortable about yourself. remember no trust and alot of insecurity is a bad combo.
If you marry your fiance you are stepping into a big pile of you-know-what. You are openly admitting you love your ex still. First of all, whether you loved him or not, you should not still be good friends and have so much contact. You have not by any means, let go of this relationship. You have no right to begin a new one and drag someone else into the mess you are in. When you get divorced, you choose to let the relationship go. You HAVE to let it go, for your own sanity. Perhaps you didn't want a divorce, and I'm sorry he left you.......but if you are not over him and what happened, then you are simply with someone else to fill a void........and it will lead to disaster. You can not find someone else simply to be a security blanket for you. It's another person's life and future that you are messing with. It's unfair to him and to yourself. If you havent' been able to break contact with your ex and on top of it, still love him......then please give yourself more time to heal and move on. I know you have a child together, but believe me........most of that interaction and communication can be handled via voice mail and email. It would be one thing if you both were completely over each other......then perhaps you could stay friends. But in most cases, that can't happen.
I really srry to say but your SCREWED go bak to your ex. Leave your dumbass fiance because you dnt deserve that crap and no woman does!!! oOor your better off alone and single but you stil have to be strong for your son. keep looking for a good guy that has trust in you and that will treat you with more respect.
This ALL sounds completely immature to me....how old are all involved?? 22?? 23????? Geez.............I bet you all think you are all so grown up too....LOL!
Relationship advice please???
ive kinda been goin with this girl that i really like, things are working great, and it's probably the best relationship i've ever been in.
i've introduced her to my friends (who already knew her) and in private they told me she used to be a ho, meaning that she used to mess with a lot of guys
what do you think i should do?
PS: she never told me anything like that, and im in high schoolRelationship advice please???
she might have told you that because she really likes you and she wants to let you know about herself, even her past. she might see you as a change for her, in the way that you could make her better and that she wants you to be the only one for her. best of luck %26lt;3.Relationship advice please???
Sounds like your friends are jealous. Say nothing, and continue this ';great'; relationship.
All guys think girls are hoes. They could have been with one guy and they are a hoe. These guys seem like they are jealous of you. How many girls have you been with? And are you just worried about what they think?
Boys talk about girls like that all the time. If she is making you happy and is being true to you then ignore your friends. Or better yet stand up for her!
Why let go of a good thing because of other people's opinions?
What you were, does not reflect what you are now..Just ask her about it.
Well Bro, I don't know.
If she was a ho, that's low.
Do you know if she did Joe?
Maybe even Moe?
Still you don't know.
You can't believe everything you hear.
See for yourself when she is near.
Is she lookin' at other guys,
Or really into you as time flys?
Give her a chance but be alert
Maybe your friends are right
and you will catch her with someone else
in the middle of the night.
Time will tell.
If it really bothers you, try to ask her how many boys she's been with (without being too obvious) and decide from there. But hey, if you feels that this is a great relationship, just enjoy it. Don't worry about what other people think.
Well for one thing, guys (especially in high school) tend to start rumors about a girl because 1) it's true, 2) they couldn't get anywhere with her, or 3) just because they can. And usually it's the 2nd option. So I wouldn't put a whole lot of worry into that if she's not mentioned anything.
If it's still nagging at you though, you should just talk to her about it. Be honest but not accusing. Tell her that you just want to know.
i've introduced her to my friends (who already knew her) and in private they told me she used to be a ho, meaning that she used to mess with a lot of guys
what do you think i should do?
PS: she never told me anything like that, and im in high schoolRelationship advice please???
she might have told you that because she really likes you and she wants to let you know about herself, even her past. she might see you as a change for her, in the way that you could make her better and that she wants you to be the only one for her. best of luck %26lt;3.Relationship advice please???
Sounds like your friends are jealous. Say nothing, and continue this ';great'; relationship.
All guys think girls are hoes. They could have been with one guy and they are a hoe. These guys seem like they are jealous of you. How many girls have you been with? And are you just worried about what they think?
Boys talk about girls like that all the time. If she is making you happy and is being true to you then ignore your friends. Or better yet stand up for her!
Why let go of a good thing because of other people's opinions?
What you were, does not reflect what you are now..Just ask her about it.
Well Bro, I don't know.
If she was a ho, that's low.
Do you know if she did Joe?
Maybe even Moe?
Still you don't know.
You can't believe everything you hear.
See for yourself when she is near.
Is she lookin' at other guys,
Or really into you as time flys?
Give her a chance but be alert
Maybe your friends are right
and you will catch her with someone else
in the middle of the night.
Time will tell.
If it really bothers you, try to ask her how many boys she's been with (without being too obvious) and decide from there. But hey, if you feels that this is a great relationship, just enjoy it. Don't worry about what other people think.
Well for one thing, guys (especially in high school) tend to start rumors about a girl because 1) it's true, 2) they couldn't get anywhere with her, or 3) just because they can. And usually it's the 2nd option. So I wouldn't put a whole lot of worry into that if she's not mentioned anything.
If it's still nagging at you though, you should just talk to her about it. Be honest but not accusing. Tell her that you just want to know.
Relationship advice desperately needed!?
I have been dating this guy for almost 6 yrs. To be quite honest we are both bored with each other because we've also been living together for 5 of those years. Recently he has been breaking promises to me and not treating me like a gf (not to mention we are engaged). He's a total ';geek'; and spends most of his time working/playing with little toy men called Gamesworkshop.
When I confront him and say we aren't spending time with each other, he turns on me and says Well, all we do is sit and watch TV (I've asked to go for walks, play video games, go to the movies, etc) but those are boring things to him. I've also tried to get into his hobby but that hasn't helped because I just don't have that wild of an imagination.
I told him tonight after he promised he'd be home @ 12am but didn't come in until after 3am without a phone call that I thought it was best we take a break.
Now I'm being looked at as if I don't care and I never really cared about him or our relationship. HELP!Relationship advice desperately needed!?
This is what I see. Love is not always enough. Not even all the ';want to'; in the world can keep two people together that can't find some sort of common ground. What you are lacking is a foundation to support this relationship. This lack of stability could possibly be all his fault as your question tends to support. More than likely though, you both bare at least part of the blame and if this relationship is going to get a second chance, you will both have to look at putting forth some effort. Some sacrifices may be unavoidable. Is it going to be worth it? I don't know. I do believe you are sincere and this is not a waste of our time to look at some ways to fix this.
You fall into the category of a childless couple. 5 years living together? What's up. Have you never believed in this relationship? Not once have you said to yourself, this feels like it is forever? Im not saying a child could hold this together for you. The intentional lack of a child does raise questions though.
You don't mention having any friends. At least as a couple. If this is the case, it is very unlikely that any single friends you may have individually can provide much support to you. If either of you are befriending a person that is in a troubled relationship themselves, there is going to be an undercurrent of negativity from that person toward your own relationship. I suggest that, since the two of you have very little in common recreationally speaking, you should intentionally seek out a friendship with a couple that can help fill this gap and also provide a positive role model for your own relationship.
There is only one person on this Earth that you have any hope of changing... that is you. If you are depending on him to change in order for this relationship to survive, you are wasting your time. Women can often feel, ';I love you just as you are... but if there are not a few changes, I can't accept you this way'; If you had a big balance scale and you put what you like about him on one side and what you didn't like on the other, which way would the scale fall? If it does not scare you to do so, you might ask him to put you on a scale of his own.
Now, sit down and communicate with each other. It won't be easy. He may have concluded that this is the best it will ever get and have no desire to voice his honest opinion. And if he did voice it, will you defend yourself to him or would you be willing to honestly look inside yourself and judge your own behavior and allow him the same courtesy. You must, at some point, be able to look deeply into each others eyes and ask yourselves, what can I change about myself to make this work. Hopefully there is something. If there is not, get out of this relationship and find yourselves some well deserved happiness with someone that you are willing to make a few sacrafices for.Relationship advice desperately needed!?
Time to spend a week end at your parents house.
well.. u guys need a ime out.. probably for a period longer than a month ... if it still is the same then u have to move on
time to move out.or make dates on the calander. for make the relationship grow, stronger also get consaling irt free in callage. you don,t need to be a student.
i suggest u still talk to him and i believe by and by everything will be fine.
Well pack up and go--it is over---it will not be any better---why stay?? You aren't married---and if you do he will only get worse--you 2 do not have a normal relationship....not even worth trying--you are bored and he is not ready for the big step. Good luck
**** girl if you asked me to play video games I'd be all for it ^^
he sounds like a bit of an ***..
It happens. You guys have probably been doing the same stuff over and over to the point where it's beginning to get boring and the relationship is getting stale. Spice things up a little! When was the last time you two went out on a date? Can't recall? Then go for one now. Find new hobbies that both of you can enjoy together. Partners tend to take each other for granted sometimes, so talk to him and tell him how you feel but don't nag because men seem to switch off once they hear any nagging. All the best dearie!
You guys have nothing in common. You don't really talk much. You are bored with eachother and you're not even married. If you get married to this guy, it will be a big mistake which will probably end in divorce.
The sense I get after reading your post is that you don't truly respect your bf. You call him a geek and dog him for playing his games. If you treat him in person like you're treating him online no wonder he's staying out until 3 am, he wants to be away from you. People can sense when they're not being respected or loved.
Did you ever fully accept your bf for who he is, hobbies, geekishness and all? Why are you two together if he's such a dork in your eyes?
Maybe you do need to take a break. Stand back and fully see this man for who he is. Ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life with him and can you accept and love his interests and quirks.
Accept him for who he is, don't think YOU will ever change him. If you can't accept the whole relationship package then do yourself and him a favor and move on. Life is way too short for either of you to be in an unhappy relationship.
well we truly fall in love after we live with somebody coz that makes us realize what are their bad habits as well as things we love but true love never gets BORED infact it becomes more strong with the passage of time...6 years is a long time and there must have been something between you two that you have stayed together for so long i would suggest u do take a break but before that u need to sit down with ur bf and remember all those times u two had loved share your feelings and analyze ur emotions for each other i would say don't let it all go just like that try to find some spark left don't just go away talk and make him realize why u want to do this tell him that your relationship needs some revitalization as its too precious for both of you and once you are on break away from each other both of you would realize how much u mean to each other and if you think u should call it a quit go ahead coz this situation won't take you anywhere...all the best
move on
6 years and bored? you do need a break. depending on the promises he's breaking, (cheating on you, or just not taking you out for dinner), you two need to decide where the relationship is going. if it doesn't seem to be going towards a good future, you might want to separate for a little. what made you want to date him in the first place? chances are, he was the same way in the beginning. take a look at the relationship, and make sure he knows what your thoughts are. you don't want to marry when you feel like this.
HUN MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL GIVE YOU UNCONDITIONAL LOVE 24/7 THERE ARE PLENTY OF GOOD MEN WANTING A LADY TO SPEND TIME WITH LIKE YOURSELF SO TELL HIM TO WAKE UP KISS UP OR DO WITHOUT.
GOOD LUCK ENJOY LIFE MAKE IT FUN AND STAY YOUNG AT HEART ALLWAY,S KP
When I confront him and say we aren't spending time with each other, he turns on me and says Well, all we do is sit and watch TV (I've asked to go for walks, play video games, go to the movies, etc) but those are boring things to him. I've also tried to get into his hobby but that hasn't helped because I just don't have that wild of an imagination.
I told him tonight after he promised he'd be home @ 12am but didn't come in until after 3am without a phone call that I thought it was best we take a break.
Now I'm being looked at as if I don't care and I never really cared about him or our relationship. HELP!Relationship advice desperately needed!?
This is what I see. Love is not always enough. Not even all the ';want to'; in the world can keep two people together that can't find some sort of common ground. What you are lacking is a foundation to support this relationship. This lack of stability could possibly be all his fault as your question tends to support. More than likely though, you both bare at least part of the blame and if this relationship is going to get a second chance, you will both have to look at putting forth some effort. Some sacrifices may be unavoidable. Is it going to be worth it? I don't know. I do believe you are sincere and this is not a waste of our time to look at some ways to fix this.
You fall into the category of a childless couple. 5 years living together? What's up. Have you never believed in this relationship? Not once have you said to yourself, this feels like it is forever? Im not saying a child could hold this together for you. The intentional lack of a child does raise questions though.
You don't mention having any friends. At least as a couple. If this is the case, it is very unlikely that any single friends you may have individually can provide much support to you. If either of you are befriending a person that is in a troubled relationship themselves, there is going to be an undercurrent of negativity from that person toward your own relationship. I suggest that, since the two of you have very little in common recreationally speaking, you should intentionally seek out a friendship with a couple that can help fill this gap and also provide a positive role model for your own relationship.
There is only one person on this Earth that you have any hope of changing... that is you. If you are depending on him to change in order for this relationship to survive, you are wasting your time. Women can often feel, ';I love you just as you are... but if there are not a few changes, I can't accept you this way'; If you had a big balance scale and you put what you like about him on one side and what you didn't like on the other, which way would the scale fall? If it does not scare you to do so, you might ask him to put you on a scale of his own.
Now, sit down and communicate with each other. It won't be easy. He may have concluded that this is the best it will ever get and have no desire to voice his honest opinion. And if he did voice it, will you defend yourself to him or would you be willing to honestly look inside yourself and judge your own behavior and allow him the same courtesy. You must, at some point, be able to look deeply into each others eyes and ask yourselves, what can I change about myself to make this work. Hopefully there is something. If there is not, get out of this relationship and find yourselves some well deserved happiness with someone that you are willing to make a few sacrafices for.Relationship advice desperately needed!?
