we started at begining of last school yr. Was wit each other almost every nite then after winter break she said she wsnt tlkin to anybody else but I knew she was. We still chilled alot...but she started goin home on the weekends..by spring she was goin out with him n Sh dnt tell me..I found out thru facebook lol...n I told her I dnt want to tlk to her anymore cause I dnt wat to interfer wit there relationship..but she dnt want that..she still wants to tlk to me and I let it happen..we not goin bac to the same school so idk why she wants to txt me n tlk to me????Relationship advice???what does this girl want from me?
she probably likes being your friend! it doesnt matter if your going to the same school or not. i have this guy friend that i met when i was 10 years old. we were close all through middle and high school. now im 18, have a baby, and married. he lives in California and i in Colorado and we still talk.
Friday, January 8, 2010
Relationship advice, please (Long details in question)?
This is a little bit of a long kinda story. I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18. So me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years in February. He have a 4 month old son together, which was not done on purpose but we love him more than anything anyway of course. To the point, in our relationship time we've broken up like 4 times but miss each other and always get back together. Last Nov 2nd, he cheated on me. Like all the way sex with some 15 year old little slut. When I was about 5-6 months pregnant we took a break and he made out with a 14 year old and doesn't seem to regret it. Also, he emailed another girl telling her he could prove his love for her, and when confronted about it by me he laughed at me and told me he still loved her and there wasn't anything he could do about it. While we've been dating he's hugged her in front of me and talked to her at her job. (She has her own baby by some guy and is skinnier and, well, not prettier than me in my opinion, lol.) I'm still convinced he is in love with her although they never dated and that's why he doesn't want to settle down with me. Every time we've broken up though he's cried and said how sorry he was and how much he still loves me? ITS CONFUSING?! We haven't broken up since I was pregnant but I live with him now and we're fighting about money issues because I have a steady job and he doesn't and I'm forced to pay for everything besides what my mom helps out with (some diapers and formula). So I pay the bills, gas for the car, the car payment, food, and whatever else. I try to encourage him to get a job but he refuses because he ';doesn't want someone telling him what to do';. Although we are engaged, he's not so eager to get married. He's hinted to me more than once that he's tired of me and everything else. He calls me stupid, fat, not worth his time, stupid a** b*tch, says I have no common sense, and other various things. Even after all this, I really do love him and I don't want our son to grow up without him because besides all this, he really is a great dad and I don't want to take our son away from him. So bottom line, i think he's in love with another girl but is only around for our son. I would feel pathetic crawling back home to my parents and proving my psycho dad right. (My dad hates my boyfriend). All i wanted in the end was a happy family, I doubt it's going to happen though. What should I do?! Any suggestions or advice is appreciated. :)Relationship advice, please (Long details in question)?
you have a child with him and he still claims to be in love with someone else, he serves no purpose to you he does nothing for you or your child, you should get rid of him someone who is deserving of you would come along. Relationship advice, please (Long details in question)?
Honey, he isnt cyring because he is going to miss you.. he's crying because you're the only thing that's keeping him from living on the streets or with his parents. Don't buy into his crap. It sounds to me like you deserve WAY better than him. Ive seen his type before.. he's probably cheating on you. You dont have to take your son away from him.. your son just wont live with him. But you deserve better.. Find a guy that deserves you. You will probably disregaurd everything that Ive said but please try not to. There are guys out there that are WAY better than him and they will treat you good.
it seems that he is cheating... i would say get child support.
You actually seem have a lot experience in a subject I have a lot of questions about.... rather than try and explain... here is the link to question I posted about it:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqqDOGYtcUQDi_UIXIZmbBzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081031194229AAWdOYH
He seems like a loser. Dump him and get that child support
Girl if you are taken care of everything that means you need to leave that loser. He don't know what he has. AIDS IS THE REAL KILLER. please be safe if he is cheating. Ask god to give you direction and the strength to leave this man if he don't love you. Pregnancy makes you emotional and sometimes you lose self esteem. I loved a man like that and had five kids with him. There is life after a broken heart. God mends broken hearts. You are beautiful. You are a child of God don't let a man steal your inner beauty. Sometimes Parents see what we don't. focus on god and your kids and you will find respect and then love in a real man.
It's as simple as this: The guy is a loser. It doesn't matter if he's your son's dad. And who can blame your dad for hating your boyfriend?
Get out of this guy's life. By having a baby you might have to settle for not being picky about who your future significant others are though.
I'm not sure it's fair to call your dad a psycho for hating your boyfriend; I'm a dad, and I hate your boyfriend too. I mean, some great dad your boyfriend is...a cheating bum with no job; what's not to like, huh?
First: Boot this guy out of your life quickly! He is a loser and will only drag you down further and further.
Second; Psycho dad or not, he has enough life experiences to have a good reason for his positions and if you think about it, your dad probably tried to warn you about this guy before you got pregnant. Dads are pretty good at seeing in another man things that women do not see. Try trusting your dads insight about another man and you could very well end up with the man of your dreams.
Third; If you have no sense, how come you have the job and pay the bills, pay for the car, the gas and the food? That shows me that you have a lot to offer a “good man.” Come on girl; think with your head; not with your crotch. Is this the kind of father that you want for your baby?
Your parents are now grandparents and very probably will help you if they can or at least mom will.
You might try something different with your dad. Say something like; “Daddy, I know you think I’m a fool for being with _____, and I know that I’ve made some bad choices but as Rush Limbaugh would tell you, it is what it is and now I have to live in the real world and care for my son and your grandson. Any advice?
If he is any kind of father, he’ll be your greatest strength while you improve your life.
If you need someone to talk to, email me. Lee
p.s. my daughter has done almost the exact same thing and she didn’t listen.
I'm sorry but.......I think you need to wake up and smell the coffee. This guy sounds like an asshole. Scratch that. He is an asshole. Why are you paying for everything and he's sitting on his lazy *** not contributing anything but unneeded stress to your life? Please get rid of this guy. I know he's the father of your child but he doesn't seem fit to be around your child. Just make sure he pays you some child support or something and get rid of his ***.
If you have to move home, then that's just what you have to do.
(jaw dropping).....sometimes you have to look out for the greatness upon you....and get off your high horse and get help from mom and dad it may seems as if everything your father says is... right but sometime we as teenagers has to listen and except our mistakes and make it right some how...besides the guy your with isn't worth the time or space being with this is unhealthy for you ....even though you love him and you probably think that you can't be without him some things are just better left with out the father ... I mean you said that he is a great guy ....';for the baby';...and he can still be apart of his life that's fine...but he needs to show more respect for the mother of his child so by owe means if crawling back to your parents is far better than being with someone who doesn't want anything to do with you will be just a better way of starting a new life and a healthy place until you do better so please take this in consideration...leave him alone and find someone better and worth your time as a matter of fact be single...there will come a time you will most definitely get over him in due time... hopes this helps...')
End it. It'll be painful, but he causes you more trouble than he's worth. Look at it this way: Would you rather your son grow up with a loving family of his mother and grandparents and his dad out of the picture, or grow up in a not-so-loving family with his mom and dad together but fighting all the time? Your boyfriend needs to start pulling his weight, getting a job and supporting his family. He doesn't sound very responsible.
you have a child with him and he still claims to be in love with someone else, he serves no purpose to you he does nothing for you or your child, you should get rid of him someone who is deserving of you would come along. Relationship advice, please (Long details in question)?
Honey, he isnt cyring because he is going to miss you.. he's crying because you're the only thing that's keeping him from living on the streets or with his parents. Don't buy into his crap. It sounds to me like you deserve WAY better than him. Ive seen his type before.. he's probably cheating on you. You dont have to take your son away from him.. your son just wont live with him. But you deserve better.. Find a guy that deserves you. You will probably disregaurd everything that Ive said but please try not to. There are guys out there that are WAY better than him and they will treat you good.
it seems that he is cheating... i would say get child support.
You actually seem have a lot experience in a subject I have a lot of questions about.... rather than try and explain... here is the link to question I posted about it:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqqDOGYtcUQDi_UIXIZmbBzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081031194229AAWdOYH
He seems like a loser. Dump him and get that child support
Girl if you are taken care of everything that means you need to leave that loser. He don't know what he has. AIDS IS THE REAL KILLER. please be safe if he is cheating. Ask god to give you direction and the strength to leave this man if he don't love you. Pregnancy makes you emotional and sometimes you lose self esteem. I loved a man like that and had five kids with him. There is life after a broken heart. God mends broken hearts. You are beautiful. You are a child of God don't let a man steal your inner beauty. Sometimes Parents see what we don't. focus on god and your kids and you will find respect and then love in a real man.
It's as simple as this: The guy is a loser. It doesn't matter if he's your son's dad. And who can blame your dad for hating your boyfriend?
Get out of this guy's life. By having a baby you might have to settle for not being picky about who your future significant others are though.
I'm not sure it's fair to call your dad a psycho for hating your boyfriend; I'm a dad, and I hate your boyfriend too. I mean, some great dad your boyfriend is...a cheating bum with no job; what's not to like, huh?
First: Boot this guy out of your life quickly! He is a loser and will only drag you down further and further.
Second; Psycho dad or not, he has enough life experiences to have a good reason for his positions and if you think about it, your dad probably tried to warn you about this guy before you got pregnant. Dads are pretty good at seeing in another man things that women do not see. Try trusting your dads insight about another man and you could very well end up with the man of your dreams.
Third; If you have no sense, how come you have the job and pay the bills, pay for the car, the gas and the food? That shows me that you have a lot to offer a “good man.” Come on girl; think with your head; not with your crotch. Is this the kind of father that you want for your baby?
Your parents are now grandparents and very probably will help you if they can or at least mom will.
You might try something different with your dad. Say something like; “Daddy, I know you think I’m a fool for being with _____, and I know that I’ve made some bad choices but as Rush Limbaugh would tell you, it is what it is and now I have to live in the real world and care for my son and your grandson. Any advice?
If he is any kind of father, he’ll be your greatest strength while you improve your life.
If you need someone to talk to, email me. Lee
p.s. my daughter has done almost the exact same thing and she didn’t listen.
I'm sorry but.......I think you need to wake up and smell the coffee. This guy sounds like an asshole. Scratch that. He is an asshole. Why are you paying for everything and he's sitting on his lazy *** not contributing anything but unneeded stress to your life? Please get rid of this guy. I know he's the father of your child but he doesn't seem fit to be around your child. Just make sure he pays you some child support or something and get rid of his ***.
If you have to move home, then that's just what you have to do.
(jaw dropping).....sometimes you have to look out for the greatness upon you....and get off your high horse and get help from mom and dad it may seems as if everything your father says is... right but sometime we as teenagers has to listen and except our mistakes and make it right some how...besides the guy your with isn't worth the time or space being with this is unhealthy for you ....even though you love him and you probably think that you can't be without him some things are just better left with out the father ... I mean you said that he is a great guy ....';for the baby';...and he can still be apart of his life that's fine...but he needs to show more respect for the mother of his child so by owe means if crawling back to your parents is far better than being with someone who doesn't want anything to do with you will be just a better way of starting a new life and a healthy place until you do better so please take this in consideration...leave him alone and find someone better and worth your time as a matter of fact be single...there will come a time you will most definitely get over him in due time... hopes this helps...')
End it. It'll be painful, but he causes you more trouble than he's worth. Look at it this way: Would you rather your son grow up with a loving family of his mother and grandparents and his dad out of the picture, or grow up in a not-so-loving family with his mom and dad together but fighting all the time? Your boyfriend needs to start pulling his weight, getting a job and supporting his family. He doesn't sound very responsible.
Relationship advice for someone dating a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder. Please.?
I have been dating this girl for a little over a year now. She has BPD. Things weren't so terrible, mostly good, up until about a month or so ago. We get in fights usually everyday and it hurts me a lot. She's always criticizing me and it seems like nothing i do is right. I feel the fights have been coming on because I've decided that if she yells at me for doing something i know there's nothing wrong with, I won't back down. Well the main fights are about me spending time with my friends. She doesn't like any of my friends and feels i should get new ones. I don't really hang out with those people that often in the first place. But, every time I'm even associated with any of them, it blows up into a huge fight. Tonight and yesterday night she basically said she can't take my **** anymore. I just don't know what to do. I love her. I really do. And when things were good, they were great. I just feel so drained lately. Tired of trying. I lack any motivation to fix things. I feel i've been trying for over a year now. Please advice or commentary on the situation would help. Or anyone who is going through or has gone through the same thing.Relationship advice for someone dating a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder. Please.?
This may not be related AT ALL to her having Borderline Personality Disorder, she could just really hate your friends. I would approach your relationship problems from the point of you that you would if she didn't have BPD, at least while you are trying to figure out what action is best for you to take.
People with BPD have a heightened sense of when they are being judged and she can probably sense your emotional de-attachment and it can be making the situation more difficult. Approach her about how you feel, just make sure you phrase things carefully because people with BPD are exceptionally sensitive to rejection.
Let her know you care about her, you love her a great deal, and that you want to work on your situation together, but you need her help and cooperation, and you need her to meet you half way to resolve your problems.
If it IS related to her BPD, it could very well be that after being together for a year, she is serious about being with you, and since borderlines are naturally drawn to self destructive behaviour, she could be trying to sabotage your relationship in order to punish herself. This is even more of a reason that you need to approach her honestly and lovingly about your situation.
To any of the people who are just telling you she's crazy and you should bounce, you know better than that after a year, I'd hope, and kudos to you for sticking around and getting to know her in the first place. Your simply being there means more to people with BPD than you can even imagine. Relationship advice for someone dating a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder. Please.?
ok dude ill try and help
maybe u should hang out with her a little bit more then ur friends im not saying to just get rid of ur friends just hang out with her more and see if it helps.If that doesn't work try to listen to her don't interrupt then whens shes done then give ur side. Ask her what can u improve on that is not so drastic. i hope this helps
I would seek relationship counselling. It's really worth a try. It's something that needs to be fixed together because she may not see what she is doing wrong and may need an outside opinion from a counsellor to set her on the right track.
The best advice for you is back away slowly, change your phone numbers and your locks, your girlfriend has an illness that makes her unable to care how you feel and she will make your life hell and there is nothing she can do about it.
both of you should try emotions anonymous living with a person with any problem is stressful try going to the website then go to a meeting and find help im borderline also and went to meetings for 4 years and im pretty good now
If you LOVE her, truely, you might want to invest in getting her some mental help. There has to be some sort of place that will counsel relationships of this sort.
i'd dump her
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Threaten her boy! Say you'll brake up with her!
Is she on medication? If not maybe she should be.I don't think this is a relationship I would hang onto.I think she uses her illness as an excuse to control you.I would get out if I were you.Ask yourself if you see yourself living like you are for the rest of your life and involve children in the drama.I would say.No thanks.
What you've described is a very unhealthy relationship. Your girlfriend sounds overbearing, manipulative, and uncompromising. She's abusing you--and you're letting her do it. You say, ';she's always criticizing me and it seems like nothing i do is right';, and, ';she doesn't like any of my friends and feels i should get new ones';. Step out of yourself for a minute and take a look at those statements. Does this sound like a person with whom you should be investing your time, energy, and emotions? Life is short. Does she really love you for who you are, or is she toying with you, enjoying the power she has over you?
Bad relationships are similar to substance addictions. Rationally, you know this relation ship is unhealthy. It's bad for you, yet you question whether you can live without her. Like drug dependence, you want to continue using even though you know it's killing you. You ';love her';. Is this true? It's time to start questioning this belief. Get some counseling and see if you can sort out why you are so attached to this person--to the point where you are willing to sacrifice your own dignity and well-being to be with her. This is not love. Your emotions have deceived you. You will NEVER be happy in this relationship, even if there are times when it seems to make you happy. Like a drug addict, you are not capable of seeing your situation clearly--not as long as you remain intoxicated. You need to sober up, i.e., break it off with her, no matter how bad it hurts. Eventually the power she holds over you will be broken.You gotta ';kick the habit';, no matter how bad it feels. Embrace your pain. Cry. You will heal. You will be glad in the end. You will look back and wonder what it was you ever saw in such a beast. Don't allow fear to rule you. You're afraid of letting her go. Ironically, holding on to her is holding on to misery.
Let her go.lipstick gloss
This may not be related AT ALL to her having Borderline Personality Disorder, she could just really hate your friends. I would approach your relationship problems from the point of you that you would if she didn't have BPD, at least while you are trying to figure out what action is best for you to take.
People with BPD have a heightened sense of when they are being judged and she can probably sense your emotional de-attachment and it can be making the situation more difficult. Approach her about how you feel, just make sure you phrase things carefully because people with BPD are exceptionally sensitive to rejection.
Let her know you care about her, you love her a great deal, and that you want to work on your situation together, but you need her help and cooperation, and you need her to meet you half way to resolve your problems.
If it IS related to her BPD, it could very well be that after being together for a year, she is serious about being with you, and since borderlines are naturally drawn to self destructive behaviour, she could be trying to sabotage your relationship in order to punish herself. This is even more of a reason that you need to approach her honestly and lovingly about your situation.
To any of the people who are just telling you she's crazy and you should bounce, you know better than that after a year, I'd hope, and kudos to you for sticking around and getting to know her in the first place. Your simply being there means more to people with BPD than you can even imagine. Relationship advice for someone dating a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder. Please.?
ok dude ill try and help
maybe u should hang out with her a little bit more then ur friends im not saying to just get rid of ur friends just hang out with her more and see if it helps.If that doesn't work try to listen to her don't interrupt then whens shes done then give ur side. Ask her what can u improve on that is not so drastic. i hope this helps
I would seek relationship counselling. It's really worth a try. It's something that needs to be fixed together because she may not see what she is doing wrong and may need an outside opinion from a counsellor to set her on the right track.
The best advice for you is back away slowly, change your phone numbers and your locks, your girlfriend has an illness that makes her unable to care how you feel and she will make your life hell and there is nothing she can do about it.
both of you should try emotions anonymous living with a person with any problem is stressful try going to the website then go to a meeting and find help im borderline also and went to meetings for 4 years and im pretty good now
If you LOVE her, truely, you might want to invest in getting her some mental help. There has to be some sort of place that will counsel relationships of this sort.
i'd dump her
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Threaten her boy! Say you'll brake up with her!
Is she on medication? If not maybe she should be.I don't think this is a relationship I would hang onto.I think she uses her illness as an excuse to control you.I would get out if I were you.Ask yourself if you see yourself living like you are for the rest of your life and involve children in the drama.I would say.No thanks.
What you've described is a very unhealthy relationship. Your girlfriend sounds overbearing, manipulative, and uncompromising. She's abusing you--and you're letting her do it. You say, ';she's always criticizing me and it seems like nothing i do is right';, and, ';she doesn't like any of my friends and feels i should get new ones';. Step out of yourself for a minute and take a look at those statements. Does this sound like a person with whom you should be investing your time, energy, and emotions? Life is short. Does she really love you for who you are, or is she toying with you, enjoying the power she has over you?
Bad relationships are similar to substance addictions. Rationally, you know this relation ship is unhealthy. It's bad for you, yet you question whether you can live without her. Like drug dependence, you want to continue using even though you know it's killing you. You ';love her';. Is this true? It's time to start questioning this belief. Get some counseling and see if you can sort out why you are so attached to this person--to the point where you are willing to sacrifice your own dignity and well-being to be with her. This is not love. Your emotions have deceived you. You will NEVER be happy in this relationship, even if there are times when it seems to make you happy. Like a drug addict, you are not capable of seeing your situation clearly--not as long as you remain intoxicated. You need to sober up, i.e., break it off with her, no matter how bad it hurts. Eventually the power she holds over you will be broken.You gotta ';kick the habit';, no matter how bad it feels. Embrace your pain. Cry. You will heal. You will be glad in the end. You will look back and wonder what it was you ever saw in such a beast. Don't allow fear to rule you. You're afraid of letting her go. Ironically, holding on to her is holding on to misery.
Let her go.
Relationship advice help!!?
Ive been with my girlfriend for 5 years now and recently our petty arguments have taken its toll. Ive given her a lack of trust for a couple of years which was totally wrong of me but I have finally admitted it yesterday. She told me because of my jealousy and the arguments she loves me in a different way but she is willing for us to see how things go and myself Iam stopping all this jealousy and totally promised myself that I will not stat anymore arguments with her.
When I met her I worked in the hotel entertainment trade in a hotel. I was slimmer,had more confidence and was a much better person. The hotel closed down 2 years ago and inbetween that time ive stayed at home and hardly worked but the hotel is due to reopen this weekend and I do have my old job back. Ive told her that I will begin to lose my weight again(i have put so much on in 2 yrs) and with that my confidence will return and I wont feel as insecure again and i will be the person that she met 5 years ago.
Is it possible that our old love will return and she will love me the way she did a while back now ive fully admitted what a jealous pig ive been in 2 years and now that im back in the working circle I know the old me will return?Relationship advice help!!?
it's very possible that things could get back to normal once you start your job again(with the economy the way it is, i've been laid off a couple times, and that can really screw with your self-esteem, so i usually act the same way, but once i start work again, it's so much better) one more thing, does she complain about your weight? unless you've gained like 200-300 pounds, she should accept you the way you are. my hubby has gained some weight since we got together (like 50 pounds or so) and i love just as much, if not more!!!Relationship advice help!!?
yes, but you cannot go back to your old jealous and insecure ways! also if anything ever happens in your life again, lie your hotel closes down and you loose your job again, or something, you cannot let yourself go like you did - and you will know what not to do from your experience. you got a great girls for sticking with you.
Only one way to find out id say - Wait and see what haopens with you after returning to work .
When I met her I worked in the hotel entertainment trade in a hotel. I was slimmer,had more confidence and was a much better person. The hotel closed down 2 years ago and inbetween that time ive stayed at home and hardly worked but the hotel is due to reopen this weekend and I do have my old job back. Ive told her that I will begin to lose my weight again(i have put so much on in 2 yrs) and with that my confidence will return and I wont feel as insecure again and i will be the person that she met 5 years ago.
Is it possible that our old love will return and she will love me the way she did a while back now ive fully admitted what a jealous pig ive been in 2 years and now that im back in the working circle I know the old me will return?Relationship advice help!!?
it's very possible that things could get back to normal once you start your job again(with the economy the way it is, i've been laid off a couple times, and that can really screw with your self-esteem, so i usually act the same way, but once i start work again, it's so much better) one more thing, does she complain about your weight? unless you've gained like 200-300 pounds, she should accept you the way you are. my hubby has gained some weight since we got together (like 50 pounds or so) and i love just as much, if not more!!!Relationship advice help!!?
yes, but you cannot go back to your old jealous and insecure ways! also if anything ever happens in your life again, lie your hotel closes down and you loose your job again, or something, you cannot let yourself go like you did - and you will know what not to do from your experience. you got a great girls for sticking with you.
Only one way to find out id say - Wait and see what haopens with you after returning to work .
Relationship advice with an older guy?
OK, so I am 17 and to be honest i have never ';hooked up'; with a guy before, i guess i am more on the shy side. i was wondering how would a relationship work out if i was serious with a guy i am friends with who is 20. I don't know how to tell him that I haven't done anything with a guy before......high school wasnt great....soo college hopefully will be better and I know this guy really well and we talk all the time but if we actually become serious I dont know how to tell him that i have never even been kissed before!! he would seriously be my first kiss and everything else possibly...sooo please any advice???? thanks!!
ohh and how does the first kiss even happen....will it all come natural to me, or will he be able to tell that i suck??Relationship advice with an older guy?
just tell him the truth (its ok to tell him that he was your first kiss afterward but dont wait until after you have sex to tell him your a virgin!!)..if he doesnt respect you for the decisions you have made in your life than he isnt worth your time
and kissing will come naturally, but honestly you may suck..when i first kissed a guy i was apparently horrible ( i was kind of old too), but someone once gave me the best kissing advice ever..just kiss them the way that they kiss you..just try to copy what they are doing and they will like it.Relationship advice with an older guy?
What you do is tell him you have never done anything like this before and you want to wait until you are 18 so he doesn't end up going to prison for statutory rape.
everything will come into place as for the kiss thing and honestly i feel no need for telling him that youve never kissed anyone before
ohh and how does the first kiss even happen....will it all come natural to me, or will he be able to tell that i suck??Relationship advice with an older guy?
just tell him the truth (its ok to tell him that he was your first kiss afterward but dont wait until after you have sex to tell him your a virgin!!)..if he doesnt respect you for the decisions you have made in your life than he isnt worth your time
and kissing will come naturally, but honestly you may suck..when i first kissed a guy i was apparently horrible ( i was kind of old too), but someone once gave me the best kissing advice ever..just kiss them the way that they kiss you..just try to copy what they are doing and they will like it.Relationship advice with an older guy?
What you do is tell him you have never done anything like this before and you want to wait until you are 18 so he doesn't end up going to prison for statutory rape.
everything will come into place as for the kiss thing and honestly i feel no need for telling him that youve never kissed anyone before
Relationship advice. . .tell me what you think ishould do bout this . .?
alright well there are these two guys that i really like well . . juss listen the first guy i have been with for 2 1/2 years i know really long time and i really love him alot dont get me wrong but now he treats me like shitt /: he does not know how to tlk to me ): the other guy on the other hand hess cutee and im kinda talking to him he wants to be together but i dont know what to do about this first guy! and this guy is really sweet and he knows how to treat me ! (: so tell me what you think i should do bout it !Relationship advice. . .tell me what you think ishould do bout this . .?
But think about it.This 2nd 1 is treating u nice cos he wants u..after he gets wot he wants,he might treat u worse,so just put that into consideration.Talk to ur BF of 2 1/2 years about the way he treats u,if he doesnt change,then threathen u'll leave,and if he doesnt,u can opt outRelationship advice. . .tell me what you think ishould do bout this . .?
The Second on is the logical choice, like the first answer said.
The First guy is bound to treat you like **** if you continue to let him
Uhm the nice 1? duh?
I know you care about the first guy and it's great that you have been loyal to him, but I think in this situation you have to think down the road and which guy is going to make you happy. My bets are on the 2nd guy, because of the way he treats you. It's definitely the one I would choose. It matters to me how I get treated.
Well it sounds like the 2nd guy would be the logical choice considering the 1st one treats you like ****.
But think about it.This 2nd 1 is treating u nice cos he wants u..after he gets wot he wants,he might treat u worse,so just put that into consideration.Talk to ur BF of 2 1/2 years about the way he treats u,if he doesnt change,then threathen u'll leave,and if he doesnt,u can opt outRelationship advice. . .tell me what you think ishould do bout this . .?
The Second on is the logical choice, like the first answer said.
The First guy is bound to treat you like **** if you continue to let him
Uhm the nice 1? duh?
I know you care about the first guy and it's great that you have been loyal to him, but I think in this situation you have to think down the road and which guy is going to make you happy. My bets are on the 2nd guy, because of the way he treats you. It's definitely the one I would choose. It matters to me how I get treated.
Well it sounds like the 2nd guy would be the logical choice considering the 1st one treats you like ****.
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Lets say you have a girlfriend who is perceived by low-life jealous men to be popular. You (the boyfriend) are above or better than these low life jealous men. However, these men try to steal your girlfriend off of you. After about a year or so one of these men succeeds, and your girlfriend cheats on you with one of them, while you are away working long hours. However, your girlfriend keeps it a secret from you. About a month passes, and your girlfriend keeps cheating and becomes distant from you. Then one night, she doens't come home as she is out at a bar with this man. You call her and she finally answers. She tells you that she is not happy, and that she needs a break from you. She then breaks it off with you. This scenario happend to me 2 weeks ago. I got all of my belongings, moved out, and dropped her as it is apparent that she has no respect for me. I mean obviously she wasn't happy, but I never cheated on her, disrespected her, or abused her. I just need advice basically???Relationship Advice?
you made a great move, but a definitely hard move, it will hurt, but good riddings, i am sorry that you ended up in this mess,but what you could have done is ask the girl once you found out.so the best thing to do, will be to never call, never answer her phone call, spend more time with the guys, try not to spend too much time alone, and if you drink try not to get too drunk, that you end up calling her at night.tell everyday when you wake up, that she dont deserve someone like you.she will regret it, believe me, and will want you back, but never go back.Relationship Advice?
I say you did the right thing. Cheaters do not respect you and do not love you, and no matter what it feels like now, you're better off.
this girl is obviously a low life just like the guys. get over her. fast. find another girl to go out with, one who doesnt treat you like low life scum.
xox
you made a great move, but a definitely hard move, it will hurt, but good riddings, i am sorry that you ended up in this mess,but what you could have done is ask the girl once you found out.so the best thing to do, will be to never call, never answer her phone call, spend more time with the guys, try not to spend too much time alone, and if you drink try not to get too drunk, that you end up calling her at night.tell everyday when you wake up, that she dont deserve someone like you.she will regret it, believe me, and will want you back, but never go back.Relationship Advice?
I say you did the right thing. Cheaters do not respect you and do not love you, and no matter what it feels like now, you're better off.
this girl is obviously a low life just like the guys. get over her. fast. find another girl to go out with, one who doesnt treat you like low life scum.
xox
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i have a descision i can either make or leave how it is. i really could keep this to myself but it helps me to write out my problems and choices. so ive been talking to my oldest and best friend of my whole life, nolan. somehow we get on the topic of who we like and everything. he knows about who i like, janelle and he asks about her and everything. then i say ya we love each other. as soon as i said that it brings up a whole other conversation. he starts saying that she is puttting me too close in her life and im too important to her than i should be. then he says i should break up with her. i say no that would kill her. he says she is insecure and if breaking up with her would kill her then what if someone else better comes along later? what would i do? then he said then if u did break up with her then she would cry her guts out and her parents wouldnt know what to do...well...this has already happened. he couldnt believe this he said she should never cry about our relationship unless we were permanently separated. i agree with that. then he said something that really made me think...i quote ';if you think she can handle the rest of the year without her bawling her head, stop drama with her friends, and get you out of the center of her life, then stay with her,butt if she has any of the above it would be healthy for you and her to split up.'; he says she isnt ready for a relationship...i think she is, but im not all the way sure. idk if you come accross this please leave a comment leaving your opinion on what you think i should do.Relationship advice..................?
i think your friend may be somewhat right. You need to distance yourself a bit from her. Don't get too close too fast. If you are happy with her stay, if not break up.Relationship advice..................?
Wayyyyy to much Drama for me....lol...
When is it a bad thing to be the center of the universe for a girl you care strongly for? I wouldn't break up with her. Tell her somehow she needs to find herself but help her. If you like her don't let her go just because someone tells you to. Don't give into peer pressure!
Personally I wouldn't break up with her if I truly cared for her, and if she cared for me. If you don't like her that much then let her down sooner rather than later when shes even more attached. She will be hurt but she should get over you soon; hopefully.
Your friend sounds like he likes her himself, and it seems to me that he is trying to get you to break up with her so he'll have chance. Don't step aside for his possible selfish wants.
Good Luck.
i think your friend may be somewhat right. You need to distance yourself a bit from her. Don't get too close too fast. If you are happy with her stay, if not break up.Relationship advice..................?