Time to spend a week end at your parents house.
well.. u guys need a ime out.. probably for a period longer than a month ... if it still is the same then u have to move on
time to move out.or make dates on the calander. for make the relationship grow, stronger also get consaling irt free in callage. you don,t need to be a student.
i suggest u still talk to him and i believe by and by everything will be fine.
Well pack up and go--it is over---it will not be any better---why stay?? You aren't married---and if you do he will only get worse--you 2 do not have a normal relationship....not even worth trying--you are bored and he is not ready for the big step. Good luck
**** girl if you asked me to play video games I'd be all for it ^^
he sounds like a bit of an ***..
It happens. You guys have probably been doing the same stuff over and over to the point where it's beginning to get boring and the relationship is getting stale. Spice things up a little! When was the last time you two went out on a date? Can't recall? Then go for one now. Find new hobbies that both of you can enjoy together. Partners tend to take each other for granted sometimes, so talk to him and tell him how you feel but don't nag because men seem to switch off once they hear any nagging. All the best dearie!
You guys have nothing in common. You don't really talk much. You are bored with eachother and you're not even married. If you get married to this guy, it will be a big mistake which will probably end in divorce.
The sense I get after reading your post is that you don't truly respect your bf. You call him a geek and dog him for playing his games. If you treat him in person like you're treating him online no wonder he's staying out until 3 am, he wants to be away from you. People can sense when they're not being respected or loved.
Did you ever fully accept your bf for who he is, hobbies, geekishness and all? Why are you two together if he's such a dork in your eyes?
Maybe you do need to take a break. Stand back and fully see this man for who he is. Ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life with him and can you accept and love his interests and quirks.
Accept him for who he is, don't think YOU will ever change him. If you can't accept the whole relationship package then do yourself and him a favor and move on. Life is way too short for either of you to be in an unhappy relationship.
well we truly fall in love after we live with somebody coz that makes us realize what are their bad habits as well as things we love but true love never gets BORED infact it becomes more strong with the passage of time...6 years is a long time and there must have been something between you two that you have stayed together for so long i would suggest u do take a break but before that u need to sit down with ur bf and remember all those times u two had loved share your feelings and analyze ur emotions for each other i would say don't let it all go just like that try to find some spark left don't just go away talk and make him realize why u want to do this tell him that your relationship needs some revitalization as its too precious for both of you and once you are on break away from each other both of you would realize how much u mean to each other and if you think u should call it a quit go ahead coz this situation won't take you anywhere...all the best
move on
6 years and bored? you do need a break. depending on the promises he's breaking, (cheating on you, or just not taking you out for dinner), you two need to decide where the relationship is going. if it doesn't seem to be going towards a good future, you might want to separate for a little. what made you want to date him in the first place? chances are, he was the same way in the beginning. take a look at the relationship, and make sure he knows what your thoughts are. you don't want to marry when you feel like this.
HUN MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL GIVE YOU UNCONDITIONAL LOVE 24/7 THERE ARE PLENTY OF GOOD MEN WANTING A LADY TO SPEND TIME WITH LIKE YOURSELF SO TELL HIM TO WAKE UP KISS UP OR DO WITHOUT.
GOOD LUCK ENJOY LIFE MAKE IT FUN AND STAY YOUNG AT HEART ALLWAY,S KP
Relationship advice please?
Okay so lets just say there is a man and a woman who have been dating well more like been in a serious relationship and the man was being honest to the woman but the woman was cheating on him. This guy kept giving her chances to tell the truth but she just couldn't in fear of risking the consequences. One night he was drinking and got drunk it just so happened that night was the same night he found out about her dishonesty. He totally flipped out on her and kinda beat her ***. Yes, he hit her and he just went belistic on her. Does she deserve it?Relationship advice please?
Both parties are in the wrong. No one EVER deserves that kind of physical abuse, and cheating is low as well. This sounds like a relationship that should end for the good of everyone involved...Relationship advice please?
No, though i do think he should have been told a long time ago to avoid such a situation. The girl deserves something but not a belistic beating. Then again he was drunk and finding that kind of thing out when drunk what else can u expect. Still doesnt make it right though.
If you can please answer this question:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnszcA6gyQs2ygKMcsWpAUfsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090526123635AA7mXdt
if you blame the beating on the alcohol, then ur not that smart either. she deserves soemthing, but i doubt it's beating
Both parties are in the wrong. No one EVER deserves that kind of physical abuse, and cheating is low as well. This sounds like a relationship that should end for the good of everyone involved...Relationship advice please?
No, though i do think he should have been told a long time ago to avoid such a situation. The girl deserves something but not a belistic beating. Then again he was drunk and finding that kind of thing out when drunk what else can u expect. Still doesnt make it right though.
If you can please answer this question:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnszcA6gyQs2ygKMcsWpAUfsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090526123635AA7mXdt
if you blame the beating on the alcohol, then ur not that smart either. she deserves soemthing, but i doubt it's beating
Relationship advice Please!!!!!!!!!?
My horse was recently castrated, can a relationship last without sexRelationship advice Please!!!!!!!!!?
there's always a strap-on !
there's always a strap-on !
Relationship Advice Please?
Okay so, my boyfriend of about one year is going to be moving away out of state and i am completely recked by this. i love my boyfriend soo much and he is leaving. Eventually, i am going to have to move on, and latly i have beedn having dreams and stuff about my boyfriend moving away and me dating his best friend justin. justin and i are very good friends too. justin, austin (my bf), and i are a triangle of best friends we hangout all of the time and we all go places together. ever since i have been having these dreams my feelings are going up and down. my boyfriend and i are going to have to break up because of his move, he is moving ion june and we are going to stay together until then for sure, but after he moves we both decided that we should move on. i'm not sitting here trying to say that i have the next guy palnned out, but latly i have just been thinking that me and justin are going to end up together when my boyfriend moves away. Is that just morally wrong?Relationship Advice Please?
it's not wrong if you and justin really like each other. but it sounds like you're looking for backup security. don't be afraid to be alone for awhile and get over your bf. don't rush into anything with anyone, especially his best friend. continue being friends with him and if something happens, it happens. but don't think about it now and make the best of the time you have left with your current boyfriend.Relationship Advice Please?
Of course that's not morally wrong - it's quite natural actually. You have a comfort level with Justin that is simply there. One thing I would like to caution you about though - make sure that Justin feels the same way about you before you let your daydreaming take you too far.
yep i think so ..just ASK him
if you have both already decided to break up when he leaves in june, then why are you two hanging out and just making the breakup harder? the longer you stay together the more it wil hurt when you end it.
the feelings for justin are normal. you are probably just trying to replace the void you feel by loosing austin.. and justin (being your best friend and all) sounds like a good candidate to replace that.
don't go for justin now... but after austin leaves, if things progress, then austin should be happy for the two of you because his 2 best friends are happy together.
it's naturally natural! Who cares?? Justin and Austin aren't gonna be best friends after he moves. Justin is the closest thing to your BF, nothing wrong in hanging out w/him, or whatever, until you're over Austin.
well, who am I to judge? After your boyfriend moves...try to give yourself a little time to heal..You never know how you'll feel. You might want to be by yourself for a little while. You don't HAVE TO run into someone else's arms immeadiately you know...Besides he might not even be the one..The attraction could be merely physical.
It's not morally wrong. You are turning to the next closest person to you for comfort because you feel like your boyfriend is abandoning you. You haven't cheated on him with Justin. You are just having thoughts and dreams. It's natural to feel abandoned in situations like this, and to turn to someone else you care about for comfort. It may happen, or it may not, but just thinking about it doesn't make you a bad person. It makes you a real person.wrinkles
it's not wrong if you and justin really like each other. but it sounds like you're looking for backup security. don't be afraid to be alone for awhile and get over your bf. don't rush into anything with anyone, especially his best friend. continue being friends with him and if something happens, it happens. but don't think about it now and make the best of the time you have left with your current boyfriend.Relationship Advice Please?
Of course that's not morally wrong - it's quite natural actually. You have a comfort level with Justin that is simply there. One thing I would like to caution you about though - make sure that Justin feels the same way about you before you let your daydreaming take you too far.
yep i think so ..just ASK him
if you have both already decided to break up when he leaves in june, then why are you two hanging out and just making the breakup harder? the longer you stay together the more it wil hurt when you end it.
the feelings for justin are normal. you are probably just trying to replace the void you feel by loosing austin.. and justin (being your best friend and all) sounds like a good candidate to replace that.
don't go for justin now... but after austin leaves, if things progress, then austin should be happy for the two of you because his 2 best friends are happy together.
it's naturally natural! Who cares?? Justin and Austin aren't gonna be best friends after he moves. Justin is the closest thing to your BF, nothing wrong in hanging out w/him, or whatever, until you're over Austin.
well, who am I to judge? After your boyfriend moves...try to give yourself a little time to heal..You never know how you'll feel. You might want to be by yourself for a little while. You don't HAVE TO run into someone else's arms immeadiately you know...Besides he might not even be the one..The attraction could be merely physical.
It's not morally wrong. You are turning to the next closest person to you for comfort because you feel like your boyfriend is abandoning you. You haven't cheated on him with Justin. You are just having thoughts and dreams. It's natural to feel abandoned in situations like this, and to turn to someone else you care about for comfort. It may happen, or it may not, but just thinking about it doesn't make you a bad person. It makes you a real person.
Relationship advice please?
ive kinda been goin with this girl that i really like, things are working great, and it's probably the best relationship i've ever been in.
i've introduced her to my friends (who already knew her) and in private they told me she used to be a ho, meaning that she used to mess with a lot of guys
what do you think i should do?
PS: she never told me anything like thatRelationship advice please?
Let the past stay in the past. People change. If she is faithful to you and you are happy, the only thing that should worry you is if she has been screened for stds. Of course this is something that should be discussed prior to having sex for the first time. I would still recommend that you both be tested to make sure you are clean. I don't think it would be helpful to bring this up with her--if she is good to you, appreciate her and accept that everyone has a past.Relationship advice please?
You make your own opinions and judgements about her. Nobody is perfect - we all make mistakes. Sometimes we actually learn from them, too.
Ask her about it..if she denies it ,believe her..things will turn up sooner or later if she is lying..%26lt;/3
I think that may be a part of her past. If she has passed that phase of her life then it really shouldn't be an issue.
Talk is cheap, my friend. Do they know she was a ho, or just heard she was? If they know for a fact they apparently messed around with her, too. If you really like this girl continue to see her. Maybe you are the guy she has been looking for. WE all change and grow up. Give her a chance. If she is lying to you that will eventually come out. When you become closer tlk to her and tell her you have heard this and it kind of bothers you. She may have an explanation you have never thought would be the case.
i've introduced her to my friends (who already knew her) and in private they told me she used to be a ho, meaning that she used to mess with a lot of guys
what do you think i should do?
PS: she never told me anything like thatRelationship advice please?
Let the past stay in the past. People change. If she is faithful to you and you are happy, the only thing that should worry you is if she has been screened for stds. Of course this is something that should be discussed prior to having sex for the first time. I would still recommend that you both be tested to make sure you are clean. I don't think it would be helpful to bring this up with her--if she is good to you, appreciate her and accept that everyone has a past.Relationship advice please?
You make your own opinions and judgements about her. Nobody is perfect - we all make mistakes. Sometimes we actually learn from them, too.
Ask her about it..if she denies it ,believe her..things will turn up sooner or later if she is lying..%26lt;/3
I think that may be a part of her past. If she has passed that phase of her life then it really shouldn't be an issue.
Talk is cheap, my friend. Do they know she was a ho, or just heard she was? If they know for a fact they apparently messed around with her, too. If you really like this girl continue to see her. Maybe you are the guy she has been looking for. WE all change and grow up. Give her a chance. If she is lying to you that will eventually come out. When you become closer tlk to her and tell her you have heard this and it kind of bothers you. She may have an explanation you have never thought would be the case.
Relationship advice?
So, I usually wouldn't ask this question, but I have no idea what to do. It has been so long since I had a crush on someone or wanted to be in a relationship with someone. I am in this musical with this guy who I have the biggest crush on. We are friends, and I talk to him some, but definitely not as much as I do with other guys in the show. If we don't make further plans, it's likely that the last time I see him will be Saturday. How would you recommend letting him know that I am interested in him, or scheduling some activity with him? I know that it is always good just to be honest and slightly forward, but I just really have no idea how he will react.Relationship advice?
lol trust me u can reel any guy in with your eyes....then they will most likely come onto you. BUT this is a little too late you shoudl have started eyeing him at the beginning lol...since saturday might be the last day i recommend doing something or else your going to regret it
i say ask him for his number....sya it was fun working with you we should hang out
be coooll.......Relationship advice?
omg!!! u said musical!!! barf, yea u 2 deserve each other, you can have little musical babies
let him know how you feel in a simple way..but do not panic with the outcomes..when we think too much about the outcomes..that means we are expecting something...so to have a smile always on your face..dont not expect miracles t ohappen...just speak out what you feel honestly and accept whatever comes with it..
him that a really hard one just get him to know you more. Call him, IM, talk to him. get to be good friends or have him see you have alot in common just be different and see if he notices you at all
kinda just be around him alot and talk to him alot and really show that u want to be friends and maybe more!!!
Don't let him get away! You might regret it. If its the last opportunity you need to make the steps and approach him. You need to take a risk and lay it all on the line (self-esteem, confidence, self-reliance, arrogance) to be with him or atleast take a chance with him. You need to be willing to be embarrassed or even look stupid to finding someone you're supposed to be with. and just that risky move and breif moment of vulnerability shows and displays alot and that moment of vulnerability shows him that you are willing to go into a meaningful and intimate relationship with him. Trust me us guys like vulnerablility, we think its sexy.