Wayyyyy to much Drama for me....lol...
When is it a bad thing to be the center of the universe for a girl you care strongly for? I wouldn't break up with her. Tell her somehow she needs to find herself but help her. If you like her don't let her go just because someone tells you to. Don't give into peer pressure!
Personally I wouldn't break up with her if I truly cared for her, and if she cared for me. If you don't like her that much then let her down sooner rather than later when shes even more attached. She will be hurt but she should get over you soon; hopefully.
Your friend sounds like he likes her himself, and it seems to me that he is trying to get you to break up with her so he'll have chance. Don't step aside for his possible selfish wants.
Good Luck.
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So, I've been in a relationship for a little over a year and a half and were veryyy much in love. But, we have our issues. He tends to tried to bend the rules, and do things that he wouldn't like me to do. We have some things we agree we won't do... Or can't do. And he some how finds a way to bend the rules. Then there's me.. And I feel like maybe I'm too avalibale at times and maybe I forgive too easily. Maybe sometimes it seems as though I care too much. Sometimes I tell myself that I wont text him, and then I end up doing it. I need some advice on how to prevent myself from doing it. Also, how to not be so avalible all of the time, and maybe to do something to make him realize how much he cares about me. Help? I need serious advice!Relationship advice?
There is a book by Dr. Ed Wheat called ';love life for married couples'; that is very powerful relationship advice.I highly recommend it.Relationship advice?
It sounds like you guys need to talk. If you can't tell him what you're feeling then you're not ready to move forward. There's more to love than just mattress polo.lipstick gloss
There is a book by Dr. Ed Wheat called ';love life for married couples'; that is very powerful relationship advice.I highly recommend it.Relationship advice?
It sounds like you guys need to talk. If you can't tell him what you're feeling then you're not ready to move forward. There's more to love than just mattress polo.
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ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now.
and we were talking about getting married, but then things changed, and he started telling me that i never listen to him and i spend too much money, and he doesn't like my mom and dad?? i mean if im gonna get married i want someone that likes my family... and me and my mom have a REAL REAL REAL close relationship, she is my best friend. and we call each other A LOT.... and he gets mad when we talk on the phone. and he said when we get married that's not gonna happen.... sooo
what do you think is going on here???
and my email is a FAKE email.... and im really a girl.
LOL
HAHAHAHARelationship Advice...?
ya i would say marriage isnt a good idea for you guys. If hes saying that you wont b talking to ur mom, etc hes already getting controlling and that will not be good in the future and will get worse.
It really sounds like he is no where near ready for marriage and isnt interested.Relationship Advice...?
He is looking for a reason to not marry you.
and we were talking about getting married, but then things changed, and he started telling me that i never listen to him and i spend too much money, and he doesn't like my mom and dad?? i mean if im gonna get married i want someone that likes my family... and me and my mom have a REAL REAL REAL close relationship, she is my best friend. and we call each other A LOT.... and he gets mad when we talk on the phone. and he said when we get married that's not gonna happen.... sooo
what do you think is going on here???
and my email is a FAKE email.... and im really a girl.
LOL
HAHAHAHARelationship Advice...?
ya i would say marriage isnt a good idea for you guys. If hes saying that you wont b talking to ur mom, etc hes already getting controlling and that will not be good in the future and will get worse.
It really sounds like he is no where near ready for marriage and isnt interested.Relationship Advice...?
He is looking for a reason to not marry you.
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okay
well im going out with a guy name ryan
11.13.08 was when we started going out
the problem is that he kinda likes my friend karen
karen says she doesnt like him
which i can kinda tell
karen told me on an IM that ryan said he might break up with me
i was very worried
the next day of school i acted really sad and he asked me ';are you mad at me?';
and i just ignored him
and later that day i told him i wasnt mad at him
and he said the only reason he said that was because he was really mad at ';something'; but it wasnt because of me
my other friend katie went out with him and said that he used her and cheated on her many times while they went out
and i trust her alot and she told me all of this stuff he has done
i asked ryan if he liked karen and he admitted he did but he said he likes me more
and after this all happened (wednesday) he started talking to me alot more and have been hugging me and telling me he loves me and all of this stuff
but im still kinda worried about him and karen
and they have one class together that im not in
and sometimes when i walk around i see them walking together to class and when he sees me he gets away from her to talk to me
katie told me that she can get her friend james to talk to ryan because they are best friends
and there going to talk on the phone or xbox live
and he is going to ask ryan all of these questions to see ryan is using me or anything bad
and karen told me that when ever she is about to leave the class that they have together that im not in
he would run over to walk with her to class and she has also told me that he gets kinda close to her
which bothers me alot
and on the wednesday i talked to him about how it bothers me that he likes karen
he hugged me and said that he loves me and would never do anything to hurt me
i talked to karen today and told her that i didnt want her to talk to him anymore
and she sounded happy
because she doesnt like him and she was like THANK YOU!
what should i do?
katie can help me alot with this because she is friends with ryans best friends and he will tell his best friends anything
so what do i do??
do i break up with him
or do i just talk to him about it??
HELP :[
i feel really scared
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You seem too involved in the melodrama to have any joy in this relationship.
Talking to him only helps if the guy is honest. If he is a player, he will tell you anything to accomplish his goals. If Katie and Karen are good friends, you might start by comparing notes on his behavior and the things he says to different girls. Gather information, do not lead the witnesses.
You believe what Katie has told you, but you may not understand what her motives are. Keep in mind that dating is never considered exclusive unless both parties agree to an exclusive relationship.
Only when you think you know what is going on should you take to him about what you see happening in your relationship. If you want an exclusive relationship, tell him (just realize that this is one sign of a person who is insecure). If you think that he has common lines that he tells all the girls, ask him about these.
If you cannot trust him you will always be miserable. If the two of you can learn how to be honest with each other, then you may have a chance at a great relationship.
well im going out with a guy name ryan
11.13.08 was when we started going out
the problem is that he kinda likes my friend karen
karen says she doesnt like him
which i can kinda tell
karen told me on an IM that ryan said he might break up with me
i was very worried
the next day of school i acted really sad and he asked me ';are you mad at me?';
and i just ignored him
and later that day i told him i wasnt mad at him
and he said the only reason he said that was because he was really mad at ';something'; but it wasnt because of me
my other friend katie went out with him and said that he used her and cheated on her many times while they went out
and i trust her alot and she told me all of this stuff he has done
i asked ryan if he liked karen and he admitted he did but he said he likes me more
and after this all happened (wednesday) he started talking to me alot more and have been hugging me and telling me he loves me and all of this stuff
but im still kinda worried about him and karen
and they have one class together that im not in
and sometimes when i walk around i see them walking together to class and when he sees me he gets away from her to talk to me
katie told me that she can get her friend james to talk to ryan because they are best friends
and there going to talk on the phone or xbox live
and he is going to ask ryan all of these questions to see ryan is using me or anything bad
and karen told me that when ever she is about to leave the class that they have together that im not in
he would run over to walk with her to class and she has also told me that he gets kinda close to her
which bothers me alot
and on the wednesday i talked to him about how it bothers me that he likes karen
he hugged me and said that he loves me and would never do anything to hurt me
i talked to karen today and told her that i didnt want her to talk to him anymore
and she sounded happy
because she doesnt like him and she was like THANK YOU!
what should i do?
katie can help me alot with this because she is friends with ryans best friends and he will tell his best friends anything
so what do i do??
do i break up with him
or do i just talk to him about it??
HELP :[
i feel really scared
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE :[?
You seem too involved in the melodrama to have any joy in this relationship.
Talking to him only helps if the guy is honest. If he is a player, he will tell you anything to accomplish his goals. If Katie and Karen are good friends, you might start by comparing notes on his behavior and the things he says to different girls. Gather information, do not lead the witnesses.
You believe what Katie has told you, but you may not understand what her motives are. Keep in mind that dating is never considered exclusive unless both parties agree to an exclusive relationship.
Only when you think you know what is going on should you take to him about what you see happening in your relationship. If you want an exclusive relationship, tell him (just realize that this is one sign of a person who is insecure). If you think that he has common lines that he tells all the girls, ask him about these.
If you cannot trust him you will always be miserable. If the two of you can learn how to be honest with each other, then you may have a chance at a great relationship.
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A year ago, I broke up with my boyfriend because he was so possessive that he made me lose all my friends, then hooked up with them all after we broke up.
Now my new boyfriend of 10 months is really perfect %26amp; sweet, and I went out with one of my old friends tonight %26amp; he started getting all possessive %26amp; got mad that I went out. He said that it was because he doesn't like her, but he was best friends with her before me %26amp; him went out.
Is he trying to hide something..or wants me not to have friends?
Or am I over-thinking this?Relationship advice ?
i would think he is either trying to hide something about the two of them or maybe he knows something about her and thinks she would be a bad influence.
I would be straight foward and ask him though, because if he is trying to hide something or if he just show his posessive side now, you need to know before you go any further with him.Relationship advice ?
Sounds to me that he don't want you to know all his past i can not say for sure that there is a secret but it is possible i don't think it is because he don't want you to have friends. Men have a way of getting possessive when they feel threatened its a defense mechanism so just respect his opinion of this girl and find a new friend. This will let u no for sure because if he does the same thing with a new friend then u know he don't want u to have friends. good Luck
sounding fishy yaar i think he is hiding frm u something ----------:-(
I really think he is trying to hide something
A mix of both. Drop him like a hot potato
It sounds fishy.There must be something he's hiding from u.
Confront him.
Now my new boyfriend of 10 months is really perfect %26amp; sweet, and I went out with one of my old friends tonight %26amp; he started getting all possessive %26amp; got mad that I went out. He said that it was because he doesn't like her, but he was best friends with her before me %26amp; him went out.
Is he trying to hide something..or wants me not to have friends?
Or am I over-thinking this?Relationship advice ?
i would think he is either trying to hide something about the two of them or maybe he knows something about her and thinks she would be a bad influence.
I would be straight foward and ask him though, because if he is trying to hide something or if he just show his posessive side now, you need to know before you go any further with him.Relationship advice ?
Sounds to me that he don't want you to know all his past i can not say for sure that there is a secret but it is possible i don't think it is because he don't want you to have friends. Men have a way of getting possessive when they feel threatened its a defense mechanism so just respect his opinion of this girl and find a new friend. This will let u no for sure because if he does the same thing with a new friend then u know he don't want u to have friends. good Luck
sounding fishy yaar i think he is hiding frm u something ----------:-(
I really think he is trying to hide something
A mix of both. Drop him like a hot potato
It sounds fishy.There must be something he's hiding from u.
Confront him.
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I got with my current boyfriend, Tommy last December, so we've been together for almost 1 year. We're both 17 but he's two weeks older than I am. I moved in with him and his family because my mom and dad pretty much want to travel the world or whatever, so they gave me a choice to live with Tommy's family. I'm going to be 18 in 5 months anyway, so we're almost ready to think about getting room mates and move out into a cheap place. He works a really good job and makes pretty good money almost $1,800 a month working under the table with his grandpa we have no bills so we could totally move out. And this is all great. I have a great life and a great family and boyfriend that love me. I have no job or driver's license and I am home schooled, but I take advanced classes and have straight A's in school. I graduate this January. And Tommy said I don't need a job until I turn 18 anyway. And its really hard to find work when you don't have a car.
Anyway, that's the whole story it sounds like I have a pretty great life.
But for some reason I feel bored, and useless, like everybody else is going places and I'm not. I rarely leave the house, and I am buried in books half the time.
And the worst part is, I think I'm getting bored of my boyfriend
and I feel terrible.
We're 17 and he's talking about getting married and spending our lives together, and he's reallllllllly jealous so I can't even have any guy friends or talk to another guy.
(Let the record show that I'm not a cheater, seriously I'm not)
But after him and his family took me in, and he provided for me, I feel so terrible just leaving.
Sometimes I cry myself to sleep because I don't do what he does and I don't have friends or a life for that matter. I've tried to be strong, but I just feel myself breaking down.
My question is... do you think if I go off on my own and get a job for myself I might learn to be my own person and be better off?
Or should I stay with him because he is my security?
Am I just using him? I really do love him. I just don't know.Relationship advice!?!?!?
Well as he is your security, you feel as though you do not have to do anything in order to get what you want.
However, you are bored of it and want to experience life as it is.
Why not compromise, it seems like you really love him so why not just get your own job but stay with him and do your own thing once and a while. If he is a really jealous person, then maybe you can talk to him about just you and some girls going out sometime.
Anyway, that's the whole story it sounds like I have a pretty great life.
But for some reason I feel bored, and useless, like everybody else is going places and I'm not. I rarely leave the house, and I am buried in books half the time.
And the worst part is, I think I'm getting bored of my boyfriend
and I feel terrible.
We're 17 and he's talking about getting married and spending our lives together, and he's reallllllllly jealous so I can't even have any guy friends or talk to another guy.
(Let the record show that I'm not a cheater, seriously I'm not)
But after him and his family took me in, and he provided for me, I feel so terrible just leaving.
Sometimes I cry myself to sleep because I don't do what he does and I don't have friends or a life for that matter. I've tried to be strong, but I just feel myself breaking down.
My question is... do you think if I go off on my own and get a job for myself I might learn to be my own person and be better off?
Or should I stay with him because he is my security?
Am I just using him? I really do love him. I just don't know.Relationship advice!?!?!?
Well as he is your security, you feel as though you do not have to do anything in order to get what you want.
However, you are bored of it and want to experience life as it is.
Why not compromise, it seems like you really love him so why not just get your own job but stay with him and do your own thing once and a while. If he is a really jealous person, then maybe you can talk to him about just you and some girls going out sometime.
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I have been with my gf for 9 months now, but I really dont know how we got this far, we argue alot, mostly her gettin mad at me and me swallowing my pride about everything and ending the fight, sex is kinda wack cuz we dont reaally do it too much, like once a week and only if i sit there and beg almost.. (not in a weird kinky way) she just says ';she doesnt feel like it today'; but tommorow ill hear the same excuse... idk.. I have asked her why she isnt into it and she never has a reason behind it except she doesnt feel like it. I have tried talkin to her about it and tried working out compromises, but they have sort of not been followed :( As far as her attitude well, shes very quick tempered, one minute she could be fine, the next shes pissed, shes the middle child in her family and is very spoiled,so everything has to be her way or shes mad. I read at what i write and i ask why do i stay with her, but i just cant break up with her, i do love her, when shes bein her happy self.Relationship advice?
I'm going to get very blunt with you , ok ?
Grow some damn balls !
She has given you every possibly sign there is that she is not happy in your relationship . And while you continue to hang around you are making yourself miserable !
She really sounds as if she has some major issues going on in her life and until she gets those issues resolved she is not going to be happy . And the person she will be with at the time will also be unhappy .
Give yourself an E for effort , you tried , but it just isn't going to work , so move on and find some one you can be happy with .
Good luckRelationship advice?
The relationship is stale, you two don't like each other anymore, and you both are expressing the desire to break up and move on. You may love each other, but remember that I love my mother and family but still don't want to spend every minute of them.
End it. It's cold, but come on. You listed a bunch of reasons why you don't want to be with her, and then on the other side, for reasons you want to stay with her, you listed ';I can't just break up with her'; and ';I love her when she isn't being a b****';
Don't tell her to pack her stuff and get out, you don't need to be harsh or anything. It's not either of your faults, things are just not going how they should be with two people who love each other.
I'm going to get very blunt with you , ok ?
Grow some damn balls !
She has given you every possibly sign there is that she is not happy in your relationship . And while you continue to hang around you are making yourself miserable !
She really sounds as if she has some major issues going on in her life and until she gets those issues resolved she is not going to be happy . And the person she will be with at the time will also be unhappy .
Give yourself an E for effort , you tried , but it just isn't going to work , so move on and find some one you can be happy with .
Good luckRelationship advice?
The relationship is stale, you two don't like each other anymore, and you both are expressing the desire to break up and move on. You may love each other, but remember that I love my mother and family but still don't want to spend every minute of them.
End it. It's cold, but come on. You listed a bunch of reasons why you don't want to be with her, and then on the other side, for reasons you want to stay with her, you listed ';I can't just break up with her'; and ';I love her when she isn't being a b****';
Don't tell her to pack her stuff and get out, you don't need to be harsh or anything. It's not either of your faults, things are just not going how they should be with two people who love each other.
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what would you do if a guy your seeing makes a big fuss over nothing being totally unreasonable an then storms off. you try to talk about it next day but he still wont listen to reason. so you leave it an next morning he txts to say hes really sorry hes upset you. obviously leaving the ball in your court waiting to see if you txt back.is he saying sorry for being mean or saying sorry because he doesnt want the relationship to endRelationship advice?
generally a person who throws a hissyfit over nothing and sticks to his guns for a few days won't say sorry because he's sorry because he probably still thinks he's in the right, so it's just to keep the relationship going, however if it is because he is sorry then it would appear he is prone to mood swings, which can be very dangerous
edit: just read the aditional info, if this could be from stress you could give it a week or so to let things cool down, if it still carries on either you should think seriously of moving on, or he should think seriously about finding a less stressful job (i know most jobs are stressful but not to the point of throwing a hissyfit)Relationship advice?
Maybe he is tired and can't think straight.
You should really read this free E-book containing 97 steps to a happy relationship. highly recommended!
he sounds like a total loser
i'd try to work it out and if that doesnt work...id probably leave him but thats just me :)lipstick gloss
generally a person who throws a hissyfit over nothing and sticks to his guns for a few days won't say sorry because he's sorry because he probably still thinks he's in the right, so it's just to keep the relationship going, however if it is because he is sorry then it would appear he is prone to mood swings, which can be very dangerous
edit: just read the aditional info, if this could be from stress you could give it a week or so to let things cool down, if it still carries on either you should think seriously of moving on, or he should think seriously about finding a less stressful job (i know most jobs are stressful but not to the point of throwing a hissyfit)Relationship advice?
Maybe he is tired and can't think straight.
You should really read this free E-book containing 97 steps to a happy relationship. highly recommended!
he sounds like a total loser
i'd try to work it out and if that doesnt work...id probably leave him but thats just me :)
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I went out with someone for 6 months, it meant more to me than any relationship than i have ever had. I don't know whether to call it love or not, but the guy i was with said he loved me. The relationship went sour and after, there were lots of arguments, being friends and then not talking. At the moment we are best friends but having sex, i know he is seeing a girl, but he told me that he still loves me. I know it sounds ridiculous but i am questioning whether i am being a fool or that when he says that im not the other girl and it is totally not like that. i think i need to tell him that it is all (us going out and being good friends) or nothing.
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This isn't a relationship, nor is it a friendship. At this point he is using you and cheating on his new girlfriend. Are you really willing to settle for the scraps he's offering you? You shouldn't have any problem telling him you're worth more than you're getting and personally, I'd rather have nothing than have some guy playing with my head, my body and my emotions at his convenience. You know in your heart this isn't right. He doesn't love you........it wouldn't be this way if he did! He's smart like most guys are in that he knows what he needs to say to keep the bedroom door open and keep you waiting on the back burner! Tell him to hit the road! Remaining friends after a breakup, although intentions are usually good, is more often than not, impossible. You need to totally cut ties with this guy so you can bring closure to this relationship and move on.*** RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ***?
It's definitely about time you laid that ultimatum out for him. Personally, it sounds to me like he is telling you he loves you, etc in order to keep having sex with you.
Either way, you owe it to yourself to tell him it's all or nothing, and above all, follow through with it. No one deserves to toy around with you like that, and you certainly should not let them.
Ya, I think you should say how the hell do you still love me if you are seeing another girl. Don't let him convince you that sex is enough to let you that he loves you. If he doesn't instantly choose you over the other girl then he probably doesn't love you. If a guy loves a girl he would choose her over the world. If he doesn't break up with her for you then forget about him. It might be hard, but its better to do that then let him hurt you later.
First cut the sex part ok. Resolve the question by face to face talk that's the only solution and the only way to handle this. I think he is using u as his sex puppet. So i will say dump him after the confrontation.
Prove it to him that you are not a object of pleasure, dont serve him like slave,
yes i think thats what you need to do... you have to tell him that if thats how you feel.. or you'll just end up getting hurt in the end.
and if you think your a fool.. then i'd have to say no your a fool in love.
who isn't? we all make mistakes but the good thing is... is that you want to change things.
that's very brave.
good luck!
it is all up to you. sometimes it feels better to have someone in our life than not at all...even when you are being used(hint hint!). you should just sit down with him and say how you feel, it cant hurt. i hope that things work out well for you.
would suggest telling him how you feal and give him the option of haveing you 100% or not at all. he cant have is cake and eat hun
hopefully he will choose you, but if he doesnt then you never really lost anything special
good luck
Just dump him and find a guy that you feel comterble with .And just tell him that you dont want any thing to do with him because you are going to get in alot of **** hole with that other girl
If he really loved you, do you think he'd be seeing someone else?
tell him if he loves you to finish the girl and be with you full time.
you wouldn't want him back if you wasn't having sex with him.
while your having sex you still feel the need to be with him
so you wither loose the sex or he looses the girl hes seeing because he's getting both at the end of the day and your still left heartbroken from it ending, i dont really belive in being friends after a long relationship breaking up. be cacare fullnd think alot about it. dont let him win you around to just staying **** buddies you can do alot better if hes being like that, ytou also got to think if hes seeing a girl and having sex with you, if you get back with him he could do that to you, right?
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This isn't a relationship, nor is it a friendship. At this point he is using you and cheating on his new girlfriend. Are you really willing to settle for the scraps he's offering you? You shouldn't have any problem telling him you're worth more than you're getting and personally, I'd rather have nothing than have some guy playing with my head, my body and my emotions at his convenience. You know in your heart this isn't right. He doesn't love you........it wouldn't be this way if he did! He's smart like most guys are in that he knows what he needs to say to keep the bedroom door open and keep you waiting on the back burner! Tell him to hit the road! Remaining friends after a breakup, although intentions are usually good, is more often than not, impossible. You need to totally cut ties with this guy so you can bring closure to this relationship and move on.*** RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ***?
It's definitely about time you laid that ultimatum out for him. Personally, it sounds to me like he is telling you he loves you, etc in order to keep having sex with you.
Either way, you owe it to yourself to tell him it's all or nothing, and above all, follow through with it. No one deserves to toy around with you like that, and you certainly should not let them.
Ya, I think you should say how the hell do you still love me if you are seeing another girl. Don't let him convince you that sex is enough to let you that he loves you. If he doesn't instantly choose you over the other girl then he probably doesn't love you. If a guy loves a girl he would choose her over the world. If he doesn't break up with her for you then forget about him. It might be hard, but its better to do that then let him hurt you later.
First cut the sex part ok. Resolve the question by face to face talk that's the only solution and the only way to handle this. I think he is using u as his sex puppet. So i will say dump him after the confrontation.
Prove it to him that you are not a object of pleasure, dont serve him like slave,
yes i think thats what you need to do... you have to tell him that if thats how you feel.. or you'll just end up getting hurt in the end.
and if you think your a fool.. then i'd have to say no your a fool in love.
who isn't? we all make mistakes but the good thing is... is that you want to change things.
that's very brave.
good luck!
it is all up to you. sometimes it feels better to have someone in our life than not at all...even when you are being used(hint hint!). you should just sit down with him and say how you feel, it cant hurt. i hope that things work out well for you.
would suggest telling him how you feal and give him the option of haveing you 100% or not at all. he cant have is cake and eat hun
hopefully he will choose you, but if he doesnt then you never really lost anything special
good luck
Just dump him and find a guy that you feel comterble with .And just tell him that you dont want any thing to do with him because you are going to get in alot of **** hole with that other girl
If he really loved you, do you think he'd be seeing someone else?
tell him if he loves you to finish the girl and be with you full time.
you wouldn't want him back if you wasn't having sex with him.
while your having sex you still feel the need to be with him
so you wither loose the sex or he looses the girl hes seeing because he's getting both at the end of the day and your still left heartbroken from it ending, i dont really belive in being friends after a long relationship breaking up. be cacare fullnd think alot about it. dont let him win you around to just staying **** buddies you can do alot better if hes being like that, ytou also got to think if hes seeing a girl and having sex with you, if you get back with him he could do that to you, right?
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i have known this guy for five years. we met in high school and attend the same college. but, anyway, we have always been good friends but during our freshman year in college we hooked up. we decided to become friends with benefits because neither one of us wanted anything serious. we also hooked up with other ppl. anyway, he gave me this long speech about how he is tired of playing the field and wants a committed relationship. he said he was tired of me going out with other dudes and wanted me to himself. he asked me if i wanted to go out with him and i immediately said yes bcuz lately i have been wanting the same thing. so we decided to go steady but the next day he said one of the girl he was hooking up with just found out she was pregnant. NOW HERE COMES THE PART WHERE I NEED THE ADVICE: As much as i loved him and wanted to be with him i knew i had to let him go because i felt like he owed it to himself and his unborn child to give it a shot with the mother.Relationship advice?
You certainly don't need to be told that those are the risks you take with an uncommitted relationship. You were friends for years and you crossed the boundaries of friendship and now you're paying the consequences of those actions.
I think you're wise to let him go. There's no guarantee that he will end up in a relationship with the mother of his child.... perhaps neither of them will even want to do that. If you stay with him, you have to be prepared to have his child as part of your lives along with the baby's mother and that situation might work or it might not.
Once you bring sex into the relationship, you take it to another level and that's where the pain and heartache comes in. There really is no such thing as ';casual'; sex......there is always a price to pay for it!
He needs to resolve his issues with his child's mother and work out a plan with her for what they are going to do, or not going to do.
Personally, it would be a huge issue for me knowing he was having sex with another woman the same time he was having sex with me. That would be something I don't know if I could get past.
You have some serious thinking to do. What you decide is going to affect the lives of 4 people.....yours, his, his child and his child's mother...........not a real nice situation to be in.Relationship advice?
I really dont know what to say!!! It is up to him%26amp;her now!!! We know what is [THE RIGHT THING TO DO] But they have to figure out weather or not they will be happy!!! Because thats what really matters!!!
You certainly don't need to be told that those are the risks you take with an uncommitted relationship. You were friends for years and you crossed the boundaries of friendship and now you're paying the consequences of those actions.
I think you're wise to let him go. There's no guarantee that he will end up in a relationship with the mother of his child.... perhaps neither of them will even want to do that. If you stay with him, you have to be prepared to have his child as part of your lives along with the baby's mother and that situation might work or it might not.
Once you bring sex into the relationship, you take it to another level and that's where the pain and heartache comes in. There really is no such thing as ';casual'; sex......there is always a price to pay for it!
He needs to resolve his issues with his child's mother and work out a plan with her for what they are going to do, or not going to do.
Personally, it would be a huge issue for me knowing he was having sex with another woman the same time he was having sex with me. That would be something I don't know if I could get past.
You have some serious thinking to do. What you decide is going to affect the lives of 4 people.....yours, his, his child and his child's mother...........not a real nice situation to be in.Relationship advice?
I really dont know what to say!!! It is up to him%26amp;her now!!! We know what is [THE RIGHT THING TO DO] But they have to figure out weather or not they will be happy!!! Because thats what really matters!!!
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I have been dating this girl for about a year and a half (girl A). She says she is in love and that she wants nothing more than to marry me and be there for the rest of my life. I am just turning 19 so I don't really feel the same way. Anyway before I was gonna even date her I really fell for this other girl though (Girl B). I found out that girl B didn't feel the same way for me so I went with girl A. Well Now I have been talking to girl B again and I am starting to get those feelings back. Also she is striving more to learn the things I do than girl A is. I cannot tell if she feels the same way for me. She seems to hint at it but that could just be me. She is however trying to date this other guy which happens to be one of my close friends. I was thinking maybe she does have feeling but since I am with girl A and girl B knows about girl A's plans of marriage that she just assumes that I will not give it a try. I don't wanna ruin my friendship with girl B but I really like her so...?Relationship Advice!?
You shouldn't have gone out with girl A as an alternative to girl B. That's really unfair to her. And I think it's quite apparent that your heart's not really with girl A. Since she's going to get hurt anyway, maybe you could just ask girl B if she likes you. That way, you will satisfy your curiosity and won't have any regrets. (But if she really does like you, she wouldn't be dating another guy.) Any way, I think you should stop dating girl A. Unless you're sure that you really like her.Relationship Advice!?
I know EXACTLY how you feel. You want a ';fall back.'; You are not a horrible person, you are human, but you need to do the right thing. Break it off with Girl A. If it ain't there, it ain't there. Tell Girl B the way you feel. If she feels the same, great, if not, let the search for C begin. Report Abuse
You shouldn't have gone out with girl A as an alternative to girl B. That's really unfair to her. And I think it's quite apparent that your heart's not really with girl A. Since she's going to get hurt anyway, maybe you could just ask girl B if she likes you. That way, you will satisfy your curiosity and won't have any regrets. (But if she really does like you, she wouldn't be dating another guy.) Any way, I think you should stop dating girl A. Unless you're sure that you really like her.Relationship Advice!?
I know EXACTLY how you feel. You want a ';fall back.'; You are not a horrible person, you are human, but you need to do the right thing. Break it off with Girl A. If it ain't there, it ain't there. Tell Girl B the way you feel. If she feels the same, great, if not, let the search for C begin. Report Abuse
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Me and my boyfriend had been together for a year, and just broke up 2 days ago. He's 20 and I'm 19, we are both in college and doing the right thing with our lives and we seemed so perfect together. I love him and care for him a lot and he feels the same. We have lots of fun together, but also like other couples we argue. We broke up because he felt like he wanted to go out and get more experience while he's still young and that he didn't want to deal with the stress of a relationship. He told me this b/c he felt himself getting curious and he didn't want to hurt me. This was a new experience for both of us except I've been and a lot more short term relationships before him, while he's only been with or 2 other ppl. Of course I'm still hurt and in the the beginning I tried talking him out of it but he pretty much stuck to his decision saying that he'll wind up hurting me. He keeps saying forget him I'll find better, but I know this comes from him thinking he's not good enough.
We even talked about getting married, named our future kids...we both seemed so sure of what we wanted and now this....We agreed to still be friends and he even invited me to come hang with him and his friends later this week (something we never got to do while we were together) I miss him a lot and think of him all day, and wish there was a way we could be together, but i'm all out of options but to except this new friendship :-/. I just don't understand how he could feel this way yet says he still loves me, and while knowing what a great person I am.
Is there anything more I can/could've done? Anything I should say? I just want our happy times back and I love him and want to be with him
SORRY THIS IS SO LONG, I HOPE SOMEONE HAS THE PATIENCE TO READ IT AND HELP ME OUT A LITTLE'Relationship' advice :-(?
To say the truth, relationships going through post secondary is stressful especially if you're both attending different institutions, the sense of loneliness comes in place, then trust issues with the new people you meet, especially if someone is interested in you which makes you change your mind about your relationship. I think that you guys have made a good decision in breaking up but don't burn any bridges, if it was meant to be then you two will be back together later on. You say your boyfriend fears he will hurt you, could it be because of the new girls that will come across his way? or does it involve him paying more attention to his studies?.