You should really read this free E-book containing 97 steps to a happy relationship. highly recommended!
You have to let him know how you feel or he will not know.But if it was meant to be then it will.Set up something so yall can have time to yourselfs.
lol trust me u can reel any guy in with your eyes....then they will most likely come onto you. BUT this is a little too late you shoudl have started eyeing him at the beginning lol...since saturday might be the last day i recommend doing something or else your going to regret it
i say ask him for his number....sya it was fun working with you we should hang out
be coooll.......Relationship advice?
omg!!! u said musical!!! barf, yea u 2 deserve each other, you can have little musical babies
let him know how you feel in a simple way..but do not panic with the outcomes..when we think too much about the outcomes..that means we are expecting something...so to have a smile always on your face..dont not expect miracles t ohappen...just speak out what you feel honestly and accept whatever comes with it..
him that a really hard one just get him to know you more. Call him, IM, talk to him. get to be good friends or have him see you have alot in common just be different and see if he notices you at all
kinda just be around him alot and talk to him alot and really show that u want to be friends and maybe more!!!
Don't let him get away! You might regret it. If its the last opportunity you need to make the steps and approach him. You need to take a risk and lay it all on the line (self-esteem, confidence, self-reliance, arrogance) to be with him or atleast take a chance with him. You need to be willing to be embarrassed or even look stupid to finding someone you're supposed to be with. and just that risky move and breif moment of vulnerability shows and displays alot and that moment of vulnerability shows him that you are willing to go into a meaningful and intimate relationship with him. Trust me us guys like vulnerablility, we think its sexy.
You should really read this free E-book containing 97 steps to a happy relationship. highly recommended!
You have to let him know how you feel or he will not know.But if it was meant to be then it will.Set up something so yall can have time to yourselfs.
I need relationship advice?
So i have been going out with this guy for 5 months and i am wondering why he hasnt called me back after he said he would call me back on monday and hasnt been answering my phone calls Or text whats goin on? and what should i do?I need relationship advice?
here is two things u could do:
if he's not answering ur calls or texts, there must be something wrong, u have to find him and talk to him in person to see whats up. That'd be hard tho.
Or......i know its hard, but i wouldn't keep calling him or texting him. He might need some time alone, or wants to take a break for a little while, and just couldn't tell u that. I'm sorry i have to say, but he might be interested in other girls. He should call u to tell u whats up, but u just might have to move on. Maybe if u give him time, he'll finally realize what he misses, but i cant guarantee that. If he doesn't give u respect by telling u whats up(cause u deserve to know), then just move on.I need relationship advice?
Stop texting and calling. You seem a little needy.
Give up, he probably has lost interest and this is his way of telling you this, as cruel as it is
dont seem clingy!! if he doesnt call then w/e. next time you see him act like what ever, as if you havnt noticed he's alive
WELL YOU SHOULD JUST LET IT GO. THE GUY ISN'T INTO YOU ANYMORE. STOP CALLING AND TEXTING HIM BECAUSE IT MAKES YOU SEEM SORT OF LIKE A STALKER. JUST MOVE ON TO SOMEONE ELSE. THIS GUY PROBABLY HAS ALREADY MOVED ON. THE SAME THING JUST HAPPENED TO MY COUSIN. HE JUST STOPPED TALKING TO HER AND NEVER RESPONDED TO HER TEXTS OR PHONE CALLS. HE DIDN'T EVEN HAVE THE DECENCY TO JUST TELL HER STRAIGHT UP THAT HE WASN'T INTO HER ANYMORE. YOU DON'T NEED A GUY LIKE THAT IN MY OPINION. I'M PRETTY SURE YOU CAN DO SO MUCH BETTER. GOOD LUCK!
Move on. If he was really interested in you, he'd be calling you.
move on jojo move on. This is a bad sign. Just move on
just wait for him to call you make him want u make him jelous to ask u out!! k hope i helped!.!.! (;
鈾?jenna nicolle
He's not that into you, quit calling him and acting like stalker girl.
you can't be sure but maybe something is going on in his life that is drawing his every minute of attention or there is the possibility that it is over, it is hard to say with these things my suggestion to you is go about your life and don't give it too much thought wait and see what happens if it is over don't dwell on it he is probably just one of thos flaky guys. you will be okay good luck to you
This is the god damn problem with modern girls like u...u take guys seriously...dont worry bout him...he might have got stuck in some work or something like that...dont worry too much bout him..coz then you might hurt yourself...just chillax and be patient he will call you...take care i hope you will take wise decisions...
just forget him ...
Leave a message asking why he's not responding if he doesn't respond break it off with him and tell him why you're breaking up with him.
Shady guy!!!! Get rid of him and don't waste your time wondering what he is doing. Guys like this come and go.
here is two things u could do:
if he's not answering ur calls or texts, there must be something wrong, u have to find him and talk to him in person to see whats up. That'd be hard tho.
Or......i know its hard, but i wouldn't keep calling him or texting him. He might need some time alone, or wants to take a break for a little while, and just couldn't tell u that. I'm sorry i have to say, but he might be interested in other girls. He should call u to tell u whats up, but u just might have to move on. Maybe if u give him time, he'll finally realize what he misses, but i cant guarantee that. If he doesn't give u respect by telling u whats up(cause u deserve to know), then just move on.I need relationship advice?
Stop texting and calling. You seem a little needy.
Give up, he probably has lost interest and this is his way of telling you this, as cruel as it is
dont seem clingy!! if he doesnt call then w/e. next time you see him act like what ever, as if you havnt noticed he's alive
WELL YOU SHOULD JUST LET IT GO. THE GUY ISN'T INTO YOU ANYMORE. STOP CALLING AND TEXTING HIM BECAUSE IT MAKES YOU SEEM SORT OF LIKE A STALKER. JUST MOVE ON TO SOMEONE ELSE. THIS GUY PROBABLY HAS ALREADY MOVED ON. THE SAME THING JUST HAPPENED TO MY COUSIN. HE JUST STOPPED TALKING TO HER AND NEVER RESPONDED TO HER TEXTS OR PHONE CALLS. HE DIDN'T EVEN HAVE THE DECENCY TO JUST TELL HER STRAIGHT UP THAT HE WASN'T INTO HER ANYMORE. YOU DON'T NEED A GUY LIKE THAT IN MY OPINION. I'M PRETTY SURE YOU CAN DO SO MUCH BETTER. GOOD LUCK!
Move on. If he was really interested in you, he'd be calling you.
move on jojo move on. This is a bad sign. Just move on
just wait for him to call you make him want u make him jelous to ask u out!! k hope i helped!.!.! (;
鈾?jenna nicolle
He's not that into you, quit calling him and acting like stalker girl.
you can't be sure but maybe something is going on in his life that is drawing his every minute of attention or there is the possibility that it is over, it is hard to say with these things my suggestion to you is go about your life and don't give it too much thought wait and see what happens if it is over don't dwell on it he is probably just one of thos flaky guys. you will be okay good luck to you
This is the god damn problem with modern girls like u...u take guys seriously...dont worry bout him...he might have got stuck in some work or something like that...dont worry too much bout him..coz then you might hurt yourself...just chillax and be patient he will call you...take care i hope you will take wise decisions...
just forget him ...
Leave a message asking why he's not responding if he doesn't respond break it off with him and tell him why you're breaking up with him.
Shady guy!!!! Get rid of him and don't waste your time wondering what he is doing. Guys like this come and go.
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Ok so me and my ex decided to let go and go our ways...but we are having problems doing so..we argue everyday..and keep gettin in each others business..we decided to go to prom 2gether and then really let go for good...I doubt that tho..plz ppl give me advice on what should I doNeed relationship advice?
you shouldnt have gone to prom together because then that would get you to want each other more-especially looking glamorous and what not- -- something tells me yall arent ready to split. yall argue and get into each others bussiness because yall each want each other back....take my advice get back together with your ex
you shouldnt have gone to prom together because then that would get you to want each other more-especially looking glamorous and what not- -- something tells me yall arent ready to split. yall argue and get into each others bussiness because yall each want each other back....take my advice get back together with your ex
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';I'm sorry for the way I reacted to your decision, you have every right to want to be happy and not only should I have respected that but should be helping you to achieve it. I hope my actions last week haven't affected the other 7 months of friendship as they means a lot to me. My head feels more clear now, and i've realised how some of the things I said could have made you feel bad, or guilty - that really wasn't my intention, and i'm sorry. I hope we can move on from this and be able to remain close - your absence has been noticed by us all, and you are missed.';
BACKGROUND:
With a girl for seven months, and found it extremely difficult to commit, last week she just got fed up with it.
I didn't react well; it took me by complete surprise. I've now realised how much I do want to be with her, and I told her this but she's made up her mind.
I've given her space since Thursday after lowering myself to basically begging for another chance.... in a blind panic.
I realise if I ever want another chance with her I have to prove myself as a person and friend, you cant ask for love.
Do you think this text is a good place to start? Or does it make me sound desperate - i've been waiting for her to contact me but no luck so far.
Relationship advice needed!
give her space to figure out what shes going to do, but every once in a while send her a text or a letter to remind her how you feel, so she knows that you still love her, and your there for her.Relationship advice needed!
Im in the exact same situation mate and did the exact same as you...if shes made her mind up thats it. Just leave it and be there for her if she texts/rings, she needs to miss you.
i would love for a guy to send me a text like that, sorry but that is all I can tell you
you guy need a broke from each other..bye
BACKGROUND:
With a girl for seven months, and found it extremely difficult to commit, last week she just got fed up with it.
I didn't react well; it took me by complete surprise. I've now realised how much I do want to be with her, and I told her this but she's made up her mind.
I've given her space since Thursday after lowering myself to basically begging for another chance.... in a blind panic.
I realise if I ever want another chance with her I have to prove myself as a person and friend, you cant ask for love.
Do you think this text is a good place to start? Or does it make me sound desperate - i've been waiting for her to contact me but no luck so far.
Relationship advice needed!
give her space to figure out what shes going to do, but every once in a while send her a text or a letter to remind her how you feel, so she knows that you still love her, and your there for her.Relationship advice needed!
Im in the exact same situation mate and did the exact same as you...if shes made her mind up thats it. Just leave it and be there for her if she texts/rings, she needs to miss you.
i would love for a guy to send me a text like that, sorry but that is all I can tell you
you guy need a broke from each other..bye
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Recently my Ex broke up with me and I have been seeing my boss. I'm 18, he is 27 and a heroin addict in recovery. He is so nice and kinda has the kurt cobain look/personality which I really like in guys... Anyways, I'm afraid that I am just with him to help me get over my ex, but it doesent feel like that. He made the first move, by leaning in to kiss me last night; but I cannot deny it, I wanted him to kiss me. Anyways, my parents would KILL me if they found out I was seeing him.. and I'm scared that he will influence me in a bad way or get me in trouble with the law..but he is so HOT and there is just something about an older guy that is so sexy. what should I do?!Relationship Advice Please
you shouldn't date someone just because you think they are attractive and keep in mine he's in recovery.. any one who is going through that isn't right in their head just yet and could relapse.. you wouldn't want him influencing you.. maybe you should leave it alone for now.. Relationship Advice Please
he sounds like a re-boung guy
i think you've identified that
also, given your age difference *yikes, you are barely legal*
and his history with drug abuse, i would cut this one
it's not fair to anyone
seriously
this may not be what you want to hear, but it has trouble written all over it
Leave this guy alone. He is battling a serious demon. He needs a friend, not a lover. But he needs to help himself first. You don't have to go back to your BF, but this new guy/boss, needs some space. Then he will be good for you in the future. Probably not the answer you were looking for, sorry.
Ok, take a deep breath, imagine it is 2 years from now...where will you be with this guy. Possiblities; 1. An unweb mother 2. In jail 3. Very unhappy 4. In rehab. Unless you have given up on your life and yourself run from this guy now. Hot or not addicts are baddd news.
DON'T go out with this guy. For one thing it will cause problems with your parents, he is likely a rebound guy, he is too old for you, has a drug problem AND he is your boss.
eeeeeeeewwwwww hes your boss for Pete's sake plus hes nine years older then you if u do stick with him your gonna be miserable abused
and your parents wont trust you find a new job and ditch him
ya he might influence u in bad way
so get over him u r just 18 and u will find plenty of hotter guys and besides he is 27 too much age difference according to me
Sounds like a rebound guy. Even he probably knows it. Commit to telling your parents and ditch the dude.
Fire himl
Way more fish in the sea. He was just there at the right time. Don't let him bring you down.
it depends if he kissed u did u feel anything but i would break up with him he is so much older and could just be using u.lipstick parties
you shouldn't date someone just because you think they are attractive and keep in mine he's in recovery.. any one who is going through that isn't right in their head just yet and could relapse.. you wouldn't want him influencing you.. maybe you should leave it alone for now.. Relationship Advice Please
he sounds like a re-boung guy
i think you've identified that
also, given your age difference *yikes, you are barely legal*
and his history with drug abuse, i would cut this one
it's not fair to anyone
seriously
this may not be what you want to hear, but it has trouble written all over it
Leave this guy alone. He is battling a serious demon. He needs a friend, not a lover. But he needs to help himself first. You don't have to go back to your BF, but this new guy/boss, needs some space. Then he will be good for you in the future. Probably not the answer you were looking for, sorry.
Ok, take a deep breath, imagine it is 2 years from now...where will you be with this guy. Possiblities; 1. An unweb mother 2. In jail 3. Very unhappy 4. In rehab. Unless you have given up on your life and yourself run from this guy now. Hot or not addicts are baddd news.