We even talked about getting married, named our future kids...we both seemed so sure of what we wanted and now this....We agreed to still be friends and he even invited me to come hang with him and his friends later this week (something we never got to do while we were together) I miss him a lot and think of him all day, and wish there was a way we could be together, but i'm all out of options but to except this new friendship :-/. I just don't understand how he could feel this way yet says he still loves me, and while knowing what a great person I am.
Is there anything more I can/could've done? Anything I should say? I just want our happy times back and I love him and want to be with him
SORRY THIS IS SO LONG, I HOPE SOMEONE HAS THE PATIENCE TO READ IT AND HELP ME OUT A LITTLE'Relationship' advice :-(?
To say the truth, relationships going through post secondary is stressful especially if you're both attending different institutions, the sense of loneliness comes in place, then trust issues with the new people you meet, especially if someone is interested in you which makes you change your mind about your relationship. I think that you guys have made a good decision in breaking up but don't burn any bridges, if it was meant to be then you two will be back together later on. You say your boyfriend fears he will hurt you, could it be because of the new girls that will come across his way? or does it involve him paying more attention to his studies?.
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me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years i love her more than anything but i think she wants out of the relationship. i know she would never cheat on me because she knows id find out. but lately when we make arrangements to see each other she keeps changing the plans like this weekend we were supposed to meet on friday but she changed it to saturday then she changed it to today now she has changed it to tomorrow. were both jobless at the moment and thats putting alot of stress on me as i feel i cant provide for her. lately it just seems like she doesnt want to see me. i cant even remeber the last time we made love im 22 she is 21 this year i get so lonely and i miss her so much iv talked to her about it but all she does is apologise but when we do see each other its amasing. we cuddle alot we talk alot we spend all out time together just near each other. i dont want to loose her. please helpRelationship advice?
Basically all you need to do Is tell her what you've just told us.
Explain to her how you feel! Properly. Thats probably the best thing you can do.
to be honest. She needs to no that you want this relationship to work and you need to no if she is there meeting you half way. If she loves you she will understand.
Due to the lack of excitement in your relationship it has made you feel really insecure about the whole thing.
I think sometimes people mull over what could be happening in their other partners mind that they actually think of the worst.
Try to relax a little, Ino the feeling wen a partner turns you down for a day out. that dissopointing feeling is the worst. But you've got to remember that she could be genuinley busy.
You need to sit her down and ask her straight wat does she want. Because your never going to no if you don't ask. But some tip of advice. a woman doesnt like it wen all the blame is set on her. So try and be easy on her, because you dont want an upset girlfriend and her thinking that it's all her fault. Just be a bit considerate and think things out properly. if you get wat i mean
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i think you should get a job and prove her that its good to hang out with you. try inviting her somewhere. and ask the day you ask if she's gonna cancel. if she's canceling every single week, maybe she has a family problem and she's too uncomfortable to tell you. if she's dropping you hints that she wants to break up, well then... talk to her. its better to talk... than stay silent and not know whats goin on. Hope this helps.... :)
Well its very obvious that you care alot about your girlfriend....but you need to really talk it out...and if she tries to apologise...tell her not to...and just tell her to be honest with you because you wanna make it work...an do something nice...cook a nice meal for you both...or something...then talk it through...and you never know what might happen after...(if you get my drift) haha.....but at all times...follow your heart!
well i wish you all the luck in the world! =)
Dont stress it so much. Find a steady job to keep you busy. Stressing about it will only make it harder for you. Do you think the relationship has run its course? You should discuss this with your significant other. Tell her that you love her and that you are worried of losing her. Spark the romance. Do little things for her. Do romantic things. I say GOOD LUCK to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Have a break, Its good for a relationship, if you don't see each other for a few days. And if she cares for you, she will come back to you with open arms. If she doesnt let her go.You can't make her do anything she doesn't want to. Hope it works out.
i think you two should get a job... and its not that she doesnt want to be with u.. i think u guys both being jobless puts a lot of stress on you two and her... or if anything. tell her to get her *** out of the couch and get a job. haha ok hope that helps byee =)lipstick gloss
Basically all you need to do Is tell her what you've just told us.
Explain to her how you feel! Properly. Thats probably the best thing you can do.
to be honest. She needs to no that you want this relationship to work and you need to no if she is there meeting you half way. If she loves you she will understand.
Due to the lack of excitement in your relationship it has made you feel really insecure about the whole thing.
I think sometimes people mull over what could be happening in their other partners mind that they actually think of the worst.
Try to relax a little, Ino the feeling wen a partner turns you down for a day out. that dissopointing feeling is the worst. But you've got to remember that she could be genuinley busy.
You need to sit her down and ask her straight wat does she want. Because your never going to no if you don't ask. But some tip of advice. a woman doesnt like it wen all the blame is set on her. So try and be easy on her, because you dont want an upset girlfriend and her thinking that it's all her fault. Just be a bit considerate and think things out properly. if you get wat i mean
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i think you should get a job and prove her that its good to hang out with you. try inviting her somewhere. and ask the day you ask if she's gonna cancel. if she's canceling every single week, maybe she has a family problem and she's too uncomfortable to tell you. if she's dropping you hints that she wants to break up, well then... talk to her. its better to talk... than stay silent and not know whats goin on. Hope this helps.... :)
Well its very obvious that you care alot about your girlfriend....but you need to really talk it out...and if she tries to apologise...tell her not to...and just tell her to be honest with you because you wanna make it work...an do something nice...cook a nice meal for you both...or something...then talk it through...and you never know what might happen after...(if you get my drift) haha.....but at all times...follow your heart!
well i wish you all the luck in the world! =)
Dont stress it so much. Find a steady job to keep you busy. Stressing about it will only make it harder for you. Do you think the relationship has run its course? You should discuss this with your significant other. Tell her that you love her and that you are worried of losing her. Spark the romance. Do little things for her. Do romantic things. I say GOOD LUCK to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Have a break, Its good for a relationship, if you don't see each other for a few days. And if she cares for you, she will come back to you with open arms. If she doesnt let her go.You can't make her do anything she doesn't want to. Hope it works out.
i think you two should get a job... and its not that she doesnt want to be with u.. i think u guys both being jobless puts a lot of stress on you two and her... or if anything. tell her to get her *** out of the couch and get a job. haha ok hope that helps byee =)
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me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years i love her more than anything but i think she wants out of the relationship. i know she would never cheat on me because she knows id find out. but lately when we make arrangements to see each other she keeps changing the plans like this weekend we were supposed to meet on friday but she changed it to saturday then she changed it to today now she has changed it to tomorrow. were both jobless at the moment and thats putting alot of stress on me as i feel i cant provide for her. lately it just seems like she doesnt want to see me. i cant even remeber the last time we made love im 22 she is 21 this year i get so lonely and i miss her so much iv talked to her about it but all she does is apologise but when we do see each other its amasing. we cuddle alot we talk alot we spend all out time together just near each other. i dont want to loose her. please helpRelationship advice?
Go into detail about how you're hurting. Ask her what's wrong. And when she answers, let her answer. Do not interrupt. If it still sounds as though she wants out. Ask if there's something you can do. If she still wants to leave, then let her. You can't make it work if she doesn't want it to. It takes two to have a successful relationship and if one isn't for it, then it won't work. Just give it some time. Become friends with her and let her know you'll always be there. Hope this helps. :0)
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Ask her what is going on with her...
and find out why exactly she is changing her plans with you.
Is she looking for a job? Maybe wanting to spend sometime with friends.
If she wanted out, she would find a way out.
Maybe by doing things to get you to break up with her.
Starting dumb arguments.. is a big one.
Don't worry too much.
Just talk to her and see what's up.
aww...you 2 seem sooo in luurrve. Its cute. Its prob not having a job getting to her or erm...is she tired of the relationship not moving forward? maybe you should commit to her...i fits the right time. dunno. she prob wanting more. talk to her. tell her she needs to tell you if anything is bothering her. ask her if anything is up. ask her if she is happy. talk it through throughly.
ok it sounds like she loves u very much but is scared of hurting you. she feels that shes letting u down cuz she doesn't want to get married and have kids so the more she stays away from u the less she will be hurting u. but when u see each other she's showing you what her heart really feels. its that classic ';do u listen to your heart or your head?';. She is blaming herself cuz she feels she is hurting u. hope that helps
she doesnt ever want to get married.. to anyone... ? how was her child life like.. because if it wasnt so good this may be the cause... talk to her more about it and when she says simple answers like im sorry or its nothing.. DONT BELEIVE IT! girls are Way more complex then that.. when we say everythings ok and we are sorry..then its not ok.. we need to talk about it in circles untill some how you guys break threw to the real problem... because if you are happy when you see her .. and every things dandy.. then she turns around and is busy and cant or doesnt folow threw.. then either...
1. shes afraid...
2. she wants to get out . but when she sees you she knows she really doesnt..
3. shes just busy.. we are busy sometimes..
4. shes sending you a message ...
5. unknown ...
but the best thing to do is say : i dont knwo whats going on but i feel like there is somethink wrong.. and i dont understand why everythings great in person, but getting to the person part is so hard.. and if you really love her then ask her why she doesnt want to get married.. tell her you will never hurt her ever.. and then say if you want to break up we can but its your call because i love you more then life and i want to be with you till the sun is blue.. or something lol.. ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years.. ive had moments like this.. but we always make it threw and its always worth it ..! good luck!
Go into detail about how you're hurting. Ask her what's wrong. And when she answers, let her answer. Do not interrupt. If it still sounds as though she wants out. Ask if there's something you can do. If she still wants to leave, then let her. You can't make it work if she doesn't want it to. It takes two to have a successful relationship and if one isn't for it, then it won't work. Just give it some time. Become friends with her and let her know you'll always be there. Hope this helps. :0)
Please answer my dilemma:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/;_ylc=鈥?/a>Relationship advice?
Ask her what is going on with her...
and find out why exactly she is changing her plans with you.
Is she looking for a job? Maybe wanting to spend sometime with friends.
If she wanted out, she would find a way out.
Maybe by doing things to get you to break up with her.
Starting dumb arguments.. is a big one.
Don't worry too much.
Just talk to her and see what's up.
aww...you 2 seem sooo in luurrve. Its cute. Its prob not having a job getting to her or erm...is she tired of the relationship not moving forward? maybe you should commit to her...i fits the right time. dunno. she prob wanting more. talk to her. tell her she needs to tell you if anything is bothering her. ask her if anything is up. ask her if she is happy. talk it through throughly.
ok it sounds like she loves u very much but is scared of hurting you. she feels that shes letting u down cuz she doesn't want to get married and have kids so the more she stays away from u the less she will be hurting u. but when u see each other she's showing you what her heart really feels. its that classic ';do u listen to your heart or your head?';. She is blaming herself cuz she feels she is hurting u. hope that helps
she doesnt ever want to get married.. to anyone... ? how was her child life like.. because if it wasnt so good this may be the cause... talk to her more about it and when she says simple answers like im sorry or its nothing.. DONT BELEIVE IT! girls are Way more complex then that.. when we say everythings ok and we are sorry..then its not ok.. we need to talk about it in circles untill some how you guys break threw to the real problem... because if you are happy when you see her .. and every things dandy.. then she turns around and is busy and cant or doesnt folow threw.. then either...
1. shes afraid...
2. she wants to get out . but when she sees you she knows she really doesnt..
3. shes just busy.. we are busy sometimes..
4. shes sending you a message ...
5. unknown ...
but the best thing to do is say : i dont knwo whats going on but i feel like there is somethink wrong.. and i dont understand why everythings great in person, but getting to the person part is so hard.. and if you really love her then ask her why she doesnt want to get married.. tell her you will never hurt her ever.. and then say if you want to break up we can but its your call because i love you more then life and i want to be with you till the sun is blue.. or something lol.. ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years.. ive had moments like this.. but we always make it threw and its always worth it ..! good luck!
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I started dating my BF 9 months ago. About 2 months ago I left the state we both lived in to go do a 10 month residential volunteer program. We decided we wanted to stay together (breaking up wasn't even an option in his opinion). Since being in the program I realized that while he truely is a WONDERFUL person, our lives are going in completely different directions. We both want different things out of our lives. He doesn't know that I feel this way. On top of it he says that I'm the only thing that keeps him going and the only thing that makes him happy. He doesn't have many friends at all and works a job he hates. I am his first serious girlfriend. He's been depressed lately. To top it all off I met a person whose company I really enjoy and whom I can see me working out with. What should I do? I don't hate or dislike my boyfriend. I think he's a wonderful person. I feel horrible. I';m going home for x-mas and he paid for my ticket and his family is buying me a present.Relationship Advice?
You have to do the only thing you can do. You've got to be honest with him, and you should do it in person. I'm in the military, and fully understand the effects of being away from the one I love for long periods of time. There was a point in her life where she felt she couldn't handle the distance... she was honest with me though. She went out on her own to figure things out, and got hurt in the process. Due to her being honest with me, I was able to forgive her, and understand she had to do what she had to do, to figure it out in her own mind. Now, I trust her more than ever.
You have to do the only thing you can do. You've got to be honest with him, and you should do it in person. I'm in the military, and fully understand the effects of being away from the one I love for long periods of time. There was a point in her life where she felt she couldn't handle the distance... she was honest with me though. She went out on her own to figure things out, and got hurt in the process. Due to her being honest with me, I was able to forgive her, and understand she had to do what she had to do, to figure it out in her own mind. Now, I trust her more than ever.
Relationship advice.?
Now, I'm the last person to be wanting advice, only but from my Psychiatrist. I want a simple woman out there to choose, not for me, but for a little push, in a relationship speed-bump. I would greatly appreciate it. Aside from my deep thoughts, I want simple for once.
A) a guy I knew since February of '09 in my 5 hour driving course, who can tell when I'm upset or content, who I feel the safest with, who has so much in common with me when it comes to blood and evil. We have sex every time we're together, and when I ask why he likes me, he answers ';You're cool.'; But when I ask him what his take is on a relationship with me, he answers, ';I don't want to rush into anything because all of my relationships have gone to **** in the past, and I don't want to have the same happen with you.';
B) a guy who I've known since May 17th, from MySpace, who can get inside of my head when I don't even want him to, who says he cares a lot about me, and knows how to treat a woman. He has a drinking, money and smoking problem that he's willing to change just for me. He lives 3 hours away, and is also willing to drop everything just to be with someone he barely knows. He's wonderful to me. But, he calls me every 10 minutes, always wanting to know if I'm hanging out with Guy A. I don't lie, so I tell them both what's going on.
Help? Please.?Relationship advice.?
A.
Sex in relationships always relieves stress.
Also he seems to understand you.Relationship advice.?
The best answer i can give you is to seek GOD first and when you let GOD position you for a mate it will be according to his word. If you just read the book of Ruth it will help alot. but remember when GOD has a hand in the plan when your mate finds you there is nothing you will have to compromise.
whoa, stay back from guy B!! he sounds so creepy. How can he act like this after knowing you on Myspace for only a couple of weeks?? Cut it off with him now!!
As for guy A.... well how can he say he doesn't want to rush anything if he already has you in the sack? sounds like a player to me..
I choose Guy C... as in, find someone else!
A you've known him longer.
Neither one. Guy A sounds like he is using you for sex. Sure you have some things in common, but he is using his past as an excuse not to commit. Hes probably been burned by women and doesnt trust them much as far as letting himself be totally free (emotionally as well as physically) with them.
Guy B? You have got to be kidding right? Youve known him for a couple of weeks and it sounds like hes already obsessed. You met him on the internet, how can you be sure that he is who he is? He could be married and just wants to cheat on his wife, or girlfriend. He could be even worse and be one of those predators online. Have you not seen on the news about that ';craigslist killer';?
don't go for the myspace dude. as soon as novelty wears off then he will probably go back to the drinking and smoking - and it might be too late to turn back. (if he has a problem with these sort of things there might be other stuff that could happen - think he could be cheating when out drinking and you will be oblivious to it, sat at home 3hours away not knowing anyone in his town who would tell you) be careful with meeting over the internet as well. i'm guessing you havn't met him so you can't really tell if there's a physical attraction between you both. and 3hours away? come on girl, thats not practical. guy a sounds like a charmer but seriously, if he's ready for sex he should be ready for a relationship. you never know who else he could be doing this to, you know? yes sex is great but it should enhance a relationship, not make it. i'd tell him how you feel. say you love spending time with him but don't understand why a relationship can't happen, if you take it slow. be careful that you don't end up being the girl between relationships, if you know what i mean. he sounds like he likes you, but if he likes you enough he should be jumping at the chance to make you his, as i'm sure most other guys would. most people say they aren't ready for relationships, but would happily go into one if miss perfect came along. if he doesn't respond well then i'd seriously get back out there and look for someone else. and a bit of advice with guy b - words don't always say what they mean. he may say he knows how to treat a woman but does he? and getting inside your head when you don't want him to - that just sounds a little creepy. i hope it all goes well for you anyways. im having a relationship trauma of my own atm :/ good luck!
A) a guy I knew since February of '09 in my 5 hour driving course, who can tell when I'm upset or content, who I feel the safest with, who has so much in common with me when it comes to blood and evil. We have sex every time we're together, and when I ask why he likes me, he answers ';You're cool.'; But when I ask him what his take is on a relationship with me, he answers, ';I don't want to rush into anything because all of my relationships have gone to **** in the past, and I don't want to have the same happen with you.';
B) a guy who I've known since May 17th, from MySpace, who can get inside of my head when I don't even want him to, who says he cares a lot about me, and knows how to treat a woman. He has a drinking, money and smoking problem that he's willing to change just for me. He lives 3 hours away, and is also willing to drop everything just to be with someone he barely knows. He's wonderful to me. But, he calls me every 10 minutes, always wanting to know if I'm hanging out with Guy A. I don't lie, so I tell them both what's going on.
Help? Please.?Relationship advice.?
A.
Sex in relationships always relieves stress.
Also he seems to understand you.Relationship advice.?
The best answer i can give you is to seek GOD first and when you let GOD position you for a mate it will be according to his word. If you just read the book of Ruth it will help alot. but remember when GOD has a hand in the plan when your mate finds you there is nothing you will have to compromise.
whoa, stay back from guy B!! he sounds so creepy. How can he act like this after knowing you on Myspace for only a couple of weeks?? Cut it off with him now!!
As for guy A.... well how can he say he doesn't want to rush anything if he already has you in the sack? sounds like a player to me..
I choose Guy C... as in, find someone else!
A you've known him longer.
Neither one. Guy A sounds like he is using you for sex. Sure you have some things in common, but he is using his past as an excuse not to commit. Hes probably been burned by women and doesnt trust them much as far as letting himself be totally free (emotionally as well as physically) with them.
Guy B? You have got to be kidding right? Youve known him for a couple of weeks and it sounds like hes already obsessed. You met him on the internet, how can you be sure that he is who he is? He could be married and just wants to cheat on his wife, or girlfriend. He could be even worse and be one of those predators online. Have you not seen on the news about that ';craigslist killer';?
don't go for the myspace dude. as soon as novelty wears off then he will probably go back to the drinking and smoking - and it might be too late to turn back. (if he has a problem with these sort of things there might be other stuff that could happen - think he could be cheating when out drinking and you will be oblivious to it, sat at home 3hours away not knowing anyone in his town who would tell you) be careful with meeting over the internet as well. i'm guessing you havn't met him so you can't really tell if there's a physical attraction between you both. and 3hours away? come on girl, thats not practical. guy a sounds like a charmer but seriously, if he's ready for sex he should be ready for a relationship. you never know who else he could be doing this to, you know? yes sex is great but it should enhance a relationship, not make it. i'd tell him how you feel. say you love spending time with him but don't understand why a relationship can't happen, if you take it slow. be careful that you don't end up being the girl between relationships, if you know what i mean. he sounds like he likes you, but if he likes you enough he should be jumping at the chance to make you his, as i'm sure most other guys would. most people say they aren't ready for relationships, but would happily go into one if miss perfect came along. if he doesn't respond well then i'd seriously get back out there and look for someone else. and a bit of advice with guy b - words don't always say what they mean. he may say he knows how to treat a woman but does he? and getting inside your head when you don't want him to - that just sounds a little creepy. i hope it all goes well for you anyways. im having a relationship trauma of my own atm :/ good luck!
Relationship advice!?
Ok, so this is a very personal, and perhaps somewhat too blunt or graphic thing to share with random people, but at the same time I really feel I need an objective opinion on it – by people who doesn’t know me or the other person involved.
Ok, so here goes.
I’ve been seeing a guy (i.e, going on dates and sleeping with) for just under a year now. We lived together with a few friends and didn’t know each other well at first, but then really quickly we got really close, and soon after that we progressed into being (I hate this term!!) “**** buddies.”
We hung out all the time, and basically became best friends.
Now, we’re still not in an exact relationship- as now we are doing the long-distance thing- but we are still together, still exclusive and we both really like each other.
The problem is, I’m really worried about it and our future.
I adore him, he makes me laugh so much and we are so close. But recently- i.e. for the last few months, I haven’t really fancied him. I mean, I appreciate hugs and kisses and things, but I end up feeling like it’s a chore to do anything more and the sex- which although fun- has never exactly been satisfying to me, and I never really want him anymore.
I like him so much and I don’t want to lose him, but I don’t want to keep feeling like this!
He has told me that he loves me, he wants me to move in with him when I graduate and he talks about our future a lot. He tells me he’d be lost without me.
I don’t know what to do; I would stay with him if I still fancied him and was sexually satisfied. But from my point of view these are things that need to be good and intact for a long term relationship-especially for marriage! Also, it scares me that he loves me, and yet I know I don’t love him. And if I don’t now, will I ever?
Also, I have talked to him very openly about our sex life and desires, and he is very willing to try new things and listen to me, but still nothing ever makes me orgasm. It’s very frustrating for me, and I have taken to faking it because I don’t want to hurt his feelings!
Help me please, basically!!Relationship advice!?
You are going to have to be really honest with him for both your sakes.
If you think the sex is never going to be satisfying for you it would be better to put a stop to it as soon as you can. Otherwise you're just doing him a favour every time and that can be patronising. Also you should not be faking. If you were really interested in him you would be coaching him in how to please you.
You say you adore him but you don't love him. You are not ';in love'; with him but it sounds like he could be with you so you have to be truthful.
You may risk losing him but be sure if he continues seeing you as a friend he is not expecting you to change your mind.
Ok, so here goes.
I’ve been seeing a guy (i.e, going on dates and sleeping with) for just under a year now. We lived together with a few friends and didn’t know each other well at first, but then really quickly we got really close, and soon after that we progressed into being (I hate this term!!) “**** buddies.”
We hung out all the time, and basically became best friends.
Now, we’re still not in an exact relationship- as now we are doing the long-distance thing- but we are still together, still exclusive and we both really like each other.
The problem is, I’m really worried about it and our future.
I adore him, he makes me laugh so much and we are so close. But recently- i.e. for the last few months, I haven’t really fancied him. I mean, I appreciate hugs and kisses and things, but I end up feeling like it’s a chore to do anything more and the sex- which although fun- has never exactly been satisfying to me, and I never really want him anymore.
I like him so much and I don’t want to lose him, but I don’t want to keep feeling like this!
He has told me that he loves me, he wants me to move in with him when I graduate and he talks about our future a lot. He tells me he’d be lost without me.
I don’t know what to do; I would stay with him if I still fancied him and was sexually satisfied. But from my point of view these are things that need to be good and intact for a long term relationship-especially for marriage! Also, it scares me that he loves me, and yet I know I don’t love him. And if I don’t now, will I ever?
Also, I have talked to him very openly about our sex life and desires, and he is very willing to try new things and listen to me, but still nothing ever makes me orgasm. It’s very frustrating for me, and I have taken to faking it because I don’t want to hurt his feelings!
Help me please, basically!!Relationship advice!?
You are going to have to be really honest with him for both your sakes.
If you think the sex is never going to be satisfying for you it would be better to put a stop to it as soon as you can. Otherwise you're just doing him a favour every time and that can be patronising. Also you should not be faking. If you were really interested in him you would be coaching him in how to please you.
You say you adore him but you don't love him. You are not ';in love'; with him but it sounds like he could be with you so you have to be truthful.
You may risk losing him but be sure if he continues seeing you as a friend he is not expecting you to change your mind.
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Okay, My ex ask me back out today, i do like him but theres just one thing. im in love with this other guy, and he loves me,
but distance is the one thing and olny think keeping us from eachother, he's not really far from me, but so far were we both know it would be to emotional to have a relationship,
i don't know if i should keep waiting for him, or go back with my ex. im alot more confused than what i should be.
but if you could give me some advice that i can understand, then that'd be great.
:)
thanks.Relationship Advice?
Hey this must be hard on you if you think that getting with the new guy could be too emotional then try to wait it out and clear your mind and don't go back out with your ex -there has to be a reason he is your ex in the first place right? So just stay single for a while and see what will happen next you might like it better then going with one or anotherRelationship Advice?
If you're in love with this other guy then I think u should wait for him because if you do end up dating your ex and the other guy pops up then your ex will be the one left hurt and if you find that you really really have strong feelings for your ex you might end up even more confused when its time to choose so...
I'd wait even tho it seems hard.
my opinion is the terms on which you and your ex broke up on. if they were good, then give it a try if not dont. and if the distance is too far just do your own thing for a little while.
Well i remember back when Maude and me where tying the knot, and she always had her ex on the side. We were distant, and her ex lived nearby. He kept niggly-iggling at her until she decided to go for me. And since then we have been graciously-lovey-diddly-fine!
go for the other guy sweetheart. you'll be doing just fine.
but distance is the one thing and olny think keeping us from eachother, he's not really far from me, but so far were we both know it would be to emotional to have a relationship,
i don't know if i should keep waiting for him, or go back with my ex. im alot more confused than what i should be.
but if you could give me some advice that i can understand, then that'd be great.
:)
thanks.Relationship Advice?
Hey this must be hard on you if you think that getting with the new guy could be too emotional then try to wait it out and clear your mind and don't go back out with your ex -there has to be a reason he is your ex in the first place right? So just stay single for a while and see what will happen next you might like it better then going with one or anotherRelationship Advice?
If you're in love with this other guy then I think u should wait for him because if you do end up dating your ex and the other guy pops up then your ex will be the one left hurt and if you find that you really really have strong feelings for your ex you might end up even more confused when its time to choose so...
I'd wait even tho it seems hard.
my opinion is the terms on which you and your ex broke up on. if they were good, then give it a try if not dont. and if the distance is too far just do your own thing for a little while.
Well i remember back when Maude and me where tying the knot, and she always had her ex on the side. We were distant, and her ex lived nearby. He kept niggly-iggling at her until she decided to go for me. And since then we have been graciously-lovey-diddly-fine!
go for the other guy sweetheart. you'll be doing just fine.
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Ok so this guy right I liked him from the start,we were friends,and when he broke up with his girlfriend he asked me out.But now I have a feeling that he doesn't like me because he told me he doesn't want anyone to know and he likes talk to his ex more than me.I really don't think he understands how much I love him =(.Its just a pain in the heart.Please give me some advice please =(Relationship advice =(?
I think you need to give this some time. He may want to cover up his feelings for you to protect his girlfriends'. Show him that you are interested and don't be intimidated by his ex.Relationship advice =(?
Ok wow almost the same situation here except in a guy and it is a girl lol!
He apparently isnt over his Ex which for us guys depending on how far you went with your Ex it is hard to get over them!
Show himt hat you love him unconditionally and he should see it unless he is an absolute idiot! and if it dont work out there is always good guys out there! but show him that you care that you will ';be there in the morning'; so to say (hypothetically dont go sleep with him) lol
guys never actually understand that u like them until u tell them...........they r like babies and everything needs to be explained to them.......remind he asked YOU out and tell him to get over his ex cuz HE dumped her................then tell him that if he loves her so much then why did he ask u out??????tell him u like him and that u saw he was happy w/ his ex and so u didnt try to tear them apart............but tell him ur happiness counts for a hell of a lot 2!!!!!!!!!!!!tell him u like him and walk away he will come to his senses...................good luck%26lt;3!!!!!!
Alright here's some advice right here cus I'm a nice guy. He obviously doesn't love you as much as her. If he truly wanted to be with you he would want everybody to know that you two are an item. The guy is fooling you around and you should dump him in public just to make a fool of him.
he may be regretting breaking up with his girlfriend. I think you need to not give to this guy until he makes a more firm desicion/commitment to something. It sounds like there is a good chance he might get back with her so you need to protect yourself.
if he doesn't want anyone to know about you, that's a really bad sign... if he just came out of the relationship he's probaly just keeping you around for back up... if i were you i would stop talking to this guy... he doesn't feel the same, because if he did, he wouldn't treat you that way. I know it's easier said than done, but ignore him and act like you don't care. I bet that will make him want you after...
obviously he likes his ex more than you if he like to talk to her more confront him!
he sounds like a weird jerk. I would drop him. there are better guys out there who will love you back
u gotta talk to him NOW before things get even worse girl, talk to him about it, and if he still doesnt change, then leave him because u deserve so much better, i know its hard i been in a similar situation. my ex's ex gf got pregnant and he was so busy fightin her BF for her and so rapped up in her drama that he pretty much didnt speak to me at all for a WEEK, i would contact him and he would tell me he ';wasnt in a good mood and didnt know what he wants anymore';
any guy who acts like that, its a red light, u should try to move on
Well honestly you were his rebound and thats why he wants to keep it on the hush hush because he wants to get back with her, I think you made a mistake when he asked you out and you excepted you should have told him ';look I love you I really do but you are asking me out for the wrong reasons because you are hurting so I will have to say no and besides I don't want to ruin our friendship';. It's never right to be a rebound it will break your heart everytime.
Love loves nobody but itself is what i always say. You may not understand when you read this but think about it. You always want it no matter how much it hurts. I think he likes you but is trying to get you and the girlfriend so by you hiding it he' s doing the i like so much it's our secret thing. don't fall for it.
'hey. i like you a lot. im not feelin it from you so much. sorry'
cuz he seems like an ***, and u deserve better.
rebound?
try talking to him about it . its hard for him to let his heart go to you after he broke up. give it time...... if that doesn't work then seriously you have to talk to him and tell him how much you love him and i am 12 yrs old and i am great at giving relationship advice you can contact me at cheong.wesley@gmail.comlipstick gloss
I think you need to give this some time. He may want to cover up his feelings for you to protect his girlfriends'. Show him that you are interested and don't be intimidated by his ex.Relationship advice =(?
Ok wow almost the same situation here except in a guy and it is a girl lol!
He apparently isnt over his Ex which for us guys depending on how far you went with your Ex it is hard to get over them!