DON'T go out with this guy. For one thing it will cause problems with your parents, he is likely a rebound guy, he is too old for you, has a drug problem AND he is your boss.
eeeeeeeewwwwww hes your boss for Pete's sake plus hes nine years older then you if u do stick with him your gonna be miserable abused
and your parents wont trust you find a new job and ditch him
ya he might influence u in bad way
so get over him u r just 18 and u will find plenty of hotter guys and besides he is 27 too much age difference according to me
Sounds like a rebound guy. Even he probably knows it. Commit to telling your parents and ditch the dude.
Fire himl
Way more fish in the sea. He was just there at the right time. Don't let him bring you down.
it depends if he kissed u did u feel anything but i would break up with him he is so much older and could just be using u.
Relationship Advice?
Lets say you have a girlfriend who is perceived by low-life jealous men to be popular. You (the boyfriend) are above or better than these low life jealous men. However, these men try to steal your girlfriend off of you. After about a year or so one of these men succeeds, and your girlfriend cheats on you with one of them, while you are away working long hours. However, your girlfriend keeps it a secret from you. About a month passes, and your girlfriend keeps cheating and becomes distant from you. Then one night, she doens't come home as she is out at a bar with this man. You call her and she finally answers. She tells you that she is not happy, and that she needs a break from you. She then breaks it off with you. This scenario happend to me 2 weeks ago. I got all of my belongings, moved out, and dropped her as it is apparent that she has no respect for me. I mean obviously she wasn't happy, but I never cheated on her, disrespected her, or abused her. I just need advice basically???Relationship Advice?
you made a great move, but a definitely hard move, it will hurt, but good riddings, i am sorry that you ended up in this mess,but what you could have done is ask the girl once you found out.so the best thing to do, will be to never call, never answer her phone call, spend more time with the guys, try not to spend too much time alone, and if you drink try not to get too drunk, that you end up calling her at night.tell everyday when you wake up, that she dont deserve someone like you.she will regret it, believe me, and will want you back, but never go back.Relationship Advice?
I say you did the right thing. Cheaters do not respect you and do not love you, and no matter what it feels like now, you're better off.
this girl is obviously a low life just like the guys. get over her. fast. find another girl to go out with, one who doesnt treat you like low life scum.
xox
you made a great move, but a definitely hard move, it will hurt, but good riddings, i am sorry that you ended up in this mess,but what you could have done is ask the girl once you found out.so the best thing to do, will be to never call, never answer her phone call, spend more time with the guys, try not to spend too much time alone, and if you drink try not to get too drunk, that you end up calling her at night.tell everyday when you wake up, that she dont deserve someone like you.she will regret it, believe me, and will want you back, but never go back.Relationship Advice?
I say you did the right thing. Cheaters do not respect you and do not love you, and no matter what it feels like now, you're better off.
this girl is obviously a low life just like the guys. get over her. fast. find another girl to go out with, one who doesnt treat you like low life scum.
xox
Relationship advice?
me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years i love her more than anything but i think she wants out of the relationship. i know she would never cheat on me because she knows id find out. but lately when we make arrangements to see each other she keeps changing the plans like this weekend we were supposed to meet on friday but she changed it to saturday then she changed it to today now she has changed it to tomorrow. were both jobless at the moment and thats putting alot of stress on me as i feel i cant provide for her. lately it just seems like she doesnt want to see me. i cant even remeber the last time we made love im 22 she is 21 this year i get so lonely and i miss her so much iv talked to her about it but all she does is apologise but when we do see each other its amasing. we cuddle alot we talk alot we spend all out time together just near each other. i dont want to loose her. please helpRelationship advice?
if she has no job than what is she so busy doing???????? sounds like she is cheating let her go let her go or you will be more hurtRelationship advice?
It is like that old saying. '; If you love something let it go, if it comes back it is yours';, in your case don't really let go but give her some space. She will only be 21 this year. She needs to do some major growing and so do you. Make yourself less available so when you do make plans she doesn't feel she can change them. Go do stuff with your friends and focus on the job thing. Everything happens for a reason.
Face it ! Man provides...
She is feeling very unsecure ! She fears a man who can only provide sex and affection!
You revealed something worrying in your speech :';i know she would never cheat on me (because) she knows id find out. ';....
Is it the reason why she won't cheat on you ? and if you found out ?... what would you do to her ???
You (honestly speaking) are not very securizing !!!
First find a job, give her some air to breathe away from your oppressing world.. then see if she still loves you !
I think if you get a job, it would certainly makes things easier for you, she maybe busy looking for a job herself, and you should be doing the same, you have to much time on your hands.
I bet you call her a hundred times a day..You are smothering her..You have to give a woman some ';breathing room'; don't cling to tight. Relax..get a job
don't feel bad that you can't 'provide' for her. in this day and age, men are not expected to provide for women. she should get a job and provide for herself.
she may not want out maybe shes just tryin to get some space, or has things to do. If things are so good when your together I can't imagine her wanting out.
Get a job. You have too much free time on your hands and that'll get on anyone's nerves.
first get a job and than just proove yourself to her how much you love her
give her the space. it sounds like that is what she needs right now. I have been in exactly the same situation even though eventually we split but a year later, he came back into my life with a new job and a new life and he still wanted me to be part of it. We are now back together and happy. Dont take it too personally like i did. If you are not happy within yourself then how can you make someone else happy. Use this space to sort yourself out and prove that you are at least looking for a job. She must do the same herslef otherwise this relationship will be doomed forever, its called give and take. good luck
if she has no job than what is she so busy doing???????? sounds like she is cheating let her go let her go or you will be more hurtRelationship advice?
It is like that old saying. '; If you love something let it go, if it comes back it is yours';, in your case don't really let go but give her some space. She will only be 21 this year. She needs to do some major growing and so do you. Make yourself less available so when you do make plans she doesn't feel she can change them. Go do stuff with your friends and focus on the job thing. Everything happens for a reason.
Face it ! Man provides...
She is feeling very unsecure ! She fears a man who can only provide sex and affection!
You revealed something worrying in your speech :';i know she would never cheat on me (because) she knows id find out. ';....
Is it the reason why she won't cheat on you ? and if you found out ?... what would you do to her ???
You (honestly speaking) are not very securizing !!!
First find a job, give her some air to breathe away from your oppressing world.. then see if she still loves you !
I think if you get a job, it would certainly makes things easier for you, she maybe busy looking for a job herself, and you should be doing the same, you have to much time on your hands.
I bet you call her a hundred times a day..You are smothering her..You have to give a woman some ';breathing room'; don't cling to tight. Relax..get a job
don't feel bad that you can't 'provide' for her. in this day and age, men are not expected to provide for women. she should get a job and provide for herself.
she may not want out maybe shes just tryin to get some space, or has things to do. If things are so good when your together I can't imagine her wanting out.
Get a job. You have too much free time on your hands and that'll get on anyone's nerves.
first get a job and than just proove yourself to her how much you love her
give her the space. it sounds like that is what she needs right now. I have been in exactly the same situation even though eventually we split but a year later, he came back into my life with a new job and a new life and he still wanted me to be part of it. We are now back together and happy. Dont take it too personally like i did. If you are not happy within yourself then how can you make someone else happy. Use this space to sort yourself out and prove that you are at least looking for a job. She must do the same herslef otherwise this relationship will be doomed forever, its called give and take. good luck
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So i go to a ski town pretty often because my family is really into skiing, and i know most of the town now. I met a guy and really started to like him but we only ever talk on msn. I know he still really likes me but i can tell hes getting sick of the distance. I know I'am but i dont know how willing he is to stick through it. Now the ski season is done i have to find my own way to get to this ski town thats 3 hours away. Bus= 100$. not cheap. But my feelings are so strong for this boy i cant end it like most poeple say i should. Another thing is, he can sometimes be a dick and gets really jealous, but can also be super sweet. I cant end this. Any suggestions on what i should do with my situation?
Anything to make msn more fun??
ps- if this sounds lame to you, just dont comment. i just need some advice and finally thought asking strangers would be the best advice..Relationship Advice?!?
Long distance relationships are always tough but it's not impossible to make it work. However, you do need to plan for the future. Do you intend to move in with him or him with you? Or do you guys plan to get place together? I'm not sure how old you two are, but either way, I find it pretty pointless to drag on a relationship that has no future planned, so you might want to figure what you two are going to do for the future before deciding what to do about the distance thing. I'm sorry I'm not of more help to you, but no one knows you or this guy and only you two can figure it out for yourselves. What I said is only the first step to save you both some time and probably future problems down the road.Relationship Advice?!?
I wish you the best and that you will be happy in life.
Think positive and get to do nice things for to feel good.
Just take it easy and get known him better while you both in distance. Treat him as a common friend rather boyfriend stuff. As long as you know him, his personality and his family background and his real colors, then decide to go steady with him or not if he is really into you. If he really loves you he will not go away like birds. He will keep contact with you all the time. It is better way to protect yourself as well before you get known him better beforehand. Don't forget there are a lot of fish in the seaaaaaaaaa.... You still young, you deserve better if you are a kind girl.
Anything to make msn more fun??
ps- if this sounds lame to you, just dont comment. i just need some advice and finally thought asking strangers would be the best advice..Relationship Advice?!?
Long distance relationships are always tough but it's not impossible to make it work. However, you do need to plan for the future. Do you intend to move in with him or him with you? Or do you guys plan to get place together? I'm not sure how old you two are, but either way, I find it pretty pointless to drag on a relationship that has no future planned, so you might want to figure what you two are going to do for the future before deciding what to do about the distance thing. I'm sorry I'm not of more help to you, but no one knows you or this guy and only you two can figure it out for yourselves. What I said is only the first step to save you both some time and probably future problems down the road.Relationship Advice?!?
I wish you the best and that you will be happy in life.
Think positive and get to do nice things for to feel good.
Just take it easy and get known him better while you both in distance. Treat him as a common friend rather boyfriend stuff. As long as you know him, his personality and his family background and his real colors, then decide to go steady with him or not if he is really into you. If he really loves you he will not go away like birds. He will keep contact with you all the time. It is better way to protect yourself as well before you get known him better beforehand. Don't forget there are a lot of fish in the seaaaaaaaaa.... You still young, you deserve better if you are a kind girl.
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Me %26amp; my boyfriend have currently been dating for 4 yrs - I'm at a point in my life where I'm pretty much settled (graduated college, have a good job, got a car, and I live out on my own) my boyfriend on the other hand definitely needs to work on a few things...
Last year he had decided that we take a break so he could work on himself which I understood %26amp; supported his decision when I realized there was nothing I could do about it but then we ended up getting back together and a yr later there is still no change....
It's like he knows what he needs to do but just doesn't follow on it and I feel like I constantly have to get on him about things so things can change....
Is there something I can do or say to get him to do what he needs to do? He's told me he wants to be a better person for me but yet I'm just not seeing the changes since he never seems to have the determination and motivation to get things doneRelationship advice.....?
he's got to want to be a better person for HIMSELF, not you. thats the first step. and no matter what you say or do, he's got to WANT to first. if you cant accept him for who he is right now today, then maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship. good luck!
Last year he had decided that we take a break so he could work on himself which I understood %26amp; supported his decision when I realized there was nothing I could do about it but then we ended up getting back together and a yr later there is still no change....
It's like he knows what he needs to do but just doesn't follow on it and I feel like I constantly have to get on him about things so things can change....
Is there something I can do or say to get him to do what he needs to do? He's told me he wants to be a better person for me but yet I'm just not seeing the changes since he never seems to have the determination and motivation to get things doneRelationship advice.....?
he's got to want to be a better person for HIMSELF, not you. thats the first step. and no matter what you say or do, he's got to WANT to first. if you cant accept him for who he is right now today, then maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship. good luck!
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Me and my boyfriend had been together for a year, and just broke up 2 days ago. He's 20 and I'm 19, we are both in college and doing the right thing with our lives and we seemed so perfect together. I love him and care for him a lot and he feels the same. We have lots of fun together, but also like other couples we argue. We broke up because he felt like he wanted to go out and get more experience while he's still young and that he didn't want to deal with the stress of a relationship. He told me this b/c he felt himself getting curious and he didn't want to hurt me. This was a new experience for both of us except I've been and a lot more short term relationships before him, while he's only been with or 2 other ppl. Of course I'm still hurt and in the the beginning I tried talking him out of it but he pretty much stuck to his decision saying that he'll wind up hurting me. He keeps saying forget him I'll find better, but I know this comes from him thinking he's not good enough.
We even talked about getting married, named our future kids...we both seemed so sure of what we wanted and now this....We agreed to still be friends and he even invited me to come hang with him and his friends later this week (something we never got to do while we were together) I miss him a lot and think of him all day, and wish there was a way we could be together, but i'm all out of options but to except this new friendship :-/. I just don't understand how he could feel this way yet says he still loves me, and while knowing what a great person I am.
Is there anything more I can/could've done? Anything I should say? I just want our happy times back and I love him and want to be with him
SORRY THIS IS SO LONG, I HOPE SOMEONE HAS THE PATIENCE TO READ IT AND HELP ME OUT A LITTLE'Relationship' advice :-(?
To say the truth, relationships going through post secondary is stressful especially if you're both attending different institutions, the sense of loneliness comes in place, then trust issues with the new people you meet, especially if someone is interested in you which makes you change your mind about your relationship. I think that you guys have made a good decision in breaking up but don't burn any bridges, if it was meant to be then you two will be back together later on. You say your boyfriend fears he will hurt you, could it be because of the new girls that will come across his way? or does it involve him paying more attention to his studies?.
We even talked about getting married, named our future kids...we both seemed so sure of what we wanted and now this....We agreed to still be friends and he even invited me to come hang with him and his friends later this week (something we never got to do while we were together) I miss him a lot and think of him all day, and wish there was a way we could be together, but i'm all out of options but to except this new friendship :-/. I just don't understand how he could feel this way yet says he still loves me, and while knowing what a great person I am.
Is there anything more I can/could've done? Anything I should say? I just want our happy times back and I love him and want to be with him
SORRY THIS IS SO LONG, I HOPE SOMEONE HAS THE PATIENCE TO READ IT AND HELP ME OUT A LITTLE'Relationship' advice :-(?
To say the truth, relationships going through post secondary is stressful especially if you're both attending different institutions, the sense of loneliness comes in place, then trust issues with the new people you meet, especially if someone is interested in you which makes you change your mind about your relationship. I think that you guys have made a good decision in breaking up but don't burn any bridges, if it was meant to be then you two will be back together later on. You say your boyfriend fears he will hurt you, could it be because of the new girls that will come across his way? or does it involve him paying more attention to his studies?.
Relationship advice?
me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years i love her more than anything but i think she wants out of the relationship. i know she would never cheat on me because she knows id find out. but lately when we make arrangements to see each other she keeps changing the plans like this weekend we were supposed to meet on friday but she changed it to saturday then she changed it to today now she has changed it to tomorrow. were both jobless at the moment and thats putting alot of stress on me as i feel i cant provide for her. lately it just seems like she doesnt want to see me. i cant even remeber the last time we made love im 22 she is 21 this year i get so lonely and i miss her so much iv talked to her about it but all she does is apologise but when we do see each other its amasing. we cuddle alot we talk alot we spend all out time together just near each other. i dont want to loose her. please helpRelationship advice?
Basically all you need to do Is tell her what you've just told us.
Explain to her how you feel! Properly. Thats probably the best thing you can do.
to be honest. She needs to no that you want this relationship to work and you need to no if she is there meeting you half way. If she loves you she will understand.
Due to the lack of excitement in your relationship it has made you feel really insecure about the whole thing.
I think sometimes people mull over what could be happening in their other partners mind that they actually think of the worst.
Try to relax a little, Ino the feeling wen a partner turns you down for a day out. that dissopointing feeling is the worst. But you've got to remember that she could be genuinley busy.
You need to sit her down and ask her straight wat does she want. Because your never going to no if you don't ask. But some tip of advice. a woman doesnt like it wen all the blame is set on her. So try and be easy on her, because you dont want an upset girlfriend and her thinking that it's all her fault. Just be a bit considerate and think things out properly. if you get wat i mean
Good luckRelationship advice?
i think you should get a job and prove her that its good to hang out with you. try inviting her somewhere. and ask the day you ask if she's gonna cancel. if she's canceling every single week, maybe she has a family problem and she's too uncomfortable to tell you. if she's dropping you hints that she wants to break up, well then... talk to her. its better to talk... than stay silent and not know whats goin on. Hope this helps.... :)
Well its very obvious that you care alot about your girlfriend....but you need to really talk it out...and if she tries to apologise...tell her not to...and just tell her to be honest with you because you wanna make it work...an do something nice...cook a nice meal for you both...or something...then talk it through...and you never know what might happen after...(if you get my drift) haha.....but at all times...follow your heart!
well i wish you all the luck in the world! =)
Dont stress it so much. Find a steady job to keep you busy. Stressing about it will only make it harder for you. Do you think the relationship has run its course? You should discuss this with your significant other. Tell her that you love her and that you are worried of losing her. Spark the romance. Do little things for her. Do romantic things. I say GOOD LUCK to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Have a break, Its good for a relationship, if you don't see each other for a few days. And if she cares for you, she will come back to you with open arms. If she doesnt let her go.You can't make her do anything she doesn't want to. Hope it works out.
i think you two should get a job... and its not that she doesnt want to be with u.. i think u guys both being jobless puts a lot of stress on you two and her... or if anything. tell her to get her *** out of the couch and get a job. haha ok hope that helps byee =)lipstick parties
Basically all you need to do Is tell her what you've just told us.
Explain to her how you feel! Properly. Thats probably the best thing you can do.
to be honest. She needs to no that you want this relationship to work and you need to no if she is there meeting you half way. If she loves you she will understand.
Due to the lack of excitement in your relationship it has made you feel really insecure about the whole thing.
I think sometimes people mull over what could be happening in their other partners mind that they actually think of the worst.
Try to relax a little, Ino the feeling wen a partner turns you down for a day out. that dissopointing feeling is the worst. But you've got to remember that she could be genuinley busy.
You need to sit her down and ask her straight wat does she want. Because your never going to no if you don't ask. But some tip of advice. a woman doesnt like it wen all the blame is set on her. So try and be easy on her, because you dont want an upset girlfriend and her thinking that it's all her fault. Just be a bit considerate and think things out properly. if you get wat i mean
Good luckRelationship advice?
i think you should get a job and prove her that its good to hang out with you. try inviting her somewhere. and ask the day you ask if she's gonna cancel. if she's canceling every single week, maybe she has a family problem and she's too uncomfortable to tell you. if she's dropping you hints that she wants to break up, well then... talk to her. its better to talk... than stay silent and not know whats goin on. Hope this helps.... :)
Well its very obvious that you care alot about your girlfriend....but you need to really talk it out...and if she tries to apologise...tell her not to...and just tell her to be honest with you because you wanna make it work...an do something nice...cook a nice meal for you both...or something...then talk it through...and you never know what might happen after...(if you get my drift) haha.....but at all times...follow your heart!
well i wish you all the luck in the world! =)
Dont stress it so much. Find a steady job to keep you busy. Stressing about it will only make it harder for you. Do you think the relationship has run its course? You should discuss this with your significant other. Tell her that you love her and that you are worried of losing her. Spark the romance. Do little things for her. Do romantic things. I say GOOD LUCK to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Have a break, Its good for a relationship, if you don't see each other for a few days. And if she cares for you, she will come back to you with open arms. If she doesnt let her go.You can't make her do anything she doesn't want to. Hope it works out.
i think you two should get a job... and its not that she doesnt want to be with u.. i think u guys both being jobless puts a lot of stress on you two and her... or if anything. tell her to get her *** out of the couch and get a job. haha ok hope that helps byee =)
Relationship advice?
me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years i love her more than anything but i think she wants out of the relationship. i know she would never cheat on me because she knows id find out. but lately when we make arrangements to see each other she keeps changing the plans like this weekend we were supposed to meet on friday but she changed it to saturday then she changed it to today now she has changed it to tomorrow. were both jobless at the moment and thats putting alot of stress on me as i feel i cant provide for her. lately it just seems like she doesnt want to see me. i cant even remeber the last time we made love im 22 she is 21 this year i get so lonely and i miss her so much iv talked to her about it but all she does is apologise but when we do see each other its amasing. we cuddle alot we talk alot we spend all out time together just near each other. i dont want to loose her. please helpRelationship advice?
Go into detail about how you're hurting. Ask her what's wrong. And when she answers, let her answer. Do not interrupt. If it still sounds as though she wants out. Ask if there's something you can do. If she still wants to leave, then let her. You can't make it work if she doesn't want it to. It takes two to have a successful relationship and if one isn't for it, then it won't work. Just give it some time. Become friends with her and let her know you'll always be there. Hope this helps. :0)
Please answer my dilemma:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/;_ylc=鈥?/a>Relationship advice?
Ask her what is going on with her...
and find out why exactly she is changing her plans with you.
Is she looking for a job? Maybe wanting to spend sometime with friends.
If she wanted out, she would find a way out.
Maybe by doing things to get you to break up with her.
Starting dumb arguments.. is a big one.
Don't worry too much.
Just talk to her and see what's up.
aww...you 2 seem sooo in luurrve. Its cute. Its prob not having a job getting to her or erm...is she tired of the relationship not moving forward? maybe you should commit to her...i fits the right time. dunno. she prob wanting more. talk to her. tell her she needs to tell you if anything is bothering her. ask her if anything is up. ask her if she is happy. talk it through throughly.
ok it sounds like she loves u very much but is scared of hurting you. she feels that shes letting u down cuz she doesn't want to get married and have kids so the more she stays away from u the less she will be hurting u. but when u see each other she's showing you what her heart really feels. its that classic ';do u listen to your heart or your head?';. She is blaming herself cuz she feels she is hurting u. hope that helps
she doesnt ever want to get married.. to anyone... ? how was her child life like.. because if it wasnt so good this may be the cause... talk to her more about it and when she says simple answers like im sorry or its nothing.. DONT BELEIVE IT! girls are Way more complex then that.. when we say everythings ok and we are sorry..then its not ok.. we need to talk about it in circles untill some how you guys break threw to the real problem... because if you are happy when you see her .. and every things dandy.. then she turns around and is busy and cant or doesnt folow threw.. then either...
1. shes afraid...
2. she wants to get out . but when she sees you she knows she really doesnt..
3. shes just busy.. we are busy sometimes..
4. shes sending you a message ...
5. unknown ...
but the best thing to do is say : i dont knwo whats going on but i feel like there is somethink wrong.. and i dont understand why everythings great in person, but getting to the person part is so hard.. and if you really love her then ask her why she doesnt want to get married.. tell her you will never hurt her ever.. and then say if you want to break up we can but its your call because i love you more then life and i want to be with you till the sun is blue.. or something lol.. ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years.. ive had moments like this.. but we always make it threw and its always worth it ..! good luck!
Go into detail about how you're hurting. Ask her what's wrong. And when she answers, let her answer. Do not interrupt. If it still sounds as though she wants out. Ask if there's something you can do. If she still wants to leave, then let her. You can't make it work if she doesn't want it to. It takes two to have a successful relationship and if one isn't for it, then it won't work. Just give it some time. Become friends with her and let her know you'll always be there. Hope this helps. :0)
Please answer my dilemma:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/;_ylc=鈥?/a>Relationship advice?
Ask her what is going on with her...
and find out why exactly she is changing her plans with you.
Is she looking for a job? Maybe wanting to spend sometime with friends.
If she wanted out, she would find a way out.
Maybe by doing things to get you to break up with her.
Starting dumb arguments.. is a big one.
Don't worry too much.
Just talk to her and see what's up.
aww...you 2 seem sooo in luurrve. Its cute. Its prob not having a job getting to her or erm...is she tired of the relationship not moving forward? maybe you should commit to her...i fits the right time. dunno. she prob wanting more. talk to her. tell her she needs to tell you if anything is bothering her. ask her if anything is up. ask her if she is happy. talk it through throughly.
ok it sounds like she loves u very much but is scared of hurting you. she feels that shes letting u down cuz she doesn't want to get married and have kids so the more she stays away from u the less she will be hurting u. but when u see each other she's showing you what her heart really feels. its that classic ';do u listen to your heart or your head?';. She is blaming herself cuz she feels she is hurting u. hope that helps
she doesnt ever want to get married.. to anyone... ? how was her child life like.. because if it wasnt so good this may be the cause... talk to her more about it and when she says simple answers like im sorry or its nothing.. DONT BELEIVE IT! girls are Way more complex then that.. when we say everythings ok and we are sorry..then its not ok.. we need to talk about it in circles untill some how you guys break threw to the real problem... because if you are happy when you see her .. and every things dandy.. then she turns around and is busy and cant or doesnt folow threw.. then either...
1. shes afraid...
2. she wants to get out . but when she sees you she knows she really doesnt..
3. shes just busy.. we are busy sometimes..
4. shes sending you a message ...
5. unknown ...
but the best thing to do is say : i dont knwo whats going on but i feel like there is somethink wrong.. and i dont understand why everythings great in person, but getting to the person part is so hard.. and if you really love her then ask her why she doesnt want to get married.. tell her you will never hurt her ever.. and then say if you want to break up we can but its your call because i love you more then life and i want to be with you till the sun is blue.. or something lol.. ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years.. ive had moments like this.. but we always make it threw and its always worth it ..! good luck!
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I started dating my BF 9 months ago. About 2 months ago I left the state we both lived in to go do a 10 month residential volunteer program. We decided we wanted to stay together (breaking up wasn't even an option in his opinion). Since being in the program I realized that while he truely is a WONDERFUL person, our lives are going in completely different directions. We both want different things out of our lives. He doesn't know that I feel this way. On top of it he says that I'm the only thing that keeps him going and the only thing that makes him happy. He doesn't have many friends at all and works a job he hates. I am his first serious girlfriend. He's been depressed lately. To top it all off I met a person whose company I really enjoy and whom I can see me working out with. What should I do? I don't hate or dislike my boyfriend. I think he's a wonderful person. I feel horrible. I';m going home for x-mas and he paid for my ticket and his family is buying me a present.Relationship Advice?
You have to do the only thing you can do. You've got to be honest with him, and you should do it in person. I'm in the military, and fully understand the effects of being away from the one I love for long periods of time. There was a point in her life where she felt she couldn't handle the distance... she was honest with me though. She went out on her own to figure things out, and got hurt in the process. Due to her being honest with me, I was able to forgive her, and understand she had to do what she had to do, to figure it out in her own mind. Now, I trust her more than ever.
You have to do the only thing you can do. You've got to be honest with him, and you should do it in person. I'm in the military, and fully understand the effects of being away from the one I love for long periods of time. There was a point in her life where she felt she couldn't handle the distance... she was honest with me though. She went out on her own to figure things out, and got hurt in the process. Due to her being honest with me, I was able to forgive her, and understand she had to do what she had to do, to figure it out in her own mind. Now, I trust her more than ever.
Relationship advice.?
Now, I'm the last person to be wanting advice, only but from my Psychiatrist. I want a simple woman out there to choose, not for me, but for a little push, in a relationship speed-bump. I would greatly appreciate it. Aside from my deep thoughts, I want simple for once.