Show himt hat you love him unconditionally and he should see it unless he is an absolute idiot! and if it dont work out there is always good guys out there! but show him that you care that you will ';be there in the morning'; so to say (hypothetically dont go sleep with him) lol
guys never actually understand that u like them until u tell them...........they r like babies and everything needs to be explained to them.......remind he asked YOU out and tell him to get over his ex cuz HE dumped her................then tell him that if he loves her so much then why did he ask u out??????tell him u like him and that u saw he was happy w/ his ex and so u didnt try to tear them apart............but tell him ur happiness counts for a hell of a lot 2!!!!!!!!!!!!tell him u like him and walk away he will come to his senses...................good luck%26lt;3!!!!!!
Alright here's some advice right here cus I'm a nice guy. He obviously doesn't love you as much as her. If he truly wanted to be with you he would want everybody to know that you two are an item. The guy is fooling you around and you should dump him in public just to make a fool of him.
he may be regretting breaking up with his girlfriend. I think you need to not give to this guy until he makes a more firm desicion/commitment to something. It sounds like there is a good chance he might get back with her so you need to protect yourself.
if he doesn't want anyone to know about you, that's a really bad sign... if he just came out of the relationship he's probaly just keeping you around for back up... if i were you i would stop talking to this guy... he doesn't feel the same, because if he did, he wouldn't treat you that way. I know it's easier said than done, but ignore him and act like you don't care. I bet that will make him want you after...
obviously he likes his ex more than you if he like to talk to her more confront him!
he sounds like a weird jerk. I would drop him. there are better guys out there who will love you back
u gotta talk to him NOW before things get even worse girl, talk to him about it, and if he still doesnt change, then leave him because u deserve so much better, i know its hard i been in a similar situation. my ex's ex gf got pregnant and he was so busy fightin her BF for her and so rapped up in her drama that he pretty much didnt speak to me at all for a WEEK, i would contact him and he would tell me he ';wasnt in a good mood and didnt know what he wants anymore';
any guy who acts like that, its a red light, u should try to move on
Well honestly you were his rebound and thats why he wants to keep it on the hush hush because he wants to get back with her, I think you made a mistake when he asked you out and you excepted you should have told him ';look I love you I really do but you are asking me out for the wrong reasons because you are hurting so I will have to say no and besides I don't want to ruin our friendship';. It's never right to be a rebound it will break your heart everytime.
Love loves nobody but itself is what i always say. You may not understand when you read this but think about it. You always want it no matter how much it hurts. I think he likes you but is trying to get you and the girlfriend so by you hiding it he' s doing the i like so much it's our secret thing. don't fall for it.
'hey. i like you a lot. im not feelin it from you so much. sorry'
cuz he seems like an ***, and u deserve better.
rebound?
try talking to him about it . its hard for him to let his heart go to you after he broke up. give it time...... if that doesn't work then seriously you have to talk to him and tell him how much you love him and i am 12 yrs old and i am great at giving relationship advice you can contact me at cheong.wesley@gmail.com
Relationship advice?
Ok i need help. Me and my gf have been dating for about 4weeks now.
and we only see eachother 2times a week every week
because we meet at church (and yes we are christians)
we done stuff like hold eachother and hug and hold hands but thats as far it goes, and im not complaining at all!
i enjoy how it is. but (oh yeah) one more thing me and my gf talk to eachother like everyday!! so yeah.
but it seems like she drifting away. like when i say ';i love you';
to her.. she doesnt say it back!
i need help. how do i know what she wants? am i doing something wrong? help me out please!
-nicRelationship advice?
You say I love you after 4 weeks? That's moving a little fast. Maybe she is a little freaked out by that. Just slow down. Other then the fact that you probably said I love you WAY to early....you haven't done anything wrong. Just enjoy the time you spend with her and take it SLOW!Relationship advice?
I don't know how old you are but when you say I love you to someone you should really mean it. I know personally as a women I hate it when we have been dating for a little while he tells you I love you. If it is appropriate amount of time and I feel the same way I say it back but if it is not I don't. I don't' think you and your girlfriend are drifting apart. I think maybe she wants to know a lot more about you before she says I love you back.
Since you guys have only been together for 4 weeks, it may be a bit too fast for her to accept ';I love you'; from you. It will definitely take some time for her to feel secured and wholeheartedly comfortable abt the whole issue. She may not be drifting apart but she must be needing some time to respond. Im my opinion, as a girl myself, it took me almost 2 years to accept my boyfriend and to be honest even now (4 years), i only feel that i am 85% secured with him.
why don't you ask her how she feels. Make sure she thinks things are going good..... Try telling her she means alot to you (without saying ';I love you';) and see what she has to say. If she is losing intrest, then her answer to how she thinks things are going should give it away. HTH
u a b it ch she dont love your punk a ss. she wants me!!! lol no seriously she wants me im a real man
4 weeks is a short time to start saying i love you, she prolly doesnt feel ready to say that, you and her to get to know each other a little more
Hi!
Well let me start off by saying congrats on your new relationship!
When you tell her you love her, is it overused? Sometimes a woman (or girl, depending how old you are!) may feel a little pushed or smothered when it comes to a touchy subject such as this. Wait for her to tell you, and if it takes a little longer, wait some more. But don't wait too long, because she may begin to wonder if you still have feelings.
Relationships are complicated, but there are always ways to resolve a minor complication such as this.
Good Luck!
Vanessa
quit saying i love you. i assume that you're young, so being in love only one month into a relationship is ridiculous. you may be infatuated with her because she is such a mystery (because you dont know her that well) but work on your friendship. the best relationships grow out of friendships so quit worrying about love. get to know her, even if it is only over the phone/internet. eventually you will grow to love anyone that is in your life for a long period of time. thats where you want to be. in love with the person, not in love with the facade. (are you also one of those couples who spend 2 hours on the phone but dont really say anything? that doesnt count as getting to know the person)
yes your doing something worng you told her that you loved her and you have only been dating 4 weeks! give it some time and don't come on so strong
Maybe she's not ready to say I love you. 4 weeks is WAYYYY too soon to know if you love someone or not. You probably just have some sort of ';lust'; for her. Don't ask her to say she loves you back after such a short time, that is ignorant and psycho.
and we only see eachother 2times a week every week
because we meet at church (and yes we are christians)
we done stuff like hold eachother and hug and hold hands but thats as far it goes, and im not complaining at all!
i enjoy how it is. but (oh yeah) one more thing me and my gf talk to eachother like everyday!! so yeah.
but it seems like she drifting away. like when i say ';i love you';
to her.. she doesnt say it back!
i need help. how do i know what she wants? am i doing something wrong? help me out please!
-nicRelationship advice?
You say I love you after 4 weeks? That's moving a little fast. Maybe she is a little freaked out by that. Just slow down. Other then the fact that you probably said I love you WAY to early....you haven't done anything wrong. Just enjoy the time you spend with her and take it SLOW!Relationship advice?
I don't know how old you are but when you say I love you to someone you should really mean it. I know personally as a women I hate it when we have been dating for a little while he tells you I love you. If it is appropriate amount of time and I feel the same way I say it back but if it is not I don't. I don't' think you and your girlfriend are drifting apart. I think maybe she wants to know a lot more about you before she says I love you back.
Since you guys have only been together for 4 weeks, it may be a bit too fast for her to accept ';I love you'; from you. It will definitely take some time for her to feel secured and wholeheartedly comfortable abt the whole issue. She may not be drifting apart but she must be needing some time to respond. Im my opinion, as a girl myself, it took me almost 2 years to accept my boyfriend and to be honest even now (4 years), i only feel that i am 85% secured with him.
why don't you ask her how she feels. Make sure she thinks things are going good..... Try telling her she means alot to you (without saying ';I love you';) and see what she has to say. If she is losing intrest, then her answer to how she thinks things are going should give it away. HTH
u a b it ch she dont love your punk a ss. she wants me!!! lol no seriously she wants me im a real man
4 weeks is a short time to start saying i love you, she prolly doesnt feel ready to say that, you and her to get to know each other a little more
Hi!
Well let me start off by saying congrats on your new relationship!
When you tell her you love her, is it overused? Sometimes a woman (or girl, depending how old you are!) may feel a little pushed or smothered when it comes to a touchy subject such as this. Wait for her to tell you, and if it takes a little longer, wait some more. But don't wait too long, because she may begin to wonder if you still have feelings.
Relationships are complicated, but there are always ways to resolve a minor complication such as this.
Good Luck!
Vanessa
quit saying i love you. i assume that you're young, so being in love only one month into a relationship is ridiculous. you may be infatuated with her because she is such a mystery (because you dont know her that well) but work on your friendship. the best relationships grow out of friendships so quit worrying about love. get to know her, even if it is only over the phone/internet. eventually you will grow to love anyone that is in your life for a long period of time. thats where you want to be. in love with the person, not in love with the facade. (are you also one of those couples who spend 2 hours on the phone but dont really say anything? that doesnt count as getting to know the person)
yes your doing something worng you told her that you loved her and you have only been dating 4 weeks! give it some time and don't come on so strong
Maybe she's not ready to say I love you. 4 weeks is WAYYYY too soon to know if you love someone or not. You probably just have some sort of ';lust'; for her. Don't ask her to say she loves you back after such a short time, that is ignorant and psycho.
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I was seeing this guy. He chased me from the start, always calling me and giving me loads of attention. Things were perfect between us until he went through a major money crisis, and called it all off. He was still calling and we caught up from time to time. Now he's changing careers and totally freaking out. Last week we had a huge fight (well actually, he was trying to fight with me, he was drunk) and he said some really mean things. He told me I only care about me (which is not true) and he regrets ever telling me anything. And also that things I worry about are s**t and I go on with s**t, pretty hurtful when you confide in someone about your worries to have them tell you it's just s**t. Part of me knows I deserve way better than that. The other part still, for some silly reason, loves him. Recently I met a great guy, we have been emailing for months, and he's come to visit me twice (we live 4 hours apart). Obviously I'm not ready to start anything new while I'm still hurting overRelationship advice!?
The first guy sounds like a loser to be honest. Using things that you tell him in confidence to hurt you is soooooooo lame! It would probably be worse or get worse if you stay involved with him. You already know what he's capable of saying and doing... it could only escalate into something worse (i.e. abusive relationship).
You should just move on and keep your options open. Guy #2 might be a better choice for you at this point. If guy #2 doesn't work out either... don't worry. There are plenty of fish in the sea!Relationship advice!?
Wow... he's 35 and is acting the way he is? He should have had his act together years ago IMO. The new guy seems to like you. I mean he's traveling 4 hours to see you (that says something). Good luck! Report Abuse
nope, nothing wrong with visiting the new guy. Move on!
Not at all. Glad you realize you deserve better. Most of the girls on this thing really don't think they deserve better... You can tell in their questions usually. Meet the new guy. Do you want to miss the opportunity to have a really great new person in your life? ;) Get rid of that other guy. He sounds like an idiot. Good luck.
You have to move on someday an you are lucky to have found a great guy. So, No not at all only if you are honest with him. Tell him that you are not quite ready for a relationship but would love to get to know him and take things slow. Dont use him as a rebound and let him know you dont plan on using him as one. About the ex, drop any communication with him, he's using you as his emotional bootycall. He's selfish and expects you to be there after he let you go. His loss dont you think, let him call his buddies or mother if he has a bad day!!
Ditch the guy your talking about find someone new, and yes i think there is harm. Any new guy dating you will be thinking that you two are going to start back up again and get jealous!
Honestly, you don't want to tie yourself down to a mean drunk. Try taking a slower approach with this new guy and see where it goes, but hold back a little. You don't want to give your all to someone you don't know that well.
no. Your just keeping your options open and it doesn't look good for the other guy. someone like that doesn't deserve you! It will just take time to move on
I think there is no harm. Just dont put him on the rebound, but you can still have fun, you need some fun in your life right now! :)
The first guy sounds like a loser to be honest. Using things that you tell him in confidence to hurt you is soooooooo lame! It would probably be worse or get worse if you stay involved with him. You already know what he's capable of saying and doing... it could only escalate into something worse (i.e. abusive relationship).
You should just move on and keep your options open. Guy #2 might be a better choice for you at this point. If guy #2 doesn't work out either... don't worry. There are plenty of fish in the sea!Relationship advice!?
Wow... he's 35 and is acting the way he is? He should have had his act together years ago IMO. The new guy seems to like you. I mean he's traveling 4 hours to see you (that says something). Good luck! Report Abuse
nope, nothing wrong with visiting the new guy. Move on!
Not at all. Glad you realize you deserve better. Most of the girls on this thing really don't think they deserve better... You can tell in their questions usually. Meet the new guy. Do you want to miss the opportunity to have a really great new person in your life? ;) Get rid of that other guy. He sounds like an idiot. Good luck.
You have to move on someday an you are lucky to have found a great guy. So, No not at all only if you are honest with him. Tell him that you are not quite ready for a relationship but would love to get to know him and take things slow. Dont use him as a rebound and let him know you dont plan on using him as one. About the ex, drop any communication with him, he's using you as his emotional bootycall. He's selfish and expects you to be there after he let you go. His loss dont you think, let him call his buddies or mother if he has a bad day!!
Ditch the guy your talking about find someone new, and yes i think there is harm. Any new guy dating you will be thinking that you two are going to start back up again and get jealous!
Honestly, you don't want to tie yourself down to a mean drunk. Try taking a slower approach with this new guy and see where it goes, but hold back a little. You don't want to give your all to someone you don't know that well.
no. Your just keeping your options open and it doesn't look good for the other guy. someone like that doesn't deserve you! It will just take time to move on
I think there is no harm. Just dont put him on the rebound, but you can still have fun, you need some fun in your life right now! :)
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I have been dating this guy for a while. He and I have a past and have known each other a long time. Anyways, Here lately we are bickering about the stupidest mess. The littlest things seem to set us off. I am blaming it on the fact that we are both stubborn and set in our ways. Neither of us are really wanting to give an inch. I went thru a really REALLY bad marriage and I tend to see him sometimes in the things that my new guy does....therefore I hold that against him. Which is wrong on my part....But he seems to want to try to change me...and that is WRONG on his part. He has literally taught me how to love again. Therefore I am not ready to just throw in the towel on us just yet. Alot of things in my past i will not open up to him about and he doesnt understand that. Its still hard for me to talk about some of the things that I went thru. But I know that I am gonna have to. Any suggestions on how I should talk to him about this?? Maybe it will make things better if I were more openRelationship advice???
I'd start with ';I know I haven't been easy to gte along with lately, and here's why'; and go from there. Let him know that you have been hurt in the past, and it's hard to put all the way behind you, but you are trying. Let him know that you really love him and care about him, but that sometimes you feel like he is expecting you to change in ways that you don't feel comfortable with.
Just talking about this, and consciously discussing things when they come up before they turn into fights, can really help a relationship. You need to be open, and give a little every now and then. However, you don't need to change yourself, and he should respect that.
Good luck, it does sound like you do have something worth fighting for.
I'd start with ';I know I haven't been easy to gte along with lately, and here's why'; and go from there. Let him know that you have been hurt in the past, and it's hard to put all the way behind you, but you are trying. Let him know that you really love him and care about him, but that sometimes you feel like he is expecting you to change in ways that you don't feel comfortable with.
Just talking about this, and consciously discussing things when they come up before they turn into fights, can really help a relationship. You need to be open, and give a little every now and then. However, you don't need to change yourself, and he should respect that.
Good luck, it does sound like you do have something worth fighting for.
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I am in a realtionship with a guy who believes commitment, support and love are all thats needed in the realtionship. Intamacy and sex are not required to make it work. He is also the same one who believes 2 tops or 2 bottoms can be in a succeful loving realtionship. He is also the same one who spends so much time on his computer that there are times where he only stops on the computer long enough to eat and after eating right back to the computer until its bedtime. What do I do.Relationship advice?