A) a guy I knew since February of '09 in my 5 hour driving course, who can tell when I'm upset or content, who I feel the safest with, who has so much in common with me when it comes to blood and evil. We have sex every time we're together, and when I ask why he likes me, he answers ';You're cool.'; But when I ask him what his take is on a relationship with me, he answers, ';I don't want to rush into anything because all of my relationships have gone to **** in the past, and I don't want to have the same happen with you.';
B) a guy who I've known since May 17th, from MySpace, who can get inside of my head when I don't even want him to, who says he cares a lot about me, and knows how to treat a woman. He has a drinking, money and smoking problem that he's willing to change just for me. He lives 3 hours away, and is also willing to drop everything just to be with someone he barely knows. He's wonderful to me. But, he calls me every 10 minutes, always wanting to know if I'm hanging out with Guy A. I don't lie, so I tell them both what's going on.
Help? Please.?Relationship advice.?
A.
Sex in relationships always relieves stress.
Also he seems to understand you.Relationship advice.?
The best answer i can give you is to seek GOD first and when you let GOD position you for a mate it will be according to his word. If you just read the book of Ruth it will help alot. but remember when GOD has a hand in the plan when your mate finds you there is nothing you will have to compromise.
whoa, stay back from guy B!! he sounds so creepy. How can he act like this after knowing you on Myspace for only a couple of weeks?? Cut it off with him now!!
As for guy A.... well how can he say he doesn't want to rush anything if he already has you in the sack? sounds like a player to me..
I choose Guy C... as in, find someone else!
A you've known him longer.
Neither one. Guy A sounds like he is using you for sex. Sure you have some things in common, but he is using his past as an excuse not to commit. Hes probably been burned by women and doesnt trust them much as far as letting himself be totally free (emotionally as well as physically) with them.
Guy B? You have got to be kidding right? Youve known him for a couple of weeks and it sounds like hes already obsessed. You met him on the internet, how can you be sure that he is who he is? He could be married and just wants to cheat on his wife, or girlfriend. He could be even worse and be one of those predators online. Have you not seen on the news about that ';craigslist killer';?
don't go for the myspace dude. as soon as novelty wears off then he will probably go back to the drinking and smoking - and it might be too late to turn back. (if he has a problem with these sort of things there might be other stuff that could happen - think he could be cheating when out drinking and you will be oblivious to it, sat at home 3hours away not knowing anyone in his town who would tell you) be careful with meeting over the internet as well. i'm guessing you havn't met him so you can't really tell if there's a physical attraction between you both. and 3hours away? come on girl, thats not practical. guy a sounds like a charmer but seriously, if he's ready for sex he should be ready for a relationship. you never know who else he could be doing this to, you know? yes sex is great but it should enhance a relationship, not make it. i'd tell him how you feel. say you love spending time with him but don't understand why a relationship can't happen, if you take it slow. be careful that you don't end up being the girl between relationships, if you know what i mean. he sounds like he likes you, but if he likes you enough he should be jumping at the chance to make you his, as i'm sure most other guys would. most people say they aren't ready for relationships, but would happily go into one if miss perfect came along. if he doesn't respond well then i'd seriously get back out there and look for someone else. and a bit of advice with guy b - words don't always say what they mean. he may say he knows how to treat a woman but does he? and getting inside your head when you don't want him to - that just sounds a little creepy. i hope it all goes well for you anyways. im having a relationship trauma of my own atm :/ good luck!
A) a guy I knew since February of '09 in my 5 hour driving course, who can tell when I'm upset or content, who I feel the safest with, who has so much in common with me when it comes to blood and evil. We have sex every time we're together, and when I ask why he likes me, he answers ';You're cool.'; But when I ask him what his take is on a relationship with me, he answers, ';I don't want to rush into anything because all of my relationships have gone to **** in the past, and I don't want to have the same happen with you.';
B) a guy who I've known since May 17th, from MySpace, who can get inside of my head when I don't even want him to, who says he cares a lot about me, and knows how to treat a woman. He has a drinking, money and smoking problem that he's willing to change just for me. He lives 3 hours away, and is also willing to drop everything just to be with someone he barely knows. He's wonderful to me. But, he calls me every 10 minutes, always wanting to know if I'm hanging out with Guy A. I don't lie, so I tell them both what's going on.
Help? Please.?Relationship advice.?
A.
Sex in relationships always relieves stress.
Also he seems to understand you.Relationship advice.?
The best answer i can give you is to seek GOD first and when you let GOD position you for a mate it will be according to his word. If you just read the book of Ruth it will help alot. but remember when GOD has a hand in the plan when your mate finds you there is nothing you will have to compromise.
whoa, stay back from guy B!! he sounds so creepy. How can he act like this after knowing you on Myspace for only a couple of weeks?? Cut it off with him now!!
As for guy A.... well how can he say he doesn't want to rush anything if he already has you in the sack? sounds like a player to me..
I choose Guy C... as in, find someone else!
A you've known him longer.
Neither one. Guy A sounds like he is using you for sex. Sure you have some things in common, but he is using his past as an excuse not to commit. Hes probably been burned by women and doesnt trust them much as far as letting himself be totally free (emotionally as well as physically) with them.
Guy B? You have got to be kidding right? Youve known him for a couple of weeks and it sounds like hes already obsessed. You met him on the internet, how can you be sure that he is who he is? He could be married and just wants to cheat on his wife, or girlfriend. He could be even worse and be one of those predators online. Have you not seen on the news about that ';craigslist killer';?
don't go for the myspace dude. as soon as novelty wears off then he will probably go back to the drinking and smoking - and it might be too late to turn back. (if he has a problem with these sort of things there might be other stuff that could happen - think he could be cheating when out drinking and you will be oblivious to it, sat at home 3hours away not knowing anyone in his town who would tell you) be careful with meeting over the internet as well. i'm guessing you havn't met him so you can't really tell if there's a physical attraction between you both. and 3hours away? come on girl, thats not practical. guy a sounds like a charmer but seriously, if he's ready for sex he should be ready for a relationship. you never know who else he could be doing this to, you know? yes sex is great but it should enhance a relationship, not make it. i'd tell him how you feel. say you love spending time with him but don't understand why a relationship can't happen, if you take it slow. be careful that you don't end up being the girl between relationships, if you know what i mean. he sounds like he likes you, but if he likes you enough he should be jumping at the chance to make you his, as i'm sure most other guys would. most people say they aren't ready for relationships, but would happily go into one if miss perfect came along. if he doesn't respond well then i'd seriously get back out there and look for someone else. and a bit of advice with guy b - words don't always say what they mean. he may say he knows how to treat a woman but does he? and getting inside your head when you don't want him to - that just sounds a little creepy. i hope it all goes well for you anyways. im having a relationship trauma of my own atm :/ good luck!
Relationship advice!?
Ok, so this is a very personal, and perhaps somewhat too blunt or graphic thing to share with random people, but at the same time I really feel I need an objective opinion on it – by people who doesn’t know me or the other person involved.
Ok, so here goes.
I’ve been seeing a guy (i.e, going on dates and sleeping with) for just under a year now. We lived together with a few friends and didn’t know each other well at first, but then really quickly we got really close, and soon after that we progressed into being (I hate this term!!) “**** buddies.”
We hung out all the time, and basically became best friends.
Now, we’re still not in an exact relationship- as now we are doing the long-distance thing- but we are still together, still exclusive and we both really like each other.
The problem is, I’m really worried about it and our future.
I adore him, he makes me laugh so much and we are so close. But recently- i.e. for the last few months, I haven’t really fancied him. I mean, I appreciate hugs and kisses and things, but I end up feeling like it’s a chore to do anything more and the sex- which although fun- has never exactly been satisfying to me, and I never really want him anymore.
I like him so much and I don’t want to lose him, but I don’t want to keep feeling like this!
He has told me that he loves me, he wants me to move in with him when I graduate and he talks about our future a lot. He tells me he’d be lost without me.
I don’t know what to do; I would stay with him if I still fancied him and was sexually satisfied. But from my point of view these are things that need to be good and intact for a long term relationship-especially for marriage! Also, it scares me that he loves me, and yet I know I don’t love him. And if I don’t now, will I ever?
Also, I have talked to him very openly about our sex life and desires, and he is very willing to try new things and listen to me, but still nothing ever makes me orgasm. It’s very frustrating for me, and I have taken to faking it because I don’t want to hurt his feelings!
Help me please, basically!!Relationship advice!?
You are going to have to be really honest with him for both your sakes.
If you think the sex is never going to be satisfying for you it would be better to put a stop to it as soon as you can. Otherwise you're just doing him a favour every time and that can be patronising. Also you should not be faking. If you were really interested in him you would be coaching him in how to please you.
You say you adore him but you don't love him. You are not ';in love'; with him but it sounds like he could be with you so you have to be truthful.
You may risk losing him but be sure if he continues seeing you as a friend he is not expecting you to change your mind.
Ok, so here goes.
I’ve been seeing a guy (i.e, going on dates and sleeping with) for just under a year now. We lived together with a few friends and didn’t know each other well at first, but then really quickly we got really close, and soon after that we progressed into being (I hate this term!!) “**** buddies.”
We hung out all the time, and basically became best friends.
Now, we’re still not in an exact relationship- as now we are doing the long-distance thing- but we are still together, still exclusive and we both really like each other.
The problem is, I’m really worried about it and our future.
I adore him, he makes me laugh so much and we are so close. But recently- i.e. for the last few months, I haven’t really fancied him. I mean, I appreciate hugs and kisses and things, but I end up feeling like it’s a chore to do anything more and the sex- which although fun- has never exactly been satisfying to me, and I never really want him anymore.
I like him so much and I don’t want to lose him, but I don’t want to keep feeling like this!
He has told me that he loves me, he wants me to move in with him when I graduate and he talks about our future a lot. He tells me he’d be lost without me.
I don’t know what to do; I would stay with him if I still fancied him and was sexually satisfied. But from my point of view these are things that need to be good and intact for a long term relationship-especially for marriage! Also, it scares me that he loves me, and yet I know I don’t love him. And if I don’t now, will I ever?
Also, I have talked to him very openly about our sex life and desires, and he is very willing to try new things and listen to me, but still nothing ever makes me orgasm. It’s very frustrating for me, and I have taken to faking it because I don’t want to hurt his feelings!
Help me please, basically!!Relationship advice!?
You are going to have to be really honest with him for both your sakes.
If you think the sex is never going to be satisfying for you it would be better to put a stop to it as soon as you can. Otherwise you're just doing him a favour every time and that can be patronising. Also you should not be faking. If you were really interested in him you would be coaching him in how to please you.
You say you adore him but you don't love him. You are not ';in love'; with him but it sounds like he could be with you so you have to be truthful.
You may risk losing him but be sure if he continues seeing you as a friend he is not expecting you to change your mind.
Relationship Advice?
Okay, My ex ask me back out today, i do like him but theres just one thing. im in love with this other guy, and he loves me,
but distance is the one thing and olny think keeping us from eachother, he's not really far from me, but so far were we both know it would be to emotional to have a relationship,
i don't know if i should keep waiting for him, or go back with my ex. im alot more confused than what i should be.
but if you could give me some advice that i can understand, then that'd be great.
:)
thanks.Relationship Advice?
Hey this must be hard on you if you think that getting with the new guy could be too emotional then try to wait it out and clear your mind and don't go back out with your ex -there has to be a reason he is your ex in the first place right? So just stay single for a while and see what will happen next you might like it better then going with one or anotherRelationship Advice?
If you're in love with this other guy then I think u should wait for him because if you do end up dating your ex and the other guy pops up then your ex will be the one left hurt and if you find that you really really have strong feelings for your ex you might end up even more confused when its time to choose so...
I'd wait even tho it seems hard.
my opinion is the terms on which you and your ex broke up on. if they were good, then give it a try if not dont. and if the distance is too far just do your own thing for a little while.
Well i remember back when Maude and me where tying the knot, and she always had her ex on the side. We were distant, and her ex lived nearby. He kept niggly-iggling at her until she decided to go for me. And since then we have been graciously-lovey-diddly-fine!
go for the other guy sweetheart. you'll be doing just fine.
but distance is the one thing and olny think keeping us from eachother, he's not really far from me, but so far were we both know it would be to emotional to have a relationship,
i don't know if i should keep waiting for him, or go back with my ex. im alot more confused than what i should be.
but if you could give me some advice that i can understand, then that'd be great.
:)
thanks.Relationship Advice?
Hey this must be hard on you if you think that getting with the new guy could be too emotional then try to wait it out and clear your mind and don't go back out with your ex -there has to be a reason he is your ex in the first place right? So just stay single for a while and see what will happen next you might like it better then going with one or anotherRelationship Advice?
If you're in love with this other guy then I think u should wait for him because if you do end up dating your ex and the other guy pops up then your ex will be the one left hurt and if you find that you really really have strong feelings for your ex you might end up even more confused when its time to choose so...
I'd wait even tho it seems hard.
my opinion is the terms on which you and your ex broke up on. if they were good, then give it a try if not dont. and if the distance is too far just do your own thing for a little while.
Well i remember back when Maude and me where tying the knot, and she always had her ex on the side. We were distant, and her ex lived nearby. He kept niggly-iggling at her until she decided to go for me. And since then we have been graciously-lovey-diddly-fine!
go for the other guy sweetheart. you'll be doing just fine.
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My girlfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years, she has helped me with the death of my parent and has always been there for me. Our relationship has been smooth for the most part.
Lately she has been stressed with school and life in general and she has let her negative thoughts impact our relationship. One night she will say she loves me then the next morning she hates me. I know she does not mean it but she can not realize how she is letting her stress take the better of her.
This week was hard for her since her dog was put down and stuff. So she said she needed space and wanted to be alone. She then went on about how it won't work and stuff. But when I talk to mutual friends she is planning on going out to bars with them, so I believe she is partially lying to me. I know she is going through a hard time and I am just trying to be supportive.
Do you think I should just give her some time to clear her mind (text her periodically, call just to see how she is) and then see how she feels, or does it sound as if she has intentions of breaking up with me but does not know what to do?
I wish she would just realize everything...
Thank you ahead of time!Relationship Advice!?
Yes give her some time and ur welcomeRelationship Advice!?
If she is stressed out at the moment, I would definitely follow her advice and give her space at the moment. Keep tabs on her and ask friends about her; she may be having a bit of a mental breakdown and just needs some time on her own.
I don't know how texting her or calling her would work... I mean, one guy broke up with me and then texted me about 10 minutes later asking how I was doing. Trust me that was not fun. I would give her tots of room right now, but after a while (week or so) you should probably email or text her just to see how she is.
If she grabs another boyfriend or hooks up during your time apart, I would assume she is not interested in your and I would just leave her be. But if you ask me, I think she is just stressed and needs a really big break from everything at the moment.
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I would give her some space and yes i would call to see how she is doing. Let her know that you are there for her and supportive in what it is that she needs. Just make sure that you find the balance of being there for her and still giving her the space she needs.
call her occasionally about once a day. dont call her over and over... giv her some time to clear her head up
is she blaming you
Your girlfriend is suffering. It seems to me that nothing in her life makes sense right now. Give her some space, but not too much. Respect her wishes when she wants to be alone, but if you leave her alone all the time, she'll think you don't care. Call her up when she would least expect it. Do something small but nice for her that shows her that you really care. Some ideas: one flower, a picture frame with a picture of the 2 of you, take her for coffee or a movie, hand-write her a letter telling her how much you love and support her, or just give her a hug. Give her time to work through her problems. Don't smother her with attention, but don't neglect her.
It sounds like shes trying to push you away without hurting your feelings and using the excuse of stresses at home to do this.... stop hurting yourself and read into things, if she loved you she would want to spend every minute with you so you could make her feel better, now shes going out to bars and stuff? Shes not worth it, maybe things have changed and its time to move on :(
Give her some space. She is confused and it is not really healthy for both of you. I am not sure how old both of you are but sounds like you are in your early 20s. There is so much in the world that you both need to see and experience. Give her some space and see how it goes.
i dont think that she is breaking up with you if she has had lots of stress but stuff like this are sort of hard to predict
Hmm. 2.5 yrs is quite a long time. Nothing else going on besides just being girlfriend/boyfriend? She is tired. She is tired of being stuck in the same thing for that length of time. I think she is looking for something different. How old are you two? You say she is still in school. I think you two need time to have a life and not be tied down to anyone. If it was meant to be then it will be. Give her time to live her life. We all tend to think that if it hurts us then it isn't good for us. Well through my many years of life, there is one thing that I have learned. Hurt is good. It helps us realize and remember what to do and what not to do. It helps us grow stronger and eventually we see the good that comes out of all this. The one thing that we all have to remember is that the only thing that we have control over in our lives is our self. No one else. That's who we need to take care of first. You can not keep someone that does not want to be kept. You can try your hardest to convince her to stay, but if she has already made up her mind, it is just going to hurt you worse. It sounds like she has issues and she needs time to straighten those issues out.
I think you should just completely ignore her right now. She shouldn't treat you like that, even if she is going through a hard time. Your just trying to be supportive, and if she doesn't appreciate you, that's her loss. Don't talk to her, wait for her to talk to you.
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I think that you two really need to sit down and have a grown-up talk about your relationship, 2.5 years is awhile and sounds like you are willing to communicate to save the relationship.
If she needs time that's fine but she can't just shut you out completely and keep you in the dark about her intentions if it is to cut you lose it's better to know up front than her leading you on any further.
Tell her that you want to support her and be there for her but you need to know that she is still whole heartedly for this relationship and not intending on breaking up and if she is then why?
She may just want some space and freedom to be with her friends, which is fine again if she's not shutting you out, it is healthy to have time with your own friends in a relationship you can't spend 24/7 together and it work out.
Key communication to save your relationship.
Good luck
All couples go through this phaze so DNT FEEL ALONE ive been with my guy 5 yrs i know lol
just text her and somthing like:
';hey i know youe been stresssed and everything just want oyu to know im here for oyu, i want to give you time to think so call me or text me when your ready';
that way your giving her her space and u know she can call u or text instead of U not knowing when u can
Alot of girls including myself get angry at the one they love just because its the only person they can get mad at. My advice is give her space. I think you are overloading her. Let her come to you when she is ready because obviously right now she needs time alone and to focus on her stuff.
It sounds like she may be having second thoughts about your relationship. Talk to her about it Then if nothing changes, let her be the one who contacts you , for a change then if nothing changes I might have to let go, and move on
i think time apart may help, for her to miss you and all that you do for her. if she doesn't cherish something like that, then NEXT her and find someone else.lipstick parties
Lately she has been stressed with school and life in general and she has let her negative thoughts impact our relationship. One night she will say she loves me then the next morning she hates me. I know she does not mean it but she can not realize how she is letting her stress take the better of her.
This week was hard for her since her dog was put down and stuff. So she said she needed space and wanted to be alone. She then went on about how it won't work and stuff. But when I talk to mutual friends she is planning on going out to bars with them, so I believe she is partially lying to me. I know she is going through a hard time and I am just trying to be supportive.
Do you think I should just give her some time to clear her mind (text her periodically, call just to see how she is) and then see how she feels, or does it sound as if she has intentions of breaking up with me but does not know what to do?
I wish she would just realize everything...
Thank you ahead of time!Relationship Advice!?
Yes give her some time and ur welcomeRelationship Advice!?
If she is stressed out at the moment, I would definitely follow her advice and give her space at the moment. Keep tabs on her and ask friends about her; she may be having a bit of a mental breakdown and just needs some time on her own.
I don't know how texting her or calling her would work... I mean, one guy broke up with me and then texted me about 10 minutes later asking how I was doing. Trust me that was not fun. I would give her tots of room right now, but after a while (week or so) you should probably email or text her just to see how she is.
If she grabs another boyfriend or hooks up during your time apart, I would assume she is not interested in your and I would just leave her be. But if you ask me, I think she is just stressed and needs a really big break from everything at the moment.
2 ppoints :)
I would give her some space and yes i would call to see how she is doing. Let her know that you are there for her and supportive in what it is that she needs. Just make sure that you find the balance of being there for her and still giving her the space she needs.
call her occasionally about once a day. dont call her over and over... giv her some time to clear her head up
is she blaming you
Your girlfriend is suffering. It seems to me that nothing in her life makes sense right now. Give her some space, but not too much. Respect her wishes when she wants to be alone, but if you leave her alone all the time, she'll think you don't care. Call her up when she would least expect it. Do something small but nice for her that shows her that you really care. Some ideas: one flower, a picture frame with a picture of the 2 of you, take her for coffee or a movie, hand-write her a letter telling her how much you love and support her, or just give her a hug. Give her time to work through her problems. Don't smother her with attention, but don't neglect her.
It sounds like shes trying to push you away without hurting your feelings and using the excuse of stresses at home to do this.... stop hurting yourself and read into things, if she loved you she would want to spend every minute with you so you could make her feel better, now shes going out to bars and stuff? Shes not worth it, maybe things have changed and its time to move on :(
Give her some space. She is confused and it is not really healthy for both of you. I am not sure how old both of you are but sounds like you are in your early 20s. There is so much in the world that you both need to see and experience. Give her some space and see how it goes.
i dont think that she is breaking up with you if she has had lots of stress but stuff like this are sort of hard to predict
Hmm. 2.5 yrs is quite a long time. Nothing else going on besides just being girlfriend/boyfriend? She is tired. She is tired of being stuck in the same thing for that length of time. I think she is looking for something different. How old are you two? You say she is still in school. I think you two need time to have a life and not be tied down to anyone. If it was meant to be then it will be. Give her time to live her life. We all tend to think that if it hurts us then it isn't good for us. Well through my many years of life, there is one thing that I have learned. Hurt is good. It helps us realize and remember what to do and what not to do. It helps us grow stronger and eventually we see the good that comes out of all this. The one thing that we all have to remember is that the only thing that we have control over in our lives is our self. No one else. That's who we need to take care of first. You can not keep someone that does not want to be kept. You can try your hardest to convince her to stay, but if she has already made up her mind, it is just going to hurt you worse. It sounds like she has issues and she needs time to straighten those issues out.
I think you should just completely ignore her right now. She shouldn't treat you like that, even if she is going through a hard time. Your just trying to be supportive, and if she doesn't appreciate you, that's her loss. Don't talk to her, wait for her to talk to you.
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I think that you two really need to sit down and have a grown-up talk about your relationship, 2.5 years is awhile and sounds like you are willing to communicate to save the relationship.
If she needs time that's fine but she can't just shut you out completely and keep you in the dark about her intentions if it is to cut you lose it's better to know up front than her leading you on any further.
Tell her that you want to support her and be there for her but you need to know that she is still whole heartedly for this relationship and not intending on breaking up and if she is then why?
She may just want some space and freedom to be with her friends, which is fine again if she's not shutting you out, it is healthy to have time with your own friends in a relationship you can't spend 24/7 together and it work out.
Key communication to save your relationship.
Good luck
All couples go through this phaze so DNT FEEL ALONE ive been with my guy 5 yrs i know lol
just text her and somthing like:
';hey i know youe been stresssed and everything just want oyu to know im here for oyu, i want to give you time to think so call me or text me when your ready';
that way your giving her her space and u know she can call u or text instead of U not knowing when u can
Alot of girls including myself get angry at the one they love just because its the only person they can get mad at. My advice is give her space. I think you are overloading her. Let her come to you when she is ready because obviously right now she needs time alone and to focus on her stuff.
It sounds like she may be having second thoughts about your relationship. Talk to her about it Then if nothing changes, let her be the one who contacts you , for a change then if nothing changes I might have to let go, and move on
i think time apart may help, for her to miss you and all that you do for her. if she doesn't cherish something like that, then NEXT her and find someone else.
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My girlfriend and I have been together for about 5 years. We're both 26. She's VERY ready for marriage, where as I'm not so ready. We actually broke up about a year ago (for a couple months) because she needed a concrete answer. We got back together a few months ago with the mutual understanding that I would make an effort to not only communicate more, but start making forward motions in our relationship.
I now communicate better by reasuring her that I do in fact want to get married to her, but I'm not quite ready. I've also moved forward by suggesting that we live together. In December we did just that and it's been going great. She just brought up the marriage topic again a couple days ago. I said that I feel like I have grown a lot over the last few months and I definatley feel more comfortable then I did before, but i'm just not ready for marriage right now.
To be blunt, it scares me. Not that being with her scares me, it's more the finality of the concept.Relationship advice...?
I don't think you should do anything you don't feel ready for because you usually end up regretting it in the end. I understand you guys have been dating for a very long time, and she probably feels pressured to be married herself. Well I mean you need to make moves as well because five years is a long time. In my opinion marriage doesn't define how much you care for someone. But that's just me. Well at least you are trying to come a mutual understanding with her. But it sounds to me like to you need to leave boyhood behind and tie the knots. As scary as it may seem it really isn't that bad. But I honestly think you should do what ever you feel is best for you. But you have to take into consideration that you might lose her in the process...
I heard stories of couples that waited to long to get married, and it usually was the girl that ended up leaving. But its really up to you. Your choice, your life, your decision.
Good luckRelationship advice...?
Hi, Ive been in my realationship for just over 3years now and all i go on about is getting married - we talk about it together where we'd like our honeymoon etc but i dont see it happening soon even though he says he will. I havn't told him to marry me ive told him i dont want him to ask me enless hes 100% certain!
I think most women dream of their big day for a while i know ive been thinking about it for a while now and if someone said right your gettin married in a few months i could easily plan it! lol!
It was definatly a good move living together and its good that its all going well, thats a step forward which is what she asked for, me and my partner have lived together for nearly 2 years but this doesn't mean you have to maek her wait that long lol!
I think most blokes get scared about marriage my boyfriend has a friend (who is one of the ppl likely to end up single for the rest of his life) and he makes jokes about getting married and oh you dont wanna do that your be stuck etc! Its a load of rubbish - getting married doesn't mean anythings final you have the rest of yours lives to look forward to together, being there for each other, getting a house togetehr, kids etc. Look at it more like you'll have all the ppl you love friends family all togetehr for one day to show them how much you love each other and for them to be able to share that.
I really hope this helps and be honest with her about how you feel so she doesnt think its her you dont want to marry, tell her your scared and also not to push you - she wouldnt want you to marry her because you though thats what she wanted she will want you to want it to!
Good luck for the future!
Well that's a lot of bullsh** coming from your end. I would be pissed if I were her she's wasting her time with you. What's so scary about that piece of paper? Gee, your already pretending to be married by doing and living like a married couple so just go through with it. All your doing now is hurting her and causing problems when there doesn't seem to be the need for any. Marriage is not scary, your looking way to deep into it. But stop stringing her along for your ride, it's just not fair if you really love her.