Well, it sounds as if you're not happy and not getting very much of what you want out of a relationship, correct?
Have you told him that you want more intimacy, more sex, less computer time?
Perhaps you should move on.Relationship advice?
For me, intimacy and sex are important. So is sexual compatibility. The fact that he's on the computer as much as he is would tick me off. I think he should definitely be paying much more attention to you.
The 2 of you need to have a talk to see if you can work through this. You only get one shot at this lifetime, so make yourself happy.
The computer is a play tool, if he's playing on that, he ain't playin with you, ditch em.
sounds like a real winner....find another guy.. the fact that you have to ask that question proves that your not that into him or his theories.
Looks like you're not happy with him (how could you possibly be, given the way he behaves?), so...break up, the world is full of possibilities;)
You have answered your own question.
Tell him like it is: You are not satisfied the way your relationship is. These things must change: he must pay attention to you, not give mixed messages by wanting to have orgies, but not to have sex with you alone; and he is to cut down by at least half on his computer time, and spend at least part of that time being with you or doing something else constructive. If he does not agree to take these steps to retain your relationship, then he is not worth saving, and you need to give him the boot. And don't back down. You need to give the guy some tough love, or you will end up playing second fiddle to orgies with strangers and a computer. If he's got to be dumped, the sooner the better so that you can work on getting on with your life and finding someone who will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. You deserve better. Good luck.
sounds like either of you aren't happy maybe it's time to move on. he may also have some self doubts in his sexual performance maybe it's something you should talk about
If you are unhappy, he sounds like he would be better as a friend than a bf.
Speak to him, if it doesn't work out try %26amp; be friends.
My friend was with someone who was constantly on the computer. It eats your soul after a while.
Either get a new boyfriend or agree to have an open relationship.
Well, it sounds as if you're not happy and not getting very much of what you want out of a relationship, correct?
Have you told him that you want more intimacy, more sex, less computer time?
Perhaps you should move on.Relationship advice?
For me, intimacy and sex are important. So is sexual compatibility. The fact that he's on the computer as much as he is would tick me off. I think he should definitely be paying much more attention to you.
The 2 of you need to have a talk to see if you can work through this. You only get one shot at this lifetime, so make yourself happy.
The computer is a play tool, if he's playing on that, he ain't playin with you, ditch em.
sounds like a real winner....find another guy.. the fact that you have to ask that question proves that your not that into him or his theories.
Looks like you're not happy with him (how could you possibly be, given the way he behaves?), so...break up, the world is full of possibilities;)
You have answered your own question.
Tell him like it is: You are not satisfied the way your relationship is. These things must change: he must pay attention to you, not give mixed messages by wanting to have orgies, but not to have sex with you alone; and he is to cut down by at least half on his computer time, and spend at least part of that time being with you or doing something else constructive. If he does not agree to take these steps to retain your relationship, then he is not worth saving, and you need to give him the boot. And don't back down. You need to give the guy some tough love, or you will end up playing second fiddle to orgies with strangers and a computer. If he's got to be dumped, the sooner the better so that you can work on getting on with your life and finding someone who will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. You deserve better. Good luck.
sounds like either of you aren't happy maybe it's time to move on. he may also have some self doubts in his sexual performance maybe it's something you should talk about
If you are unhappy, he sounds like he would be better as a friend than a bf.
Speak to him, if it doesn't work out try %26amp; be friends.
My friend was with someone who was constantly on the computer. It eats your soul after a while.
Either get a new boyfriend or agree to have an open relationship.
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So....there is a guy that likes me and i like him and we have been going out. But we have a friend that has been flirting with me and I am starting to really like him. I dont like the guy I am going out with but I adore him enough that I dont want to break up with him. He is so sweet and this other guy is too but I am afraid if I break up with the first guy then nothing will happen with the second guy. what should I do?Relationship advice?
I won't lie to you, You have afew options;
1) break up with the guy you're with now and go out with your friend, You'll be called a cheater (I know you're not a cheater but that's how society will look at it). With that, I doubt that your *soon to be ex* would want to be friends with you, or know you for that fact.
2) break up with the guy you're with now and don't go out with your friend. You can still be friends with both great guys. your *soon to be ex* would probably/maybe understand the situation you're in and he would probably see your point of view and your decision to break up with him, and why you're not going out with your friend.
3) Keep going out with your boyfriend. You'll still have your friend chasing after, and your boyfriend still won't know what's really going on. The guy chasing after you will only get more cunning, and your boyfriend will soon sus something out, probably leading to a jealous fight.
4) run away with me.Relationship advice?
All you have to do is know your feelings with the two guys.But you better stay with the first guy that who is always with you all the time.Why?because you both each other already.
You should listen to what your heart has to say not what your mind is saying. The difference is that very thing you stated there ';...I am afraid if I break up with the first guy then nothing will happen with the second guy.'; Wieghing outcomes is the work of the brain. Go with the guy you ';feeling'; the most and don't care about the other will say or think. You don't depend on that you depend on what you feel. I hope you pick the man YOU want.
Ask the second guy if he is looking for a relationship. if he is and you really like him, then nicely break up with the 1st guy. you shouldnt feel bad if your heart is just not in it.
go with your instincts. Whatever you really want will eventually come out. Look at the two scenarios,,, who would you rather be with longer? who would you risk for? dont worry ;%26gt;
you should follow what your heart tells you to do :)
dont ever stay with someone simply because you feel sorry for them or are worried about hurting them!! The only reason you should be in a relationship is because that's who you want to be with. Otherwise, you're just giving that guy false hope.....
I won't lie to you, You have afew options;
1) break up with the guy you're with now and go out with your friend, You'll be called a cheater (I know you're not a cheater but that's how society will look at it). With that, I doubt that your *soon to be ex* would want to be friends with you, or know you for that fact.
2) break up with the guy you're with now and don't go out with your friend. You can still be friends with both great guys. your *soon to be ex* would probably/maybe understand the situation you're in and he would probably see your point of view and your decision to break up with him, and why you're not going out with your friend.
3) Keep going out with your boyfriend. You'll still have your friend chasing after, and your boyfriend still won't know what's really going on. The guy chasing after you will only get more cunning, and your boyfriend will soon sus something out, probably leading to a jealous fight.
4) run away with me.Relationship advice?
All you have to do is know your feelings with the two guys.But you better stay with the first guy that who is always with you all the time.Why?because you both each other already.
You should listen to what your heart has to say not what your mind is saying. The difference is that very thing you stated there ';...I am afraid if I break up with the first guy then nothing will happen with the second guy.'; Wieghing outcomes is the work of the brain. Go with the guy you ';feeling'; the most and don't care about the other will say or think. You don't depend on that you depend on what you feel. I hope you pick the man YOU want.
Ask the second guy if he is looking for a relationship. if he is and you really like him, then nicely break up with the 1st guy. you shouldnt feel bad if your heart is just not in it.
go with your instincts. Whatever you really want will eventually come out. Look at the two scenarios,,, who would you rather be with longer? who would you risk for? dont worry ;%26gt;
you should follow what your heart tells you to do :)
dont ever stay with someone simply because you feel sorry for them or are worried about hurting them!! The only reason you should be in a relationship is because that's who you want to be with. Otherwise, you're just giving that guy false hope.....
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i know the best teacher is experience but does anyone know a good book on dating and relationships that gives it to you hard and rawRelationship advice?
';Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who's Right and Avoiding Who's Wrong'; by Barbara De Angelis.Relationship advice?
yea its called Your Heart follow it and you will never be led wrong
A book isn't what you need. To have a successful relationship, you need to know who you are inside and out. How can you expect someone to love you inside and out, if you don't even know yourself? You need to have a set of standards that MUST be reached, ie) an honest person, a caring person etc. You need to know that a relationship is about giving and taking, communication and friendship. Sacrifices on both sides must be made at some point and time, and be prepared for that. Communication and friendship are probably the most important. Make sure everything is out in the open. No secrets. No bottled up emotion. Let it out as it comes, and the both of you will be better off. Lastly, with the friendship thing, no relationship will ever work out if they aren't your buddy. You need to laugh, have fun and know you have a shoulder you can always cry on when it's needed. Relationships aren't always easy. You have to work at them, but at the end of the day, it is always worth it to have a person you care about in your life.
dont you ever dare reading that crap..... why should someone tell you what to do?????lipstick gloss
';Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who's Right and Avoiding Who's Wrong'; by Barbara De Angelis.Relationship advice?
yea its called Your Heart follow it and you will never be led wrong
A book isn't what you need. To have a successful relationship, you need to know who you are inside and out. How can you expect someone to love you inside and out, if you don't even know yourself? You need to have a set of standards that MUST be reached, ie) an honest person, a caring person etc. You need to know that a relationship is about giving and taking, communication and friendship. Sacrifices on both sides must be made at some point and time, and be prepared for that. Communication and friendship are probably the most important. Make sure everything is out in the open. No secrets. No bottled up emotion. Let it out as it comes, and the both of you will be better off. Lastly, with the friendship thing, no relationship will ever work out if they aren't your buddy. You need to laugh, have fun and know you have a shoulder you can always cry on when it's needed. Relationships aren't always easy. You have to work at them, but at the end of the day, it is always worth it to have a person you care about in your life.
dont you ever dare reading that crap..... why should someone tell you what to do?????
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Ok, here's the deal. There is this girl that likes me, and is always wanting to hang out and what not. Thing is, I don't like her like that. She keeps hinting that she wants me to ask her out, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. Yet, we still hang out because I like her as a friend, she's cool to be with.
But there is this girl that I do like and I want to be with her. I want to start talking to her but if I do it will break the heart of my friend. What should I do?Relationship advice?
You def. shouldn't wait any longer. You need to let the girl know, as hard as it is to say, you must let her know so she doesn't get her hopes up any more than she already has. In the end, someone will get hurt regardless, that's why they call it a crush. But with this new girl, the one that you like, take your time. Initiate and be a gentleman. Take your time, she'll appreciate the chivralry.
Good Luck!!!Relationship advice?
tough decision.
either way its gonna hurt.
i guess you could start talking to that girl you like and your friend will hopefully get the hint.
man tell her gently now for the longer u wait the harder the fall for her and the longer u are away from the one u like. If u tell her nowu may be able to save ur friendship later not a chance.
Good Luck! u have a tough talk ahead.
I know this is going to sound really sappy, but all you can do is be honest and tell the truth. That is the only way you can lessen the hurt for your friend that you care about. The more you lead her on, the worse it will be in the future. Just be honest, and tell her you love hanging out with her as a friend, but that you just do not feel the same way about her as she does about you. Good luck!
You can go about it two ways:
The upfront nice guy way which would be to tell her flat out and spare her any further embarrassment. Though sometimes this can be pretty brutal and you'd rather let them down easy...so I like to use:
The kind of a chicken way:
Tell your friend ALL about the girl you like and then emphasize that you're so glad to have her as a FRIEND...tell her how much she's like a sister to you and that you're glad you can tell her about other girls because you're not interested in each other.
This may spare her some embarrassment if she's able to take the hint.
Gotta be a man about it...not a dog...let her know your interested in some one else..but you can still be friends.
Ok dude, first of all i am gonna tell you from experience that is always better to go for something secure, i mean if your friend wants to be with you and you know her for quite a while(i guess) and you know the way she is, then why don't you give her a chance because it could happen that later the girl that you like won't correspond to your feelings and your friend might not like you anymore. Think about what i said and good luck.
Well break a heart and be a friend. What I mean is you just go with heart to talk to that girl you like and don't worry if this would break your other friend's heart. Just do what you seem fit and be yourself.
But there is this girl that I do like and I want to be with her. I want to start talking to her but if I do it will break the heart of my friend. What should I do?Relationship advice?
You def. shouldn't wait any longer. You need to let the girl know, as hard as it is to say, you must let her know so she doesn't get her hopes up any more than she already has. In the end, someone will get hurt regardless, that's why they call it a crush. But with this new girl, the one that you like, take your time. Initiate and be a gentleman. Take your time, she'll appreciate the chivralry.
Good Luck!!!Relationship advice?
tough decision.
either way its gonna hurt.
i guess you could start talking to that girl you like and your friend will hopefully get the hint.
man tell her gently now for the longer u wait the harder the fall for her and the longer u are away from the one u like. If u tell her nowu may be able to save ur friendship later not a chance.
Good Luck! u have a tough talk ahead.
I know this is going to sound really sappy, but all you can do is be honest and tell the truth. That is the only way you can lessen the hurt for your friend that you care about. The more you lead her on, the worse it will be in the future. Just be honest, and tell her you love hanging out with her as a friend, but that you just do not feel the same way about her as she does about you. Good luck!
You can go about it two ways:
The upfront nice guy way which would be to tell her flat out and spare her any further embarrassment. Though sometimes this can be pretty brutal and you'd rather let them down easy...so I like to use:
The kind of a chicken way:
Tell your friend ALL about the girl you like and then emphasize that you're so glad to have her as a FRIEND...tell her how much she's like a sister to you and that you're glad you can tell her about other girls because you're not interested in each other.
This may spare her some embarrassment if she's able to take the hint.
Gotta be a man about it...not a dog...let her know your interested in some one else..but you can still be friends.
Ok dude, first of all i am gonna tell you from experience that is always better to go for something secure, i mean if your friend wants to be with you and you know her for quite a while(i guess) and you know the way she is, then why don't you give her a chance because it could happen that later the girl that you like won't correspond to your feelings and your friend might not like you anymore. Think about what i said and good luck.
Well break a heart and be a friend. What I mean is you just go with heart to talk to that girl you like and don't worry if this would break your other friend's heart. Just do what you seem fit and be yourself.
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I turn 21 in a few days and I want to know how many MGD's I can drink before I get alcohol poisoning? Im 6' 155lbs...thanksRelationship advice?!?!?
Only one way to find out happy bdayRelationship advice?!?!?
i want to know why you think this is relationship advice. i guess you could say that youre curious about how compatible you are with booze...?
Only one way to find out happy bdayRelationship advice?!?!?
i want to know why you think this is relationship advice. i guess you could say that youre curious about how compatible you are with booze...?
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I've been on and off with an amazingly supportive guy for about 3 years now - he loves me, the parents love him, he's always there. The problem is me. When we're ';official'; I tend to freak out, do stupid things and generally tend to mess up everything. Currently we're dating in everything but calling it that.. For some reason calling him my boyfriend, talking about the future, or anything that tries to define what we are scares the crap out of me. I don't know what to do about my commitment issues. Any advice?Relationship advice...?
Thats just something that you 2 need to talk about and you will have to figure out your issues and then solve themRelationship advice...?
you've got about this with him. In that way, he might help you and understand you better. Remember the movie, ';runaway bride?'; just learn to be more open to him, if you really like him and he likes you very much he'd find a way to understand.
goodluck!
why talk about the future?
my bf and i have beem together for two years and we dont plan on breaking up any time soon. as he says, we're in a happy comitted relationship.
but i have, at this point in time, no idea what the future holds. i cant see myself being with him forever
just be happy. dont overthink things ... its scarier when you do
Thats just something that you 2 need to talk about and you will have to figure out your issues and then solve themRelationship advice...?
you've got about this with him. In that way, he might help you and understand you better. Remember the movie, ';runaway bride?'; just learn to be more open to him, if you really like him and he likes you very much he'd find a way to understand.
goodluck!
why talk about the future?
my bf and i have beem together for two years and we dont plan on breaking up any time soon. as he says, we're in a happy comitted relationship.
but i have, at this point in time, no idea what the future holds. i cant see myself being with him forever
just be happy. dont overthink things ... its scarier when you do
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