I was in her position @ age 22. (27 now) I've been through a marriage and divorce. So bugging the crap out of my ex to marry me was not such a hot idea. I felt he needed to marry me because I needed proof of his love for me. I needed to know that he loved me THAT much. Enough to want to be with me forever. My Dad and Step-Mom Just got married after a ten year engagement. And believe it or not. They still don't actually live together yet. (he's still remodeling his house) So my point is, don't rush something that will last forever. Tell her that. ';I don't need a wedding ring to know that I will love you for the rest of my life.'; Thats not an excuse to NEVER marry her. But if you REALLY want to be with her till you die or she does, then you need to mentally prepare for the ';I do.'; To happen at some point. Also keep in mind that if you want children, it gets physically more difficult after 30 and older. Just stuff to think about.
if you are not ready that is ok but the thing is she mite break up with you and find a guy who is ready so you better change the answer soon
I totally understand where you are coming from. However marriage is not the finite step it was a couple of generations ago, thanks to the wonders of divorce lawyers !!
I think you need to explain to her your feelings and understand why she is so keen to get married - does she want kids for example but feel that you should be married before they come along. If you feel compatable in every other way, you may find you come to the point where you might have to marry her to stop losing her, tell yourself if things go wrong though you aren't stuck like that forever. If you have more cash than her though get a pre-nup (!).
Chances are you probably will be happy together as you seem to love her. Good luck !
I now communicate better by reasuring her that I do in fact want to get married to her, but I'm not quite ready. I've also moved forward by suggesting that we live together. In December we did just that and it's been going great. She just brought up the marriage topic again a couple days ago. I said that I feel like I have grown a lot over the last few months and I definatley feel more comfortable then I did before, but i'm just not ready for marriage right now.
To be blunt, it scares me. Not that being with her scares me, it's more the finality of the concept.Relationship advice...?
I don't think you should do anything you don't feel ready for because you usually end up regretting it in the end. I understand you guys have been dating for a very long time, and she probably feels pressured to be married herself. Well I mean you need to make moves as well because five years is a long time. In my opinion marriage doesn't define how much you care for someone. But that's just me. Well at least you are trying to come a mutual understanding with her. But it sounds to me like to you need to leave boyhood behind and tie the knots. As scary as it may seem it really isn't that bad. But I honestly think you should do what ever you feel is best for you. But you have to take into consideration that you might lose her in the process...
I heard stories of couples that waited to long to get married, and it usually was the girl that ended up leaving. But its really up to you. Your choice, your life, your decision.
Good luckRelationship advice...?
Hi, Ive been in my realationship for just over 3years now and all i go on about is getting married - we talk about it together where we'd like our honeymoon etc but i dont see it happening soon even though he says he will. I havn't told him to marry me ive told him i dont want him to ask me enless hes 100% certain!
I think most women dream of their big day for a while i know ive been thinking about it for a while now and if someone said right your gettin married in a few months i could easily plan it! lol!
It was definatly a good move living together and its good that its all going well, thats a step forward which is what she asked for, me and my partner have lived together for nearly 2 years but this doesn't mean you have to maek her wait that long lol!
I think most blokes get scared about marriage my boyfriend has a friend (who is one of the ppl likely to end up single for the rest of his life) and he makes jokes about getting married and oh you dont wanna do that your be stuck etc! Its a load of rubbish - getting married doesn't mean anythings final you have the rest of yours lives to look forward to together, being there for each other, getting a house togetehr, kids etc. Look at it more like you'll have all the ppl you love friends family all togetehr for one day to show them how much you love each other and for them to be able to share that.
I really hope this helps and be honest with her about how you feel so she doesnt think its her you dont want to marry, tell her your scared and also not to push you - she wouldnt want you to marry her because you though thats what she wanted she will want you to want it to!
Good luck for the future!
Well that's a lot of bullsh** coming from your end. I would be pissed if I were her she's wasting her time with you. What's so scary about that piece of paper? Gee, your already pretending to be married by doing and living like a married couple so just go through with it. All your doing now is hurting her and causing problems when there doesn't seem to be the need for any. Marriage is not scary, your looking way to deep into it. But stop stringing her along for your ride, it's just not fair if you really love her.
I was in her position @ age 22. (27 now) I've been through a marriage and divorce. So bugging the crap out of my ex to marry me was not such a hot idea. I felt he needed to marry me because I needed proof of his love for me. I needed to know that he loved me THAT much. Enough to want to be with me forever. My Dad and Step-Mom Just got married after a ten year engagement. And believe it or not. They still don't actually live together yet. (he's still remodeling his house) So my point is, don't rush something that will last forever. Tell her that. ';I don't need a wedding ring to know that I will love you for the rest of my life.'; Thats not an excuse to NEVER marry her. But if you REALLY want to be with her till you die or she does, then you need to mentally prepare for the ';I do.'; To happen at some point. Also keep in mind that if you want children, it gets physically more difficult after 30 and older. Just stuff to think about.
if you are not ready that is ok but the thing is she mite break up with you and find a guy who is ready so you better change the answer soon
I totally understand where you are coming from. However marriage is not the finite step it was a couple of generations ago, thanks to the wonders of divorce lawyers !!
I think you need to explain to her your feelings and understand why she is so keen to get married - does she want kids for example but feel that you should be married before they come along. If you feel compatable in every other way, you may find you come to the point where you might have to marry her to stop losing her, tell yourself if things go wrong though you aren't stuck like that forever. If you have more cash than her though get a pre-nup (!).
Chances are you probably will be happy together as you seem to love her. Good luck !
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My ex and I broke up a few months ago but since then we've hung out a lot and still love each other very much.
We just can't be together right now because of timing...I'm still in school and he's working so we can't see each other as much as we'd like and are going to try when I move down closer to him since I got a job near him.
But for the time being, I can't help but wonder what's he doing when he's out. He has promised to not do anything with any other girls which I believe b/c he has never cheated on me but it doesn't mean he isn't meeting new girls.
Should I be ok with him meeting new girls? I noticed that a girl sent him a text message the other day so I know there have been other girls...
We care about each other a lot and I want to try. Should I be ok with him meeting and talking to other girls? I mean, I have been talking to guys too but I just wonder what I should do..Relationship Advice...?
If you broke up, then he should be free to see other girls if that is what he wants. As long as you two don't have a committed relationship, he can do what he wants.
And while he may decide to be a ';nice guy'; and wait for you, temptation is a lot easier when he knows deep down that you have no commitment.
You shouldn't hold it against him, and you should feel free to look. If you can't handle it, either get back together, or be ready for some heartbreak. Even in today's world, long distance relationships rarely work.Relationship Advice...?
let him see other girls.
U two aren't together so u can't get upset if he meets with other girls as he is not cheating on. If u can talk to other guys then he can talk to other girls. can't be good for u but not for him. Be fair.
We just can't be together right now because of timing...I'm still in school and he's working so we can't see each other as much as we'd like and are going to try when I move down closer to him since I got a job near him.
But for the time being, I can't help but wonder what's he doing when he's out. He has promised to not do anything with any other girls which I believe b/c he has never cheated on me but it doesn't mean he isn't meeting new girls.
Should I be ok with him meeting new girls? I noticed that a girl sent him a text message the other day so I know there have been other girls...
We care about each other a lot and I want to try. Should I be ok with him meeting and talking to other girls? I mean, I have been talking to guys too but I just wonder what I should do..Relationship Advice...?
If you broke up, then he should be free to see other girls if that is what he wants. As long as you two don't have a committed relationship, he can do what he wants.
And while he may decide to be a ';nice guy'; and wait for you, temptation is a lot easier when he knows deep down that you have no commitment.
You shouldn't hold it against him, and you should feel free to look. If you can't handle it, either get back together, or be ready for some heartbreak. Even in today's world, long distance relationships rarely work.Relationship Advice...?
let him see other girls.
U two aren't together so u can't get upset if he meets with other girls as he is not cheating on. If u can talk to other guys then he can talk to other girls. can't be good for u but not for him. Be fair.
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Ive been with my bf for almost 8 months now and things are going well apart from a few little things. He never seems to kiss me when we are out (im not wanting a full on snog im asking for a peck on the cheek). I kiss him and hes fine with it but he never seems to make the first move to kiss me. I asked him about it and he said ';im not a big kissing person i prefer to hold your hand or put my arm aroung you';. And he doesnt seem to kiss very much when we are alone either, i asked him about that also and he said ';im just not the type of person who needs to be all over someone';. He wasnt saying that i was but i dont understand. Doesnt he want to kiss me? I ask him and he just gives me these confusing answers like i put above. What does it mean? Please help me. I feel like he doesnt love me? I thought all guys would love to make out most of the time? What do you think? (were both 21)
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It hurts to think he doesnt love me anymore, or that he never actually has!Relationship Advice?
jus because he dont wanna kiss you doesn't mean he don tlove u, somepeople jus dont trust people 4 instance, i would nt kiss my boyfriend because i dont kno wat he doe, sexually r wat he have doneRelationship Advice?
holy cow!
settle down girl....he probably does love you ...
guys don't wanna make out all the time...
you might be a bad kisser though...
Well , I understand well why you worried. Most guys will want to make out even before they know your name.
But well maybe he has some different believes about kissing. No one can tell whether he's loving you or not through this act. Try to find out more about it, but in the mean time, don't push him into it. You don't have to force him to kiss you. You can try to initiate kisses with him. Slowly.. like a peck on the face, or maybe even lips. See how he responds before u get to the conclusion.
Kissing is just a part of relationship, not all. Don't be too hard on yourself or your bf bout it. All the best.
Some people are just that way. You have a couple of choices here.
1. Love him for who he is. No nagging or anything, because that will eventually drive him away.
2. Break up and find someone who kisses all the time.
Understand, there are guys who kiss their women all the time, but cheat on their women as well. So just because someone kisses their woman a lot doesn't mean they love their woman.
I think your boyfriend was very clear on why he doesn't kiss a whole lot. He said he's not that way. There's nothing confusing about it at all. I think you probably just don't like the fact that he's not much of a kisser.
And no, most guys aren't overly sexed. They do like to do other things besides make out. Making out isn't a sign of love, anyway. Many guys who make out with their woman also make out with other women.
Could be your boyfriend wants to wait until he's married for that, and if so, he should be commended. Maybe it's time to start talking about marriage.
i dont necessarily think he doesnt love you anymore. it sounds more like, maybe the touching, kissing and cuddling isnt something he is used to. you are maybe not an overly affectionate person, and he isnt used to what you are used to. i think when you guys are alone that you should tell him you know it makes me feel like you dont love me, how can we fix this? he is probably just nervous and doesnt know what the right answer to give is.
That's not true. Not all guys like to make out constantly with the person they're with. I've dated several guys who were like that and after dating guys who did like to literally suck your face off while ';kissing'; me I realized that may be it wasn't so bad with guys who weren't into kissing that much. Listen what I'm trying to say is that believe it or not there are some guys out there who would rather enjoy the little things in a relationship rather than be liplocked all the time. These little things are what they seem to remember most such as holding you close, feeling your warmth and the beat of your heart lets him know just how lucky he is. Holding your hand knowing that you are there gives him a sense of security so to speak. Grant it a kiss is some thing desired, but to me there is just so much more to a relationship. So enjoy each kiss and every moment you to have together.
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It hurts to think he doesnt love me anymore, or that he never actually has!Relationship Advice?
jus because he dont wanna kiss you doesn't mean he don tlove u, somepeople jus dont trust people 4 instance, i would nt kiss my boyfriend because i dont kno wat he doe, sexually r wat he have doneRelationship Advice?
holy cow!
settle down girl....he probably does love you ...
guys don't wanna make out all the time...
you might be a bad kisser though...
Well , I understand well why you worried. Most guys will want to make out even before they know your name.
But well maybe he has some different believes about kissing. No one can tell whether he's loving you or not through this act. Try to find out more about it, but in the mean time, don't push him into it. You don't have to force him to kiss you. You can try to initiate kisses with him. Slowly.. like a peck on the face, or maybe even lips. See how he responds before u get to the conclusion.
Kissing is just a part of relationship, not all. Don't be too hard on yourself or your bf bout it. All the best.
Some people are just that way. You have a couple of choices here.
1. Love him for who he is. No nagging or anything, because that will eventually drive him away.
2. Break up and find someone who kisses all the time.
Understand, there are guys who kiss their women all the time, but cheat on their women as well. So just because someone kisses their woman a lot doesn't mean they love their woman.
I think your boyfriend was very clear on why he doesn't kiss a whole lot. He said he's not that way. There's nothing confusing about it at all. I think you probably just don't like the fact that he's not much of a kisser.
And no, most guys aren't overly sexed. They do like to do other things besides make out. Making out isn't a sign of love, anyway. Many guys who make out with their woman also make out with other women.
Could be your boyfriend wants to wait until he's married for that, and if so, he should be commended. Maybe it's time to start talking about marriage.
i dont necessarily think he doesnt love you anymore. it sounds more like, maybe the touching, kissing and cuddling isnt something he is used to. you are maybe not an overly affectionate person, and he isnt used to what you are used to. i think when you guys are alone that you should tell him you know it makes me feel like you dont love me, how can we fix this? he is probably just nervous and doesnt know what the right answer to give is.
That's not true. Not all guys like to make out constantly with the person they're with. I've dated several guys who were like that and after dating guys who did like to literally suck your face off while ';kissing'; me I realized that may be it wasn't so bad with guys who weren't into kissing that much. Listen what I'm trying to say is that believe it or not there are some guys out there who would rather enjoy the little things in a relationship rather than be liplocked all the time. These little things are what they seem to remember most such as holding you close, feeling your warmth and the beat of your heart lets him know just how lucky he is. Holding your hand knowing that you are there gives him a sense of security so to speak. Grant it a kiss is some thing desired, but to me there is just so much more to a relationship. So enjoy each kiss and every moment you to have together.
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